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10 votes
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Norwegians head to the polls on Sept. 13 in a parliamentary election that has centered on the issue of whether saving the planet is worth stopping the fossil fuel gravy train
23 votes -
Practice of dolphin hunting in the Faroe Islands has come under renewed scrutiny after more than 1,400 of the mammals were killed in one day
11 votes -
How factories were made safe
5 votes -
How Tourette's syndrome impacts my life
6 votes -
Hawkeye | Official trailer
12 votes -
Backpage founders' trial begins
6 votes -
Backpage founders get mistrial because US overplayed child sex trafficking claims
13 votes -
Arris cable modem teardown
8 votes -
What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga)
What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was...
What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was cool, something that was bad, ask for recommendations, or anything else you can think of.
If you want to, feel free to find the thing you're talking about and link to its pages on Anilist, MAL, or any other database you use!
8 votes -
California Governor Gavin Newsom beats back GOP-led recall
29 votes -
How Arkane Studios designed Prey
9 votes -
Franzoli Electronics - Take on me (on flyback transformers) (2021)
4 votes -
Mozilla has defeated Microsoft’s default browser protections in Windows
18 votes -
Job hunts after a toxic work experience
I terminated my position over 4 months ago and I'm still not able to apply for jobs. I'm frustrated with my inability to move on from the previous toxic work environments. My background is in a...
I terminated my position over 4 months ago and I'm still not able to apply for jobs. I'm frustrated with my inability to move on from the previous toxic work environments. My background is in a male dominated field and there was always something either insensitive, sexist or racist said in all my previous workplaces. I feel, I know I'm going to be met with some sort of comment in my next work place and I no longer want to put myself in those situations anymore. I don't know how I'll react, I feel like I may explode if I hear another ignorant phrase.
I want to be able to make money. People say I must not have liked what I did very much if I wasn't able to put up with the comments. Other people say that that's just how the world is, "get used to it!" I've also heard that I'm just going to have to wait for change because drastic/fast pace change causes recoil. All of these comments literally tell me to suck it up and allow the same rhetoric to propagate. And, of course, all of this has been told to me by white men, those who aren't effected by the comments said to me.
Things that have happened to me or that were said to me:
- Smile more
- I'm too soft spoken/nice
- I'm too aggressive
- "Do you want to fix your hair?"
- A project manager bought me hair product, I didn't ask. I have curly hair and it took me a long time to love my curls, but it's seen as "unprofessional"
- A Director was staring at my hair throughout an entire interview
- "I'll put you up there" when the males were talking about strip clubs
- "Why are women crazy?"
- I've been kissed on my face and told "if only I met you before my wife"... never had a fucking conversation outside work with this person. I didn't even speak to him more than once a week!
- "We were surprised that you and Mohammad spoke English". Both me and Mohammad were born and raised in the United States. When I responded with "Why did you guys think that?" they conveniently stumbled and changed the subject.
... Many more things happened, but require too much context.
I just don't get it. Am I suppose to let ALL these things slide? Am I suppose to hold empathy for people who don't have empathy for me? Who don't empathize with me and how what they have said may have made me feel? Should I forgive people who would rather hide the fact that they said something rather than apologize? (And yes, I filed reports for some of these comments/experiences and the rhetoric was "She got X fired", not "X's own behavior got them fired".)
And more importantly, how do I move on from this knowing that it's going to happen again? The last job had the most amount of sexism in it. The thing about sexism (and racism) is that it's meant to make you feel devalued, and shocker, I felt devalued. It took me so long to gain my self confidence back. And I want so badly to protect myself. I never want to feel those feelings again. But the world is still sexist and racist and homophobic and xenophobic... all the phobics. And how do I tell my next work place that the reason why I left and why I took a break from working was to deal with the emotional repercussions from a very toxic/sexist work environment (when workplaces see whistle blowers as a red flag)? And how to I prepare my little sister who is in college studying a male dominated field knowing that she'll have to deal with the same things I went through?
It's been 4 months and I'm still angry and still jobless. I've grown to hate social interactions for fear of someone saying some ignorant shit. I've grown a distrust of all people. I hate how much this thing has affected me, how belittled I feel and how I can't move on from this. I feel emotionally paralyzed and money is running out and jobs are hard to come by especially because I'm not white nor am I a male and my hair isn't straight Billie Holiday - I Love My Man.
I'm tired of confusing people with how my looks don't match my attitude/personality that they've been conditionally taught to think it was like. I'm tired of confusing people with how unashamed I am of my existence.
24 votes -
SPD candidate Olaf Scholz consolidates German election lead with TV debate win
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TV Tuesdays Free Talk
Have you watched any TV shows recently you want to discuss? Any shows you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here. Please just try to provide fair warning of...
Have you watched any TV shows recently you want to discuss? Any shows you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.
Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.
6 votes -
Our trip to the prime number theorem
9 votes -
What did you do this weekend?
As part of a weekly series, these topics are a place for users to casually discuss the things they did — or didn't do — during their weekend. Did you make any plans? Take a trip? Do nothing at...
As part of a weekly series, these topics are a place for users to casually discuss the things they did — or didn't do — during their weekend. Did you make any plans? Take a trip? Do nothing at all? Tell us about it!
11 votes -
Why we won’t raise our kids in suburbia
11 votes -
What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them?
What have you been playing lately? Discussion about video games and board games are both welcome. Please don't just make a list of titles, give some thoughts about the game(s) as well.
12 votes -
Norm Macdonald dies: Influential comedian and former ‘SNL’ Weekend Update anchor was 61
28 votes -
New NES Tetris technique: Faster than hypertapping!
8 votes -
Valtteri Bottas is leaving Mercedes after five years – but just how well did he stack up against his team mate
5 votes -
Illinois officer claims Sheriff's office told him to play copyrighted music to shut down citizens' recordings
22 votes -
Nissin to sell a fork specially designed for its cup ramen
17 votes -
The World of Serina | Speculative Biology | Part I
3 votes -
Miles Kane – Don’t Let It Get You Down (2021)
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When is comedy NOT at the consequence of something else's tragedy?
Is there an example in sharing a comedy(amusing, causing laughter) NOT at the consequence of something else's tragedy(distress, suffering, downfall)...? Is there a funny story that doesn't...
Is there an example in sharing a comedy(amusing, causing laughter) NOT at the consequence of something else's tragedy(distress, suffering, downfall)...?
Is there a funny story that doesn't diminish an other?
7 votes -
Last year, three "seasteading" enthusiasts bought a cruise ship to use as the core of a libertarian cryptocurrency utopia off Panama's coast. The plan fell apart before it made it across the ocean.
17 votes -
Employees of Activision Blizzard file Unfair Labor Practice charge against the gaming company
8 votes -
An oral history of Big Shiny Tunes: The CD that defined a Canadian era
6 votes -
What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking?
What food and drinks have you been enjoying (or not enjoying) recently? Have you cooked or created anything interesting? Tell us about it!
10 votes -
Behind the moving image – Sumo
3 votes -
MIT scientists report 'major advance' in fusion energy
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Why do multiple meanings of words so often map across languages
The English word 'crane' means a large bird or a giant lever-thing for moving heavy stuff. The Hungarian word 'daru' means both of the same things. English and Hungarian are about as unrelated as...
The English word 'crane' means a large bird or a giant lever-thing for moving heavy stuff. The Hungarian word 'daru' means both of the same things.
English and Hungarian are about as unrelated as languages get ... and yet, I keep bumping into parallels like that.
Thoughts, anyone?
14 votes -
Fortnightly Programming Q&A Thread
General Programming Q&A thread! Ask any questions about programming, answer the questions of other users, or post suggestions for future threads. Don't forget to format your code using the triple...
General Programming Q&A thread! Ask any questions about programming, answer the questions of other users, or post suggestions for future threads.
Don't forget to format your code using the triple backticks or tildes:
Here is my schema: ```sql CREATE TABLE article_to_warehouse ( article_id INTEGER , warehouse_id INTEGER ) ; ``` How do I add a `UNIQUE` constraint?
6 votes -
Deathloop - Critical consensus
4 votes -
Butterflies released in Finland contained parasitic wasps, with more wasps inside – introduction of Glanville fritillary leads to emergence of three new species on island of Sottunga
8 votes -
The opposition Arbeiderpartiet has won Norway's general election – brings an end to eight years of conservative government, paving the way for a centre-left coalition
16 votes -
Ighor July "unlocks" GeForce Now
9 votes -
Three strange river crossings
4 votes -
Supreme Court upholds new Texas abortion law, for now
24 votes -
Copenhagen is great… but it’s not Amsterdam
8 votes -
The Fantastics! - Pyramid (2021)
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FiveThirtyEight's NFL predictions for this season now include estimates of the quality and importance of each game
5 votes -
Bus driver shortages are latest challenge hitting US schools
8 votes -
Free Yamaha DX7 Emulator
6 votes -
Billed as the most secure phone on the planet, An0m became a viral sensation in the underworld. There was just one problem for anyone using it for criminal means: it was run by the police
14 votes -
Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of September 13
This thread is posted weekly - please try to post all relevant US political content in here, such as news, updates, opinion articles, etc. Extremely significant events may warrant a separate...
This thread is posted weekly - please try to post all relevant US political content in here, such as news, updates, opinion articles, etc. Extremely significant events may warrant a separate topic, but almost all should be posted in here.
This is an inherently political thread; please try to avoid antagonistic arguments and bickering matches. Comment threads that devolve into unproductive arguments may be removed so that the overall topic is able to continue.
6 votes