What's hard about being demisexual/demiromantic/asexual/aromantic?

Kuromantis
2021-05-10T01:14:41Z

(Topics like this need people to have more sympathy for the other because we're talking about real people's sexualities and discrimination these people often face every day and have deep feeling abouts, so be nice.)

If I had to (uneducatedly) guess, some of them would be:

Your sexuality (and the word allosexual) being as good as unknown by most people.

Asexuality being a big umbrella (hence the title being demisexual/demiromantic/asexual/aromantic rather than just asexual)

Allosexual and aromantic people being confused for "people who only want sex"

People not believing you when you say that.

Being perceived as an anomaly or lying, along with people promising that you will realize the truth one day.

Overly religious people seeing your sexuality as a virtuous rejection of degenerate lust/sin and as an unnatural anomaly simultaneously.

People seeing your sexuality as being "free" from dating or porn consumption or above identifying yourself by how un-sexed you are. (True, but obviously very reductive and usually contingent on the insecurities of the people seeing you that way.) (This is admittedly something I struggle with.)

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