What do you want to do/be when you grow up?

patience_limited
Tue, 29 Oct 2019 01:01:11 +0000

"What do you want to do/be when you grow up?" is a question we've all been confronted with, willingly or not, throughout our lives. It's intercultural, except for the increasingly rare instances where it's culturally or familialy expected that you'll continue a family trade.

And then there are those of us who just can't pick the one true direction, or thought we had it right for a while, then abruptly got bored/burnt out and had to find a new career or calling. I've personally had no fewer than eight different or only tangentially related "careers", sometimes overlapping with hobbies, and I'm floundering a bit to find the next one.

I was just introduced to the "multipotentialite" concept today - see the TED Talk, Why Some of Us Don't Have One True Calling for details, and https://puttylike.com/ for the speaker's site and book information. As the video mentions, polymathy was once highly respected in the Renaissance, but it's been devalued in favor of increasingly narrow specializations in the industrial and information economies.

This thread is for the bewildered, the career peregrinators wandering with or without aim, who've been branded as flakes or losers, or are suffering anxiety/depression because the heavens haven't opened up and rained down purpose and meaningful work.

Tell your story to the extent you're comfortable, ask questions and seek support.

What is it like to discover a passion?

What is it like to find yourself losing that passion?

How did you accommodate the change?

What carried over successfully from prior careers?

Did you experience pressure to stay with just one thing?

Have you had disrupted relationships with family, partners, or friends as a result of these changes?

Do you feel that you've made unique contributions due to broad experience and/or interdisciplinary knowledge?

Do you feel discriminated against in the job market for lacking a clear career path?

Did you suffer damaging mental distress before or as a result of making a career change?

Is it exciting or frightening to make a change, and has it become more or less so with repeated changes?

This is also open to the people who were seemingly born knowing precisely what they wanted to do - were you successful in pursuing it, or did you have to make accommodations, perhaps discovering something else?

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