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  1. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    Honestly, that blew my fucking mind so much that I had no choice but to sit and listen with something that I might've skipped over otherwise. Also thanks for completing the reference for me! I'm...

    Honestly, that blew my fucking mind so much that I had no choice but to sit and listen with something that I might've skipped over otherwise.

    Also thanks for completing the reference for me! I'm worried about spoilers, so I'm avoiding looking anything up, but after I finish the game I'm planning on looking up the quotes from all the tape recorders, the clips, the pieces that made me stop walking around the island and just listen. Just amazing.

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  2. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I've been playing The Witness and, by god, it is one of the most quietly brilliant games I've ever played. I don't think I've ever had the experience of exclaiming "oh shit" at a video game...

    I've been playing The Witness and, by god, it is one of the most quietly brilliant games I've ever played. I don't think I've ever had the experience of exclaiming "oh shit" at a video game before, and certainly not after solving a puzzle with lines and dots. I've found just so so many cool and amazing things with it; if anyone has game recs with a similar feel (drop in with literally zero explicit instructions, lots of "a-has"), I'd love to hear them!

    8 votes
  3. Comment on Any bike commuters here? in ~life

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    Oh, many do. It's usually not too rainy (just drizzles), and I'm too lazy to bother with rain pants on a daily basis. I'm still at biking with leather shoes regardless of the weather; I'm...

    Oh, many do. It's usually not too rainy (just drizzles), and I'm too lazy to bother with rain pants on a daily basis. I'm still at biking with leather shoes regardless of the weather; I'm definitely not the picture of "prepared for the rain".

    And if you're asking about the water bottle pouches on the side, then yes! Though, you'll probably need to put your water on the side that'll be closest to the back of your bike -- otherwise your heel will probably hit it when using the backpack as a pannier

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  4. Comment on What's something you have always wanted to know about being LGBT (but were maybe afraid to ask)? in ~talk

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    I try to see things like this really empathetically. There's lots of social learning systems theory on this (Communities of Practice, Figured Worlds, Stereotype Threat, others), but most people...

    I try to see things like this really empathetically. There's lots of social learning systems theory on this (Communities of Practice, Figured Worlds, Stereotype Threat, others), but most people tend to do the thing that gives them legitimacy in the community that they want to join. Sometimes, it isn't clear what's legitimate, so we guess, and often, when we guess, we guess wrong. From reading this thread, it seems like lots of folks have this sort of pendulum -- try the new thing fully, realize some parts don't fit, and revert some parts back to what they were before. There's some behavioral change research that supports this as well, but I doubt it's situated in sexuality/gender.

    Also, I definitely wasn't socialized to be reflective on my identity. I don't know many folks that were.

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  5. Comment on What's something you have always wanted to know about being LGBT (but were maybe afraid to ask)? in ~talk

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    Other folks put it much better than I would (@tindall, @Gaywallet), I'd just say that I usually sum this up with the maxim "Everyone's experience is different and so so valid" (or, just...

    Other folks put it much better than I would (@tindall, @Gaywallet), I'd just say that I usually sum this up with the maxim "Everyone's experience is different and so so valid" (or, just postmodernism -- no theory will unify everyone). We learn best when we come to different people and new experiences with recognition for our own ignorance, humility, and a genuine want to understand, rather than a want to use (and abuse) relationships of power, as I feel like you're describing in some sections here.

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  6. Comment on What's something you have always wanted to know about being LGBT (but were maybe afraid to ask)? in ~talk

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    Yeah, I'd agree with @shx on this one -- for me coming out as queer (and later trans) was more of a "Oh man, I can finally do whatever I want", so I tried a bunch of stuff, loved some of it,...

    Yeah, I'd agree with @shx on this one -- for me coming out as queer (and later trans) was more of a "Oh man, I can finally do whatever I want", so I tried a bunch of stuff, loved some of it, didn't love other pieces, and moved on. It was kind of like going off to college; an opportunity for reinvention, but one where I probably wouldn't hold on to everything that I tried. The word "tribalism" doesn't feel great for me, I think it implies a lack of agency on my part. I don't think I was trying to mimic anyone; mostly just experimenting with how I presented. I think I realized that there's lots of fun and wonderful things that I wasn't really allowed to do as a cisgendered heterosexual man, and I just wanted to try some of them out.

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  7. Comment on Any bike commuters here? in ~life

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    Of course! And yeah, every time I get a thing to make biking better, I remember 1) How much cheaper my car insurance is, given how little I drive, 2) How much I save on gas, 3) How awesome it is...

    Of course! And yeah, every time I get a thing to make biking better, I remember 1) How much cheaper my car insurance is, given how little I drive, 2) How much I save on gas, 3) How awesome it is to spend money on a think that's aligned with my values and makes be happy. Also, the vast majority of bike repairs you can learn to do yourself with a pretty small set of tools (or, most major cities have a community run bike shop that'll let you do your own repairs with their tools). I've had times where I left my bike out overnight in the winter for a couple days and had the chain seize and a bunch of other things break and it was like $35 in parts for what would've been around $150 at a shop, maybe took 2-3 hours on a weekend. I look at it more this way -- my bike setup with panniers and fenders and everything was probably $800 total, and it's around $40/year in maintenance with me biking almost every day. You'll never get that with a car.

    For baskets, it really depends on what the forefoot height of your shoes are (distance from ground to top of shoe in the forefoot region of your shoes). That was the main factor for me -- given the shoes that I generally bike in, which shoes have the greatest distance in forefoot height and smallest distance so I can (try) to find something that'll fit both ends of the spectrum. I got mine used for like $5, so it was mostly just trial and error and finding a set that I could adjust to fit all of my shoes. My partner got a set that works for most of their shoes, but not Docs, which they wear fairly frequently, so it's more of a struggle for them to find a set that fits than it has been for me.

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  8. Comment on Any bike commuters here? in ~life

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    Panniers and a rack are so so so worth the expense. I opted for a convertible backpack/pannier which is pretty good at doing both. Big advice for panniers -- make sure you get one with actual...

    Panniers and a rack are so so so worth the expense. I opted for a convertible backpack/pannier which is pretty good at doing both. Big advice for panniers -- make sure you get one with actual clips. There's a few that are coming out that try to pull it off with magnets and a strap and it's honestly a hazard riding with one, as they pop off your rack now and again.

    I'd say fenders are maybe even more important though. In the pacific northwest of the US it rains basically non-stop from October to March. Fenders: 1) keep your butt dry, 2) keep everything that your wheels kick up off the ground (mostly) out of your chain/gears, which makes maintenance so much easier, and 3) aren't actually that much work to adjust as long as you get a set that fits your bike and wheels well. Go to any shop -- they can help with this.

    Baskets are also pretty nice if you're like me and don't want to bother with an extra set of shoes. You'd have to find a set that fits all the types of shoes that you're going to wear biking, which can be challenging for some folks.

    I'm so glad that you've found something that you love! Biking to work is honestly such a mood/energy/mentality game changer for me that I don't know how I'd give it up, although it isn't always pleasant getting soaked on rainy days.

    3 votes
  9. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I turned the difficulty up and it got a lot more interesting -- much more "how do I strategize this situation" rather than "let me walk in a wreck face over and over". The story is so awesome, for...

    I turned the difficulty up and it got a lot more interesting -- much more "how do I strategize this situation" rather than "let me walk in a wreck face over and over". The story is so awesome, for sure :)

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  10. Comment on Developer says their game started selling 400% better on Steam after releasing torrent in ~games

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    This reminds me of Bandcamp's "pay to own, play (generally) as much as you want" model -- I feel like it works because the ethos of the Bandcamp community is largely just "We want to support the...

    This reminds me of Bandcamp's "pay to own, play (generally) as much as you want" model -- I feel like it works because the ethos of the Bandcamp community is largely just "We want to support the creator".

    6 votes
  11. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I wonder if VR will totally spoil what I think of as adequate field of view for games. I've never tried one, but I wonder if once I do, it'll feel super clunky going back.

    I wonder if VR will totally spoil what I think of as adequate field of view for games. I've never tried one, but I wonder if once I do, it'll feel super clunky going back.

    3 votes
  12. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I started Bioshock Infinite again recently -- I had a sort of weird love hate relationship with the story and the ending the first time that I played it, so I figured I'd try again to see if the...

    I started Bioshock Infinite again recently -- I had a sort of weird love hate relationship with the story and the ending the first time that I played it, so I figured I'd try again to see if the entire project seems more cohesive. So far it's kind of that, but I sometimes feel like the combat is kind of bland and repetitive. Granted, I've been playing a very chill game of Stardew Valley for a while, so maybe any combat would feel that way. I'm open to suggestions for mindset changes to really get into FPS games like Bioshock though!

    6 votes
  13. Comment on What are your personal picks for "Games of the Decade"? in ~games

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    "...the ultimate millennial power fantasy" is such a perfect and heartwarming description. Thanks for writing it!

    "...the ultimate millennial power fantasy" is such a perfect and heartwarming description. Thanks for writing it!

    3 votes
  14. Comment on Ahoy vegans; do you make yourself breakfast every morning? If so, what is it? in ~food

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    I was going to suggest a blend of cereals and assorted fixings (nut butter, cacao nibs, etc.), but gluten-free cereals seem like they'd be a bit annoying to come by. My mom's been a big fan of...

    I was going to suggest a blend of cereals and assorted fixings (nut butter, cacao nibs, etc.), but gluten-free cereals seem like they'd be a bit annoying to come by. My mom's been a big fan of breakfast shakes most days -- spinach, some sort of protein powder, some fruit (frozen or fresh works pretty well), maybe some sort of nut butter. My partner was really into a japanese-style breakfast for a little while (rice, miso soup, maybe natto) -- could be worth trying, and it seems like it'd be easier to meal prep, if that's your sort of thing.

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  15. Comment on Shuffle your entire music library, then tell me about the first five tracks that come up. in ~music

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    Mr. Brightside -- The Killers (honestly amazing that this came up first) Cadenza -- Miguel Zenón, Spektral Quartet (Their tiny desk is amazing, definitely worth a listen) Needy Bees -- Nick Hakim...

    Mr. Brightside -- The Killers
    (honestly amazing that this came up first)
    Cadenza -- Miguel Zenón, Spektral Quartet
    (Their tiny desk is amazing, definitely worth a listen)
    Needy Bees -- Nick Hakim
    (Green Twins is a great album, also an awesome tiny desk show)
    Flesh without Blood -- Grimes
    (I think there was a solid 3 months a couple years ago where I was listening to Art Angles on repeat, kinda fun to see it come back)
    Everyone That Loves You -- Bomb the Music Industry!
    (If you're into the DIY punk scene, Jeff Rosenstock/BTMI is a must imo)

    This is with Spotify, so I'm sure shuffle weights more towards songs that I've listened to more instead of strictly random -- these aren't super deep cuts for me

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  16. Comment on People of Tildes, what apps and programs do you use regularly on your PC? in ~tech

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    Fair. They've got a whole bunch of ways to earn credit -- I think I ended up with something like $23 for my first year after all that. Broadly though, I like it, they're not selling everything I...

    Fair. They've got a whole bunch of ways to earn credit -- I think I ended up with something like $23 for my first year after all that. Broadly though, I like it, they're not selling everything I put up there, I'm willing to pay for it.

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  17. Comment on People of Tildes, what apps and programs do you use regularly on your PC? in ~tech

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    Fair points -- for me, the ease of use for something that was designed for folks without a technical background is a welcome change, compared with trying to wrangle something like org-mode and...

    Fair points -- for me, the ease of use for something that was designed for folks without a technical background is a welcome change, compared with trying to wrangle something like org-mode and having it look/feel terrible. I'm totally with you on the lack of linux support and electron crap, for me those are mostly annoyances that bug me in the back of my mind but don't infringe on my overall experience, so I'm content to keep using.

    4 votes
  18. Comment on People of Tildes, what apps and programs do you use regularly on your PC? in ~tech

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    I switched to Notion -- I'm honestly floored; it's the only service that I've felt really good about spending money on. There's a bit of a learning curve, but it's super customizable.

    I switched to Notion -- I'm honestly floored; it's the only service that I've felt really good about spending money on. There's a bit of a learning curve, but it's super customizable.

    4 votes