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For Men Who Hate Talking On The Phone, Games Keep Friendships Alive

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    hungariantoast (edited ) Link
    The content of this article was actually quite relatable to me and I'm not sure how I feel about that. It's no secret that I moved to Texas a few years ago from North Carolina, a distance just...

    The content of this article was actually quite relatable to me and I'm not sure how I feel about that.

    It's no secret that I moved to Texas a few years ago from North Carolina, a distance just over 1,000 miles. By the time I moved away, most of my friends from high school were long gone, attending college, living somewhere else, or just no longer communicating. I had a few close friends left though and didn't have trouble making new friends at work, but the sudden drop off of friendly relationships was noticeable.

    Fast forward years later to now and I have maybe two friends who I regularly talk to from my old home, both men. We definitely stay in touch primarily through simple chatting apps and occasionally playing games together, which is an arrangement we're all happy with. I have no doubt that at this point, were I to actually call one of them on the phone, they'd probably immediately pick up fearing an emergency, since that would be such an odd thing to do.

    It's not like our relationships are shallow either, we're talking about my best friends after all. We have goofy quirks and inside jokes, things only we understand. Shoot, we even have a running joke where, when we actually need to talk about something deep and serious, we play a specific game while we talk as just some weird tradition, but we all enjoy it.

    I think a big part of it has to do with the fact that, since I moved away, we've all been employed and/or college students for the majority of this time and we'd really rather just kick back and chat over a video game than a phone call.

    I don't know if this phenomenon is a gender thing, but I don't feel like it's a bad practice. At least not for me and my friends.

    I don't know, video games as medium gets a lot of shit (rightfully), but it's nice to take a step back and examine myself, my friends, and how this phenomenon has (unknowingly until now) played a big part in retaining close friendships over thousands of miles.


    Also, I had no clue what to tag this with, so if anyone has any suggestions feel free to edit the tags or suggest edits to me, because I hit a wall on this one.

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    1. Deimos (edited ) Link Parent
      I think it's not so much a phenomenon as it is just a particular form of activities to do together keeping friendships alive. For many other people, the activity that helps them with maintaining...

      I think it's not so much a phenomenon as it is just a particular form of activities to do together keeping friendships alive. For many other people, the activity that helps them with maintaining their friendships might be going golfing, watching sports (maybe at a bar), playing poker, going skiing, or anything else they can do together with friends that also allows for talking about unrelated topics.

      The unique and interesting part about gaming is that it's an activity you can do together with someone at a distance. That makes it possible to maintain relationships along the lines of "golfing buddies", even if none of you can get together in person. The potential for hanging out for shorter periods is a neat aspect too (like playing something together for less than an hour), and even interruptable periods, which isn't possible with many other activities.

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