I recently discovered the AuDHD Flourishing podcast and highly recommend going through it's episode backlog for topics you're thinking about. It's not about magic cures, but about compassionate...
I recently discovered the AuDHD Flourishing podcast and highly recommend going through it's episode backlog for topics you're thinking about. It's not about magic cures, but about compassionate reframing and validation.
Also read Explaining AuDHD: the target audience is other mental health professionals and not patients, so the style is heavy and slow (you can skip the first 3 chapters if you're already educated about neurodivergence). The author's thesis is that AuDHD should be considered a distinct neurotype and not just Autism + ADHD, because it's diagnosis and treatment are not a superposition of both, since one helps mask the other.
As a gifted kid & messy adult, these two resources also reinforced my opinion that the typical struggles of a gifted person (intensity in tasks and sensations, justice sensitivity, auditory processing deficit, social deficits...) closely match the AuDHD neurotype.
Thank you for both of those! As my wife is recently an AuDHD diagnosis (and I'm thinking I may not be, but I still think some of the AuDHD stuff may be helpful to me on some of the social sides),...
Thank you for both of those! As my wife is recently an AuDHD diagnosis (and I'm thinking I may not be, but I still think some of the AuDHD stuff may be helpful to me on some of the social sides), I'm checking both of those out.
Also, to everyone: While I prefer to support authors where I can, I also am, frankly, broke. So I have decided to support authors where I can and just obtain things where I can't. I have obtained the epub of the book, and if anyone wishes to PM me, I can assist them with that if you're interested and also broke.
You're welcome! For other resources, I'd list: Dr Neff's works, as listed in this previous comment The Gifted kid, messy adult podcast Devon Price's blog and books (Unmasking Autism & Unmasking...
Devon Price's blog and books (Unmasking Autism & Unmasking for life)
Also, lots of high-masking neurodivergent folks end up with relational trauma and / or cPTSD, that is difficult to entangle. That's discussed in all of these podcasts.
"Is your energy quite cyclical, where when you feel like your brain is working you'll push yourself really really hard, and then be totally exhausted and need time to recover?" This just hit me...
"Is your energy quite cyclical, where when you feel like your brain is working you'll push yourself really really hard, and then be totally exhausted and need time to recover?"
This just hit me like a ton of bricks.
I've always wanted to keep a daily journal (and exercise regularly, and clean my house regularly, and stick to a budget, and all of that will happen if I can just keep a journal, right?). In trying to be more accepting of "failure" and trying to get better at picking things back up vs feeling shame and never doing them again, I eventually forced myself to keep one journal and pick it back up at the next page instead of buying a new one every time like I had been so far.
Using one book caused me to notice the pattern of when I was feeling like my brain was working (when I wrote daily) followed by the periods when I wasn't doing well (when I didn't write at all)(insert the picture of the planes that came back with bullet holes). So I started trying to approach things from an angle of "I know I have this cycle, how do I work with it to get more things done when I'm good to make up for when I'm down?"
I never looked at it like I was pushing myself and then needing a recovery period. I was looking for ways to start again after falling off because why am I like this why can't I just keep going... And also getting frustrated when I felt like I should be at the "good" part of the cycle again but I wasn't feeling good yet.... and never considered that maybe I need rest.
My energy cycles really closely with my menstrual cycle, and I'm sure hormones play a part, but now I'm realizing I may be making it worse in my attempt to work with myself š
You are referencing the excellent What is AuDHD (and do you have it?) episode and I also felt seen with this question. I resigned from four companies in 5 years and every time it was at the end of...
I resigned from four companies in 5 years and every time it was at the end of a big project: my executive function takes a nosedive and I'm unable to do anything but reactive / urgent work. Every occurrence was motivated by serious managerial issues (up to harassment), but I thought I powered through the big project out of professional pride.
Re-reading my history through the lens of this question, I think it accounts for a lot of what happened: once the project is done, the cultural issues become front of mind again and compound with the exhaustion in a mix that I have to learn to manage.
What is this space? It is intended as a community space, primarily for those of us with ADHD and/or autism; but it should be open to evolution on what is explicitely encouraged (because all are...
What is this space?
It is intended as a community space, primarily for those of us with ADHD and/or autism; but it should be open to evolution on what is explicitely encouraged (because all are welcome). It intended as a space to vent about your struggles and challenges in a space where there is implicit understanding of the issues we face with these diagnoses. It is intended as a space to celebrate your achievements and victories with those who understand why those are as meaningful as they are, even the little ones. It is intended as a space to seek support with related issues ā like requesting accountability partnering, chunking, rubber-ducking, et cetera. It is a place to post news and articles about ADHD and autism that are of interest to the community. A place for discussion. And a place to be serious and silly together with folks who understand.
All are welcome to participate here. While generally on Tildes I would expect most participants to accept that ADHD and autism and the like are real diagnoses, I would expect those participating here to either have those diagnoses, understand those diagnoses, or if someone wants to learn more, to ask questions here with an open mind ā i.e. this is a positive and supportive space.
All are welcome to participate here. Not just those with these diagnoses. The self-diagnosed are welcome. Support is welcome to be sought by those with ADHD-adjacent issues: for example, depression can cause executive function issues such that accountability partnering could be helpful. Feel free to seek such help here.
Your feedback is requested and valued. This community will evolve to fit the needs of those who participate here. What works will be retained; what doesn't work will be dropped. I am your facilitator, not dictator; and while for this first thread I am speaking with my voice, as we evolve things and figure out what works, I will rephrase whatever text that gets posted each time into a passive voice. I just want to reassure you that while I'm taking a leadship position to get the ball rolling here, I will be removing myself from this so it truly is a community space for us all. But to start, you gotta have someone doing the thing. :)
For now, I'll create one top-level reply that requests for support should be posted under. The idea is that it makes it easier for those wishing to volunteer to help can find the requests more easily. We'll see if that works or not.
It is my humble opinion that one should be encourged to post as you wish. If you want to post multiple things in a top level reply that are going on, great. If you want to make two little top level replies about different topics, even on the same day? I think that's also fine. Don't be shy about posting.
I think a fortnightly thread feels about right to start. Too frequent and things can get lost. Too infrequent and the thread might die out before we get a new one. But as with everything else, feedback is desired. By coincidence of when the idea was had, I'm posting this one on a Friday. If you'd prefer a different day, that's feedback that is welcome.
Welcome to your space! Help make this space be what you want it to be. <3
Quick start:
Inclusive Community Space: Primarily for ADHD/autism but open to all; welcomes self-diagnosed and those seeking to learn.
Support & Understanding: A place to vent, celebrate wins (big or small), and seek help (accountability, chunking, etc.).
Discussion & Shared Interests: Share news/articles about ADHD/autism and engage in meaningful or lighthearted conversations.
Open Participation: All are welcome, including those with ADHD-adjacent struggles (e.g., depression-related executive dysfunction).
Community-Driven Evolution: Feedback shapes the spaceāwhat works stays, what doesnāt adapts; facilitator role is temporary.
Flexible Posting & Thread Frequency: Post freely (multiple topics or replies); fortnightly threads for now, but open to feedback.
Not to be a downer, but I avoid reading tips or anything about ADHD improvement these days. Everything fails for me 100% of the time. "Tips and hacks" only give me another opportunity to fail. The...
Not to be a downer, but I avoid reading tips or anything about ADHD improvement these days. Everything fails for me 100% of the time. "Tips and hacks" only give me another opportunity to fail. The only things that work for me are medication and things I come up with myself.
That's fine though. I completely understand. I don't read tips and tricks either. Mainly because I got diagnosed as an Adult. And by that time, I've already developed my own ways of handling...
That's fine though. I completely understand. I don't read tips and tricks either. Mainly because I got diagnosed as an Adult. And by that time, I've already developed my own ways of handling things and find that most tips and tricks online doesn't suit me.
I see you: they sound like "list of reason even others who have ADHD are less broken than me". Ironically, reading what you said resonated and makes me feel less alone. :) but obviously I would be...
I see you: they sound like "list of reason even others who have ADHD are less broken than me". Ironically, reading what you said resonated and makes me feel less alone. :) but obviously I would be thrilled to hear you are doing better
I'm glad you have some things that you come up with that are working though :)
Hey yāall! Iām just visiting this topic as someone without ADHD (autism is a solid maybe though), and Iād appreciate some help from anyone willing to lend it. (Also if this isnāt the right kind of...
Hey yāall!
Iām just visiting this topic as someone without ADHD (autism is a solid maybe though), and Iād appreciate some help from anyone willing to lend it. (Also if this isnāt the right kind of post for here, let me know.)
Iām a teacher, and I decided that, starting next year, I want to have some neurodivergence rep on my walls. Posters/quotes/whatnot that say to my students that ADHD/autism/etc. are welcome here.
Iāve tried looking around, but a lot of the stuff out there looks like itās made for elementary schools. I teach secondary-level teens who would feel infantilized by anything āprimaryā looking. I donāt need the posters to be hip or āfellow kidsā-ish ā just supportive and earnest.
Anyone have any recommendations?
If you were a student in my classroom (or your child was), what would you want to see on my walls?
Fun side note: I typed āautism posterā into Amazon, and in the middle of dozens of teachery posters about inclusion, it threw in this absolute banger.
Everyone is different. I am having a hard time thinking of a poster that might call my attention as a student, so I actually read it. Everyone is different, but I could easily spend an entire year...
Everyone is different.
I am having a hard time thinking of a poster that might call my attention as a student, so I actually read it. Everyone is different, but I could easily spend an entire year in a classroom and never notice a poster on the wall. I probably have. I mean, I'm pretty sure a naked lady is something I would notice, but I don't think you can have those :P
Perhaps a large mural might be helpful. Especially if the classroom windows do not show any nature. A larger mural that functions as a kind of "window" to nature, with lots of interesting details, might feel like a welcome escape. No messages on that, though. As an ADHD student, I don't think I would want a message. The entirety of the experience of being a student is to be bombarded by messages and meaning every second of the day. I would rather something that would give me a visual break instead.
Sorry if that is not what you intended with your question. When I was in class, I just wanted something interesting to escape so I didn't feel like my head was about to explode. I wasn't treated, though. Kids these days get medication, so I imagine that changes a lot.
Joking not joking, if there was a sit here quietly touch grass (or look at naked lady?) corner at school that would have been great lol. Nah, kids are cruel and could make fun of folks who use any...
Joking not joking, if there was a sit here quietly touch grass (or look at naked lady?) corner at school that would have been great lol. Nah, kids are cruel and could make fun of folks who use any sort of special accomodations. -..-
maybe that's why classroom pets existed. Everyone likes cute critters and it's not considered weird (for girls at least) to like cute critters.
Not a poster per se, but i would have greatly valued information. Find out everything you can about neurodivergence or learning limitations accomodations in your school. If you can, find out what...
Not a poster per se, but i would have greatly valued information.
Find out everything you can about neurodivergence or learning limitations accomodations in your school. If you can, find out what other schools offer and spearhead bridging any gaps.
My pharmacist informed me that in our school district every classroom should have at least two pairs of noise cancelling headphones at all times. I nearly broke down crying right then because I wish I had knew. The schools are Crum at communicating to parents and then sometimes parents don't know or they don't want to ask because it "outst" the kid.
If you put up information about what the school offers, and just clearly state at the beginning of the school year here's a bin of figdet toys, here are the noise cancelling headphones, here's earplugs, here's a pass to go to the counsellor or library or quiet corner if you need it, here are the washrooms where there are menstrual products, here are the hours for the confidential health clinics. And just, stick it on the wall or put up a QR code to the doc. {Edit: print it out and give it to every kid so they can keep it discretely}
My SLP suggested something this week that would have changed my life: a token/pog slammer/get out of jail free card that says something like, "I just need to not be here briefly, I'll be back in 5", that young Chocobean could have used to gracefully exit an overwhelming situation without having to find the non-existent calm to explain elegantly. I'm safe, I'm okay, I'll be okay and I am still happy to comply with all social rules I just need a few minutes. We do that at work as adults don't we? Just get up during a meeting calmly and come back in a few minutes? Why deny our kids that?
I donāt know if I have any suggestions of what to do, but I would suggest avoiding the puzzle piece symbol, as itās got a divisive background and many autistic people dislike the association....
I donāt know if I have any suggestions of what to do, but I would suggest avoiding the puzzle piece symbol, as itās got a divisive background and many autistic people dislike the association. Instead, I think the one that lots of autistic communities use these days is an infinity symbol which is coloured with a rainbow gradient.
Ooh, I like a lot of these! Thanks for the pointer. I will probably pick up several of these for my classroom. Just in case anyone else is looking to buy prints like I am, she has a RedBubble store.
Ooh, I like a lot of these! Thanks for the pointer. I will probably pick up several of these for my classroom.
Just in case anyone else is looking to buy prints like I am, she has a RedBubble store.
Routines are the bane of my existence. They do wonders when I have them, but they are so hard to create and keep. After a week of not following my routines, I was able to get back on the horse...
Routines are the bane of my existence. They do wonders when I have them, but they are so hard to create and keep. After a week of not following my routines, I was able to get back on the horse (something I tend to struggle with) and return to the important ones! On top of that, I have been making a point of getting outside for hikes or bike rides as well as doing exercise on weekdays after work gasp, something unfathomable to my past self.
My partner and I are in the last few days before loading all our stuff on a truck to move to the other side of the continent, and ughhh there has been and continues to be So Much Stuff To Do. This...
My partner and I are in the last few days before loading all our stuff on a truck to move to the other side of the continent, and ughhh there has been and continues to be So Much Stuff To Do. This has still been taking up all of my time and physical and mental energy. (I am very thankful that she's taken on most of the parts that involve repeatedly calling businesses that don't answer their phones.)
Meanwhile, I've been trying to power through finishing a project at work that I am thoroughly tired of looking at, so that I don't have to come back to it after moving, and it's actually going... okay? I wouldn't describe myself as "enjoying" it, but it's felt a lot closer to the sort of programming I do actually enjoy, despite being a lot of the same kind of work.
I think what I've learned from these two things, though, is that hard deadlines are a stronger motivator for me than I thought. When I really do need to get something done, something in my brain switches, such that I can direct my hyperfocus at that thing. This is new; I spent a lot of school getting much lower grades than one would expect from me because I just couldn't be bothered to do boring work, and then most of my career being moderately frustrated with myself over some vague sense of "I feel like I should be more productive than I am".
I assume that if I figure out how to intentionally trigger this effect, I will immediately overdo it, then burn out and lose the ability to do anything at all. Because, as I just read elsewhere in this thread:
Is your energy quite cyclical, where when you feel like your brain is working you'll push yourself really really hard, and then be totally exhausted and need time to recover?
I wish I could just run my brain at a normal power level all the time, instead of having these cycles. The crash when this one ends is going to suck.
An inadvertent hack I found to harness the cyclical nature of dashes: find work that is usually very chill, with infrequent moments of everyone freaking out. Basically, behave like a sleepy...
An inadvertent hack I found to harness the cyclical nature of dashes: find work that is usually very chill, with infrequent moments of everyone freaking out.
Basically, behave like a sleepy cheetah and only expect brain-frying top speed for very short and infrequent periods.
Good luck on the move! They can be very stressful. I'm glad your partner can handle the phone call thing if they're more taxing for you.
Are you able to take leave when/after you move? Depending on your work situation, telling the workplace āIām going to need some time to properly settle inā is a useful and believable option to buy...
The crash when this one ends is going to suck.
Are you able to take leave when/after you move? Depending on your work situation, telling the workplace āIām going to need some time to properly settle inā is a useful and believable option to buy yourself time to just veg out and recover and do nothing else for a bunch of time. Moving house is one of the most stressful and demanding things in a personās life, so hopefully your work situation can accommodate
I've been dealing with a lot of things in life. It hasn't been easy. But one of the things I'm dealing with is having is not having a job again and moving back in with my parents. I don't know how...
I've been dealing with a lot of things in life. It hasn't been easy. But one of the things I'm dealing with is having is not having a job again and moving back in with my parents.
I don't know how to describe what's been going on, but there's going to be a lot of change in my life. But more like the change is basically going back to square one.
I've recently realised I react very badly to change whether it's good or bad. And my therapist brought up discussing the potentiality of me being a AuDHD and not just ADHD.
Somehow when I got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, it was a revelation and it helped reframe things a lot. However, I'm incredibly resistant to the idea of being Autistic along with it even though the only things I relate to are AuDHD things.
I don't really know why. Especially since ADHD originally came up only because we were discussing Autism first.
I really don't know. I'm having an emotion. I don't know what it is and I don't like it.
I donāt mean to minimise your situation or struggle at all, and I canāt actually know the complexity of the thoughts in your head, but in a very silly way, that sure sounds like it could be from...
However, I'm incredibly resistant to the idea of being Autistic along with it even though the only things I relate to are AuDHD things.
I don't really know why.
I donāt mean to minimise your situation or struggle at all, and I canāt actually know the complexity of the thoughts in your head, but in a very silly way, that sure sounds like it could be from Autism:
āNo I canāt have this other thing, we already solved it, we already decided I have that thing, that should be enough to explain the world!ā
I recently discovered the AuDHD Flourishing podcast and highly recommend going through it's episode backlog for topics you're thinking about. It's not about magic cures, but about compassionate reframing and validation.
Also read Explaining AuDHD: the target audience is other mental health professionals and not patients, so the style is heavy and slow (you can skip the first 3 chapters if you're already educated about neurodivergence). The author's thesis is that AuDHD should be considered a distinct neurotype and not just Autism + ADHD, because it's diagnosis and treatment are not a superposition of both, since one helps mask the other.
As a gifted kid & messy adult, these two resources also reinforced my opinion that the typical struggles of a gifted person (intensity in tasks and sensations, justice sensitivity, auditory processing deficit, social deficits...) closely match the AuDHD neurotype.
Thank you for both of those! As my wife is recently an AuDHD diagnosis (and I'm thinking I may not be, but I still think some of the AuDHD stuff may be helpful to me on some of the social sides), I'm checking both of those out.
Also, to everyone: While I prefer to support authors where I can, I also am, frankly, broke. So I have decided to support authors where I can and just obtain things where I can't. I have obtained the epub of the book, and if anyone wishes to PM me, I can assist them with that if you're interested and also broke.
You're welcome! For other resources, I'd list:
Also, lots of high-masking neurodivergent folks end up with relational trauma and / or cPTSD, that is difficult to entangle. That's discussed in all of these podcasts.
"Is your energy quite cyclical, where when you feel like your brain is working you'll push yourself really really hard, and then be totally exhausted and need time to recover?"
This just hit me like a ton of bricks.
I've always wanted to keep a daily journal (and exercise regularly, and clean my house regularly, and stick to a budget, and all of that will happen if I can just keep a journal, right?). In trying to be more accepting of "failure" and trying to get better at picking things back up vs feeling shame and never doing them again, I eventually forced myself to keep one journal and pick it back up at the next page instead of buying a new one every time like I had been so far.
Using one book caused me to notice the pattern of when I was feeling like my brain was working (when I wrote daily) followed by the periods when I wasn't doing well (when I didn't write at all)(insert the picture of the planes that came back with bullet holes). So I started trying to approach things from an angle of "I know I have this cycle, how do I work with it to get more things done when I'm good to make up for when I'm down?"
I never looked at it like I was pushing myself and then needing a recovery period. I was looking for ways to start again after falling off because why am I like this why can't I just keep going... And also getting frustrated when I felt like I should be at the "good" part of the cycle again but I wasn't feeling good yet.... and never considered that maybe I need rest.
My energy cycles really closely with my menstrual cycle, and I'm sure hormones play a part, but now I'm realizing I may be making it worse in my attempt to work with myself š
You are referencing the excellent What is AuDHD (and do you have it?) episode and I also felt seen with this question.
I resigned from four companies in 5 years and every time it was at the end of a big project: my executive function takes a nosedive and I'm unable to do anything but reactive / urgent work. Every occurrence was motivated by serious managerial issues (up to harassment), but I thought I powered through the big project out of professional pride.
Re-reading my history through the lens of this question, I think it accounts for a lot of what happened: once the project is done, the cultural issues become front of mind again and compound with the exhaustion in a mix that I have to learn to manage.
What is this space?
It is intended as a community space, primarily for those of us with ADHD and/or autism; but it should be open to evolution on what is explicitely encouraged (because all are welcome). It intended as a space to vent about your struggles and challenges in a space where there is implicit understanding of the issues we face with these diagnoses. It is intended as a space to celebrate your achievements and victories with those who understand why those are as meaningful as they are, even the little ones. It is intended as a space to seek support with related issues ā like requesting accountability partnering, chunking, rubber-ducking, et cetera. It is a place to post news and articles about ADHD and autism that are of interest to the community. A place for discussion. And a place to be serious and silly together with folks who understand.All are welcome to participate here. While generally on Tildes I would expect most participants to accept that ADHD and autism and the like are real diagnoses, I would expect those participating here to either have those diagnoses, understand those diagnoses, or if someone wants to learn more, to ask questions here with an open mind ā i.e. this is a positive and supportive space.
All are welcome to participate here. Not just those with these diagnoses. The self-diagnosed are welcome. Support is welcome to be sought by those with ADHD-adjacent issues: for example, depression can cause executive function issues such that accountability partnering could be helpful. Feel free to seek such help here.
Your feedback is requested and valued. This community will evolve to fit the needs of those who participate here. What works will be retained; what doesn't work will be dropped. I am your facilitator, not dictator; and while for this first thread I am speaking with my voice, as we evolve things and figure out what works, I will rephrase whatever text that gets posted each time into a passive voice. I just want to reassure you that while I'm taking a leadship position to get the ball rolling here, I will be removing myself from this so it truly is a community space for us all. But to start, you gotta have someone doing the thing. :)
For now, I'll create one top-level reply that requests for support should be posted under. The idea is that it makes it easier for those wishing to volunteer to help can find the requests more easily. We'll see if that works or not.
It is my humble opinion that one should be encourged to post as you wish. If you want to post multiple things in a top level reply that are going on, great. If you want to make two little top level replies about different topics, even on the same day? I think that's also fine. Don't be shy about posting.
I think a fortnightly thread feels about right to start. Too frequent and things can get lost. Too infrequent and the thread might die out before we get a new one. But as with everything else, feedback is desired. By coincidence of when the idea was had, I'm posting this one on a Friday. If you'd prefer a different day, that's feedback that is welcome.
Welcome to your space! Help make this space be what you want it to be. <3
Quick start:
Inclusive Community Space: Primarily for ADHD/autism but open to all; welcomes self-diagnosed and those seeking to learn.
Support & Understanding: A place to vent, celebrate wins (big or small), and seek help (accountability, chunking, etc.).
Discussion & Shared Interests: Share news/articles about ADHD/autism and engage in meaningful or lighthearted conversations.
Open Participation: All are welcome, including those with ADHD-adjacent struggles (e.g., depression-related executive dysfunction).
Community-Driven Evolution: Feedback shapes the spaceāwhat works stays, what doesnāt adapts; facilitator role is temporary.
Flexible Posting & Thread Frequency: Post freely (multiple topics or replies); fortnightly threads for now, but open to feedback.
Welcome! Help shape this space. <3
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Not to be a downer, but I avoid reading tips or anything about ADHD improvement these days. Everything fails for me 100% of the time. "Tips and hacks" only give me another opportunity to fail. The only things that work for me are medication and things I come up with myself.
That's fine though. I completely understand. I don't read tips and tricks either. Mainly because I got diagnosed as an Adult. And by that time, I've already developed my own ways of handling things and find that most tips and tricks online doesn't suit me.
You know yourself and what works for you best.
I see you: they sound like "list of reason even others who have ADHD are less broken than me". Ironically, reading what you said resonated and makes me feel less alone. :) but obviously I would be thrilled to hear you are doing better
I'm glad you have some things that you come up with that are working though :)
Hey yāall!
Iām just visiting this topic as someone without ADHD (autism is a solid maybe though), and Iād appreciate some help from anyone willing to lend it. (Also if this isnāt the right kind of post for here, let me know.)
Iām a teacher, and I decided that, starting next year, I want to have some neurodivergence rep on my walls. Posters/quotes/whatnot that say to my students that ADHD/autism/etc. are welcome here.
Iāve tried looking around, but a lot of the stuff out there looks like itās made for elementary schools. I teach secondary-level teens who would feel infantilized by anything āprimaryā looking. I donāt need the posters to be hip or āfellow kidsā-ish ā just supportive and earnest.
Anyone have any recommendations?
If you were a student in my classroom (or your child was), what would you want to see on my walls?
Fun side note: I typed āautism posterā into Amazon, and in the middle of dozens of teachery posters about inclusion, it threw in this absolute banger.
Everyone is different.
I am having a hard time thinking of a poster that might call my attention as a student, so I actually read it. Everyone is different, but I could easily spend an entire year in a classroom and never notice a poster on the wall. I probably have. I mean, I'm pretty sure a naked lady is something I would notice, but I don't think you can have those :P
Perhaps a large mural might be helpful. Especially if the classroom windows do not show any nature. A larger mural that functions as a kind of "window" to nature, with lots of interesting details, might feel like a welcome escape. No messages on that, though. As an ADHD student, I don't think I would want a message. The entirety of the experience of being a student is to be bombarded by messages and meaning every second of the day. I would rather something that would give me a visual break instead.
Sorry if that is not what you intended with your question. When I was in class, I just wanted something interesting to escape so I didn't feel like my head was about to explode. I wasn't treated, though. Kids these days get medication, so I imagine that changes a lot.
Joking not joking, if there was a sit here quietly touch grass (or look at naked lady?) corner at school that would have been great lol. Nah, kids are cruel and could make fun of folks who use any sort of special accomodations. -..-
maybe that's why classroom pets existed. Everyone likes cute critters and it's not considered weird (for girls at least) to like cute critters.
Not a poster per se, but i would have greatly valued information.
Find out everything you can about neurodivergence or learning limitations accomodations in your school. If you can, find out what other schools offer and spearhead bridging any gaps.
My pharmacist informed me that in our school district every classroom should have at least two pairs of noise cancelling headphones at all times. I nearly broke down crying right then because I wish I had knew. The schools are Crum at communicating to parents and then sometimes parents don't know or they don't want to ask because it "outst" the kid.
If you put up information about what the school offers, and just clearly state at the beginning of the school year here's a bin of figdet toys, here are the noise cancelling headphones, here's earplugs, here's a pass to go to the counsellor or library or quiet corner if you need it, here are the washrooms where there are menstrual products, here are the hours for the confidential health clinics. And just, stick it on the wall or put up a QR code to the doc. {Edit: print it out and give it to every kid so they can keep it discretely}
My SLP suggested something this week that would have changed my life: a token/pog slammer/get out of jail free card that says something like, "I just need to not be here briefly, I'll be back in 5", that young Chocobean could have used to gracefully exit an overwhelming situation without having to find the non-existent calm to explain elegantly. I'm safe, I'm okay, I'll be okay and I am still happy to comply with all social rules I just need a few minutes. We do that at work as adults don't we? Just get up during a meeting calmly and come back in a few minutes? Why deny our kids that?
Oops sorry, thanks for coming to my TED talk.
I donāt know if I have any suggestions of what to do, but I would suggest avoiding the puzzle piece symbol, as itās got a divisive background and many autistic people dislike the association. Instead, I think the one that lots of autistic communities use these days is an infinity symbol which is coloured with a rainbow gradient.
not necessarily autism or adhd specific but TheLatestKate might be worth a look.
Ooh, I like a lot of these! Thanks for the pointer. I will probably pick up several of these for my classroom.
Just in case anyone else is looking to buy prints like I am, she has a RedBubble store.
Routines are the bane of my existence. They do wonders when I have them, but they are so hard to create and keep. After a week of not following my routines, I was able to get back on the horse (something I tend to struggle with) and return to the important ones! On top of that, I have been making a point of getting outside for hikes or bike rides as well as doing exercise on weekdays after work gasp, something unfathomable to my past self.
That's amazing, when it's kinda hot and sunny outside too! (I'm assuming Northern hemisphere) Great job
My partner and I are in the last few days before loading all our stuff on a truck to move to the other side of the continent, and ughhh there has been and continues to be So Much Stuff To Do. This has still been taking up all of my time and physical and mental energy. (I am very thankful that she's taken on most of the parts that involve repeatedly calling businesses that don't answer their phones.)
Meanwhile, I've been trying to power through finishing a project at work that I am thoroughly tired of looking at, so that I don't have to come back to it after moving, and it's actually going... okay? I wouldn't describe myself as "enjoying" it, but it's felt a lot closer to the sort of programming I do actually enjoy, despite being a lot of the same kind of work.
I think what I've learned from these two things, though, is that hard deadlines are a stronger motivator for me than I thought. When I really do need to get something done, something in my brain switches, such that I can direct my hyperfocus at that thing. This is new; I spent a lot of school getting much lower grades than one would expect from me because I just couldn't be bothered to do boring work, and then most of my career being moderately frustrated with myself over some vague sense of "I feel like I should be more productive than I am".
I assume that if I figure out how to intentionally trigger this effect, I will immediately overdo it, then burn out and lose the ability to do anything at all. Because, as I just read elsewhere in this thread:
I wish I could just run my brain at a normal power level all the time, instead of having these cycles. The crash when this one ends is going to suck.
An inadvertent hack I found to harness the cyclical nature of dashes: find work that is usually very chill, with infrequent moments of everyone freaking out.
Basically, behave like a sleepy cheetah and only expect brain-frying top speed for very short and infrequent periods.
Good luck on the move! They can be very stressful. I'm glad your partner can handle the phone call thing if they're more taxing for you.
Are you able to take leave when/after you move? Depending on your work situation, telling the workplace āIām going to need some time to properly settle inā is a useful and believable option to buy yourself time to just veg out and recover and do nothing else for a bunch of time. Moving house is one of the most stressful and demanding things in a personās life, so hopefully your work situation can accommodate
I've been dealing with a lot of things in life. It hasn't been easy. But one of the things I'm dealing with is having is not having a job again and moving back in with my parents.
I don't know how to describe what's been going on, but there's going to be a lot of change in my life. But more like the change is basically going back to square one.
I've recently realised I react very badly to change whether it's good or bad. And my therapist brought up discussing the potentiality of me being a AuDHD and not just ADHD.
Somehow when I got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, it was a revelation and it helped reframe things a lot. However, I'm incredibly resistant to the idea of being Autistic along with it even though the only things I relate to are AuDHD things.
I don't really know why. Especially since ADHD originally came up only because we were discussing Autism first.
I really don't know. I'm having an emotion. I don't know what it is and I don't like it.
I donāt mean to minimise your situation or struggle at all, and I canāt actually know the complexity of the thoughts in your head, but in a very silly way, that sure sounds like it could be from Autism:
āNo I canāt have this other thing, we already solved it, we already decided I have that thing, that should be enough to explain the world!ā
Hahaha. This is very amusing. Thank you.