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I’ve been a lesbian my entire life, but I only realized I was a woman this year

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    hackergal
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    About half a year ago I posted to tildes about how I recently figured out I was transgender. A few people were curious about what it was like being transgender but not knowing it. This article...

    About half a year ago I posted to tildes about how I recently figured out I was transgender. A few people were curious about what it was like being transgender but not knowing it. This article does a good job explaining that a little bit.

    The part where the author describes her ideal woman to her friends as a kid and then immediately realizes they did something wrong was extremely relatable for me. Things like that happened to me so often as a kid. Also my 'type' has always been lesbians, which was confusing before I realized I was trans. I kept wondering why all the girls I liked most ended up being gay.

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        hackergal
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        If you're thinking you're seriously questioning your gender you can feel free to message me. Also check out /r/egg_irl on reddit and see if you relate to anything there. That's how I figured out I...

        If you're thinking you're seriously questioning your gender you can feel free to message me. Also check out /r/egg_irl on reddit and see if you relate to anything there. That's how I figured out I was trans last September.

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          1. hackergal
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            Yeah welcome to the club. Nobody wants to be trans. Its not really a choice tho. You also might like this website.

            Yeah welcome to the club. Nobody wants to be trans. Its not really a choice tho. You also might like this website.

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            moonbathers
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            I think there's a couple of us here. I'd be more than happy to talk to you and @hackergal as well, since I've known for about a decade.

            I think there's a couple of us here. I'd be more than happy to talk to you and @hackergal as well, since I've known for about a decade.

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              hackergal
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              How old were you when you realized, if you don't mind me asking?

              How old were you when you realized, if you don't mind me asking?

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                moonbathers
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                I was 12 when it first came to my mind and 16 when I stopped repressing myself and started exploring it.

                I was 12 when it first came to my mind and 16 when I stopped repressing myself and started exploring it.

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                1. hackergal
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                  I kind of always knew that I wanted to be a girl, I even remember praying to god at like 5 years old to let me wake up as a girl and using birthday wishes on it and stuff. But I stopped believing...

                  I kind of always knew that I wanted to be a girl, I even remember praying to god at like 5 years old to let me wake up as a girl and using birthday wishes on it and stuff. But I stopped believing in God at age 12 because I got no response. I remember being 11 and learning about trans people and transitioning but I thought I had to be gay first so I just kept repressing until like a few months ago when I learned I could like girls and want to be a girl and that cis guys don't get jealous of lesbians.

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