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If you knew what homophobia was when you realized you weren't cis-het, what was it like realizing LGBT-phobia and discrimination was gonna be just as much a personal issue as a political one to you?
To elaborate more, the realization that LGBT rights, marriage, transitioning, etc are more than just human rights, they're your rights and whenever homophobes succeed in stopping LGBT rights, your rights are stripped away by people who hate you.
Also, If you're bisexual, did/do you ever consider just tagging along as if you were straight because you could and would rather not deal with homophobes? (Assuming this question makes sense)
I genuinely cannot point to a time in my life where I valued my own life over the lives of others. My brain simply isn't and will never be wired this way no matter how hard I work on it in therapy or through introspection or other methods. Because of this, things that are important to the people I love and care deeply about (my friends, or perhaps better worded my chosen family) are more important to me than things which inconvenience me. So it's always been a personal and political issue to me, and knowing that it affects me has never really been a serious consideration.
I absolutely have used my cis-het passing privilege in my past for my own benefit. However, I've made a conscious decision in my life going forward to not allow myself to do this for a variety of reasons, the most important of which being that this privilege has afforded me a voice and I want to use this voice to advocate for others. If I'm a more palatable (for lack of a better word) version of a trans individual for some, I want to use that as a way to convert people into allies to make the world better for all the people I care about.