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This journalist spent a year living with the embattled families of trans youth
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On Valorant and transition
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How come the Mormon, Republican state of Utah is so queer?
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Denmark became the world's first country to offer legal recognition of gay partnerships on 1 October 1989 – a day when "something shifted in human affairs"
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Her US state bans gender-affirming care for teenagers. So she travels 450 miles for it.
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Will Ferrell: ‘If the trans community is a threat to you, then it stems from not being confident or safe with yourself’
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Gender Census 2024: Worldwide report
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Thai king signs same-sex marriage bill into law
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Moments of Pride
I thought this might be a nice thread for folks to share some happy LGBTQ things, more personal things than news but if it impacts you personally, go for it. I was just sitting on the porch...
I thought this might be a nice thread for folks to share some happy LGBTQ things, more personal things than news but if it impacts you personally, go for it. I was just sitting on the porch wearing my Totally Gay shirt thinking we needed a happy thread.
Share moments of Pride, queer joy, winning against those who would discriminate, whatever strikes you.
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11th Circuit rules in favor of forced trans sterilization for drivers licenses in Alabama
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What gay men’s stunning success might teach us about the academic gender gap
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The third sex
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I walked away from my job as a queer educator
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The American/Western right-wing is a threat to queer people worldwide
This is something I've been thinking about for a long while. I will try to briefly explain my reasoning. I live in a country that's not a western country. It has plenty of its problems with...
This is something I've been thinking about for a long while. I will try to briefly explain my reasoning.
I live in a country that's not a western country. It has plenty of its problems with right-wingers, and they certainly do hate queer people. However, for years I've been observing and interacting with these people. Many of them, especially teenagers, 20 and 30 year olds, use the language and rhetoric of the American/Western right-wing.
They constantly talk and complain about SJWs, even though there is barely any left-wing in this country, much less a "SJW" type. They talk about "blacks" infiltrating the tv shows, movies, games. They talk about black people as if they are invaders. An ex-friend of mine, whom I cut contact with because of his increasing radicalization due to right-winger brainrot on Twitter, even said they will come here and ruin our country, "like they did to Europe". He doesn't talk to or have any friends from another nation, and has said this due to the American and Western brainrot spreading on Twitter.
This is extremely weird, because nobody before recent times had a major problem with black people here, because it's an extremely rare occurance whenever you see a black person. So, even right-wingers didn't seem to pay any attention to them. But this all changed with the utter shit rhetoric spread by the American and Western right-wingers on social media sites.
This applies to queer people as well. I've heard and seen so much imported rhetoric that I'm amazed at the international connectedness of right-wing hate. For example, even though trans people never were the focus of any big attention on social media before, thanks to the weird "tranvestigation/infiltration" rhetoric spread by American and Western right-wingers on social media, local sites here started fixating on trans people, especially trans women. However, this in time spread to hating on queer people in general. Just the other day I reported a major hate speech graffiti I saw in my neighbourhood. Luckily it was removed, but I heard from friends similar recent occurances of this hate speech graffiti targeting queer people. Never before in my life I had encountered such a thing. I suspect the trigger was the propaganda spread by American and Western right-wingers.
Why did I create this topic?
Well, first of all, I wanted to share my story and observation.
Second, I wanted to bring attention to a problem I deem important.
And third, the userbase of this site seems to be mostly Americans, and I wanted to challenge an assumption many Americans seem to have—that hateful propaganda on social media seems to almost exclusively come from USA's enemies. No, American and by extension western right-wing is extremely strong. It has extreme reach and powerful rhetoric. It's a global problem. I've been paying attention to this topic since 2015, and in recent years more and more American alt-right rhetoric I've seen in 2015-2016 on American internet started being voiced here more and more.
So, I guess, queers from other countries, beware of American alt-right rhetoric. It has a powerful effect on local right-wingers in other countries, and you might benefit from studying and learning to deconstruct and fight it.
This is also another reason why USA's elections are everyone's problem. The internal power struggles and ideological battles there are exported to the rest of the world.
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US Republicans are sneaking anti-trans amendments into beneficial bills
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How anti-trans US policies in Project 2025 could impact all families
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Blue and red US states were putting period products in schools — then came the anti-trans backlash
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Death threats, legal risk and backlogs weigh on US clinicians treating trans minors
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Anti-trans school board candidates backed by Ron DeSantis get crushed in Florida
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11th century contract provides evidence of same-sex marriage in medieval Spain
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PinkNews CEO recorded calling trans issues "contentious" on the basis it jeopardises ad revenue
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How trans autistic people are using joy as political resistance
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United States Supreme Court blocks Joe Biden administration rules against sex discrimination in schools
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‘T4T’ isn’t just about dating, it’s about community care
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Denmark's minister of equality: There are limits to what rights trans people should have
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Imane Khelif brings lawsuit against x for "acts of aggravated cyber harassment”
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Gay student says “Coach” Tim Walz protected him from homophobic bullies
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Queer: A term from/of the Global South
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LGBT and marginalized voices are not welcome on Threads
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Meet Anita Velveeta, the ‘Big Sister’ of the Twin Cities trans music scene
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Swedish director Levan Akin's fearless and hopeful takes on LGBTQ+ narratives have made him one of the most exciting gay directors working today
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A trans priest wants to help men through the masculinity crisis
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Iranian-born Norwegian man found guilty of terrorism in a 2022 attack on an LGBTQ+ festival in Oslo and sentenced to thirty years in prison
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Pride Month at Tildes: #5 - Ask almost anything
Ask almost anything Last week had a focus on understanding. This week has the same focus but with a different angle. Use this topic to ask almost any question you want to ask, including those...
Ask almost anything
Last week had a focus on understanding. This week has the same focus but with a different angle.
Use this topic to ask almost any question you want to ask, including those you’re worried might come across poorly if brought up elsewhere.
If you feel equipped to answer a question, answer it!
Importantly: this is a safe space in which you can ask questions free from judgment. The vibe we're going for is a classroom, not a battleground.
Discussions like this can often cause intense emotions, but I want us to be especially vigilant in keeping this topic conflict- and aggression-free (see: Thermostat Rule below). If a fight breaks out in a classroom, learning stops, so conflict is counterproductive to our goals here. Disagreements are fine; disses are not. In all of these threads I have said that we should "be kind; be gracious; listen to others; love lots." Let's put that into practice here.
If you feel that a user is deliberately breaking any of the norms for this topic, do not engage them. It is more productive to simply mark their comment as
noise
and not respond. In the extremely rare case that you believe someone is actively intending to do harm, please mark their comment asmalice
.Ground Rules
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Curiosity Rule: The reason that this is "ask almost anything" instead of "ask literally anything" is that your question has to come from a place of genuine curiosity -- you must honestly want to learn more. This is not a place to ask rhetorical questions to make a point or provocative questions to stir the pot.
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Good Faith Rule: assume all users here are acting in good faith and read their words in the best possible light. This goes for both those asking the questions and those answering as well.
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Thermostat Rule: the thermostat is set for this topic, meaning the heat should not rise. If you find that you might say something that would raise the temperature in the topic, please reword it, step away to cool down for a bit, or
ignore
the topic entirely.
Guidelines
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Experience Guideline: if a question is directed at people with specific identities/experiences, the bulk of their answers should come with people aligned with those identities/experiences. For example, a question directed at trans people should be primarily (but not necessarily exclusively) answered by trans people. The reason this is a guideline and not a rule is that there are many ways a rule would cut out valuable discourse -- e.g. people who are still questioning their identities; a cis person who wants to talk about the experiences of their trans partner, etc.
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Multiple Answers Guideline: even if a question has already been answered by someone else, it is okay to give another answer if you have more to add or a different perspective to share.
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Volunteer Guideline: if you are open to answering questions about specific topics, instead of making a top-level comment with a question, make a top level comment stating what you're willing to share about (e.g. "I'm happy to answer questions about ace spectrum terminology"). People can then respond to you directly with their questions.
Full Event Guidelines
Everyone is welcome to participate. This includes allies! You do not need to identify as LGBT in order to join in the topics (especially this one!).
I will use "queer" and "LGBT" interchangeably as umbrella terms to refer to all minority sexualities and gender identities. These are intended to be explicitly inclusive.
Be kind; be gracious; listen to others; love lots.
Schedule
I won't reveal everything upfront, but with each post I will give a teaser for what's next:
June 1st: Introductions and Playlist
June 4th: Who is a historical LGBT advocate that you admire?
June 7th: What positive changes have you seen in your lifetime?
June 10th: What's something you wish more people understood?
June 13th: Ask almost anything
June 16th: (teaser: windows and mirrors)
June 19th:
June 22nd:
June 25th:
June 28th:
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A critique of the Cass Review
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Pride Month at Tildes: #10 - What did you do for Pride Month?
What did you do for Pride Month? This is the final topic of our Pride Month series! Share anything you did this month that fits with the theme of Pride. Anything goes! Big things, small things,...
What did you do for Pride Month?
This is the final topic of our Pride Month series!
Share anything you did this month that fits with the theme of Pride.
Anything goes! Big things, small things, public things, personal things. If it was queer or queer-supportive, then it counts! Even if it was just commenting in some of these topics, feel free to talk about that.
Event Guidelines
Everyone is welcome to participate. This includes allies! You do not need to identify as LGBT in order to join in the topics.
I will use "queer" and "LGBT" interchangeably as umbrella terms to refer to all minority sexualities and gender identities. These are intended to be explicitly inclusive.
Be kind; be gracious; listen to others; love lots.
Full List of Topics
June 1st: Introductions and Playlist
June 4th: Who is a historical LGBT advocate that you admire?
June 7th: What positive changes have you seen in your lifetime?
June 10th: What's something you wish more people understood?
June 13th: Ask almost anything
June 16th: What media representation resonated with you personally?
June 19th: How are things with your family?
June 22nd: What are you worried about?
June 25th: What are you hopeful about?
June 28th: What did you do for Pride Month?19 votes -
The yeses that surprise you: Organizing across the lines of cis and trans
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Pride Month at Tildes: #9 - What are you hopeful about?
What are you hopeful about? The flipside to last week: Looking forward, what are you hopeful about? What good do you see on the horizon? You can share hopes that are social, political, personal,...
What are you hopeful about?
The flipside to last week:
Looking forward, what are you hopeful about? What good do you see on the horizon?
You can share hopes that are social, political, personal, or something else entirely.
Addenda:
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These don’t have to be big picture things — they can be tiny or insubstantial hopes as well.
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Sharing hope can be hard because it can feel like you’re being dismissive of struggle, but remember that struggle is often possible to endure only because of hope. Posting hope is a way of helping others, not disregarding them.
Event Guidelines
Everyone is welcome to participate. This includes allies! You do not need to identify as LGBT in order to join in the topics.
I will use "queer" and "LGBT" interchangeably as umbrella terms to refer to all minority sexualities and gender identities. These are intended to be explicitly inclusive.
Be kind; be gracious; listen to others; love lots.
Schedule
I won't reveal everything upfront, but with each post I will give a teaser for what's next:
June 1st: Introductions and Playlist
June 4th: Who is a historical LGBT advocate that you admire?
June 7th: What positive changes have you seen in your lifetime?
June 10th: What's something you wish more people understood?
June 13th: Ask almost anything
June 16th: What media representation resonated with you personally?
June 19th: How are things with your family?
June 22nd: What are you worried about?
June 25th: What are you hopeful about?
June 28th: (teaser: ending on a good note)
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US President Joe Biden pardoning LGBTQ+ service members convicted for sexual orientation
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Idaho Pride celebration goes on despite protests
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How do you feel about it/its pronouns?
Is it just another set of pronouns to you? Does it trigger you, or bother you in any way? Do you use it/its (or know someone who does), and if so how have people responded? I can see arguments for...
Is it just another set of pronouns to you? Does it trigger you, or bother you in any way? Do you use it/its (or know someone who does), and if so how have people responded?
I can see arguments for all sides of this, but haven't seen much discussion about it. So, what are your thoughts?
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Pride Month at Tildes: #8 - What are you worried about?
What are you worried about? We started Pride month looking back, then we learned a bit more about others, then we reflected more on ourselves. I want to finish the month off by looking forward....
What are you worried about?
We started Pride month looking back, then we learned a bit more about others, then we reflected more on ourselves. I want to finish the month off by looking forward. The next two topics will ask about the future. This one asks about worries; the next one asks about hope.
Looking forward, what are you worried about? What concerns you most?
You can share worries that are social, political, personal, or something else entirely.
Addenda:
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Similar to last week: this is a safe space to talk about difficulties if you need to.
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Remember that unsolicited advice can come across as dismissive. It’s better to affirm and commiserate than trying to solve the problem (unless they specifically ask for help).
Event Guidelines
Everyone is welcome to participate. This includes allies! You do not need to identify as LGBT in order to join in the topics.
I will use "queer" and "LGBT" interchangeably as umbrella terms to refer to all minority sexualities and gender identities. These are intended to be explicitly inclusive.
Be kind; be gracious; listen to others; love lots.
Schedule
I won't reveal everything upfront, but with each post I will give a teaser for what's next:
June 1st: Introductions and Playlist
June 4th: Who is a historical LGBT advocate that you admire?
June 7th: What positive changes have you seen in your lifetime?
June 10th: What's something you wish more people understood?
June 13th: Ask almost anything
June 16th: What media representation resonated with you personally?
June 19th: How are things with your family?
June 22nd: What are you worried about?
June 25th: (teaser: looking ahead, with optimism)
June 28th:
If for whatever reason you would not like to see these topics in your feed, add
pride month at tildes
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US military must face lawsuit over discharge of LGBTQ veterans
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Pride Month at Tildes: #7 - How are things with your family?
How are things with your family? Share your current situation with your family, biological or chosen. I debated whether or not to put this in the Pride Month topic rotation, because I know it can...
How are things with your family?
Share your current situation with your family, biological or chosen.
I debated whether or not to put this in the Pride Month topic rotation, because I know it can be a difficult topic for some and isn’t necessarily something with a celebratory/advocacy spirit.
I ended up deciding to include it though because I think space to process is also important. Hopefully people find value in it.
Addenda:
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This is a safe space to talk about difficulties if you need to.
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Sharing successes/positives is absolutely valuable too and can give hope to others.
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If someone shares hardship or sorrow, remember that unsolicited advice can come across as dismissive. It’s better to affirm and commiserate rather than trying to solve the problem (unless they specifically ask for help).
Event Guidelines
Everyone is welcome to participate. This includes allies! You do not need to identify as LGBT in order to join in the topics.
I will use "queer" and "LGBT" interchangeably as umbrella terms to refer to all minority sexualities and gender identities. These are intended to be explicitly inclusive.
Be kind; be gracious; listen to others; love lots.
Schedule
I won't reveal everything upfront, but with each post I will give a teaser for what's next:
June 1st: Introductions and Playlist
June 4th: Who is a historical LGBT advocate that you admire?
June 7th: What positive changes have you seen in your lifetime?
June 10th: What's something you wish more people understood?
June 13th: Ask almost anything
June 16th: What media representation resonated with you personally?
June 19th: How are things with your family?
June 22nd: (teaser: looking ahead, with concern)
June 25th:
June 28th:
If for whatever reason you would not like to see these topics in your feed, add
pride month at tildes
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Milwaukee’s oldest gay bar donates thousands of photos to Wisconsin LGBTQ History Project
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Thailand to become first Southeast Asian nation to legalize same-sex marriage
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Pride Month at Tildes: #6 - What media representation resonated with you personally?
What media representation resonated with you personally? In teaching, we talk about kids’ need to access diverse literature in the framing of “mirrors” and “windows”. A mirror is a character that...
What media representation resonated with you personally?
In teaching, we talk about kids’ need to access diverse literature in the framing of “mirrors” and “windows”. A mirror is a character that the child can see themselves in; a window is a character that is different and requires perspective-taking.
A gay child seeing a gay character in a story might see that character as a mirror of themselves, while straight readers might see the character as a window instead, offering some perspective into what it’s like to be gay.
No mirror or window is a perfect match, of course, and people can still identify with characters who don’t exactly align with their identities (which is what makes fiction such a powerful tool for empathy!).
Share some of the characters and people that have resonated with you (whether as windows or mirrors) across any media types (books, movies, television, music, comics, anime, podcasts, etc.).
They can be people who helped you understand yourself better, or people who gave you insight into others' experiences (or both!).
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They do not need to be fictional characters. Real-world people can be windows and mirrors too!
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You don’t have to specify whether someone’s a "window" or a "mirror" for you unless you want to. It’s a simple shorthand way of helping kids understand the concept, but it can feel a little limiting and boxy for adults to use it, since people and characters are complex individuals.
Event Guidelines
Everyone is welcome to participate. This includes allies! You do not need to identify as LGBT in order to join in the topics.
I will use "queer" and "LGBT" interchangeably as umbrella terms to refer to all minority sexualities and gender identities. These are intended to be explicitly inclusive.
Be kind; be gracious; listen to others; love lots.
Schedule
I won't reveal everything upfront, but with each post I will give a teaser for what's next:
June 1st: Introductions and Playlist
June 4th: Who is a historical LGBT advocate that you admire?
June 7th: What positive changes have you seen in your lifetime?
June 10th: What's something you wish more people understood?
June 13th: Ask almost anything
June 16th: What media representation resonated with you personally?
June 19th: (teaser: a check-in on those close, or maybe not so close, to us)
June 22nd:
June 25th:
June 28th:
If for whatever reason you would not like to see these topics in your feed, add
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Once considered a ‘hate state,’ Colorado is now a safe harbor for trans people
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Seattle's LGBTQ-inclusive Pull-a-Palooza Pride Deadlift Party continues on, despite trolls
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