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    Algernon_Asimov
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    Of course it's possible to mourn someone you didn't even know - you did it, didn't you? Ergo, it is possible. QED! Mourning isn't restricted to people you know. It's about loss of any kind. You...

    Of course it's possible to mourn someone you didn't even know - you did it, didn't you? Ergo, it is possible. QED!

    Mourning isn't restricted to people you know. It's about loss of any kind. You lost a role model. That might not be as important as losing a family member, but it's still a loss. And you're allowed to mourn him.

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    1. Brock_Knifemann
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      So very true, at least for me. I've been feeling really, really sad about climate change. I've come to recognize that I'm mourning the environment as I knew it.

      Mourning isn't restricted to people you know. It's about loss of any kind.

      So very true, at least for me. I've been feeling really, really sad about climate change. I've come to recognize that I'm mourning the environment as I knew it.

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  2. mftrhu
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    Yes and no? I mourned when Terry Pratchett died, but I can't say I mourned for him as much as the world he created and the stories he wrote. That is, I wasn't mourning Terry-the-person, who I...

    Yes and no?

    I mourned when Terry Pratchett died, but I can't say I mourned for him as much as the world he created and the stories he wrote. That is, I wasn't mourning Terry-the-person, who I never interacted with and who I could not possibly know, as much as Terry-the-creator and Terry,-the-one-who-wrote-the-books-that-kept-me-company-when-I-was-at-my-lowest-point.

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  3. euphoria066
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    About 10 years ago now, I broke up with a boyfriend who I had been with for about 5 years. We lived together, and we were both in the age where you're finishing college and deciding what you're...

    About 10 years ago now, I broke up with a boyfriend who I had been with for about 5 years. We lived together, and we were both in the age where you're finishing college and deciding what you're going to do with your life. We were planning to get married, have kids, move back to our hometown, buy a house, get a dog, etc etc. We had picked out names for our kids and schools and all the things you do when you're imagining things.

    When we broke up, I mourned the end of our relationship, but I also spent just a lot of time mourning the loss of these imaginary kids who never existed and never will exist. So, that's pretty weird, but you can mourn anything that is a loss, and you should, because it's healthy!

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  4. Stagen
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    I definitely do. I've gone through mourning for each and every great performer and public figure that I idolise in one way or another. People like Robin Williams, Stephen Hawking and even Linking...

    I definitely do. I've gone through mourning for each and every great performer and public figure that I idolise in one way or another. People like Robin Williams, Stephen Hawking and even Linking Park's Chester Bennington have all had monumental impact on thousands of peoples lives. They deserve our respect and our mourning in their passing.

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  5. JakeTheDog
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    Oh yes for sure, I still to this day mourn the loss of my great heros like Carl Sagan, Alexander Shulgin and so on. I don't know if it's for them as a person, maybe at least partially because...

    Oh yes for sure, I still to this day mourn the loss of my great heros like Carl Sagan, Alexander Shulgin and so on. I don't know if it's for them as a person, maybe at least partially because these people also seemed like beautiful humans, but definitely for their absence of existence.

    On the flip side, my grandmother died last summer. I live on a different continent and have only spent about 8 months of my entire life with her, mainly before the age of 14 (I'm in my late 20's now), so I didn't really know who she was and to be honest, I felt nothing when she died, beyond what I felt for my mother who lost her mother.

    Mourning is context-dependent but always valid.

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  6. NeonHippy
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    My brother often mourns celebrities he admires. Prince was his absolute favorite, and it took more than a year before he could really enjoy the artist's music again. The deaths of people I don't...

    My brother often mourns celebrities he admires. Prince was his absolute favorite, and it took more than a year before he could really enjoy the artist's music again.

    The deaths of people I don't know simply don't touch me in the same way. I'm sorry that they're dead, but we have all got to travel that road eventually.

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