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Misophonia: When Life's Noises Drive You Mad

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  1. eve (edited ) Link
    Thank you for posting this, I was just about to myself but wanted to see if anyone else had. God I've had an anger towards so many noises since I was pretty young, like maybe around 8 or 10? I'm...

    Thank you for posting this, I was just about to myself but wanted to see if anyone else had. God I've had an anger towards so many noises since I was pretty young, like maybe around 8 or 10? I'm 25 now and still have adverse reactions towards many noises that a lot of people don't mind or don't notice. I have the usual eating triggers but some are worse than others. My cubicle mate usually eats a banana or an apple everyday and dear God I feel like I am going to die. I scramble for my earbuds and lightly drown the sound out. There's also just a lot of office noises that are triggers for me. There's a guy who does some sort of hideous throat clearing and it sends disgusted chills down my back I'm so revolted. Plus everyone else who is sniffling around.

    I had to deal A LOT with gum snappers on public transportation, or people freely sharing their awfully loud music despite having headphones. There's just been so much of my life that I've hated so many noises and sometimes when I think about it, it's exhausting. But seeing NPR make an article about it made me want to cry from relief. It's slowly gaining more steam and maybe at some point I'll be able to get some sort of treatment or diagnosis or literally anything.

    I don't like talking to people about it because it makes me feel crazy. No one I know gets mad over noises. If it's like children screaming for half an hour, then sure. But no one else talks about how they hate the sounds of breathing and eating. And I've snapped at siblings when I was younger because it annoyed me so much. I've told my SO but he was very skeptical about me having it, especially since research about it in general is pretty much in its infancy. Like no one really understands just how strong the feelings are. They run deep and hurt and while now that I'm older and I've learned how to control some of my reactions better, the base reaction of fear and anger are still there and spikes my stress.

    Sorry this was kind of long and a little bit of a ramble but misophonia HAS negatively impacted my life! It adds stress when I don't need any more than what I have. It's such a pain and I try my best to deal with it. But most of all I want to show people that I'm not just "crazy" or imagining things or just overreacting. It's my innate reaction.

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    Papaya Link
    I also suffer from misophonia. I can't eat with my family at the dinner table because the sound of their chewing makes me incredibly angry. However, it's less intense with people I don't know. I...

    I also suffer from misophonia. I can't eat with my family at the dinner table because the sound of their chewing makes me incredibly angry. However, it's less intense with people I don't know.
    I tried to show them the study mentioned in the article but all they suggest is for me to control my anger and still eat with them.
    If I hear anyone eat an apple I go crazy. I usually try to put my earbuds on if I can or leave the room.

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    1. Version_3 Link Parent
      I feel that I also suffer from it, though my eating trigger seems to be a little different from yours. If I am not eating, then the sound of others eating causes anger. If I am eating with them,...

      I feel that I also suffer from it, though my eating trigger seems to be a little different from yours. If I am not eating, then the sound of others eating causes anger. If I am eating with them, then no anger.

      At work, a person playing with a marker cap or a noisy fidget toy will cause me anger. When I asked my neighbor to please stop while offering up one of my 'quiet' fidget toys, while they understood and have stopped, others around immediately dismissed it: "Oh, it doesn't bother me" or "I didn't even notice".

      I do have headphones for relief, but I don't feel that I should have to wear them the entire workday.

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    2. ghostsplosion Link Parent
      Gah! My old boss used to eat a banana every single morning. Mouth open while he did so. The sound of his lips smacking made me want to throw up. Sometimes I even had to leave the room and go and...

      Gah! My old boss used to eat a banana every single morning. Mouth open while he did so. The sound of his lips smacking made me want to throw up. Sometimes I even had to leave the room and go and make a coffee while he ate. Genuinely one of the things I hate the most is people who make noises when they eat.

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    elliecoral Link
    I suffer from this. Chewing sounds, snoring, even crinkling sounds in the movie theater... Earplugs have become my best friends, but I'm trying to find ways to cope with the sounds that trigger...

    I suffer from this. Chewing sounds, snoring, even crinkling sounds in the movie theater... Earplugs have become my best friends, but I'm trying to find ways to cope with the sounds that trigger me. (I also suffer from tinnitus, so earplugs can be my worst enemies.)

    Some of my biggest triggers have me flinching. I also get an odd sensation in my head, like my brain wants to register physical pain, but it can't determine the culprit, so it wants to "suggest" that I could be in pain. I don't know how else to describe it.

    I remember one of the Big Name Newspapers (maybe WaPo?) publishing an article about misophonia on their website. As it loaded, at the very top of the page, there was a video of a man loudly eating popcorn. It. Played. Instantly. With sound.

    All I could think was "You motherfuckers." (Sorry for the language, but that was my real reaction.)

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      underused Link Parent
      Heh, that's pretty underhanded. ☺ I have this too--and have had my whole life. It's especially difficult listening to people chew. When I was younger I honestly thought people were doing it on...

      Heh, that's pretty underhanded. ☺
      I have this too--and have had my whole life. It's especially difficult listening to people chew. When I was younger I honestly thought people were doing it on purpose and I didn't understand why they didn't try to chew more quietly. It made me furious, but if I said anything, my family would be disgusted at my being so "over dramatic." Then a couple of years ago my sister sent me a link referring to the 2017 study; she was all "this is you!" It was nice to know I wasn't the only one. I can usually mitigate my reactions with a bit of background sound. Every once in a while, though, I'll find myself sitting in an otherwise-quiet kitchen and my partner will pour a bowl of cereal... YEEPS.

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      1. elliecoral Link Parent
        Oh, lord, I can't tolerate listening to my husband chew. I have to wear earplugs. The downside to all this is now I've become sensitive to the sound of my own chewing. I'm going to attempt self...

        Oh, lord, I can't tolerate listening to my husband chew. I have to wear earplugs. The downside to all this is now I've become sensitive to the sound of my own chewing.

        I'm going to attempt self hypnosis. It helped me get over chronic coughing, maybe it can help me ignore the sounds that set me off.

  4. zaarn Link
    My sister suffers from this; she cannot bear the sound of someone breathing. She can get a bit aggressive if she does hear it. Essentially it means whenever the family comes together, we ensure...

    My sister suffers from this; she cannot bear the sound of someone breathing. She can get a bit aggressive if she does hear it.

    Essentially it means whenever the family comes together, we ensure sufficient background noise. It's probably less bad than what other people suffer from though.

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  5. boredop Link
    Lately the sounds of typing and mouse clicks have been driving me bonkers. I recently moved to a new area of my office which is much quieter than where I was previously. Now there's nothing to...

    Lately the sounds of typing and mouse clicks have been driving me bonkers. I recently moved to a new area of my office which is much quieter than where I was previously. Now there's nothing to drown out the keyboard clacking and mouse clicks all around me and it's making me crazy.

    And yes, the chewing thing also. Sometimes I'll put on some music while my gf and I eat dinner just to give my brain some other sounds to concentrate on.