The same way you always have. There will be fewer women who want what you want, but being honest about your intentions is as valuable as it always has been. It's true that many women have children...
The same way you always have. There will be fewer women who want what you want, but being honest about your intentions is as valuable as it always has been. It's true that many women have children and are looking for a life partner, but before it was basically that way and they just didn't have the kids to show for it.
Don't change yourself just to find more partners, but do recognize that as life goes on what you have to offer might be less interesting to some people. On the other hand, for the women who definitely don't want that grand experiment you are quite the catch. I know that those women are still out there, and being up front with what you want is definitely the way to find them.
Edit: Also, don't automatically disregard women because they have children. They might want a life partner, but they also might really enjoy having a less serious and committed part of their lives. A night out every week or so with a passionate friend where they can set aside their normal life could be very appealing to some people.
These days? Online. I've personally had luck with OkCupid for the kind of relationship you've described yourself as wanting. You haven't mentioned whether you're kinky, but if you are and there is...
These days? Online. I've personally had luck with OkCupid for the kind of relationship you've described yourself as wanting. You haven't mentioned whether you're kinky, but if you are and there is a local scene that's also a good place to meet people, primarily because it's an arena where people are open about their relationship and sexual priorities.
Yeah, I recommend it as much for the aspects of open communication as anything else. It's hard to find people who want what you want in a relationship if you don't discuss it until you're already...
Yeah, I recommend it as much for the aspects of open communication as anything else. It's hard to find people who want what you want in a relationship if you don't discuss it until you're already getting close to something serious. This is shared with online dating, but interacting in person is a lot nicer, really.
Your best bet is going to be child free dating sites or meet up groups. Anyone subbed there will automatically tick one of your mandatory boxes and likely believe in the more personal freedom of...
Your best bet is going to be child free dating sites or meet up groups. Anyone subbed there will automatically tick one of your mandatory boxes and likely believe in the more personal freedom of not being married.
I wish I could answer this, I have been with my wife since I was 20, I'm coming up on 41. If for some reason I was in the position where I was wanting to date, well shit, I think I'd have no idea.
I wish I could answer this, I have been with my wife since I was 20, I'm coming up on 41. If for some reason I was in the position where I was wanting to date, well shit, I think I'd have no idea.
I think becoming a "father figure" is not something you can avoid if you are dating a single mom. Would it help if you'd think about it as being a "positive male role model" instead?
I think becoming a "father figure" is not something you can avoid if you are dating a single mom. Would it help if you'd think about it as being a "positive male role model" instead?
I know many women in your age range who ended up with a life partner sans the kids. All but one ended up married. You are seriously limiting your dating pool by rejecting marriage out of hand. I'm...
I know many women in your age range who ended up with a life partner sans the kids. All but one ended up married.
You are seriously limiting your dating pool by rejecting marriage out of hand.
I'm not a big fan of marriage, but it's something I was flexible on.
What, in particular, do you object to with marriage?
The same way you always have. There will be fewer women who want what you want, but being honest about your intentions is as valuable as it always has been. It's true that many women have children and are looking for a life partner, but before it was basically that way and they just didn't have the kids to show for it.
Don't change yourself just to find more partners, but do recognize that as life goes on what you have to offer might be less interesting to some people. On the other hand, for the women who definitely don't want that grand experiment you are quite the catch. I know that those women are still out there, and being up front with what you want is definitely the way to find them.
Edit: Also, don't automatically disregard women because they have children. They might want a life partner, but they also might really enjoy having a less serious and committed part of their lives. A night out every week or so with a passionate friend where they can set aside their normal life could be very appealing to some people.
These days? Online. I've personally had luck with OkCupid for the kind of relationship you've described yourself as wanting. You haven't mentioned whether you're kinky, but if you are and there is a local scene that's also a good place to meet people, primarily because it's an arena where people are open about their relationship and sexual priorities.
Yeah, I recommend it as much for the aspects of open communication as anything else. It's hard to find people who want what you want in a relationship if you don't discuss it until you're already getting close to something serious. This is shared with online dating, but interacting in person is a lot nicer, really.
Your best bet is going to be child free dating sites or meet up groups. Anyone subbed there will automatically tick one of your mandatory boxes and likely believe in the more personal freedom of not being married.
I wish I could answer this, I have been with my wife since I was 20, I'm coming up on 41. If for some reason I was in the position where I was wanting to date, well shit, I think I'd have no idea.
You want both a marriage free and a child free relationship?
I think becoming a "father figure" is not something you can avoid if you are dating a single mom. Would it help if you'd think about it as being a "positive male role model" instead?
How do you feel about commitment to a life partner outside the holy bounds of matrimony?
I know many women in your age range who ended up with a life partner sans the kids. All but one ended up married.
You are seriously limiting your dating pool by rejecting marriage out of hand.
I'm not a big fan of marriage, but it's something I was flexible on.
What, in particular, do you object to with marriage?