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21 votes
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Is it time for asleep divorce?
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Do you know who your ‘friends’ are?: Making digital conversations humane will require defining our online relationships
5 votes -
More people need to talk about having fewer children
29 votes -
The Crane Wife - Ten days after calling off her engagement, CJ Hauser travels to the Gulf Coast to live among scientists and whooping cranes
10 votes -
Breaking up is harder to do in Denmark after divorce law changes
10 votes -
People tell us how QAnon destroyed their relationships
26 votes -
The day the fire came: A tale of love and loss on the Panhandle plains
4 votes -
When the racist is someone you know and love…
12 votes -
Where disease stopped and my brother began: Coming to terms with a sibling's suicide
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Torn apart by the Syrian war, these siblings struggle to stay connected across 6 different countries
6 votes -
Why I found my community in a Starbucks
6 votes -
Five Kinds of Relationship Problems
7 votes -
When you give a friend a kidney
5 votes -
The world of online dating for socialists
9 votes -
Many people having affairs consider themselves to be ‘happily’ married
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'They have become the new religion': Esther Perel says we expect too much from relationships
11 votes -
The boring intimacy of the all-day group chat
8 votes -
Men have no friends and women bear the burden
27 votes -
Do police know how to handle abuse within kinky relationships?
16 votes -
Listening to my neighbors fight
8 votes -
Why you need a network of low-stakes, casual friendships
8 votes -
Nugrybauti
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Nugrybauti
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Life and death in West Virginia
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Near, far, wherever you are - How “people you may know” has made the stranger much stranger
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How to Deliver Constructive Feedback in Difficult Situations
6 votes -
This is what the life of an incel looks like
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My life at 47 is back to what it was like at 27 - Post-divorce, I’ve returned to my old ways
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How to handle difficult conversations at Thanksgiving
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Stuck In A Ditch In The Middle Of A Desert In A Country I Don't Know The Name Of
I'm sitting here, not being able to sleep and watching every single John Mayer music video ever made, finding myself a little stuck. I've got good friends, I've got a free environment to do...
I'm sitting here, not being able to sleep and watching every single John Mayer music video ever made, finding myself a little stuck.
I've got good friends, I've got a free environment to do whatever I want to do, and I've got enough stuff around me to keep me alive. Somehow, this isn't what I hoped for.
Ever since I was a kid, I always dreamed of this moment. I'm on my own. I've got my axe, and I'm ready for battle, but, I can't swing this thing, man. I don't have enough motivation, something I've been struggling with since I was born. I'm a chronic procrastinator, even when it's about something I actually want to. I want to sit down, write music, and make people smile. I want to do all these things, but I can't find enough willpower to do it. Maybe it's just my current emotional state holding me back. I miss the connection I used to have with someone that put me at my absolute peak in life.
It's so unbelievably unfair to me that someone that seemed to help me so much and bring me up can just walk out on me like that with no explanation. She made me a better person when she was around, and a worse person when she's not. I don't understand why I still think about it every single day. I guess this is more of a rant / self help post, but I do pose one question:
How do I get rid of the constant thought of someone? She's connected to everything I do in life and I really gotta fucking stop. Is there something I'm missing when it comes to getting over someone? Do I chase her? I've tried before, but it ended worse the second time around.
Anyone have similar experiences? I'm sure there are some sad wrecks out there tonight. Come and share your story about the best person you've ever met that you'll never meet again.
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When Asian women are harassed for marrying non-Asian men
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Blind people tell us how they experience sexual attraction
8 votes -
When a DNA test reveals your daughter is not your biological child
11 votes -
Polyamory, unicorns, demisexuality: Five takes on monogamy and its alternatives
7 votes -
Today is my wife’s first birthday since she died
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There is such a thing as ethical non-monogamy
25 votes -
Safe House: A group of Latina women across the country have been working in secret, turning their homes into shelters for abused immigrant women
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Natasha Aponte, woman who tricked thousands of men on Tinder, explains purpose behind dating competition
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What do you appreciate about your partner(s)?
In all of the recent talk about incels, gender differentials in home tasks, and domestic violence, there's been little discussion about what makes a good relationship - sexual, psychological,...
In all of the recent talk about incels, gender differentials in home tasks, and domestic violence, there's been little discussion about what makes a good relationship - sexual, psychological, experiential or other compatibilities. There's a great deal of "Psychology Today" material on what makes for successful relationships, but it seems facile and the product of research on young WEIRD participants.
So, dear Tilders, if you have or have had a partner(s) you've been genuinely happy and satisfied with, and felt like your relationship was healthy, please discuss what made you so...
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How to allow another person to sink their claws into your heart?
I've gone through heart break a lot and I just recently met someone that I really like. We haven't even been hanging out for 2 weeks and we both really feel strongly about each other already....
I've gone through heart break a lot and I just recently met someone that I really like. We haven't even been hanging out for 2 weeks and we both really feel strongly about each other already. Honestly it's pretty scary becoming this vulnerable to another person. My last gf I didn't feel this way with like when it was over I was like meh but this gf is like... I don't know if I want it to end. Not for now at least.
Sorry I'm just sorta typing my thoughts out etc etc if anyone has any input feel free to comment.
I'll be moving out of state in Nov so the longest it will probably last is until then because I'm not sure if I want to do long distance. Like, I just had a buddy come home to a gf that was sleeping with another dude IN THIER HOUSE soooo I just don't want anything like that to happen to me but I also know when it comes to leave I might not be willing to break it off. Plus, I think she already wants to last longer than November but she hasn't explicitly said so.
Idk life and stuff and bullshit and yea... anyone out there feel me?
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First legal humanist marriages in Northern Ireland since Court ruling to occur this weekend
Summary The Belfast Court of Appeal ruled two months ago that weddings in Northern Ireland performed by Humanist celebrants must be deemed legal. These weddings are now starting to be performed....
Summary
The Belfast Court of Appeal ruled two months ago that weddings in Northern Ireland performed by Humanist celebrants must be deemed legal. These weddings are now starting to be performed.
The article contains comments by various people, including two couples about to be married. It also has some background about legality of Humanist wedding ceremonies in other parts of Great Britain.
Extract
In June, the Belfast Court of Appeal ruled that humanist marriages must be legally recognised in Northern Ireland. This weekend, the first two legal marriages to follow that ruling will occur.
Link
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If you’re wondering why you’ve lost friends in adulthood, this is probably why
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Toxic masculinity: Helping men understand the impact of their behaviour
45 votes -
How the internet has changed dating
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Couples with big income gaps talk about their money problems
6 votes -
The Indian-Australian millennials who are choosing arranged marriage
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Not your asian sidekick (online dating, emasculation and more)
10 votes -
When couple took wife's surname it was 'not a big deal' and yet the practice remains an oddity
16 votes -
The divorce surge is over, but the myth lives on
23 votes