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What negative trait or quality in a person do you find attractive?
Something that I believe others would find to be a negative trait or personality is a person with a sense of dark and morbid humour. I tend to use dark humour a lot more than I should and sometimes have to be pretty careful around who I say it. Having friends who can take in jest with the things I say without any repercussions is great, otherwise they wouldn't last that long as friends!
What do you consider a negative trait, quality, factor, and that you find attractive?
I love women with "bitchy resting face". Their refusal to walk around with a fake smile or the smile on command shows a refreshing lack of servility.
I like women who are "pushy". Knowing what you want and being clear and up front about it is super, super attractive to me in all spheres of life.
I guess this is kind of cheating because I don't consider it negative though others might. As such, a bonus:
Having had low self esteem for much of my life, sexual desperation/obsession with me is really attractive, even as I know that it's not necessarily healthy for my partner to be in those patterns or for me to be encouraging them. I'm fortunate to be in a long term stable relationship with someone who loves me and works well with me and isn't obsessed or intensely focused on me... because my 20s was a series of terrible, terrible relationships.
Dark humor and cynicism, definitely. I like 'em like coffee, acerbic and bitter. Not so much because I'm worried about causing offense, but rather it's good to be around someone with a compatibly realistic worldview leavened just enough to keep going in spite of it all.