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  1. Gaywallet
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    If you manage to find a hookup app where the usual experience is greater than 4/10 you let me know because damn I could use that in my life right now... I wouldn't overthink a single purely sexual...

    If you manage to find a hookup app where the usual experience is greater than 4/10 you let me know because damn I could use that in my life right now...

    I wouldn't overthink a single purely sexual experience with a stranger.

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    joplin
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    I don't know. As an open-minded straight guy, to me the fact that you went to the trouble to download an app, find someone on it, meet with them, and then actually had sex with them is a good...

    I don't know. As an open-minded straight guy, to me the fact that you went to the trouble to download an app, find someone on it, meet with them, and then actually had sex with them is a good indication that you probably do lean more in that direction than strictly straight guys. Don't let one experience ruin it for you. Also, maybe you like guys but want something different from either a relationship or an experience with them than you do with women? Either way, it's great that you're willing to try new things!

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    1. cfabbro
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      The topic was deleted before I had a chance to finish my reply, but I was just about to say that as a pan/bisexual person myself, I can definitely relate to what you have said, joplin... though I...

      The topic was deleted before I had a chance to finish my reply, but I was just about to say that as a pan/bisexual person myself, I can definitely relate to what you have said, joplin... though I find myself in the opposite situation. I tend to enjoy "hooking up" with gay/bi men (no muss, no fuss, let's just get it on!) a hell of a lot more than with straight/bi women (it's so much work!), but historically I have felt myself struggling to maintain long-term relationships with the men I have dated but not with the women. Me being partially closeted might have a lot to do with that though, sadly. :(

      If you ever see this OP, like the others have said, I also would suggest not worrying too much about a single bad experience. But if it turns out to be a pattern, then you might be right. Only you will be able to know for sure. Test the waters, but trust your own gut in the end, would be my recommendation.

      Edit: Oh, just thought of something worth mentioning for OP too. Not all gay/bi men enjoy butt stuff. Maybe mutual masturbation, bjs and handies are more your thing, or even just making out and spooning. Everyone has their own fancies and hangups. So don't be afraid to experiment to find yours, and set boundaries with your partners if something isn't enjoyable to you or makes you uncomfortable.

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