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Comment on Resident Evil Requiem | Reveal trailer in ~games
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Comment on Android phones will soon reboot themselves after sitting unused for three days in ~tech
ACEmat Link ParentI'm not sure what jurisdiction you're referencing. If it's the US, State of Utah v. Valdez determined that a person isn't required to give police the passcode to their phone under the 5th...I'm not sure what jurisdiction you're referencing.
If it's the US, State of Utah v. Valdez determined that a person isn't required to give police the passcode to their phone under the 5th amendment.
If there's a warrant, that's different.
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Comment on How do you navigate an imbalanced friendship? in ~life
ACEmat Link ParentThis is something I'm aware of with myself as well. It's why I don't engage with people casually online. I'll use LFG Discord servers, or engage in the public channels. I'll have a brief...I've learned that I am more intense and more serious about relationships than the majority of people.
This is something I'm aware of with myself as well. It's why I don't engage with people casually online. I'll use LFG Discord servers, or engage in the public channels. I'll have a brief conversation in DMs, but that's about it, and it's usually about something specifically. Because people are so fleeting is the reason I never entertain people, and in many cases, will just straight up ignore message requests.
My two IRL friends, on the other hand, I have known since middle school, and the three of us are literally tight as brothers. Two of us just spent all of Wednesday helping the third move back to his mom's house after he got an eviction notice and didn't tell us until the last minute out of embarrassment. I paid for the moving truck and the second friend's daily wages so he could afford to call off work for it. Once I have deemed someone a friend, they are stuck with me.
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How do you navigate an imbalanced friendship?
I want to give some context before I get to the meat and potatoes. I (M28) have IRL friends that I communicate and spend time with regularly. However, I do not engage in conversations with them...
I want to give some context before I get to the meat and potatoes. I (M28) have IRL friends that I communicate and spend time with regularly. However, I do not engage in conversations with them daily. I'm not a texter, or a phone call person. If one of them has a question, or wants to share a meme, I'll respond, but I don't have digital conversations that stretch for hours. I prefer in person communication, and in person I don't shut the fuck up.
Additionally, I do not have any 'Online' friends. All of my friendships are with people I know in real life. I have talked with others on Discord, but again, I don't engage in casual chatter. I'll respond when prompted, but that's about it.
Now that that's out of the way, both of these things kind of got turned on their head in the beginning of November, when I met Alice (F28) through a Roleplaying Discord server. We had kind of eyed each other for a Roleplay session, and it went well. What I wasn't really prepared for, was her poking me in DMs afterwards just to chat. Not really my thing, buuuut, long story short we have now talked every day since then. We wish each other a good morning and good night. Sometimes we talk all day, sometimes we just get a few messages if we're busy. She's the first new friend I've made since high school, and that is a title I don't use lightly. The fact is, I just have zero interest in interacting freely with most people. Typically they end up annoying me in some way.
I'm not shy at all, not particularly introverted, I just really don't like talking to people.
And yet, somehow, I find myself trying to talk to Alice all day. I feel myself growing antsy when I go just a few hours without talking to her. Here's where the imbalance part comes from: Alice isn't like me. She has a group of people she talks with regularly, I'm just one of them. Whereas she is the only person I talk to daily. I completely acknowledge that this is 100% a me problem; I don't want this to come across as me being jealous of her friends. She struggles to balance time between her girlfriend, me, and her other friends, and most of the time I just feel kind of bad for her, like I'm a dog begging for table scraps, and she's trying to appease everybody.
On the other hand, I can also pretty confidently look at our older conversations, and note that we don't talk as much as we used to. Our conversations used to be long and while we still sometimes have longer chats, it's really only when I get her on a tangent involving a particular interest of hers. I don't want to dig too deep into why that is, it could be the 'met someone new' energy has worn off and I'm just not as much of a priority anymore, maybe I became annoying at some point and remain blissfully unaware of it, I dunno.
My question is, how do you handle wanting to spend more time with someone who just cannot spend that time with you?
TL;DR: Made a new friend online, and she doesn't have nearly as much time for me as I have for her.
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Comment on Target suffers eighth week of foot-traffic losses since caving on its Diversity, Equity and Inclusion policy in ~society
ACEmat Link ParentWithout any sources, I'm gonna wager that Wal-Mart and Target shoppers are different demographics.Without any sources, I'm gonna wager that Wal-Mart and Target shoppers are different demographics.
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Comment on Assassins Creed Shadows and stealth in ~games
ACEmat Link ParentI should probably add that I have literally only played AC1 and like 6 hours of Unity. I have no clue.I should probably add that I have literally only played AC1 and like 6 hours of Unity. I have no clue.
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Comment on Assassins Creed Shadows and stealth in ~games
ACEmat LinkI've put about 20 hours into the game so far, and although the combat does play out as you see, you can absolutely play Naoe to the criteria you provided. There's even a setting for one hit...I've put about 20 hours into the game so far, and although the combat does play out as you see, you can absolutely play Naoe to the criteria you provided. There's even a setting for one hit assassinations, like the original games, so your hidden blade bypasses the RPG mechanics.
One caveat to that is that the game isn't really made with that in mind, and a large part of the skill tree is dedicated to increasing your abilities to assassinate stronger enemies.
But I've been having fun keeping the assassinations as intended, and playing on Expert difficulty, both for combat and stealth. It's given me big 'sneaky sneaky ninja' energy. Hell, Naoe goes down in like 3 hits for me, so if I don't play stealthy, it usually ends in a reload for me. xD
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Comment on Danish deposit system: 93% of bottles and cans are returned and of those, 99.7% recycled (translation in comment) in ~enviro
ACEmat Link ParentInteresting, I was completely ready to dispute $.10 not being an incentive, as the last time I had checked, Michigan had a 99% return rate. Didn't want to be confidently incorrect, so I double...Interesting, I was completely ready to dispute $.10 not being an incentive, as the last time I had checked, Michigan had a 99% return rate.
Didn't want to be confidently incorrect, so I double checked, and I was right...Five years ago and before then. 2019 / 2020, return rates plummeted to like 75-80%.
As somebody who was working retail at the time, I know COVID messed the whole system up. We wouldn't even accept returns for months, as given the circumstances they were basically biohazards (they always were, honestly). Our distributors weren't even picking them up. Lotta people got into the habit of either throwing them away, or hoarding them and then throwing them away when everything lasted longer than they thought.
Guess I didn't realize that a lot of people must not have gone back to returning them, and just continued throwing them away.
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Comment on Inheriting is becoming nearly as important as working in ~finance
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Comment on Inheriting is becoming nearly as important as working in ~finance
ACEmat Link ParentYou need to provide a more substantive alternative than "morally consistent virtues" in lieu of a house. Especially considering many millennials and gen z are basically forced to wait for their...You need to provide a more substantive alternative than "morally consistent virtues" in lieu of a house. Especially considering many millennials and gen z are basically forced to wait for their parents to die to have any hopes of owning one.
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Comment on At what age do you consider someone to be an adult? in ~talk
ACEmat LinkI don't know. I'm 28 and still identify as a kid.I don't know. I'm 28 and still identify as a kid.
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Comment on Family sues over adult son's fatal asthma attack after US insurance company removed medication from coverage in ~health
ACEmat LinkAt what point do you also start holding your own employer responsible for providing health insurance through the company with supposedly the highest denial rate in the industry?At what point do you also start holding your own employer responsible for providing health insurance through the company with supposedly the highest denial rate in the industry?
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Comment on Star Wars recommendations for a six year old in ~tv
ACEmat Link ParentIf you ever plan on showing your kid Clone Wars or Rebels, you'll want to show them the Phantom Menace.If you ever plan on showing your kid Clone Wars or Rebels, you'll want to show them the Phantom Menace.
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Comment on While a potential US acquisition of Greenland looks unlikely there are compelling reasons why this would be of benefit to the West's security in ~society
ACEmat Link ParentI understand that Tilderonis overall like to try and have nuanced discussions, but it makes me genuinely angry that not only has this article been posted here, which to me is giving it an atomic...I understand that Tilderonis overall like to try and have nuanced discussions, but it makes me genuinely angry that not only has this article been posted here, which to me is giving it an atomic level of authenticity it doesn't deserve (and a level of endorsement on some level), but that seemingly serious conversation is actually taking place regarding this absolutely insane proposition.
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Comment on What are some professions, crafts, competitions, or activities in which being older is considered advantageous? in ~talk
ACEmat LinkHVAC, because if you don't have gray hair, homeowners assume you have no idea what you're doing. Yet the guys with gray hair are also the least likely to adapt to new technologies and diagnostic...HVAC, because if you don't have gray hair, homeowners assume you have no idea what you're doing.
Yet the guys with gray hair are also the least likely to adapt to new technologies and diagnostic methods.
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Comment on US President Joe Biden administration grants California waiver to ban gas car sales in 2035 in ~transport
ACEmat (edited )Link Parent80% of their comment was exactly what you asked for, and yet you chose to not engage with any of it.80% of their comment was exactly what you asked for, and yet you chose to not engage with any of it.
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Comment on US President Joe Biden administration grants California waiver to ban gas car sales in 2035 in ~transport
ACEmat Link ParentOil executives everywhere are rejoicing that y'all were here to defend them from scroll_lock's painfully obvious hyperbole.Oil executives everywhere are rejoicing that y'all were here to defend them from scroll_lock's painfully obvious hyperbole.
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Comment on How a simple math error sparked a panic about black plastic kitchen utensils in ~health
ACEmat Link ParentThis has a weird Reddit vibe to it. Why is your first paragraph going after another user for just, not wanting to use plastic?This has a weird Reddit vibe to it. Why is your first paragraph going after another user for just, not wanting to use plastic?
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Comment on Is anyone planning to play Path of Exile 2? in ~games
ACEmat Link ParentI am, after implying above I had no interest in it. Been playing Monk, and was surprised at vets of PoE 1 in the subreddit having so many issues apparently with melee. I've been schmovin. Just...I am, after implying above I had no interest in it. Been playing Monk, and was surprised at vets of PoE 1 in the subreddit having so many issues apparently with melee. I've been schmovin. Just cleared the ritual area south of the Hunting Grounds, and I've maybe died 3 times the whole game so far.
From what I've gathered, based on their complaints, it seems like they're used to brain dead gameplay where everything just exploded when they touched it? Because again, I just haven't had issues. I feel...appropriately challenged is a good phrase.
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Comment on Is anyone planning to play Path of Exile 2? in ~games
ACEmat Link ParentI don't deny the appeal of what it can do, but when the game just presents it as is at level 2, and doesn't ease you into it whatsoever, it's definitely a "Quit" moment for myself and others. It's...I don't deny the appeal of what it can do, but when the game just presents it as is at level 2, and doesn't ease you into it whatsoever, it's definitely a "Quit" moment for myself and others. It's unnecessarily intimidating and the only thought in my mind is "How long is it going to take me to understand this"
As someone who had never touched an RE game until I met someone who forced them onto me, the RE2 remake slapped. I think it's my favorite of the ones I've played: 2, 3, & 4 remakes, 5, and 6.