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Comment on Expanding upon other peoples' thoughts in discussions in ~talk
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Comment on Expanding upon other peoples' thoughts in discussions in ~talk
MalibuJukebox (edited )Link ParentThank you for your response! For context on my specific scenario, we often hold virtual meetings with breakout groups to discuss questions, feedback, initiatives, etc. There's around 3-5 people...Thank you for your response! For context on my specific scenario, we often hold virtual meetings with breakout groups to discuss questions, feedback, initiatives, etc. There's around 3-5 people per group with no designated leader, just open-ended discussion that may or may not require cameras. So, it takes some breaking the ice to get things going, and that's where a lot of the awkwardness is found. But, I suppose I am also looking for a broader approach to these types of conversation.
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Comment on Expanding upon other peoples' thoughts in discussions in ~talk
MalibuJukebox Link ParentThank you. This aligns with my thought process, especially your final paragraph. My primary motivation is to keep the conversation flowing and assure the other participants that - at the very...Thank you. This aligns with my thought process, especially your final paragraph. My primary motivation is to keep the conversation flowing and assure the other participants that - at the very least - I'm listening to what they're saying with my responses. I also want to keep things lighthearted and less intense, as you put it, since these are generally open-ended discussions. However, I do veer too often into fluff just for the sake of it, and discussing this here has helped me recognize that.
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Comment on Expanding upon other peoples' thoughts in discussions in ~talk
MalibuJukebox Link ParentThank you for your response. This is very helpful.Thank you for your response. This is very helpful.
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Expanding upon other peoples' thoughts in discussions
Lately, I've noticed that during small group discussions in professional settings, especially in virtual meetings, I have a tendency to contribute additional thoughts after someone else shares...
Lately, I've noticed that during small group discussions in professional settings, especially in virtual meetings, I have a tendency to contribute additional thoughts after someone else shares something. My colleagues are often quiet which leads to awkward silences between topics, and I feel that for the discussion to flow smoothly, there needs to be some form of response or reciprocity to what was said. So, I often take on the role of expanding upon others' points, even if what I say doesn't add much. I should note that, I myself am an introvert through and through, but these awkward silences still make me uncomfortable and it's kind of annoying to see a mute icon pop up when it's supposed to be an active conversation. I suppose this is a habit that carried over from my days of hosting Bible studies many years ago, where active participation was hard to come by. People don't often share, but when they do, it helps to have someone acknowledge it - in my opinion, at least. I similarly engage like this in D&D where, in roleplaying scenarios, I'd use my character to fill in the empty spaces of conversation between other players and the DM, even if it's just a simple response that wasn't explicitly necessary.
My question is: do people, including yourself, appreciate it when someone responds or adds to their point in this manner? I struggle to discern whether I'm actually facilitating the conversation or hogging it in an annoying way. I'm open to feedback or hearing from your experiences.
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Comment on Looking for games that can be played with only the mouse in ~games
MalibuJukebox LinkI recently completed these games while mostly just using the mouse: IMMORTALITY The Case of the Golden Idol Inscryption I'd also recommend visual novel type games like Ace Attorney or Zero Escape....I recently completed these games while mostly just using the mouse:
I'd also recommend visual novel type games like Ace Attorney or Zero Escape. Mostly reading and clicking with occasional puzzle solving.
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Comment on What's a word from another language that you wish was a thing in English? in ~humanities.languages
MalibuJukebox Link ParentMy default is to say "you guys" when attempting a plural 'you'. Still feels awkward to say at times especially in professional settings, but is reasonably accepted.My default is to say "you guys" when attempting a plural 'you'. Still feels awkward to say at times especially in professional settings, but is reasonably accepted.
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Comment on Self-taught guitar players: How did you do it? What do you wish you could go back and do differently when you were learning? in ~music
MalibuJukebox LinkI echo a lot of what the other commenters suggested, but there was one specific aspect to learning guitar that motivated me to be creative and try something new and that was changing the tuning....I echo a lot of what the other commenters suggested, but there was one specific aspect to learning guitar that motivated me to be creative and try something new and that was changing the tuning.
Guitar is my youngest instrument and I started learning it around 6 years ago. My biggest hurdle with it is that I truly did not like the feel and sound of standard tuning (EADGBE), despite it being the best and most widespread for learning the fundamentals. After a while of trying, I decided to switch to a tuning that was more intriguing to me and that was Celtic tuning (DADGAD). Using chord charts, it was fairly simple to figure out but the fascinating thing about this tuning is that you could play nearly any chord or fret and it could sound like something - maybe even something good. That alone motivated me to get weird and creative with all sorts of ideas - using capos, creating my own picking patterns, and so on. I recorded just about everything I did on my phone via voice memos because - just like another commenter mentioned - recording what you play helps you hear what you can improve and what is working well. I listen back to those recordings on occasion to reminisce and it's often cringe inducing - but it's a great reminder that I've actually progressed.
I should mention that I never really learned proper songs and only created my own tunes during this time. in standard, I tried learning "Heart of Gold" by Neil Young all the way through, but I couldn't stick with that early on. Learning songs didn't interest me as much as creating them, but that was definitely a rookie mistake. In essence, if you need a break from the typical fundamentals of standard tuning exercises, try mixing up the tuning for a bit. I don't recommend staying out of it too long as that can cement bad habits (which I certainly formed). Nowadays, I use standard and Open D tuning (DADF#AD) the most, while occasionally going back to Celtic tuning for the occasional feel good jam.
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Comment on What have you been listening to this week? in ~music
MalibuJukebox LinkThe YouTube algorithm put this jazzy lo-fi and synth-heavy mix in my path and I've been glued to it for some inexplicable reason. Other than that, a small indie band I've been following,...The YouTube algorithm put this jazzy lo-fi and synth-heavy mix in my path and I've been glued to it for some inexplicable reason.
Other than that, a small indie band I've been following, Superocean, just dropped their first album, "Permafeels" and it's an upbeat jam perfect for the summer. I particularly like this song, "Julia I'm Alive"
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Comment on What films did you love in your late teens to mid twenties? What makes a good young adult film? in ~movies
MalibuJukebox Link ParentI'm familiar with The African Queen but have not seen it yet (it's been on my film watchlist for a while). I had to look up the other two, but they definitely look interesting, especially Run Lola...I'm familiar with The African Queen but have not seen it yet (it's been on my film watchlist for a while). I had to look up the other two, but they definitely look interesting, especially Run Lola Run. I'll add them both to my list as well. Thanks!
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Comment on What films did you love in your late teens to mid twenties? What makes a good young adult film? in ~movies
MalibuJukebox Link ParentSpeaking from experience, I was probably 5 or 6 when I first saw Jurassic Park and it scared the crap out of me, but I have a weird fondness for it because of that. I think of it as a horror film...Speaking from experience, I was probably 5 or 6 when I first saw Jurassic Park and it scared the crap out of me, but I have a weird fondness for it because of that. I think of it as a horror film akin to Alien.
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Comment on What films did you love in your late teens to mid twenties? What makes a good young adult film? in ~movies
MalibuJukebox LinkIn my late teens, I attended a Film & Philosophy class that certainly transformed my understanding of films for the better. We watched a lot of old classics and contemporary gems such as Memento,...In my late teens, I attended a Film & Philosophy class that certainly transformed my understanding of films for the better. We watched a lot of old classics and contemporary gems such as Memento, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Citizen Kane, Casablanca, The Dark Knight, Rear Window, Psycho, 12 Angry Men and many more. However, taking the lessons from that class helped me find the movies that would eventually influence and shape my early 20s. Those films are Amelie, Mr. Nobody, Her, and Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.
To answer your question, I think films with an angle of romance mixed with psychological mystery and/or existentialism are notably relevant for your early 20s. Its a period of uncertainty and discovery - coming to terms with the "real world" while trying to figure out who and what you love.
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Comment on Nostalgia -- what programs do you miss? in ~tech
MalibuJukebox (edited )Link ParentStumbleUpon is what first came to mind for me as well. It was an amazing tool that I'm sad never got a reliable replacement (to my knowledge at least). But the amount of fascinating or off-beat...StumbleUpon is what first came to mind for me as well. It was an amazing tool that I'm sad never got a reliable replacement (to my knowledge at least). But the amount of fascinating or off-beat content it'd take you to was staggering. Poetry, excerpts from books, short stories, art / illustrations, futurism & Sci-Fi - at the time I was really into writing and I discovered so much that I likely wouldn't have otherwise. Plenty of weird stuff too, but that's beside the point.
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Comment on Overuse of commas in ~humanities.languages
MalibuJukebox Link ParentWonderfully put. I'll definitely be referencing this whenever I feel like I'm overusing hyphens or other punctuations in general. Thank you!Wonderfully put. I'll definitely be referencing this whenever I feel like I'm overusing hyphens or other punctuations in general. Thank you!
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Comment on Overuse of commas in ~humanities.languages
MalibuJukebox Link ParentI really like this perspective. I'm curious - and you don't have to bother with this question if you don't have time - but what do you think of hyphens in place of commas or other punctuations in...I really like this perspective. I'm curious - and you don't have to bother with this question if you don't have time - but what do you think of hyphens in place of commas or other punctuations in written conversation like how I just used them? I have a habit of using them either as an aside or as emphasis depending on how I'm feeling and sometimes I want to fix that. Other times, it feels like part of my written voice.
Another example would be that hyphens feel like a flow from one thought to another - as if I need an indicator that signifies this jumping around for the sake of clarity to the reader. But I'm also concerned that - when used excessively - it disrupts the word flow and potentially creates more confusion rather than clarity.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
MalibuJukebox Link ParentI will say that Frosthaven is a noticeable upgrade from Gloomhaven in almost every way, which has been an awesome and exciting adventure so far. But that difficulty spike is also just as...I will say that Frosthaven is a noticeable upgrade from Gloomhaven in almost every way, which has been an awesome and exciting adventure so far. But that difficulty spike is also just as noticeable. I'm definitely curious if other players share a similar sentiment to us or if this is just our group's experience so far.
Our last session was the final straw though and we've agreed to adding our own house rules like table-talking / metagaming because, like your group, we don't like repeating scenarios and losses are big time sinks. But I personally think the game is more fun when the group is strategizing openly (as long as we're not dictating each other's actions). Secondly, it's not like D&D where metagaming drastically hinders the role-playing side of things. Frosthaven is still, ultimately, a board game.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
MalibuJukebox (edited )LinkI've been playing the board game, Frosthaven, with a group of four. It has largely been an enjoyable experience, but - in comparison to its predecessor, Gloomhaven - is mechanically more...I've been playing the board game, Frosthaven, with a group of four. It has largely been an enjoyable experience, but - in comparison to its predecessor, Gloomhaven - is mechanically more complicated and overall feels more difficult. We've lost 3 scenarios so far and are still in the early game (around 15 scenarios in). Some of these losses were the result of one obviously bad round that we couldn't recover from, which is demoralizing. So there's definitely less room for error and requires us to be on our A-game throughout the scenario. I'm theorizing that, as a sequel, Frosthaven has less explanatory legwork and assumes its players to be experienced enough with the unique mechanics from Gloomhaven to be able to handle the difficulty spike. Or maybe we've just been out of practice with this game style and need to strategize better. Maybe it's both.
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Comment on How do you cope with situations beyond your control? in ~talk
MalibuJukebox Link ParentThank you so much for sharing your story. That's an impossible responsibility to be thrusted into for such a devastating situation, and I truly hope every day gets better than the last for you. I...Thank you so much for sharing your story. That's an impossible responsibility to be thrusted into for such a devastating situation, and I truly hope every day gets better than the last for you. I shake my head in disbelief that some other family members weren't as supportive as they should've been. But I also hope that you continue to find that love, care and support where you need it alongside your personal acceptance.
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Comment on How do you cope with situations beyond your control? in ~talk
MalibuJukebox Link ParentFunnily enough, I love absurdism and that was a core philosophy I had embraced and would often reference around 2017. I was certainly less anxious then with fewer negative coping habits. But I...Funnily enough, I love absurdism and that was a core philosophy I had embraced and would often reference around 2017. I was certainly less anxious then with fewer negative coping habits. But I think a lot of that mystery and freedom dissappeared once I got a “professional” job and then, of course, the pandemic and ensuing political turmoils.
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Comment on Artists you love, and are surprised are not more popular than they are? in ~music
MalibuJukebox Link ParentTom Misch is a joy. I especially love his collaboration with Alfa Mist on the song “No Peace”. One of my favorites.Tom Misch is a joy. I especially love his collaboration with Alfa Mist on the song “No Peace”. One of my favorites.
Thank you! I like this approach a lot and will make note of it for the future.
Regarding the mute icon, I do agree about the etiquette and that's my preference as well, but we're expected to be continuously off mute for these small groups to encourage that active conversation. Doesn't really work out though and that's just the nature of virtual meetings.