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  1. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (July 2025) in ~health.mental

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    My life isn't great at the moment. I have to move back to my parent's place because I have no job now. We don't have a great relationship. So mentally, I'm not great. Then I did this thing where I...

    My life isn't great at the moment. I have to move back to my parent's place because I have no job now. We don't have a great relationship. So mentally, I'm not great.

    Then I did this thing where I looked up an old close friend who turned manipulative. Said and did things that hurt deeply because they knew where my insecurities were. We've not spoken for 4 years now maybe.

    Then now those words just keep playing in my head over and over again. I really shouldn't have looked them up. I did this to myself.

    I've been feeling like I've been crying for the past two days and yet there's no tears.

    3 votes

  2. Comment on Victories and challenges: An A[u]DHD community and support fortnightly thread #3 in ~health.mental

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    I can relate to having a good phase and wondering when it'll crash! I'm weirdly optimistic these days and that scares me.

    I can relate to having a good phase and wondering when it'll crash!

    I'm weirdly optimistic these days and that scares me.

    5 votes

  3. Comment on Victories and challenges: An A[u]DHD community and support fortnightly thread #3 in ~health.mental

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    There's going to be some big-ish changes in my life and I've recently learned that I don't deal well with change. Whether it was positive or negative change, I would internally act out. If that...

    There's going to be some big-ish changes in my life and I've recently learned that I don't deal well with change. Whether it was positive or negative change, I would internally act out. If that makes sense.

    Had a talk about it with my therapist and we're going to figure out how to work with my reaction. What we can do to reduce spiralling. I basically would have a big emotion and wouldn't know how to handle it.

    One of the things she suggested was to have something that would be with me before and after the move. Like some kind of routine or hobby.

    I was thinking of listening to the entirety of Discworld audiobook again. So it'll be a tether as things change. But I already did that during a trying time in my life and don't want to repeat it.

    Now I'm trying to think of a different series I could get into or a new routine or hobby.

    Right now I've just been listening to Murderbot diaries again and again. I need my media.

    I'm assuming this is the Au side of Audhd.

    6 votes

  4. Comment on Victories and challenges: An A[u]DHD community and support fortnightly thread #2 in ~health.mental

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    Hahaha. This is very amusing. Thank you.

    Hahaha. This is very amusing. Thank you.

    2 votes

  5. Comment on Do you like being thrifty? in ~talk

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    No. I'm really lazy. I'm more thrifty now just due to circumstances. But even then I know I'm not as thrifty as I should be. I just call it the lazy tax and I'm trying to be a lot better about it...

    No. I'm really lazy. I'm more thrifty now just due to circumstances. But even then I know I'm not as thrifty as I should be.

    I just call it the lazy tax and I'm trying to be a lot better about it but it's hard.

    I order food often because I can't get myself to cook or leave my apartment. I ride the local equivalent of an Uber most of the time because I can't bring myself to leave otherwise. When I happen to be out and it's time to eat, I just eat whenever I feel like eating and not think about the price too hard because the mental load is too high. I have a hard time convincing myself to eat sometimes so I have a time limit before I get frustrated and give up on food altogether.

    When I feel like buying something, I just buy it if it seems reasonable enough a price. I don't really shop around to get it as cheap as possible. Because I'm lazy. Which means I don't often get things second hand because I don't want to deal with people or to haggle.

    But this also means I don't buy that many things. I do buy things on discount as long as the mental load to do it isn't that high. It also means quite a number of my clothes are a decade old and I still wear them just because I don't shop that often.

    My phone is also about 5 years old now and has a mildly cracked screen and I'm still using it because it's not dead yet. Mainly to save money but also to research, buy a new phone, and setting it up again takes some work and again, I'm lazy. So I'd rather use this phone till it's definitely dead. I'm basically procrastinating.

    In a way, sometimes laziness also helps you save.

    I do have quite a fair bit of subscriptions though. I should cancel them.

    5 votes

  6. Comment on Where do you go to veg out online? in ~tech

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    I've been using Bluesky, but I'm not on it that often. I use it to look at art accounts. I curated it as much as I could to keep it calm and just about art. There are also some feeds dedicated to...

    I've been using Bluesky, but I'm not on it that often. I use it to look at art accounts. I curated it as much as I could to keep it calm and just about art. There are also some feeds dedicated to just calm things.

    So that's my safe place to zone out for now.

    14 votes

  7. Comment on Victories and challenges: An A[u]DHD community and support fortnightly thread #2 in ~health.mental

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    I've been dealing with a lot of things in life. It hasn't been easy. But one of the things I'm dealing with is having is not having a job again and moving back in with my parents. I don't know how...

    I've been dealing with a lot of things in life. It hasn't been easy. But one of the things I'm dealing with is having is not having a job again and moving back in with my parents.

    I don't know how to describe what's been going on, but there's going to be a lot of change in my life. But more like the change is basically going back to square one.

    I've recently realised I react very badly to change whether it's good or bad. And my therapist brought up discussing the potentiality of me being a AuDHD and not just ADHD.

    Somehow when I got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, it was a revelation and it helped reframe things a lot. However, I'm incredibly resistant to the idea of being Autistic along with it even though the only things I relate to are AuDHD things.

    I don't really know why. Especially since ADHD originally came up only because we were discussing Autism first.

    I really don't know. I'm having an emotion. I don't know what it is and I don't like it.

    2 votes

  8. Comment on Victories and challenges: An A[u]DHD community and support fortnightly thread #2 in ~health.mental

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    That's fine though. I completely understand. I don't read tips and tricks either. Mainly because I got diagnosed as an Adult. And by that time, I've already developed my own ways of handling...

    That's fine though. I completely understand. I don't read tips and tricks either. Mainly because I got diagnosed as an Adult. And by that time, I've already developed my own ways of handling things and find that most tips and tricks online doesn't suit me.

    You know yourself and what works for you best.

    3 votes

  9. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (May 2025) in ~health.mental

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    Or maybe I should try a different one? I'm still having a hard time focusing or getting up.

    Or maybe I should try a different one? I'm still having a hard time focusing or getting up.

    2 votes

  10. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (May 2025) in ~health.mental

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    It was very bad at first. But I saw my psychiatrist and I got 12 hour long stimulants and I've slowly been getting better. Being able to get up.. Kind of. My mood is slowly getting better. I...

    It was very bad at first. But I saw my psychiatrist and I got 12 hour long stimulants and I've slowly been getting better. Being able to get up.. Kind of.

    My mood is slowly getting better. I think.

    But now I'm suffering from dry mouth. My gums are bleeding and my tongue is also sort of not great.

    Time to see the doc again.

    11 votes

  11. Comment on Your sense of nostalgia in ~life

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    My sense of Nostalgia is similar to yours. I can think of a time where I'm glad it happened, but that's about it. I don't usually want to go back nor do I experience it again as vividly as some...

    My sense of Nostalgia is similar to yours. I can think of a time where I'm glad it happened, but that's about it. I don't usually want to go back nor do I experience it again as vividly as some others here.

    I never understood why nostalgia was such a strong factor for people, but now I that I've read people describe how much they actually experience. It makes sense.

  12. Comment on What have you been putting off/procrastinating about doing? in ~life

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    I used to do that at my old place. But I currently live with at a friend's place and it feels awkward to do that.

    I used to do that at my old place. But I currently live with at a friend's place and it feels awkward to do that.

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  13. Comment on What have you been putting off/procrastinating about doing? in ~life

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    Thank you! I hope to see my psychiatrist and alter my meds and hope that helps a little too.

    Thank you! I hope to see my psychiatrist and alter my meds and hope that helps a little too.

    1 vote

  14. Comment on The “loneliness epidemic” myth in ~life

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    How do you find a romantic partner if you can't find friends? I'm on the opposite end. I have no issue finding new friends. I constantly make new friends as I get older. Through work and my...

    How do you find a romantic partner if you can't find friends?

    I'm on the opposite end. I have no issue finding new friends. I constantly make new friends as I get older. Through work and my interests.

    But romantic partner? That's mysterious to me.

    5 votes

  15. Comment on What have you been putting off/procrastinating about doing? in ~life

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    EVERYTHING. Things have degraded so much. I live in a mess. I got a new job and it's quite stressful. But the problem is more that I can either do life or I can work. I can't do both. So I'm...

    EVERYTHING. Things have degraded so much. I live in a mess.

    I got a new job and it's quite stressful. But the problem is more that I can either do life or I can work. I can't do both. So I'm struggling to exist.

    My room is a mess. My toilet is filthy. The sink is full. My taxes aren't done. I've not showered. I'm barely able to do the cat routine but that's because the Cat will nag at me if I don't feed her or clean her litter box.

    But plop me in front of the pc and I get straight to work.

    My executive dysfunction is that bad. I'm seeing my psychiatrist soon though. So I'm hoping that helps a little.

    Edit: I showered. Did my taxes. Brought the cat out for a walk. Put some stuff away. Might clean the toilet floor later.

    18 votes

  16. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (April 2025) in ~health.mental

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    Not great. I started a job that I like but is stressful. Especially after a long time of not working. I don't know. I missed taking my stimulants today. I'm in pain and just filled with self...

    Not great. I started a job that I like but is stressful. Especially after a long time of not working.

    I don't know. I missed taking my stimulants today. I'm in pain and just filled with self loathing.

    I've got family gatherings to deal with this week too. I'm never in a good mental space after those.

    7 votes

  17. Comment on Is it wrong to use AI to fact check and combat the spread of misinformation? in ~tech

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    AI is ultimately a tool. Like others have said, the way you're using it is fine. You are not spreading misinformation, you're not using it to put down others, and you fact check the output of the...

    AI is ultimately a tool. Like others have said, the way you're using it is fine. You are not spreading misinformation, you're not using it to put down others, and you fact check the output of the AI.

    It becomes a problem when people take anything from the AI wholesale without checking the output.

    I've also had people tell me they use chatgpt as a search engine and don't fact check what they get. Which is really problematic.

    But if they use it together with other search engines, get chatgpt to list its sources and read that, that would be fine.

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  18. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (March 2025) in ~health.mental

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    Thank you! I hope to be in the same position you are in in the future.

    Thank you! I hope to be in the same position you are in in the future.

    4 votes

  19. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (March 2025) in ~health.mental

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    Thank you! But I don't live in the US. My debts are moderate? They're big but not bankruptcy big.

    Thank you! But I don't live in the US. My debts are moderate? They're big but not bankruptcy big.

    3 votes

  20. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (March 2025) in ~health.mental

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    After nearly 2 years, I finally found a job! I am very thankful and know that this is a very good thing. I've also gotten very far physically. From being bed ridden to now being able to go about...

    After nearly 2 years, I finally found a job! I am very thankful and know that this is a very good thing.
    I've also gotten very far physically. From being bed ridden to now being able to go about as normal (with some painkillers).

    But somehow I've just remained depressed. I still have debts and am so far from getting back to where I was before I got sick. This step forward is great and I appreciate it. But there's still so much more to go, and that's the sad and frustrating part.

    I will focus on the present and I do make steps and plans for what to do next. But for now, I'm allowing myself to feel before I start being in "fixing my life" mode again.

    9 votes