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Comment on Denmark has recalled several spicy ramen noodle products by South Korean company Samyang, claiming that the capsaicin levels in them could poison consumers in ~food
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Comment on How do you feel about it/its pronouns? in ~lgbt
WeAreWaves Link ParentAnd to add to that, I don’t even know if I’m included when you tell me “we’re going to the movies”!And to add to that, I don’t even know if I’m included when you tell me “we’re going to the movies”!
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Comment on The food that makes you gay in ~lgbt
WeAreWaves Link ParentI find it really frustrating that there’s so much baggage around food choices. I’m in a very similar place as you it sounds like in terms of eating habits and generally keeping it to myself in...I find it really frustrating that there’s so much baggage around food choices. I’m in a very similar place as you it sounds like in terms of eating habits and generally keeping it to myself in many circles. It’s gotten better over the years, but any time veganism comes up in conversation, there always seem to be a few very outspoken people who really, really don’t like vegans. Any reduction in animal products puts you closer to “those people”, and like you said, people loooove policing for presumed hypocrisy.
One of my aunts is generally plant-based and not shy about it, and my mom has literally gossiped to me about the time they went out to dinner and my aunt ordered meat. It’s infuriating.
I’ll also add that at restaurants I’ll often order meat because the non-meat options are often not that different in price, and I’ve had a lot of experiences where the chefs didn’t really know how to make a vegetarian or vegan entree taste good. Plus it’s like a treat since I very rarely cook meat at home.
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Comment on US Supreme Court ruling greenlights nearly all racial gerrymandering in ~misc
WeAreWaves LinkYikes. We all knew it was coming but seriously holy shit. Officially from the US Supreme Court, it is legitimate, worthy, and legal to disenfranchise minorities as long as it furthers your...Yikes. We all knew it was coming but seriously holy shit.
Officially from the US Supreme Court, it is legitimate, worthy, and legal to disenfranchise minorities as long as it furthers your partisan aims.
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Comment on Indiana judge rules tacos, burritos are sandwiches in ~food
WeAreWaves Link ParentThat is spectacular.That is spectacular.
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Comment on Indiana judge rules tacos, burritos are sandwiches in ~food
WeAreWaves Link ParentI’m not sure this is ever the case no matter what is promised beforehand.you're going to be disappointed if they bring a bag of Taco John's.
I’m not sure this is ever the case no matter what is promised beforehand.
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Comment on What is a value or belief you have that is extremely outside the norm? in ~talk
WeAreWaves Link ParentNever formally diagnosed as such, but maybe. I don’t think that negates my point though, as there is no way to know whether a new human will struggle with depression or not. Having a child is a...Never formally diagnosed as such, but maybe. I don’t think that negates my point though, as there is no way to know whether a new human will struggle with depression or not. Having a child is a roll of the dice with a non-negligible probability of “I wish I hadn’t been born”.
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Comment on What is a value or belief you have that is extremely outside the norm? in ~talk
WeAreWaves Link ParentThis is exactly my point that having kids is fundamentally selfish. The most important person affected by the choice to have a child is the new human being, not the parent. The child cannot...so why not just do what will make me happy?
This is exactly my point that having kids is fundamentally selfish. The most important person affected by the choice to have a child is the new human being, not the parent. The child cannot consent to that.
If the choice is given any real thought, the reasoning is parent-centric (I want a kid, this will make me happy; the world would be better with more of me in it) and this is misaligned with the real impacts of the choice.
Sharing your values with future generations also does not necessitate creating new human beings.
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Comment on What is a value or belief you have that is extremely outside the norm? in ~talk
WeAreWaves (edited )Link ParentI sympathize with the view. I let myself be talked into having a kid after being on the fence / somewhat against it. My kid is doing great, but I still struggle with the choice. Creating a person...I sympathize with the view. I let myself be talked into having a kid after being on the fence / somewhat against it.
My kid is doing great, but I still struggle with the choice.
Creating a person from nonexistence and forcing them to go through a whole life with no guarantees about how that life will be no matter how hard you try or what your situation is… it’s a lot. In all likelihood we’ll die before she does (hopefully), so we will never know if she will be happy to have lived when she looks back on her life. There very well may be periods where she’ll wish she just hadn’t been born, and that’s something we forced on her with no possibility of consent. And there’s no easy way out of this world once you’re in it.
To me, having kids is a fundamentally selfish choice.
I don’t know maybe I’m still sort of an anti natalist…
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Comment on What is a value or belief you have that is extremely outside the norm? in ~talk
WeAreWaves Link ParentHow far does this extend? Do you feel similarly about aristocracy in general? What about de facto aristocracies where you can be born into obscene wealth and twist the political system to your...How far does this extend? Do you feel similarly about aristocracy in general? What about de facto aristocracies where you can be born into obscene wealth and twist the political system to your will even if you don’t officially have a birth-right title?
Not trying to argue - just genuinely curious since I can feel the vehemence dripping from your post.
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Comment on AT&T announces $7 monthly add-on fee for “Turbo” 5G speeds in ~tech
WeAreWaves Link ParentI pay £5 for half a gig each month and that’s plenty. I’m basically always on WiFi and just pre-download music or podcasts before getting in the car.I pay £5 for half a gig each month and that’s plenty. I’m basically always on WiFi and just pre-download music or podcasts before getting in the car.
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Comment on How are you dealing with inflation regarding everyday enjoyment? in ~life
WeAreWaves LinkI’ve picked back up on budgeting after a few years of hiatus during a string of major life changes that made my old system of spreadsheets and manual entries less feasible. I started using YNAB...I’ve picked back up on budgeting after a few years of hiatus during a string of major life changes that made my old system of spreadsheets and manual entries less feasible.
I started using YNAB and it’s become a bit of a hobby actually.
It’s not necessarily due to inflation, but having a better handle on where our money is going (and being more proactive in deciding what our spending priorities really are) really helps when money feels tight.
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Comment on The cycling revolution in Paris continues: Bicycle use now exceeds car use in ~transport
WeAreWaves Link ParentI look at it as the inverse - driving is best for specific use cases while cycling is more convenient for everyday default trips. Cars are better (or even necessary) for getting to hiking trails...I look at it as the inverse - driving is best for specific use cases while cycling is more convenient for everyday default trips.
Cars are better (or even necessary) for getting to hiking trails on the weekends or the occasions when I do need to move a lot of stuff. I live in a place that’s cold, wet, and windy pretty often regardless of the season, so I do commute by car when wind gusts get above about 40 mph.
Other than that, bikes work for me, my wife, and our 3 year old. We commute by bike, take her to and from preschool by bike, pick up groceries by bike, go into town or nearby hikes/beaches by bike, get to friends’ houses by bike…
Our normal daily life doesn’t require a car, but have one we use for the occasions when it’s needed. I realize everyone’s situation is different and it sounds like you need to lug a bunch of stuff with you more often. I’m just pointing out that for many people, thats not the case and traveling by bike would be completely feasible.
So basically, we should use the right tool for the right job.
Also, I think it’s a much more pleasant and invigorating way to get around even in shitty weather. As long as you dress properly.
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Comment on I grew up in Michigan but currently live in Georgia. My GF and I are looking at buying a house, and both states have first time home buyer incentives, but they're income based. in ~finance
WeAreWaves Link ParentWhat if she lived there for free but paid for other normal budget items?What if she lived there for free but paid for other normal budget items?
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Comment on Fellow hardline materialists, how do you "enchant" the world? in ~talk
WeAreWaves LinkI pretend. Those rock outcroppings that very vaguely could be humanoid in shape? Mountain trolls. Mossy boulder in the forest? Entrance to the faerie realm. I also have a habit of building small...I pretend. Those rock outcroppings that very vaguely could be humanoid in shape? Mountain trolls. Mossy boulder in the forest? Entrance to the faerie realm. I also have a habit of building small stick dwellings or entrances to little hidey holes when I’m out on hikes. It’s a fun bit of make believe that might also make the world a little more interesting for other people.
Maybe not quite what you’re looking for, but I also read a lot of fantasy.
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Comment on US Federal Trade Commission and eight states sue to block supermarket merger between Kroger and Albertsons in ~finance
WeAreWaves Link Parent“In lieu”“In lieu”
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Comment on Ski vacations in the Alps are becoming increasingly elitist in ~travel
WeAreWaves Link ParentI just finished a half day skiing at Glencoe - not fantastic snow in Scotland, but still fun. A day pass is £30 for an adult (£37 during school holidays), so a day skiing costs us about the same...I just finished a half day skiing at Glencoe - not fantastic snow in Scotland, but still fun. A day pass is £30 for an adult (£37 during school holidays), so a day skiing costs us about the same as two meals of fish and chips.
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Comment on Cousins are disappearing worldwide, according to new study in ~life
WeAreWaves (edited )Link ParentThis could also be a sampling bias. As you say, 2nd children get less attention from their parents. For the exact same struggles, a 2nd child might just be less likely to be brought to therapy...my psychiatrist says he's noticed that he sees a lot fewer second children than first children
This could also be a sampling bias. As you say, 2nd children get less attention from their parents. For the exact same struggles, a 2nd child might just be less likely to be brought to therapy than an only child - whether that’s from decreased awareness by the parents, less time available so the threshold changes, or a change in parental perspective about what’s serious enough to seek help.
Or, 2nd+ children might have just been brought up feeling more of a “deal with your own problems” attitude since the 1:1 or 2:1 parent:child attention wasn’t there, and so they’re less likely to seek therapy as adults.
Just pointing out that, even if your therapist is right about broad trends based on their anecdotal experience, there are many more possible explanations than “later children are better adjusted”.
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Comment on New US bank-overdraft fee limits to go into effect in ~finance
WeAreWaves Link ParentI’m an American living in Scotland and my bank here is such a breath of fresh air. They treat their customers like adults. If you overdraft, you get a notification saying that they’ll charge the...I’m an American living in Scotland and my bank here is such a breath of fresh air. They treat their customers like adults.
If you overdraft, you get a notification saying that they’ll charge the stated percent interest on it unless you get the needed funds in by the end of the day. No immediate fees, just a perfectly reasonable “fix this by the close of business please”.
My point is that there are other reasonable options between an immediate $35 fee and a rejected transaction.
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Comment on Electric cars are not the future – In cities at least, e-bikes make more cultural and consumer sense in ~transport
WeAreWaves Link ParentIt would be great to get to a place where cars are considered the supplement instead, with other modes considered the default. I live in a cold, wet, windy place and have a kid. We have an...It would be great to get to a place where cars are considered the supplement instead, with other modes considered the default.
I live in a cold, wet, windy place and have a kid. We have an electric cargo bike and a non electric commuter with a seat on the back for her. The car is only necessary for safety (being risk averse) maybe 10% of the time throughout the year.
The regular 1x is on the high end of pleasurable for me - I’m curious but not feeling adventurous enough to test out the 2x or 3x.