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  1. Comment on ‘Mitzvah night is cancelled’ Inside the sex strike that has infuriated husbands and shaken the ultra-Orthodox world in ~life.women

  2. Comment on ‘Mitzvah night is cancelled’ Inside the sex strike that has infuriated husbands and shaken the ultra-Orthodox world in ~life.women

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    This was shared in my local discord, and I thought it was interesting to see as an outsider of the women's struggles in these communities. And how women navigate through their own communities to...

    This was shared in my local discord, and I thought it was interesting to see as an outsider of the women's struggles in these communities. And how women navigate through their own communities to try to get the laws applied justify to them.

    Edit: Now I have more time to comment. Few things I want to point out the part about modesty, is the town of kiryas Joel has a sign to cover your elbow and knees. Which isnt enforceable if you are not part of the community, but the place is so odd you want to drive through the area anyway. The sign and neighborhood always weirded me out when I drive pass that area.

    What interests me about this article since their flavor of conservatism is rooted in tradition governed by fairly strict logic, the women found a way to protest. By not undergoing their cleansing practice, and therefore sex is considered a sin in that regard. Because religious and comminity rigidity, they were able to find ways to make their point across by not participating in them. So, good for them for finding ways to fight back on their patriarchal and corrupt structure so they can gain some equality in their own communities.

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  4. Comment on Some observations about some of the conversations here in ~tildes

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    What I did during COVID lock down, was watching the PBS Newshour and Cuomo's daily briefly (lived in NY) instead of gluing myself to the news. Kept my sanity in check. I really should go back to...

    What I did during COVID lock down, was watching the PBS Newshour and Cuomo's daily briefly (lived in NY) instead of gluing myself to the news. Kept my sanity in check.

    I really should go back to watching PBS news hour. It really helps to understand the state of the country in a plain, but informative manner. Without the time sink.

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  5. Comment on Some observations about some of the conversations here in ~tildes

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    Depends on the size of the communities imo. I prefer no downvote system in smaller communities such as here since the responses are fairly manageable. Smaller communities need to encourage more...

    Depends on the size of the communities imo. I prefer no downvote system in smaller communities such as here since the responses are fairly manageable. Smaller communities need to encourage more engagement and to decrease the barrier to participate. Moderation also is different in smaller groups since it is more intimate. In my opinion, it's easier for people to call out specific detail or educate a certain topic.

    Larger communities like reddit where brigading, spamming, and all sort of nastiness is more common, downvoting is more justifiable. Downvoting helps moderator to weed out bad faith actor, spam, and etc. But the downside, people tend to get more defensive about their argument and meaner. A bad moderator can make the community toxic and uninviting. There is a reason why I associate Reddit with toxicity.

    I would say, I dislike upvote and downvote system in general because of their simplicity. And, it would be nice to see a forum or discussion based social media that has a range of stamps that is not facebook, and maybe not emoticon based.

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  6. Comment on Carbon dioxide pipelines and underground injection can cut greenhouse gas, but community opposition is fierce in ~enviro

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    The problem lies whether if methodology can safely sequester carbon dioxide and if we can trust these companies in the first place. Personally, I don't have too much trust in these companies. They...

    The problem lies whether if methodology can safely sequester carbon dioxide and if we can trust these companies in the first place. Personally, I don't have too much trust in these companies. They have plenty of smart engineers and geologist working for them. But we have seen time and again that they have lied and mismanaged many projects and the science.

    I'm not too fond in simply siding with ExxonMobil to geoengineering our way out of this. But not because of the technology itself but rather a poor implementation of said technology can cause more harm then good.

    That said. I would need to look into this more closely to make an informed opinion.

    6 votes

  7. Comment on Kendrick Lamar - Meet the Grahams (2024) in ~music

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    Never thought I'll ever hear saxophone jazz diss track in my life. https://youtu.be/lE2VhEnmCiQ?si=3pF_vo0OnCqnkpgg Edit: Well, metro boomin is getting outed as a metro groomer. :(

    Never thought I'll ever hear saxophone jazz diss track in my life.

    https://youtu.be/lE2VhEnmCiQ?si=3pF_vo0OnCqnkpgg

    Edit: Well, metro boomin is getting outed as a metro groomer. :(

    5 votes

  8. Comment on Kendrick Lamar - Meet the Grahams (2024) in ~music

  9. Comment on Any tips for Barcelona and Lisbon in June/July? in ~travel

  10. Comment on Any tips for Barcelona and Lisbon in June/July? in ~travel

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    Thanks for the food recommendation. I will probably check some of these places out. Yeah, I grew up around NYC, so I have some city sense. I am planning to get a retractable leash for our wallets...

    Thanks for the food recommendation. I will probably check some of these places out.

    Yeah, I grew up around NYC, so I have some city sense. I am planning to get a retractable leash for our wallets or wear my trusty hidden belt wallet that I bought for Lima.

    1 vote

  11. Comment on Any tips for Barcelona and Lisbon in June/July? in ~travel

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    I'm sorry to hear that. I'm planning to dress like I'm going to NYC, so hopefully I don't stick out too much.

    I'm sorry to hear that. I'm planning to dress like I'm going to NYC, so hopefully I don't stick out too much.

    1 vote

  12. Comment on Any tips for Barcelona and Lisbon in June/July? in ~travel

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    Omg their glassware is amazing!!! Im definitely penciling this down.

    Omg their glassware is amazing!!! Im definitely penciling this down.

  13. Comment on Any tips for Barcelona and Lisbon in June/July? in ~travel

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    Thanks for the writeup. We're looking into architectural tours around the city. I'm a big urban planning need, so this is up my alley.

    Thanks for the writeup. We're looking into architectural tours around the city. I'm a big urban planning need, so this is up my alley.

  14. Comment on Any tips for Barcelona and Lisbon in June/July? in ~travel

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    Thanks for the writeup! This is amazing. My husband and I are debating whether to go Picasso or Dali museum. I'm leaning towards Dali since I have seen Picasco exhibition at the MOMA. One of the...

    Thanks for the writeup! This is amazing. My husband and I are debating whether to go Picasso or Dali museum. I'm leaning towards Dali since I have seen Picasco exhibition at the MOMA.

    One of the big reason why my husband and I choose spain was to practice our Spanish. So hopefully I can get my spanish up to conversational level.

    I'm asian, so I'm going to stick out like sore thumb either way. I'm gonna take the advice of leaning on being a tourist by heart. Once again thanks for the write up.

    3 votes

  15. Comment on Any tips for Barcelona and Lisbon in June/July? in ~travel

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    Only for two night, so a very short stay. We're not going to drive for this trip. I am not too keen in driving in other countries unless I'm more familiar with their roads and drivers. I would...

    Only for two night, so a very short stay. We're not going to drive for this trip. I am not too keen in driving in other countries unless I'm more familiar with their roads and drivers.

    I would appreciate the document, but I don't want to cause any inconvenience.

    1 vote

  16. Comment on Any tips for Barcelona and Lisbon in June/July? in ~travel

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    Make sense, I would be annoyed if some one start speaking Dutch to me.

    Make sense, I would be annoyed if some one start speaking Dutch to me.

    3 votes

  17. Any tips for Barcelona and Lisbon in June/July?

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    Hey Tildes, My husband and I are planning a trip to Barcelona and Lisbon at end of June. I'm looking for any tips and things to know about Spain/Portugal. Any thing I should get in advance like...

    Hey Tildes,

    My husband and I are planning a trip to Barcelona and Lisbon at end of June.

    I'm looking for any tips and things to know about Spain/Portugal.

    Any thing I should get in advance like museum tickets or tours. Looking for a night life scene that isn't so much of a tourist trap. Also, any ettiquete I should know about. This would my second time in Europe, so any advice would be appreciated.

    20 votes

  18. Comment on New Jersey is motivating telecommuters to appeal their New York tax bills. Connecticut may be next. in ~finance

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    It's cost 22 dollar off peak round trip and 30 dollar peak round trip ticket to get from where I am to the city. It's still expensive to take public transit if you live outside of the city. I live...

    It's cost 22 dollar off peak round trip and 30 dollar peak round trip ticket to get from where I am to the city. It's still expensive to take public transit if you live outside of the city. I live about an hour away.

    At one point, I car pooling with my husband because it was cheaper to go together.

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  19. Comment on USA, 101 Freeway: Major Los Angeles highway to undergo weeks of closures for wildlife crossing construction in ~enviro

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    We're trying to get them built in New York and it keeps getting shot down. We have the data and the plans ready, but it keeps getting stonewalled in state government. It just sucks we need these...

    We're trying to get them built in New York and it keeps getting shot down. We have the data and the plans ready, but it keeps getting stonewalled in state government. It just sucks we need these so badly in the east cost since it is more fragmented than the west coast.

    5 votes

  20. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    If you're not lactose intolerant, what helps is eating some yogurt after eating some spicy food. That helped a lot when I tried carolina reaper whole. I felt a burn in my insides, but yogurt help...

    If you're not lactose intolerant, what helps is eating some yogurt after eating some spicy food. That helped a lot when I tried carolina reaper whole. I felt a burn in my insides, but yogurt help to neutralized the burn. Still, try on your own risk type of deal.

    2 votes