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  1. Comment on More than 50 people died under Victoria's euthanasia scheme during its first six months in ~news

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    The word choice of 'scheme' is interesting to me. It may just be my own, US-centric bias, but the word carries a connotation that implies deception or secrecy. I understand the word itself is more...

    The word choice of 'scheme' is interesting to me. It may just be my own, US-centric bias, but the word carries a connotation that implies deception or secrecy. I understand the word itself is more neutral in definition. In Australia is there a similar undertone, or is it just an innocent synonym for 'plan', and I'm just overthinking things?

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  2. Comment on What's something you have always wanted to know about being LGBT (but were maybe afraid to ask)? in ~talk

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    In my experience, yes. While the majority of my lasting relationships have been with straight, cis-women, the vast majority of my fleeting relationships have been with queer folk. That's not for...

    In my experience, yes.

    While the majority of my lasting relationships have been with straight, cis-women, the vast majority of my fleeting relationships have been with queer folk.
    That's not for neglect of things like Tinder (back when it was more of a hookup app than a dating one), or going out to the bar or club. It's just easier to have an NSA encounter going out to a gay bar, or booting up Grindr. In my experience, I can open Grindr in any major metropolitan area in the world* and have somebody over quicker than I could have a pizza delivered. While the majority of people utilizing the service are m4m, there's plenty of trans-men and trans-women on there as well.

    It's both a good thing, and a bad thing.

    I dream of a world where horny people of all sex & gender varieties can get together without shame. In this respect, hookup culture among LGBT is really nice. Though, of course, there are plenty of queer folk who aren't into hookups at all.

    It's bad for a few reasons.

    • There's a higher risk of STDs. Even if I do everything right, there's no guarantee they are.

    • A lot of the people—not all, but a lot—seem to be closeted or repressed people taking what they can get. It's not difficult to find a married man cheating on his wife, or a young person just trying to connect with somebody, anybody.

    • Sometimes you end up meeting somebody who you really click with, have a great time with, and it can't be anything more than a hookup. I guess that's more of a personal problem than a flaw in hookup culture tho.

    I think maybe queer hookup culture might be driven by scarcity, rather than us being more horny or sexually-progressive tho. But that's a guess.

    * I travel a lot, but I haven't been everywhere. Also, some places use different apps with the same principle.

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  3. Comment on What's something you have always wanted to know about being LGBT (but were maybe afraid to ask)? in ~talk

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    My thoughts on this one are more of a reflection of my military experience, than my sports experience—which is so limited to the point it barely exists. I can see how a trans-woman could have an...

    My thoughts on this one are more of a reflection of my military experience, than my sports experience—which is so limited to the point it barely exists.

    I can see how a trans-woman could have an advantage over cis-women in some areas. Bone density and "default" musculature being the two that come to mind immediately, though I'm not sure to what degree making the hormonal transition levels that field. There are surely outliers, but I could buy that an average non-transitioned, male-bodied athlete may retain an advantage over the average non-transitioned, female-bodied athlete in the same sport, after having transitioned.

    That's a valid question on fairness.

    My answer to that question of fairness, is that having a strict separation of the sexes in sports is fundamentally unfair.

    In much the same way that combat sports have weight classes, I don't see why we couldn't dissolve the sex-boundary in sports and instead class everything by a series of metrics instead. If you can meet X-Y-Z standards, you are A-B-C Class in Whatever-the-Sport. Whether you are cis-male/female, trans, intersex. Anything. If you qualify for some bracket, then you compete in that bracket. Your capabilities are your capabilities, regardless of your sex or gender.

    There's something of a conversation in the military world on the subject of women in Special Forces roles. Some people have the opinion that women are—on average—less physically capable than a male soldier, and would be a liability in such a role. My opinion is that if you can meet the standards to be SF, then you can be SF. I've met female soldiers who can outperform male soldiers by a wide margin. They're an outlier, sure. But their capabilities are real, and if they want to be SF, and can meet the standards to be SF, then just fuckin' let them be SF.

    10 votes
  4. Comment on What's something you have always wanted to know about being LGBT (but were maybe afraid to ask)? in ~talk

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    This is a weird one for me, because I do not have the experience of having a gender identity. I never have. Only recently in my life did I become aware that this was non-standard. I have a...

    What do you think causes gender dysphoria in general?

    This is a weird one for me, because I do not have the experience of having a gender identity. I never have. Only recently in my life did I become aware that this was non-standard. I have a difficult time wrapping my brain around the concept of gender.
    I have an opinion on consciousness that isn't the mainstream, materialist-reductionist view found in science. Who is correct has yet to be determined, but I hope to be alive when we finally crack that nut—I'm willing to cede my position in the face of irrefutable evidence. Suffice to say, I'm not convinced that consciousness is entirely an emergent property coming from the architecture and operation of our neurons. However, that architecture is certainly important to the flavor of my experience. I reject the notion that my consciousness is male, or female, because I do not have the experience of feeling male, or female. As Alan Watts would put it, my consciousness is "...an aperture through which the universe is looking at and exploring itself."
    That said, I find myself dissatisfied that this flesh-robot my mind is piloting around the world is shaped like a man. I can only guess this is due to something about the structure of my brain, rather than the nature of the mind within the brain.

    In contrast, why did/do you personally want to change sex?

    I have not transitioned. Partly because having a male body does not get in the way of my relationship with others, or the world. Having a male body just makes me sad. As well, the technology of today is insufficient to change the body I have into the body I feel I should have. It would be a half-measure, in my case, and I'd find myself still dissatisfied. The hormones might help a bit, but I know the body dysphoria will still be there. I am not a danger to myself, and the nature of my work and personal philosophies keep my attention focused at a scale of things much larger than the individual.
    Maybe I'll live to see some future-ass nanotechnology that will enable a full reconstruction, or the Singularity will happen and I can petition our new Silicon God to work their magic. But until that point, it's really not worth going through the trouble. For me.
    I feel not at all attached to this body, but I exert my will over it through things like tattoos & piercings—things in which I have the power to choose. That helps.

    7 votes
  5. Comment on What's something you have always wanted to know about being LGBT (but were maybe afraid to ask)? in ~talk

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    Maybe stretching it a bit, but there's a segment of the community that cares about labels; from my perspective it seems like a good chunk. I could not care less about labels, and I have some...
    1. Maybe stretching it a bit, but there's a segment of the community that cares about labels; from my perspective it seems like a good chunk. I could not care less about labels, and I have some concern (a little bit) about people forming bubbles within their labels. In my perfect world, we wouldn't feel the need to define ourselves to other people; we'd just be who we are, and dig who we dig. Ya dig?

    2. Pretty infrequently. Those of my friends who aren't queer, are allies. I make it a point to avoid talking sex, religion, or politics in the workplace, so that's null. Really it's only when meeting a potential partner and getting to know them that it comes up. Like, "FYI, I'm x-y-z. If that's cool, cool, but I thought you ought to know upfront."
      That amount is fine. Who I am is not a big deal, and I'm glad it doesn't have to be.

    3a. Don't speak on behalf of me. Join your voice with mine, but don't presume to know me better than me.

    3b. Not specifically Allies, but it really chaps my ass when people act like humans invented alternative sexualities and trans-folk appeared out of thin air just recently. Check out r/SapphoAndHerFriend to see what I mean.

    9 votes
  6. Comment on The Prince of Egypt - A Forgotten Masterpiece in ~movies

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    Context: I've been doing some casual study in my free time on ancient history of the middle east. It's difficult to do that for very long without bumping into the mythology and history that make...

    Context:
    I've been doing some casual study in my free time on ancient history of the middle east. It's difficult to do that for very long without bumping into the mythology and history that make the foundation of some of the world's largest belief systems. I was raised religious—though I no longer am—so a lot of my reading on the material covered in the Old Testament is from a scholarly perspective, for the very first time. I've found myself fascinated with The Exodus in a way I never was before. Thanks to this, and The Algorithm™, YouTube went and reminded me of this film. I haven't thought about The Prince of Egypt in a very long time. Since losing my faith I suppose I discounted it in my memory as a religious film with little to offer. However, after watching this video—and the film again thereafter—I recognize it as a real work of art.

    Regardless of your religious beliefs, or lack thereof, I think few would deny that it's objectively a masterpiece of animated storytelling, with an absolute banger of a soundtrack, and explores deeper themes than something on a purely religious level.

    5 votes
  7. Comment on Recruiting for a panel for an LGBT-focused Q&A session on Tildes in ~lgbt

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    Sounds interesting. Name: CALICO Identity: Pan & Poly, Male-shaped, Agender, Non-transitioning Trans Preferred pronouns: None/No-preference Bio: Late-20's, military brat, former military, current...

    Sounds interesting.

    Name: CALICO
    Identity: Pan & Poly, Male-shaped, Agender, Non-transitioning Trans
    Preferred pronouns: None/No-preference
    Bio: Late-20's, military brat, former military, current gov't contractor. Historically lived all over the US; in the past 18-months I've lived in three states and two non-US countries—currently Afghanistan. Out where it matters, closeted where it doesn't. Unmarried—probably forever—in a LT/LDR currently with just one person. Shameless hippie, hobbyist, & aspiring author.

    7 votes
  8. Comment on Iowa Democratic caucus results delayed until Tuesday due to reporting inconsistencies and technical issues with app in ~news

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    They did, and they seem to agree with the Sanders team's numbers on Buttigieg having about 24.6% of the vote. Sanders team has Bernie at over 29%, though.

    If that's the case, they should probably release it in order to bolster their claim.

    They did, and they seem to agree with the Sanders team's numbers on Buttigieg having about 24.6% of the vote. Sanders team has Bernie at over 29%, though.

    3 votes
  9. Comment on How rigid/fluid is your gender and/or sexuality? in ~lgbt

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    I am rigid in my amorphicity, and I identify as a set of conflicting convictions: My gender does not exist. I am a consciousness trapped in a prison of meat and bone. I have no pronouns, please do...

    I am rigid in my amorphicity, and I identify as a set of conflicting convictions:

    • My gender does not exist. I am a consciousness trapped in a prison of meat and bone. I have no pronouns, please do not refer to me.
    • I am distressed that my prison is shaped like a man.

    I have a personal dislike for labels, but that's dysphoria, and puts me on the trans spectrum. When I look inside myself and ask if I feel like I'm a man, or a woman, the answer is that I feel sad. I maintain that I lack a gender identity, and have trouble grappling with the concept on a personal level. It ought not matter what this flesh-mech I pilot around is shaped like, and yet I wish it were the opposite of what it is. What I see in the mirror is not a body I personally identify with. All my trans friends IRL had the gender dysphoria along with the body dysmorphia. It doesn't really matter whether there's a specific label that applies to me—I am that I am—but it certainly seems to be... atypical.

    That's pretty well rigid, ever since I recognized my feelings for what they were a number of years ago. It's as rigid as my conviction to not transition, unless and until a hypothetical technology exists to drastically alter this body from the skeleton-up.

    [Activate insecure defensive mode] The body I drive around is a conventionally attractive, hippie-lumberjack type model. I don't find that it hinders my personal relationships, or my relationship with the world. It works. It's fine™. But it's of the size, and shape, and nature such that modern methods of transitioning would not only be not enough to pass, but not enough to make the body I see in the mirror match the body I see in my mind. This is important to me; my level of dysphoria makes me sad, but it isn't to the degree that I'm a danger to myself. Perhaps the hormone therapy would alleviate some of that, but until science can take a foot off my height and change the proportions of my skeleton, it's not gonna solve the issue. So, for now I just work with what I have. I enforce self-ownership of my body with piercings and tattoos for the time being; those, at least, I have control over.

    My sexuality is broad, but simple: I like cute people, sometimes several at a time.
    The words for that are pansexual, and polyamorous. A little more specifically, I like girly girls, average girls, masculine girls, enbies, trans-men, trans-girls, twinks, and feminine men. Really, I'm only just not interested in average guys or manly men. That's never changed, but I wasn't aware of all that from day one. It took some time, and porn, to realize who all I was into. Outside of a shortly lived, "Am I gay??? D:" in my early teens, I've had no problems with who I am.
    Poly I didn't realize at first either, but mostly because I wasn't aware that having multiple, concurrent romantic relationships was an option. Like my sexuality, the internet informed me of possibilities, and I recognized "I am that" or "I am into that".

    I don't really see any of this changing. None of it has changed in the decade+ since I've awakened to these things, and my feelings on the matter have never wavered. There's always uncertainty in the future, but there's only so much wiggle-room for me to explore that I don't already encompass.

    11 votes
  10. Comment on How do you find flights? in ~tech

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    I've used SkyScanner for a number of years now. It'll price check a ton of airlines for the dates and times you need, and there's a feature that allows you to see if pushing your takeoff/return by...

    I've used SkyScanner for a number of years now.

    It'll price check a ton of airlines for the dates and times you need, and there's a feature that allows you to see if pushing your takeoff/return by some days in either direction would save you money.

    I like it.

    Thanks for coming to my TED Talk.

    3 votes
  11. Comment on Star Trek: Picard S01E01 - Remembrance in ~tv

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    I enjoyed this first episode. My one issue with it is that I question the wisdom of killing Dahj so soon after her introduction. The writers spent time empathy-building, and developing the mystery...

    I enjoyed this first episode. My one issue with it is that I question the wisdom of killing Dahj so soon after her introduction. The writers spent time empathy-building, and developing the mystery surrounding her background throughout the entire episode. Ending the first episode of ten with her (apparent?) death feels.. premature? As a viewer I'm curious about her twin, but I don't care about her—not yet, anyway.

    The opening dream sequence nearly made me cry. TNG is one of my dear favorites, offering smarts and daring to dream. Seeing just how old Picard and Data have become, that's hard. The Reaper comes for us all in time, but I don't want the dream to end, either.

    Some of the action feels a bit discordant with the tone I had expectations for, but I'm very interested to see what the next nine episodes have to bring to the party.

    btw, I think it's infinitely charming Picard has a dog named Number One.

    3 votes
  12. Comment on IRGC: Missile attack on US base in Iraq is revenge for Soleimani killing in ~news

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    This is correct.

    So based off what you're saying, the ball is now back in Trump's court in terms of escalation

    This is correct.

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  13. Comment on IRGC: Missile attack on US base in Iraq is revenge for Soleimani killing in ~news

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    Resident guy who knows things, popping in. Yesterday around around lunch, Kandahar Air Base got a warning over the Big Voice. After what feels like forever carrying our fucking armor around...

    Resident guy who knows things, popping in.

    Yesterday around around lunch, Kandahar Air Base got a warning over the Big Voice.

    wooOOOOOO MISSILE INBOUND. SEEK IMMEDIATE SHELTER.
    INCOMING INCOMING INCOMING. ROCKET ATTACK.

    After what feels like forever carrying our fucking armor around everywhere with an air of anticipatory anxiety, everyone about shit themselves running for the bunkers.

    There was not, in fact, a missile inbound. Ten minutes before the 'All Clear' was given, I'd done the math and heard no booms; I knew this must have been a false alarm, likely something was detected and an alert was put out in caution. However, for a short time I was shitting myself along with everyone else.

    I was woken up last night with another announcement that shit had gone down.

    I say this to contextualize what I'm about to tell you:

    DON'T PANIC

    At least, not in the short term.

    The information is all over the place in open-source; from 'everything is fine', to 'WW3 heating up'.

    Since I can't go and give you anything more substantial, I have two sources to present to you, and while one of them is historically unreliable, these are the two things I want to highlight and for y'all to focus on:

    @JZarif

    Iran took & concluded proportionate measures in self-defense under Article 51 of UN Charter targeting base from which cowardly armed attack against our citizens & senior officials were launched.

    We do not seek escalation or war, but will defend ourselves against any aggression.

    @realDonaldTrump

    All is well! Missiles launched from Iran at two military bases located in Iraq. Assessment of casualties & damages taking place now. So far, so good! We have the most powerful and well equipped military anywhere in the world, by far! I will be making a statement tomorrow morning.

    Now, let's see if I can't ease some of your anxieties.

    • The Ayatollah knows an all-out war would leave him dead and Tehran in ruins.

    • Iran needs to have done something, because saving face and politics.

    • There are no casualties reported.

    • "Iran took & concluded proportionate measures"

    • Iranian news media is reporting a great success.

    • POTUS is saying all is well.

    From these bullets here is a probable takeaway:

    America assassinated a high-level, and publicly-loved Iranian military figure.
    Iran is pissed, but knows that striking back would escalate.
    They must respond in some way, or look weak. (looks matter in GeoPol)
    Strike a base, leaving zero casualties, claim success.
    Tell your people you've had your revenge.
    Tell the World you've had your revenge.
    *wink*

    Essentially:

    "America, we did this to appease our population. We didn't hurt anyone. Let's call it even, and we can avoid war."

    I can't say anything to back this up more substantially. But I will tell you that I don't have information that would counter this conclusion.

    It's a lot to ask a reasonable person to have faith in Trump—I certainly don't. However, if he can avoid giving a fire & brimstone statement in the morning, I think the Nation and Military of Iran will be content to let this go.

    26 votes
  14. Comment on Iran's Qassem Soleimani killed in US airstrike at Baghdad airport in ~news

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    This. [Noise x1] For personal context on some of the potential repercussions, Kandahar Air Base has been on alert for the past two days. I've got to lug my fucking body armor around everywhere,...

    This. [Noise x1]


    For personal context on some of the potential repercussions, Kandahar Air Base has been on alert for the past two days. I've got to lug my fucking body armor around everywhere, and try to sleep through the Big Voice reminding everyone to have their fucking armor within 20 sec/20 meters all through the night. I imagine a similar experience throughout the region right now.

    Iran is likely to hit back, in some way, shape, or form. How big of a response likely depends on what they think they can get away with, without escalating to a point that would leave Tehran leveled and millions dead.

    I'd give a 50/50 of either a tit-for-tat attempted/successful assassination of a high-level US General/Official, or a more generalized attack on one/multiple US interests (not necessarily US-owned) in the AO—whether that may be embassies, airfields, bases, or naval assets. Personally, given even odds, I'd bet on a generalized attack through a Qod-financed/supported proxy that would give Ayatollah Khomeini the plausible cover to hurt US interests without having it be explicitly, obviously Iran, or risking open war with what he must surely see as an unstable and/or unpredictable man.

    Soleimani was not a good man, and I'm not upset at his death. But I do see the strike as reckless, pointlessly aggressive, and this will end in blood spilled that didn't have to be. The Middle East is a powder-keg; if ever there is a breaking point and we see the major players in open combat, it's going to be a horror-show. The President we have is not the one I'd trust to know when to back down.

    These times are getting too interesting.

    12 votes
  15. Is Our Civilization About To Collapse? | Why Everything Might Be Okay

    Joe Scott from Answers With Joe presents to us this two-parter on a look at the next ten years; instead of looking back at the close of this decade1, we look forward to the next. There's plenty to...

    Joe Scott from Answers With Joe presents to us this two-parter on a look at the next ten years; instead of looking back at the close of this decade1, we look forward to the next.
    There's plenty to be fearful of in our future, but it's not all dark.

    Is Our Civilization About To Collapse? [22m05s]

    Why Everything Might Be Okay [17m43s]

    Be safe tonight, y'all; if you do drink, don't drive. If you do drive, don't drink.
    We only get one chance to be alive.

    Happy New Years, everyone. 🎉


    1 Yes, the decade may technically not end for another year, but.. common-use language.

    8 votes
  16. Comment on I need to talk about The Witcher! in ~tv

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    Context: My experience with The Witcher is that I know it exists, and my partner enjoys the games. That's about it. I just finished the first episode, and I can't watch more than one a day without...

    Context: My experience with The Witcher is that I know it exists, and my partner enjoys the games. That's about it.

    I just finished the first episode, and I can't watch more than one a day without sacrificing sleep—something I am unwilling to do. I am tempted, however.

    I thoroughly enjoyed myself for this first hour. I don't know the world, but I think I've had a good intro to it. I think the acting is good, as is the cinematography, sound design, and most of the VFX. The writing seemed good, but I can't personally compare with the source material. My virgin eyes are eager to watch the rest of it as I can at least, and that's more than I expected. If the rest is on a similar level, I anticipate that I'll continue to enjoy it quite a lot.


    Unrelated tangent: the actress for Renfri was extremely cute; I'm an absolute sucker for eyes like hers. Is there a word/term for that? Round, big, slightly not so withdrawn into the skull as average? I always notice those with eyes like that, but I never know how to properly describe it.


    Merry Christmas edit: I am a dirty liar. I got far more sucked in to this story than I anticipated, and lost several hours sleep watching 2–3 episodes each night before bed.
    Holy shit.
    It took me until the fourth episode to fully realize that this story was being told in a non-linear, asynchronous way—though I suspected there was something going on during episode three when young Foltrest was shown. Until Yennefer mentioned having done shit for three-decades I didn't know that magicy folk lived for hundreds of years in this world.

    I really feel at a disadvantage trying to review an adapted piece of media, so I largely won't. I really loved it, and I teared up to fuck during Yennefer unleashing her chaos in the finale, and again with Geralt and Ciri finally uniting. A week ago I didn't know these characters names, after eight hours of content my heart is benig swung by their actions. That's good shit right there.
    10/10, I had fun and I don't want to wait a year+ for another season.

    3 votes
  17. Comment on Who are some creators that are doing interesting things on the internet right now? in ~misc

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    Wintergatan, and his Marble Machine. You might be familiar with his prototype, which went viral in 2016. You might have noticed, if you browse ~creative, that for the past few years he's been hard...

    Wintergatan, and his Marble Machine.

    You might be familiar with his prototype, which went viral in 2016. You might have noticed, if you browse ~creative, that for the past few years he's been hard at work making the Marble Machine X—a non-shitty version he can take on tour and perform several different songs during each show.

    I look forward to Wintergatan Wednesdays in which we get an update and see what kind of progress has been make. It's been a real treat to see this thing take form, and going back to grab that playlist link is mind-blowing; a lot has happened since the beginning.

    8 votes
  18. Comment on The Mandalorian | S01E06: The Prisoner in ~tv

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    Sounds like "little", and follows the naming conventions of the only other two of their species seen on screen: Yoda & Yaddle. Plus it sounds cute to my ears.

    (I hear you calling him Yiddle, where did that come from?)

    Sounds like "little", and follows the naming conventions of the only other two of their species seen on screen: Yoda & Yaddle. Plus it sounds cute to my ears.

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