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  1. Comment on Men Have No Friends and Women Bear the Burden in ~life

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    If you don't like these men, then don't date them. Don't tolerate two years of your partner refusing to get a therapist like in the article, which is the example listed for women who are starting...

    If you don't like these men, then don't date them. Don't tolerate two years of your partner refusing to get a therapist like in the article, which is the example listed for women who are starting to hold their men accountable. The next "romantic prospect" (implying a relatively short-term relationship) she had had to literally say out loud that he expected her to act as his therapist before she cut him loose. The weak examples seem to indirectly suggest that most women still find these men attractive and tolerable for one reason or another as long as they don't immediately throw up massive red flags. Plenty of men are attracted to tomboys (women who buck their gender role), but a non-pejorative synonym for men doesn't exist (the closest is the word sissy). That's part of a disconnect I perceive - we're officially told we should move beyond toxic masculinity, but there doesn't seem to be much room for us (compared to women) to buck our traditional gender role without negatively impacting our dating life.

    Another issue is male strength. Much like for small and large dogs, society has very differing tolerances for how emotional and expressive weak and strong people can be. Society encourages us men, especially the biggest and strongest among us, to be stoic as a way to regulate our strength. If I was half as expressive and outspoken as my mother or some women I know, I would be terrifying people on a regular basis (which is also why black men face additional headwinds as the article describes). It's not practical to try to pick and choose when to be stoic - you internalize it because it needs to be your instinctual reaction to keep yourself safe (cops and men trying to pick fights) and to help others feel safe. Women might find Jason Momoa attractive in the movie Aquaman, but in real life if you strip that fame and recognition from him, then one false or misread expression and the mood or situation can quickly turn bad. For all the ways stoicism can hurt men, it helps protect us in other ways.

    8 votes
  2. Comment on Removing Love Locks From Bridges & Statues (Honest Guide) in ~misc

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    The government also has a responsibility to the locals that deal with the negative effects of tourism. If the tourism is really so economically beneficial, then since the government allows it, it...

    The government also has a responsibility to the locals that deal with the negative effects of tourism. If the tourism is really so economically beneficial, then since the government allows it, it should also be actively working to clean up the mess tourists leave behind, with a profit realized afterwards. Your bans might help, but what, the government had no clue what was happening to its bridges and the risk posed to them? Officials were greedy or incompetent, regardless of the blame the tourists deserve.

    I don't disagree that the government should try to curb destructive behavior, preferably by encouraging alternative traditions and experiences that are less impactful on the area, but tourists alone don't make a bridge collapse.

    4 votes
  3. Comment on Top streamers can be offered $50,000 an hour or more to play new games in ~games

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    A streamer playing a game is basically a better form of the demo from a marketing perspective. Demos fell out of favor after companies realized that it whet peoples' appetite for the game too...

    A streamer playing a game is basically a better form of the demo from a marketing perspective. Demos fell out of favor after companies realized that it whet peoples' appetite for the game too well, but watching a game isn't the same as playing it. Streamers to an extent act as friend simulators, so if you see your friend enjoying a video game, you want to get it as well to enjoy it with them. That makes for an extremely lucrative marketing avenue given the reach of streamers.

    7 votes
  4. Comment on Men Cause 100% of Unwanted Pregnancies in ~misc

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    I was going to go in a different direction with my response, but I think pointing out the fact that the author is Mormon is extremely important context that seems to be being ignored and would be...

    I was going to go in a different direction with my response, but I think pointing out the fact that the author is Mormon is extremely important context that seems to be being ignored and would be helpful for people to understand where she is coming from. In her worldview, the woman would not be pregnant but for a man's aggressive sexual pursuit. About 25% of Americans still find premarital sex to almost always be "wrong", but there is little chastisement of men in the conservative sphere for their role in premarital sex and unwanted pregnancies. This is why the author immediately mentioning that she is Mormon is relevant beyond it serving to surprise you that an adherent of a conservative strain of Christianity is publishing this article - she is presumably pro-life. Many Mormons aren't perfect as humans aren't perfect, but for all the Mormons I've known, they try to live up to their ideals more than most people. That's why they get married young and fast - they've convinced their men to uphold their part of the deal in trying to minimize premarital sex and unwanted pregnancies, consequently leading to less of a need for abortions. Those sorts of relationship dynamics can have their own negative consequences, but that's less relevant for the matter of pregnancies and this discussion.

    So the author probably has that experience with her husband. It's my perception that Mormon men assume a lot more responsibility for their sexual actions as compared to other men. If you haven't had experiences with Mormons, that's important background to keep in mind for the article. In her bubble of the world, the men are more sexually responsible, and for her it probably seems like all the men outside of her bubble are considerably less so. Most conservatives focus only on sexually controlling their women while Mormons focus on controlling both the men and women. The word "control" might seem extreme, but I mean that even in a relatively benign sense for something as simple as parents encouraging their daughters to wait for the right man, but not telling their sons to wait for the right woman. For all the talk of the sanctity of human life and viewing abortion at any stage as literal murder, you'd think there would be more effort in getting men to play their part in reducing unwanted pregnancies. So that's the disconnect and hypocrisy she may be seeing and raging against, that she sees only half of the problem being addressed. She does throw out some ludicrous, not fully informed suggestions, but if you view a zygote as fully human, extreme measures are warranted, however the larger conservative world seems uninterested in other solutions beyond banning abortion and hoping for the best. She may even want abortion bans, but that's only a top-down legislative solution, and she's advocating here for a bottom-up cultural solution that most conservatives don't seem to consider. (For additional context of Mormonism, they aren't officially against birth control and don't view sex as solely for procreation.)

    So for all the faults you can find in the article, I think it's an important and rarely heard conservative viewpoint. How is this article useful to you then if you're pro-choice? It gives you additional rhetorical tools against pro-lifers. The traditional arguments of "Why don't conservatives fund sexual education and birth control if they care so much about abortion?" ring hollow because the average person is in no position to directly influence that funding, but all of us have a hand in shaping the sexual culture. Yes they elect Republican politicians, but I wouldn't want to be judged by my Democratic politicians. If you try to shift the conversation to men's role in unwanted pregnancies and abortions, it's more persuasive because men may think "Whoa, I don't want that responsibility, I guess I'm okay with women getting abortions then" or they'll think "Yeah, you're right, I also personally play an important role in reducing abortions and I need to own up to that and change my behavior." You may not necessarily want them to think the latter, but it's a less hypocritical worldview compared to the alternative and it would lead to fewer unwanted pregnancies which is an outcome everyone wants. Honestly it may even be a way to get men on board with some aspects of #MeToo, because more formal relationship practices like affirmative consent make everyone involved double check their actions and consider the consequences.

    This is probably the key point of the article:

    There are often zero consequences for men who cause unwanted pregnancies.

    The common refrain of "She knew the consequences" stands in stark contrast to the fact that the consequences for the same activity for men range from absolutely nothing to less than whatever the woman has to deal with. I rarely if ever hear "He knew the consequences", let alone in a similar tone, even for matters of child support. There are plenty of women who are pro-life, but the framing of blame is still very women-centric, as if they're the only group worth focusing on if you want to reduce unwanted pregnancies and abortion.

    33 votes
  5. Comment on Westworld III - HBO 2020 in ~tv

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    I imagine there will be some twists but I think he's going for more of a reset and won't be dabbling too much in a convoluted structure. He knows season's 2 structure backfired. The twist being...

    I imagine there will be some twists but I think he's going for more of a reset and won't be dabbling too much in a convoluted structure. He knows season's 2 structure backfired. The twist being that it's Futureworld would also need to be emotionally impactful in some way (what does it mean for Aaron Paul's character? Dolores?) all while hiding that the setting is Futureworld. You could only hide behind the sci-fi setting so much before the average person realizes the sacrifices being made in the narrative and direction are to keep up the facade. And you'd need a reason to hide it - that'd be like trying to pass off season 1 as a normal western romp before revealing at the end that it's a futuristic Western-themed playground. For what purpose?

    Per the "subversion" phrase that's become a meme, it seems audiences are increasingly desiring sincerity in their storytelling, so twists or convoluted structure increasingly need to be justified. With the streaming era and social media, people are nitpicking story structure and sharing those criticisms like never before.

    3 votes
  6. Comment on 52 years after the murder of Susan Galvin, Seattle police use family DNA to identify the killer in ~science

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    It may be because it's a game change. The compromise previously was "We'll only have your DNA if you were arrested before", now without public consent it's effectively changed to "We have your...

    It may be because it's a game change. The compromise previously was "We'll only have your DNA if you were arrested before", now without public consent it's effectively changed to "We have your DNA". You might still be okay with that if given the pros and cons, but you didn't have a choice and weren't sold on it, which matters just as much to people.

    4 votes
  7. Comment on Data shows “Game of Thrones” is taking a historic critical nosedive in ~tv

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    Review aggregators are very useful if you don't take them at face value but instead see how it lines up with your experiences. For example, you have to learn that arthouse or indie movies will...

    Review aggregators are very useful if you don't take them at face value but instead see how it lines up with your experiences. For example, you have to learn that arthouse or indie movies will likely score high regardless of their general appeal. Later seasons of TV shows almost always trend upwards because mostly only the critics who continue to enjoy it will be watching and publishing reviews. Is it a middling score on RT? If it's from a genre or IP I like, I'll probably enjoy it, otherwise I'll be given pause. So on and so forth.

    Basically aggregators are useful as long as you're aware of the biases in the system. So they may not be accurate or trustworthy at face value, but they are still useful once you suss out the biases for the content you're interested in. That's not a glowing endorsement, but it's preferable to rely on that compared to promotional material, knowing nothing at all, or waiting for word of mouth that may take forever or not even come.

    4 votes
  8. Comment on The Teacher Shortage is Real, Large and Growing, and Worse Than We Thought (Part 1) in ~life

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    It seems like an issue with education is that everyone has taken it for granted. We don't want to pay teachers, businesses don't want to train workers, and we don't make college affordable. And...

    It seems like an issue with education is that everyone has taken it for granted. We don't want to pay teachers, businesses don't want to train workers, and we don't make college affordable. And that's just financial aspects. It all seems broke top to bottom, whether in terms of making good workers or good citizens, where we have systematic dysfunctions built in and worsening over time.

    One step even seems obvious enough: if we have a surplus of educated people who can't get jobs befitting their degree, then a teacher shortage is the perfect way to scoop up all those people and to churn out an amazing generation of students, but teachers are so underpaid, little respected and overworked that it doesn't even register as an option for most.

    9 votes
  9. Comment on U.S. Births Fell To A 32-Year Low In 2018; CDC Says Birthrate Is In Record Slump in ~news

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    That's all true but my point is about the actual reason for the drop in birthrate, for the U.S. in particular. Climate change is an easy, virtuous excuse for many millennials to proffer that...

    That's all true but my point is about the actual reason for the drop in birthrate, for the U.S. in particular. Climate change is an easy, virtuous excuse for many millennials to proffer that minimizes backlash questioning or prodding from relatives, but generations before us have dealt with existential anxieties, political turmoil, etc. We've known about climate change since long before the Great Recession. There's not a huge baby bump among conservatives in the U.S. while liberal fertility is cratering. All I'm trying to say is that it's not convincing to me that a significant amount of the birthrate drop can be attributed to climate change worries, especially in the U.S. which is the epicenter of climate change denial in the Western world.

    3 votes
  10. Comment on U.S. Births Fell To A 32-Year Low In 2018; CDC Says Birthrate Is In Record Slump in ~news

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    Climate change by itself won't cause our extinction, and nuclear war almost broke out many times but for one decision or factor - it was more serious than "maybe".

    Climate change by itself won't cause our extinction, and nuclear war almost broke out many times but for one decision or factor - it was more serious than "maybe".

    2 votes
  11. Comment on U.S. Births Fell To A 32-Year Low In 2018; CDC Says Birthrate Is In Record Slump in ~news

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    People had kids while fearing nuclear winter. Existential concerns have been around for generations, financial pressures less so. Climate change is even less of a factor in the U.S. given the...

    People had kids while fearing nuclear winter. Existential concerns have been around for generations, financial pressures less so. Climate change is even less of a factor in the U.S. given the prevalence of denial or mitigation.

    4 votes
  12. Comment on Alabama Senate passes nation’s most restrictive abortion ban, which makes no exceptions for victims of rape and incest in ~news

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    Say Roe v. Wade is overturned - what exactly does this mean for Americans besides restricting abortion access? My understanding is that abortion rights are granted through an implicit right to...

    Say Roe v. Wade is overturned - what exactly does this mean for Americans besides restricting abortion access? My understanding is that abortion rights are granted through an implicit right to privacy gleaned in the Constitution, so without Roe v. Wade as a safeguard, what are the possible ramifications for non-abortion activities?

    8 votes
  13. Comment on This Week in Election Night, 2020 (Week 8) in ~news

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    I see the spirit of this point a lot but what always comes to mind to me is that Clinton had more votes than Trump. Person by person, people preferred Clinton by the millions. No, she didn't win...

    Uhg I am already so sick of hearing about Joe Biden. Are the Democrats not going to learn the lesson of anointing a candidate? Are they not going to learn the lesson of developing a tepid, uninspiring "middle-ground" platform which corresponds to exactly no one's real political desires? When are these idiots gonna start appealing to non-voters instead of this idiotic drift to the right?

    I see the spirit of this point a lot but what always comes to mind to me is that Clinton had more votes than Trump. Person by person, people preferred Clinton by the millions. No, she didn't win the electoral college, and people might vote differently in a popular vote system, but Trump didn't correlate to a lot of people's "real political desires" either, he just happened to get the right votes in the right places.

    If we ran another Clinton with a bit more focus on Midwest/Rust belt states so they don't lose a bevy of electors by 100k votes, then it's an easy Democratic victory. Biden isn't my pick but if we end up with "Clinton 2.0", he can easily win by learning from the mistakes of Clinton assuming Trump performs similarly to before.

    1 vote
  14. Comment on This Week in Election Night, 2020 (Week 8) in ~news

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    Warren seems to be gaining momentum lately which I'm happy about, but for all this it's worth keeping in mind just how absurdly early this press coverage all is. There's plenty of time for the...

    Warren seems to be gaining momentum lately which I'm happy about, but for all this it's worth keeping in mind just how absurdly early this press coverage all is. There's plenty of time for the race for the Democratic nomination to change wildly before the first delegates are awarded.

    6 votes
  15. Comment on Exclusivity creates oligopolies and we need an antitrust case before industries collapse. in ~talk

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    To elaborate, the benefit would be that there is increased competition on the platform itself. The spun off entities of HBO and Netflix would be competing on their streaming technology and user...

    Well, it's really just a facade. You don't go to any of those platforms for their features or service, you go there for their IP-type content (Movies, Shows, Games).

    To elaborate, the benefit would be that there is increased competition on the platform itself. The spun off entities of HBO and Netflix would be competing on their streaming technology and user interface, not on the appeal of their content. This would of course completely blow up the industry if they were forced to do it, but it's an intriguing idea. It'd be like if theaters competed on the biggest, best experience possible, all without restrictions of physical space affecting them (i.e. you aren't likely to drive 100 miles to a better theater, but that's a moot issue for streaming). The gaming industry would face even more issues though as there are much more costs in making content playable on any device, such as an Xbox or computer, so mandating they not engage in the practice of exclusives creates substantial technical issues and costs.

  16. Comment on Exclusivity creates oligopolies and we need an antitrust case before industries collapse. in ~talk

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    To my knowledge there's nothing that stops anyone from recreating and selling a Big Mac, the only issue would be that you can't use the name.

    Like there's only one place that sells Big Macs.

    To my knowledge there's nothing that stops anyone from recreating and selling a Big Mac, the only issue would be that you can't use the name.

    2 votes
  17. Comment on But Do You Want Dylann Roof To Have Rights? in ~news

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    If an election comes down to Dylann Roof's vote, many other things went wrong before then. We can no longer trust that loopholes will not be exploited. America already has the highest...

    If an election comes down to Dylann Roof's vote, many other things went wrong before then. We can no longer trust that loopholes will not be exploited. America already has the highest incarceration rate in the world - this loophole is basically already being exploited by some politicians to depress turnout among groups that would naturally vote against them. You already have politicians shamelessly admit that they gerrymander on the basis of partisanship. Why not fear that it will be further exploited?

    We've seen what we get when we trust in norms and people's better nature. Our democracy faces a much greater threat from the existence of this loophole than whatever threat a prison population being able to vote poses. Many other countries functioning better than the U.S. allow prisoners to vote and the sky isn't falling there. Prisoners not being able to vote gives fascism a route to assert control over our democracy - whatever threat a prisoner voting poses is paltry by comparison to that existential threat.

    5 votes
  18. Comment on Taking mushrooms for depression cured me of my atheism: Psilocybin not only eased my depression, it showed me a new way to live. in ~misc

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    I'd be interested in hearing more about the third of atheists who continued to identify as such and what their experiences were with it and what their backgrounds are, to see if I might model them...

    I'd be interested in hearing more about the third of atheists who continued to identify as such and what their experiences were with it and what their backgrounds are, to see if I might model them if I also took psilocybin. I only used marijuana edibles after it became legal in my state, which did make me experience a burst of empathy, but I would only describe it as emotional empathy because I was intellectually already "there" in terms of the actions, policies, etc. I would expect an empathetic individual to support.

    I have a deeply scientific view of reality and this wasn't challenged despite some deep trips, it only made me appreciate the gulf of knowledge between what we know and what we don't about the universe. I felt no urge to fill in this gulf with God or an equivalent. I have experienced no perceived change in self despite the habit and no one else has remarked that they've witnessed a change in my personality or worldviews. The induced introspection only led to greater self-understanding, not change of self.

    Anyways, psilocybin would obviously be its own separate beast and I'd be curious to try it as part of a trial or if it became legal. I only tried drugs as a 20 something once I felt confident they would not change me mentally (alcohol was a bore). I feel confident I would remain an atheist, and if I didn't, then oh well I suppose? Plenty of rational, virtuous people are religious so it's not like I consider it to be a terrible outcome. The author appears to have been much more vindictive towards religion than I am. It seems she was emotionally soured off religion rather than intellectually, which may explain why she found her way back to it once psilocybin helped her resolve those emotional hangups. Unlike her anecdote, I have no defining experience for what drove me away. I don't even remember when I stopped believing in a Christian God, I never swore off religion. A lot of atheists seem to have some defining emotional event like the author so I wonder if that's the difference for the two thirds of people who stopped identifying as atheist.

    8 votes
  19. Comment on Watchmen - Official Teaser in ~tv

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    I like the aesthetic shown a lot and Lindelof has my trust after The Leftovers. Depending on how "artsy" it is, it could be the next Game of Thrones in terms of popularity. It has prestige appeal...

    I like the aesthetic shown a lot and Lindelof has my trust after The Leftovers. Depending on how "artsy" it is, it could be the next Game of Thrones in terms of popularity. It has prestige appeal through HBO and Lindelof and mass appeal through its superhero hook and Watchmen IP. Plus I'm convinced that the next Game of Thrones will only arise through a weekly release schedule rather than through binge releases.

    5 votes
  20. Comment on Why we need to reinvent democracy for the long term in ~science

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    I'm not really sure this theory applies currently which sort of renders your concerns moot to me. Politicians have long lacked subject matter expertise. I get not wanting someone completely...

    Current democratic theory holds that votes keep elected officials accountable, and if they choose bad advisors, they'll be removed from office in 2-6 years

    I'm not really sure this theory applies currently which sort of renders your concerns moot to me. Politicians have long lacked subject matter expertise. I get not wanting someone completely ignorant in office though, but part of political campaigning is convincing people you know about the details when you don't. That lack of expertise also makes them lean on the people who helped get them to where they were, which is part of the issue with nepotism and money in politics. A randomly appointed politician has zero accountability to their advisors. They can rebuff them all they want unlike someone who is mindful of their relationship with campaign coffers contributors.

    3 votes