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  1. Comment on Now is not the time to lose our humanity: Some DOs and DO NOTs in ~talk

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    🤔 Curious ↗️ Off-topic I wonder if this could be helped if there were easier ways to indicate tone/emotion through text. A radical suggestion: Add a mood/tone option for each comment. Just, a...

    🤔 Curious ↗️ Off-topic

    I wonder if this could be helped if there were easier ways to indicate tone/emotion through text.

    A radical suggestion: Add a mood/tone option for each comment. Just, a little selector of feelings before you submit each comment, kind of like the status updates on old school messenger clients. Maybe an emoji and/or descriptor shows up somewhere.

    It would add clutter and probably wouldn't be the highest-priority feature, but I like the idea of experimenting with communication for the sake of community-building.

    🔄 Edit: Eh, maybe not a selector. Self-tagging comments could be neat for this, though.

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  2. Comment on How is site growth? I have joined a year ago, looks like comment and upvote activity has died down a bit in ~tildes

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    ↗️ Off-topic Not sure if PiHole allows for this, but have you tried blocking the Reddit pages that turn into time-sinks (e.g. /r/all or subreddits) but leaving individual posts whitelisted? When I...

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    Not sure if PiHole allows for this, but have you tried blocking the Reddit pages that turn into time-sinks (e.g. /r/all or subreddits) but leaving individual posts whitelisted? When I tried this last with a browser blocker, I made a regex pattern that involved the "/comments/" bit of the url.

    This allowed me to read any posts I came across while web searching (I use "site:reddit.com" a lot when searching for info), but cut out the bits that kept me trapped on there. :)


    🔄 Edit: Just an update, Pi-Hole only blocks DNS queries. That means it tries to intercept the process of looking up the IP address corresponding to the specific host/domain name of the site you're trying to browse (e.g. example.com). The only information Pi-Hole has to work with is the domain name bit of the URL, and not the path part, so it can't do the blocking I was hoping it could do.

    And to learn this, I only had to waste most of my day setting up my own Pi-Hole and trouble-shooting DHCP/DNS nonsense! I know slightly more about networking that I did 7 hours ago! Thanks, executive dysfunction-fueled procrastination.

    If you're curious about the regex pattern I tried to use, it would have been this one: (^|\.)reddit\.com((?!\/comments\/).)*$. Should work fine if you use a browser extension blocker like LeechBlock. Hooray for negative lookaheads!

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  3. Comment on April is canceled in ~life

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    Thanks for clarifying! I think what you've written makes a lot of sense. You're absolutely right in that I have qualms with the capitalist side of sites like this, and the push to be productive...

    Thanks for clarifying! I think what you've written makes a lot of sense. You're absolutely right in that I have qualms with the capitalist side of sites like this, and the push to be productive and create value even in times of crisis.

    I mean, yes, there's the macho-style "GET DOWN ON YOUR KNEES, PRIVATE" military type motivation, which I think is only seen as masculine because of the military being primarily (or sometimes exclusively) male. But I'm not reading that in the site, and I don't think that's what you're reading in this either?

    The masculine trait I read in sites like /r/GetMotivated is the "harden up" kind of resilience. "Things may be tough, but you have to suck it up and push through it anyway." I find that to be a lot more traditionally masculine, as opposed to the "things are tough, so it's perfectly understandable for you to not have the capacity to push through it. You're human, you have emotions" kind of understanding.

    But, I think I may have been projecting my dislike of /r/GetMotivated too much onto this website. Thanks for calling me out on that.

    Am curious to read your separate thread. :)

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  4. Comment on April is canceled in ~life

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    Ah! Sorry, I didn't mean male as in, inherent to all men. I meant in terms of the demographics of Tildes leaning more masculine, hence there being more people who connect with harsh/blunt/forceful...

    Ah! Sorry, I didn't mean male as in, inherent to all men. I meant in terms of the demographics of Tildes leaning more masculine, hence there being more people who connect with harsh/blunt/forceful motivation.

    If you're male and that kind of motivation doesn't resonate with you, then no worries! :>

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  5. Comment on April is canceled in ~life

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    You say websites have zero power/influence, but I don't think that's at all true. Words from a stranger on the internet can absolutely have power and influence. :V In an immediate sense, words...

    You say websites have zero power/influence, but I don't think that's at all true. Words from a stranger on the internet can absolutely have power and influence. :V

    In an immediate sense, words convey ideas, and ideas can trigger reactions in us as we process them. If someone can consistently trigger emotions like fear, panic, or shame in others by sharing certain ideas, then I certainly consider that person to be wielding power.

    In a more long-term sense, what we read and experience informs our worldview, too. Definitely in a subconscious sense, as we survey our environment and try to build an understanding of what's going on outside of us. But, also in a conscious sense, too. If someone is in a vulnerable place and looking for guidance, for example, it wouldn't be unreasonable for them try to learn from what they read, and balance those ideas with what they already believe.

    There are all sorts of examples we can point to that demonstrate the effect words have on the internet. The power of news headlines to draw attention or spark fear and uncertainty. The power of targeted harassment to cause someone to feel threatened and unsafe. The influence homogeneous internet communities can have on users' perspectives, even.

    To tie this into the other thread...

    And neither do you if you so choose.

    If you're working, then work.

    If it's become a dependency or compulsion then it's no different than the same for alcohol and it's time to make the choice to seek help and "step away."

    The way you write your other comments, it seems like you believe strongly in personal responsibility, and in the ability for someone to address problems by taking action on their own.

    But... I don't think everything we think and feel can be a conscious, informed decision or reaction. Some bits of our functioning are really difficult (if not impossible) to disrupt, control, or change. Sometimes we really are at the mercy of our own wiring. Other times, even if changing our reactions is possible, that process can be drawn-out and labour-intensive (e.g. therapy). The ability to follow through on that isn't always a luxury someone has.

    To be honest, I don't even think personal change is something that should be expected of individuals all the time. IMO a lot of the time the best solution is a compromise between a person and their environment, rather than placing the onus entirely on the individual to change. (As a side note, a good tangent from this is the "Social model of disability" which informs a lot of my perspective on this. Would recommend looking into further!)

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  6. Comment on April is canceled in ~life

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    CC @ThatFanficGuy, @Pariliament, @AugustusFerdinand: I definitely felt "pressure" and not "inspiration". Different strokes for different folks, I guess. I abhor the Drill Sergeant-esque "barking...

    CC @ThatFanficGuy, @Pariliament, @AugustusFerdinand:

    I definitely felt "pressure" and not "inspiration". Different strokes for different folks, I guess. I abhor the Drill Sergeant-esque "barking in your face" hyperbole and blunt language of communities like /r/GetMotivated. The OP website is a more subtle version of this, but it's still too forceful for me.

    If you're voluntarily consenting to this kind of language because you like it or find it motivating, sure, all power to you. Subscribe to /r/GetMotivated, bookmark this website. But, not everyone derives motivation from the same sources. Not everyone likes getting roped into statements with absolutes like "Let's all become Isaac Newton this month."

    Personally, I'm much more motivated by caring, nurturing language and curiosity/interest. A helping hand from ahead, rather than a shove from behind. I shrink and wither when I read stuff like this. It's painful and demotivating.

    also, part of me wonders how much the immediate "but acktually, it's motivating, don't you see" responses have do to with the masculine nature of this kind of motivation, and how male-dominated tildes/reddit are right now. but, that's a whole 'nother tangent lmao

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  7. Comment on What's on your bookshelf? in ~books

  8. Comment on What's on your bookshelf? in ~books

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    Top rows, first image: are those all from a certain publisher? They seem like Fancy Versions of popular books... O: You have a very pretty and organized collection. So many hardcovers and special...

    Top rows, first image: are those all from a certain publisher? They seem like Fancy Versions of popular books... O:

    You have a very pretty and organized collection. So many hardcovers and special editions. :>

    Happy to see Gabrielle Belle on your shelf...

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  9. Comment on What is something that you learned/were taught wrong? in ~talk

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    I used to hold my pencil "incorrectly" but had really nice handwriting. I still got shit from my grade school teachers! Then, a few years ago (middle of university studies), I decided to...

    I hold my pencil "incorrectly" and have bad (but not awful) handwriting, plus my hand hurts sometimes if I write much. I don't know for sure that if my Kindergarten teacher had been more strict about how to hold it that these issues would be fixed.

    I used to hold my pencil "incorrectly" but had really nice handwriting. I still got shit from my grade school teachers! Then, a few years ago (middle of university studies), I decided to consciously switch from my style to the "correct" way of holding it. The transition went okay! I think it only took about a week or so, maybe a month at the very worst. No real change in appearance or comfort levels... just conformity. :P

    Ditto for typing. I used to use only three fingers, but had a really quick typing speed (>90WPM). Then, a handful of months ago, I up and decided to switch to home row typing. I now use all of my fingers as I'm "supposed to" and am more or less back up to speed. It was a strange transition, rebuilding the muscle memory on typing websites. It was a huge coding handicap for about 2 weeks. I'm not even sure it was worth it? But it feels so nice when I'm able to get into a burst-y groove now. Much less chaotic on the keyboard.

    All I'm saying here with these anecdotes is, A) brains and bodies are really strange, and there seem to be lots of valid ways to do things (i.e. fuck "correct" ways of doing things!) and B) if you want, you can still change how your brain/body works! It's never too late to go through the process of learning new muscle memory. :)

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  10. Comment on Trump has signed a $2,000,000,000,000 stimulus bill, along with many other leaders in their respective nations in ~finance

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    That absolutely makes a lot of sense in terms of news/reading digest. Without a doubt, there are a lot of scary personal accounts out there right now... TBH I got sucked into a few relevant...

    I'm focussing on the big-picture issues because the personal details frighten the hell out of me.

    That absolutely makes a lot of sense in terms of news/reading digest. Without a doubt, there are a lot of scary personal accounts out there right now... TBH I got sucked into a few relevant /r/AskReddit threads because of the stories told by people who were directly affected by the pandemic. Of course, the most tragic/heart-wrenching/extreme accounts get upvoted to the top. It's hard not to feel disheartened scrolling through those comments. :<

    I think when I wrote the little blurb you quoted, though, I was thinking more about personal action during the pandemic. For me, I gravitate towards the small-scale because that's the scale where I still have agency. I think to myself, "What do I actually have power over right now? What useful things can I do with the (relatively small) amount of resources I have?" I can't do much on a big-picture scale, but I can make a meaningful difference in people's lives on a small scale. Reaching out to people, organizing activities, doing nice things for others, fostering new connections, plain old commiserating... this has all been a healthier outlet for my focus, I think.

    My tl;dr mindset as of late has been "No matter what I do, the pandemic will take its course in more or less the same way. I don't have any control over whether we end up in a depression, or whether China becomes the new superpower. But, there's still so much I can do for my friends and family and community to help weather the storm. This little pocket of life is something I can act within and fight for."

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  11. Comment on Trump has signed a $2,000,000,000,000 stimulus bill, along with many other leaders in their respective nations in ~finance

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    I just tend to be a bit of a grumpy goose when it comes to expressing opinions on subjects like these. (Specifically, questions like "Are we headed towards a recession/depression?" which invite...

    so everyone's opinions are somewhat valid

    I just tend to be a bit of a grumpy goose when it comes to expressing opinions on subjects like these. (Specifically, questions like "Are we headed towards a recession/depression?" which invite blind speculation.) For those situations, I prefer having no opinion over a somewhat valid opinion...

    A single check will help those in need today, but what about a month from now?

    That being said, I do really like what you've added though with this train of thought. It seems much more grounded in the here and now, and speaks to the needs of people who are struggling (or are at risk of struggling in the future.) That feels... more pragmatic to me? So, thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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  12. Comment on Trump has signed a $2,000,000,000,000 stimulus bill, along with many other leaders in their respective nations in ~finance

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    My feelings are: "This is an unprecedented situation and I wouldn't even begin to be able to answer your questions. They're too big to have answers for, even in speculation. I'm just strapping...

    My feelings are: "This is an unprecedented situation and I wouldn't even begin to be able to answer your questions. They're too big to have answers for, even in speculation. I'm just strapping down and doing what I can to ride this out. Hoping for the best and preparing for the worst."

    (Maybe that's too anti-discussion of a response, but the big institutional aspects of the pandemic are hard for me to reason about. I like thinking about the littler instances of humanity and kindness instead.)

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  13. Comment on The right is using COVID-19 to wage war on reusable grocery bags in ~enviro

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    Progress vs. tradition? Change vs. things staying the same? Openness to new ideas? Climate change/global warming requires admitting that things are not fine the way they are, and that things do...

    I'm a bit confused as to why the reusable and disposable bag question is somehow connected with political ideology.

    Progress vs. tradition? Change vs. things staying the same? Openness to new ideas?

    Climate change/global warming requires admitting that things are not fine the way they are, and that things do need to change. It requires folks to say "The way I'm used to doing things (e.g. using plastic bags) isn't good anymore. I need to put in the effort to readjust." Change (especially "green"/environment-focused change) can be painful, too, because it requires facing the guilt/fear from how you've personally contributed to the state of things.

    AFAIK conservatives soothe these feelings with the narrative of "Actually, things are fine the way they are! You don't have to face those feelings, just keep on doing what you're doing. There's nothing wrong! Resist the change. The real reason they're pushing for "progress" is because they want to take away the Good Things you have in your Perfectly Good Situation. If they succeed, well... remember how great things used to be? Let's do what we can to go back to those times."

    I don't think it's usually about the details of the change itself. Even if it would be a positive/beneficial change (as you've described), it's still change, and change would threaten folks' worldviews.

    Besides, don't many people with conservative views complain about things no longer being sturdy and built to last, usually in relation to Chinese manufacturing? Why would they want to demand to be be given cheap, disposable things for free?

    Iunno... I think it tracks for people to hold self-contradictory views. :P

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  14. Comment on Parliament passes Ottawa's $107 billion COVID-19 aid package in ~finance

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    https://assets.documentcloud.org/documents/6818837/C-13-as-passed.pdf With worker being defined as... Hard to say... I didn't "cease work" per se, but a future work opportunity ended before I...

    https://assets.documentcloud.org/documents/6818837/C-13-as-passed.pdf

    Eligibility

    • (1) A worker is eligible for an income support payment if
      • (a) the worker, whether employed or self-employed, ceases working for reasons related to COVID-19 for at least 14 consecutive days within the four-week period in respect of which they apply for the payment; and
      • (b) they do not receive, in respect of the consecutive days on which they have ceased working,
        • (i) subject to the regulations, income from employment or self-employment,
        • (ii) benefits, as defined in subsection 2 (1) of the Employment Insurance Act,
        • (iii) allowances, money or other benefits paid to the worker under a provincial plan because of pregnancy or in respect of the care by the worker of one or15more of their new-born children or one or more children placed with them for the purpose of adoption, or
          (iv) any other income that is prescribed by regulation.

    Exclusion

    • (2) An employed worker does not cease work for the purpose of paragraph (1)(a) if they quit their employment voluntarily.

    With worker being defined as...

    worker means a person who is at least 15 years of age, who is resident in Canada and who, for 2019 or in the 12-month period preceding the day on which they make an application under section 5, has a total income of at least $5,000 — or, if another amount is fixed by regulation, of at least that amount — from the following sources:

    • (a) employment;
    • (b) self-employment;
    • (c) benefits paid to the person under any of subsections 22(1), 23(1), 152.04(1) and 152.05(1) of the Employment Insurance Act; and
    • (d) allowances, money or other benefits paid to the person under a provincial plan because of pregnancy or in respect of the care by the person of one or more of their new-born children or one or more children placed with them for the purpose of adoption.

    Hard to say... I didn't "cease work" per se, but a future work opportunity ended before I could even begin it (for reasons related to COVID-19). I do meet the definition of a worker, though.

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  15. Comment on Parliament passes Ottawa's $107 billion COVID-19 aid package in ~finance

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    I don't know if I qualify for this because I'm technically still a student (even if I've completed all of my degree requirements and was going to graduate in the summer)... but I have earned...

    I don't know if I qualify for this because I'm technically still a student (even if I've completed all of my degree requirements and was going to graduate in the summer)... but I have earned >$5,000 in the past 12 months from a summer job + fall part-time work, and lost my upcoming job specifically because of the coronavirus, so...

    If this is a thing for me, it's a huge breath of relief. I was really scared of burning through my emergency savings over the next summer. Finding employment is hard enough for even without the coronavirus... but this could give me some breathing room... hopefully?

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  16. Comment on Feature request: Polls in ~tildes

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    This is basically how polling tends to work with bots in Discord servers, too, what with choosing emojis (check box and cross mark) to indicate your preference. I've liked it there!

    This is basically how polling tends to work with bots in Discord servers, too, what with choosing emojis (check box and cross mark) to indicate your preference. I've liked it there!

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  17. Comment on Daily coronavirus-related chat, questions, and minor updates - March 23 in ~health.coronavirus

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    Ditto for eating healthier. Well, eating less, but less doesn't necessarily mean eating healthier... For me, it was because of the shock of losing my summer job and realizing I need to start...

    Ditto for eating healthier. Well, eating less, but less doesn't necessarily mean eating healthier...

    For me, it was because of the shock of losing my summer job and realizing I need to start prioritizing a tighter food budget moving forward in 2020. My trips to the grocery store have been with kcal/dollar and nutrients/dollar in mind rather than picking what I like most. Need to see how far I can stretch my savings, assuming I won't have an easy time finding another job.

    Like a lot of people, the coronavirus shone a spotlight on how fragile my financial situation is right now. :<

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  18. Comment on Analysis and Qualitative Effects of Large Breasts on Aerodynamic Performance and Wake of a “Miss Kobayashi’s Dragon Maid” Character in ~anime

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    Dear lord... if you download the PDF, the file is called "Are_Anime_Titties_Aerodynamic.pdf" Of course it's Lucoa, too... The acknowledgements are deserving of a special shoutout... although I'm...

    Dear lord... if you download the PDF, the file is called "Are_Anime_Titties_Aerodynamic.pdf" Of course it's Lucoa, too...

    The acknowledgements are deserving of a special shoutout... although I'm not sure "special" is the right word here.

    The author received no funding for this research. The results of the present study do not constitute endorsement of any potential entity whether expressed or implied. Quetzalcoatl is also not the author’s “waifu”, although he respects her character as T H E G O D D E S S O F T H I C C .

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  19. Comment on Senate Democrats block mammoth coronavirus stimulus package in ~finance

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    https://www.washingtonpost.com/us-policy/2020/03/22/vast-coronavirus-stimulus-bill-limbo-crunch-times-arrives-capitol-hill/ This seems like a more up to date source? (March 22 vs. March 18)

    https://www.washingtonpost.com/us-policy/2020/03/22/vast-coronavirus-stimulus-bill-limbo-crunch-times-arrives-capitol-hill/

    A major sticking point is a $500 billion pool of money for loans and loan guarantees that Republicans want to create, which some Democrats are labeling a “slush fund” because the Treasury Department would have broad discretion over who receives the money. There is little precedent for a program with a similar size and scope.

    [...]

    The biggest subset of this $500 billion fund would be $425 billion in loans and loan guarantees meant to rescue “eligible businesses, states or municipalities.” This part of the bill has attracted particular attention from Democrats, some of whom have alleged it would give the Treasury Department broad sway to direct funds to specific companies that have appealed to the White House. Trump has already talked about how he wants to help the cruise industry and the hotel industry, but dozens of other industries have pleaded for assistance as well. Sen. Elizabeth Warren (D-Mass.) called the bucket of money a “slush fund to boost favored companies and corporate executives - while they continue to pull down huge paychecks and fire their workers."

    This seems like a more up to date source? (March 22 vs. March 18)

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  20. Comment on The iPad cursor is here, no wait required in ~design

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    and Why not both? ;>

    just fairly typical Apple marketing speak

    and

    it's a pretty fucking dumb video

    Why not both? ;>

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