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  1. Comment on Which show kickstarted your interest in anime? in ~anime

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    Yu Yu Hakusho! Another Yoshihiro Togashi fan here. I loved how the villians weren't evil for the sake of being evil, but had real goals and ways of looking at the world differently. Sensui is...

    Yu Yu Hakusho! Another Yoshihiro Togashi fan here. I loved how the villians weren't evil for the sake of being evil, but had real goals and ways of looking at the world differently. Sensui is possibly my favorite villian. Then I watched Cowboy Bebop and Trigun- really fell in love and saw how artistic and meaningful anime could be.

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  2. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (July 2023) in ~health.mental

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    I moved to a big city after accepting a job offer there and it was a large shock to my system. I was running on addrenraline from the moment I accepted the job offer. I remember adjusting to the...

    I moved to a big city after accepting a job offer there and it was a large shock to my system. I was running on addrenraline from the moment I accepted the job offer. I remember adjusting to the time zone and being in an unfamiliar place was really hard. I was able to make friends with coworkers over time but it took a lot of effort. Don't try to do too much too fast, or push yourself too hard. Since you're already burnt out, maybe try reconnecting with some old friends, plan a trip or do something to help you recharge.
    Celebrate your PhD! As for next steps, pick something that is 30% hard and start there. Like, today I'm going to look up 1 moving company and what its rates are. Or I'm going to pack 1 box of things I don't need out. Writing things down on paper can help (it helps me anyway).

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  3. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (July 2023) in ~health.mental

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    I am so glad you did not end it all. Thankful that no one was hurt and that you are talking about it. That sounds so scary. I hope you can find things other than labor to relieve stress!

    I am so glad you did not end it all. Thankful that no one was hurt and that you are talking about it. That sounds so scary. I hope you can find things other than labor to relieve stress!

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  4. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (July 2023) in ~health.mental

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    Congrats on your surgery! Therapy is hard work. It's really admirable that you are doing it and trying to work through things. Imagine what happened to you happened to a close friend of yours....

    Congrats on your surgery! Therapy is hard work. It's really admirable that you are doing it and trying to work through things. Imagine what happened to you happened to a close friend of yours. Would you tell them it's not that bad? Also if it's triggering for you to have past abusers in your life, you have every right to cut contact with them. It doesn't matter how long ago it was. You can always make a new decision, a new choice that has your emotional and physical safety in mind. My advice (acknowledging that I'm ignorant of the complexities and uniqueness of your situation) is to put your well being as a higher priority than the emotions of past abusers.

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  5. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (July 2023) in ~health.mental

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    Yo, I also struggle with anxiety and depression. I used to have panic attacks and after I got out of the hospital I would suddenly have very scary ones for "no reason" at least once a day. I...

    Yo, I also struggle with anxiety and depression. I used to have panic attacks and after I got out of the hospital I would suddenly have very scary ones for "no reason" at least once a day. I realize now it was PTSD from my hospital stay, and adjusting to all the new medications. But at the time I was so afraid of not having control over my mind and body. What really helped me and what I return to every day are skills I learned in (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) DBT. It's a therapy that teaches skills to help when you are emotionally disregulated, and has different modlues. Unlike cognitive behavior therapy, which in my understanding is basically talk therapy, DBT is taught like a class and has a clear end with objectives. I highly recommend it.

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  6. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (July 2023) in ~health.mental

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    That sounds really difficult and stressful. Sending you good vibes and hoping you find a job where you are valued for the work you do. It should be illegal to suddenly change salary type and cut...

    That sounds really difficult and stressful. Sending you good vibes and hoping you find a job where you are valued for the work you do. It should be illegal to suddenly change salary type and cut it like that, especially when you moved there for the job.

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