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  1. Comment on Two more women accuse Neil Gaiman of sexual assault and abuse in ~books

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    Not to nitpick because I do kind of agree but Danny Masterson did get convicted last fall to 30 years in prison.

    These 3 men have not faced legal consequences for their actions

    Not to nitpick because I do kind of agree but Danny Masterson did get convicted last fall to 30 years in prison.

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  2. Comment on The misogyny myth in ~life

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    These right leaning writers and "men's rights activist" types are generally under the same umbrella as reactionaries. Even by their own account (John Tierney, author of the OP's article) they...

    These right leaning writers and "men's rights activist" types are generally under the same umbrella as reactionaries. Even by their own account (John Tierney, author of the OP's article) they refer to themselves as contrarians and it shows in their writing that their only purpose is to rile up a base without offering any solutions. This is particularly glaring in the case of men's issues as a reaction to Me Too and women's empowerment in the face of Dodd, for example: there is no solution, just whataboutisms and vague references to the "other side" getting it better.

    This is a particularly good example of how men's issues should be presented: Men are lost. Here’s a map out of the wilderness.
    The author goes pretty far in explaining that men need good models to follow and describes well enough how these reactionary "Men's rights activists" just don't offer any solutions to the issues they're angry about. She doesn't offer any good specifics as to what that means but she at least acknowledges that there's a lack of Good Men for angry young men to model after as well as identifying that help for women's issues doesn't meat no help for men's issues.

    You're absolutely spot on with this:
    this zero sum game pushed by right is absolutely disingenuous and to me, articles like this are simply trying to dress up tired, old far right talking points to make them seem more intellectually sound and legitimate then they actually are

    Note that this is exact issue with All Lives Matter - there's only ire at the fact that a group that is in need of attention paid to their oppression is getting that attention. They're not the only group that needs it but they are a group that is doing poorly without it in the public space. The ALM "movement" also ignores the fact that multiple groups can be helped at the same time, as you mentioned.

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  3. Comment on Fretless bass, yay or nay? in ~music

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    For sure. Don't be discouraged if you immediately find that you can't hear things as well as you thought you could. It took some embarrassing amount of time before I could figure out whether I was...

    For sure. Don't be discouraged if you immediately find that you can't hear things as well as you thought you could. It took some embarrassing amount of time before I could figure out whether I was playing off key or not for stuff I thought I knew well.

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  4. Comment on Fretless bass, yay or nay? in ~music

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    It's been a hot minute since I played regularly but for a long time, while I was learning, it was incredibly useful to have a fretless bass around so I could "feel" the notes rather than just...

    It's been a hot minute since I played regularly but for a long time, while I was learning, it was incredibly useful to have a fretless bass around so I could "feel" the notes rather than just follow the frets. The sound of it can also be pretty unique so having the slick slides and hammers was pretty motivating.

    I'd definitely get the action checked out as soon as possible to make sure it's comfortable and the truss rod isn't damaged (overadjusted/warped) as these can both drastically affect your enjoyment.

    Overall, it's a slightly different skill but it's definitely a fun one that will improve the rest of your playing. I say go for it!

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  5. Comment on Music Discovery Thread: Share the Top 3 songs you’re currently obsessed with! in ~music

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    Bit late to the party but: Doused by DIIV You're Not Here by No Vacation Ghostride by Crumb These are by far my favorite songs of the past few months. They're not new by any means but they've only...

    Bit late to the party but:

    Doused by DIIV
    You're Not Here by No Vacation
    Ghostride by Crumb

    These are by far my favorite songs of the past few months. They're not new by any means but they've only recently made it into my rotation. The bass in Doused gets me pretty hyped and the overall melancholic feel from both of the others really gets to me in a way that's satisfying without being over the top sad.