I've done this before. Its up there on one of my hardest choices of my life. Even to this day i debate wheather or not it was a good thing. But I HAD to; my best friend was a fucking drug dealer....
I've done this before. Its up there on one of my hardest choices of my life. Even to this day i debate wheather or not it was a good thing. But I HAD to; my best friend was a fucking drug dealer.
Having acess to drugs was just waaaaaaaaaaaaay too easy and too convienet. The guy never showed any signs of abetting either. Fucking tragic all around. Last I heard he was a alcoholic too.
To this day I dont regret it fully, as I am living a good lfie now. But it hurts.
One of my big life lessons has been to really fight to preserve every halfway decent friendship I can get because once they fall apart, in my experience, that's it. If you get hurt or hurt...
One of my big life lessons has been to really fight to preserve every halfway decent friendship I can get because once they fall apart, in my experience, that's it. If you get hurt or hurt somebody, or there's something you can't stand about them, deal with it now and try to work through it. Communicate and forgive! Sometimes you can rekindle an old dead relationship, but once it's been done for awhile there's not really any going back, only forward to something new that probably won't resemble what you had all that much. Like a shade of what you had. Your mileage may vary, of course...
Go and give it a shot! My experiences are almost universally based on relationships I've had that crashed and burned, and it was usually my fault. So there were always huge disagreements or...
Go and give it a shot! My experiences are almost universally based on relationships I've had that crashed and burned, and it was usually my fault. So there were always huge disagreements or mistakes or things I couldn't take back ... I should have been a lot clearer. I'm talking more about burned bridges, trying to unburn them. That doesn't usually work.
If you've just spent five years apart and not because you had some explosive situation that ruined things, that's really different. You can definitely expect that all of you will be very different people than you were five years ago, so there will be an element of getting to know each other all over again. But it oughta be a good time. And even if this is you trying to unburn a bridge ... that's not hopeless either. I'm just saying that for me, whatever I've rekindled from those failed friendships has been a shadow of what it was.
That is difficult. I think the letting her follow up on it makes a lot of sense. It doesn't sound like a relationship you want to put more time or effort into, or is worthwhile for you to do. I...
That is difficult. I think the letting her follow up on it makes a lot of sense. It doesn't sound like a relationship you want to put more time or effort into, or is worthwhile for you to do. I wish you the best and hopefully this will soon resolve itself.
I've done this before. Its up there on one of my hardest choices of my life. Even to this day i debate wheather or not it was a good thing. But I HAD to; my best friend was a fucking drug dealer.
Having acess to drugs was just waaaaaaaaaaaaay too easy and too convienet. The guy never showed any signs of abetting either. Fucking tragic all around. Last I heard he was a alcoholic too.
To this day I dont regret it fully, as I am living a good lfie now. But it hurts.
It sucks that it hurts. It definitely sounds like you've made the right call.
It sounds like you were just trying to do what's best for yourself. And that's a good thing, even if it sucks sometimes.
One of my big life lessons has been to really fight to preserve every halfway decent friendship I can get because once they fall apart, in my experience, that's it. If you get hurt or hurt somebody, or there's something you can't stand about them, deal with it now and try to work through it. Communicate and forgive! Sometimes you can rekindle an old dead relationship, but once it's been done for awhile there's not really any going back, only forward to something new that probably won't resemble what you had all that much. Like a shade of what you had. Your mileage may vary, of course...
Go and give it a shot! My experiences are almost universally based on relationships I've had that crashed and burned, and it was usually my fault. So there were always huge disagreements or mistakes or things I couldn't take back ... I should have been a lot clearer. I'm talking more about burned bridges, trying to unburn them. That doesn't usually work.
If you've just spent five years apart and not because you had some explosive situation that ruined things, that's really different. You can definitely expect that all of you will be very different people than you were five years ago, so there will be an element of getting to know each other all over again. But it oughta be a good time. And even if this is you trying to unburn a bridge ... that's not hopeless either. I'm just saying that for me, whatever I've rekindled from those failed friendships has been a shadow of what it was.
That is difficult. I think the letting her follow up on it makes a lot of sense. It doesn't sound like a relationship you want to put more time or effort into, or is worthwhile for you to do. I wish you the best and hopefully this will soon resolve itself.