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Middle aged gay dating advice?

Fellow LGBTQ+ ~ers, I'm hoping you can give me some direction and pointers in dating advice.

I'm a male in my early 40s who has become single after a dozen years and finally realizing/admitting that I'm gay. This isn't a huge deal (I've always identified as queer/not straight) but it does leave me in a place of total ignorance on how to proceed in meeting gay men and dating them.

I'm not intetested in sex-without-friendship, so Grindr is out. I'm not a fan of social media, so FB is useless to me. Even if there are any gay bars left, I'm not the bar type. My preferred personals site was craigslist... which shows you how out of the loop I am.

Any advice on dating sites and/or alternative ways of meeting people? I'm thinking about getting a bunch of shirts printed with a wittier version of "Introduce me to your gay friends!" and a rainbow necklace or bracelet...

If location matters, I'm a fair distance outside the Seattle area but get there often enough.

Thanks, all!

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      Your advice is exactly what I was looking for on the dating site question, so it's very relevant and helpful. I'll give OKCupid a good look. Thanks! "Fuck Yes" is exactly how I feel about the...

      Your advice is exactly what I was looking for on the dating site question, so it's very relevant and helpful. I'll give OKCupid a good look. Thanks!

      "Fuck Yes" is exactly how I feel about the whole thing too, gotten there from a different starting point. If the person I'm really attracted to isn't obviously excited about the prospect then it's not going to work, short term or long term. Thanks for the read!

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      Boy, that describes me so well. Mind if I borrow it? I did a brief look at meetup, will have to give it a "look at with intentions" try. Also, volunteering is a good idea, will look for...

      As I said to someone just today, I'm in the long slow process of reinventing myself.

      Boy, that describes me so well. Mind if I borrow it?

      I did a brief look at meetup, will have to give it a "look at with intentions" try. Also, volunteering is a good idea, will look for opportunities. Thanks!

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