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    1. How rigid/fluid is your LGBT identity?

      Is it static, or does it change? How does that feel to you? How does it play out in your day-to-day life? What thoughts do you have about rigidity/fluidity in general? (As always, I'm using LGBT...

      Is it static, or does it change?

      How does that feel to you?

      How does it play out in your day-to-day life?

      What thoughts do you have about rigidity/fluidity in general?

      (As always, I'm using LGBT as an umbrella term here, so this question applies to anyone with minority gender, sexual, or romantic identities)

      36 votes
    2. Cousin came out as trans. Looking for good online forums/spaces.

      One of my cousins (age 23), at the end of weeks-long stay at an inpatient psychiatric facility, came out as trans to his parents. They are very supportive, if a bit surprised. I want to help them...

      One of my cousins (age 23), at the end of weeks-long stay at an inpatient psychiatric facility, came out as trans to his parents. They are very supportive, if a bit surprised.

      I want to help them and my cousin out and link them to some online forums/discussion spaces. He’s (AMAB, hasn’t mentioned what the new pronouns are) very online, so I’d be most interested in stuff for him. I know some of the sites don’t have the best reputation, or are very polarizing, so I’d like sites that are positive and supportive.

      41 votes
    3. Have you ever been outed?

      This is a tough question. I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad or relive trauma, but I want to give people a space to talk about it and share their stories if they need to. Have you ever been...

      This is a tough question.

      I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad or relive trauma, but I want to give people a space to talk about it and share their stories if they need to.

      • Have you ever been outed by someone else/accident/circumstance?
      • What happened?
      • Who/what outed you?
      • Why?
      • How did it turn out?

      Also, while some people will undoubtedly have serious answers to this, I also think there are some stories that are less grave and more lighthearted or positive. Those are fine to share too.

      31 votes
    4. Queer joy - Share what makes you happy, proud or loved

      Things suck but dammit it's pride, please share things that are bringing you joy right now! And if you need some joy yourself please come and fill your cup or ask for something you need so we can...

      Things suck but dammit it's pride, please share things that are bringing you joy right now! And if you need some joy yourself please come and fill your cup or ask for something you need so we can lift you up. 🏳️‍🌈

      44 votes
    5. Trans Day of Visibility

      Hey folks, My apologies but you've rolled a nat 1 on your stealth check (the D&D kind...) as today you have disadvantage. If you are trans, including all sorts of folks under the broader umbrella,...

      Hey folks,

      My apologies but you've rolled a nat 1 on your stealth check (the D&D kind...) as today you have disadvantage.

      If you are trans, including all sorts of folks under the broader umbrella, please, if you choose, take this moment to be visible, share something that brings you joy, gender euphoria or just small happinesses.

      You are valid and loved even when this world does not feel validating or loving

      (⁠⁠˘⁠︶⁠˘⁠⁠)⁠.⁠。⁠*⁠♡

      77 votes
    6. "Awareness week" - don't we have enough attention already?

      Bit of a negative post or rant, so feel free to skip if not in the mood for a kinda sour take. Apparently this week is transgender awareness week and while it's obviously about more than just...

      Bit of a negative post or rant, so feel free to skip if not in the mood for a kinda sour take.

      Apparently this week is transgender awareness week and while it's obviously about more than just being aware of the thing (like breast cancer awareness month is also about educating etc.) I still feel like the purpose is so far removed from what it's supposed to be that it may as well be satirical.

      From that link:

      While most of the discussion of trans folks online can often be centered on negativity, Transgender Awareness Week gives us the opportunity to uplift positive and insightful stories of trans people across the country.

      Does it though? gif

      Is anybody outside of our community going to actually learn anything this week?

      Are they going to an extra event or something just because someone decided this week is special for us?

      Because I think it's nothing except detrimental to us. It only gives more ammunition to those who already hate us and already at best want us to go away.

      (Day of remembrance, also this week, is on the other hand an important day I think.)

      17 votes
    7. Queer temperature check: how is everyone doing right now?

      I think we all know how things are at large, but I wanted to check in with people individually. How are you doing right now? This topic is a safe space to share fears, anxieties, and frustrations....

      I think we all know how things are at large, but I wanted to check in with people individually.

      How are you doing right now?

      This topic is a safe space to share fears, anxieties, and frustrations. If you need to vent, or rage against something, or wallow, or let it all out, you can do so here. It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. I’m certain you’re not alone in that.

      This is also a safe space to share successes, hopes, and progress. Just as it’s okay to dwell on the bad stuff, it’s also okay to highlight any positives. It’s little bright spots like those that help us see more than just darkness, after all. I’m sure other people could use some good news.

      61 votes
    8. My experience suddenly being very pretty

      I've had a strange experience recently in that I got a very cute haircut and suddenly I am the belle of the ball wherever I go. One major downside is that it is exhausting. People treat me like...

      I've had a strange experience recently in that I got a very cute haircut and suddenly I am the belle of the ball wherever I go. One major downside is that it is exhausting. People treat me like I'm a fairy, which I use to dole out generous compliments. But mostly people just notice me, a lot, and it's weird to feel so many eyes watching my every movement.

      It reminds me a bit of living in Shanghai. I was practically a celebrity, people would ask for selfies with me to show their friends they met a blonde white guy.

      Don't get me wrong, I've enjoyed pretty privilege most of my adult life, but embracing my femininity in it's fullness has really amplifier things.

      For example, I went to a dance performance tonight and ended up basically on a date with a girl, which was lovely but also what? I walked away to give her an out and she followed me.

      At work it can be a problem as well. I have some coworkers that get really giggly when they're with me. Luckily, once it steers to work talk they're a whilsmart professional I'm Uber glad to work with.

      Anyways, just had to vomit this curious anyone thoughts

      34 votes