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    1. Siblings sentenced for imprisoning gay brother

      Happened in Denmark, so article is in Danish. Put it into DeepL to translate important bits: Four siblings, a brother and three sisters, were sentenced to prison by the Court in Glostrup on Friday...

      Happened in Denmark, so article is in Danish. Put it into DeepL to translate important bits:

      Four siblings, a brother and three sisters, were sentenced to prison by the Court in Glostrup on Friday for imprisoning their 26-year-old brother in September 2023.

      The case began in the fall of 2023 when police broke into the family's apartment in Brøndby and found a 26-year-old man in a small broom cupboard.

      In addition to imprisonment, all four will also be expelled from Denmark. The two oldest sisters will be banned from entering Denmark permanently, while the youngest sister and brother will be banned for a number of years. All four convicted siblings are Italian citizens and will therefore be deported to Italy. The siblings grew up in Sicily and have roots in Tunisia. They are Muslim, and according to the prosecution, their actions stem from that cultural background.

      Specifically what happened to him can be read in this article. Translation collapsed because of gruesomeness:

      **Content warning**: description of torture

      On a Monday in September 2023, police broke into a dark storage room in a small apartment in Brøndby.

      They found an emaciated young man lying on a thin mattress with nothing but a jug of water and a bucket in the corner.

      The young man had been locked up here for 35 days. This is stated in the indictment in the case, which is expected to end on Friday.

      According to the indictment, four siblings, three women and a man, kept their brother locked in a small locked room with no windows or light for over a month because he told them he was gay.

      He was denied food or drink at times and forced to sleep on a thin, scabies-infested mattress and defecate in a bucket.

      The young man only escaped after 35 days when a neighbor heard him crying for help and immediately called the police.

      By then he had lost 14 kilos, had symptoms of scabies and several bruises from blows.


      If anyone thinks this is too much to share then please let me know - I will delete the thread if it is. I did put the homophobia and downer tags though so hopefully everyone who do not wish to see this stuff have already filtered that. Just sharing because I'm shocked this can happen in Denmark.

      29 votes
    2. Trans men media recommendations?

      I recently watched Rūrangi (2020) and appreciated it1 for having a story centered on a trans man and his experiences. I’m interested in recommendations of other media featuring trans men/masc...

      I recently watched Rūrangi (2020) and appreciated it1 for having a story centered on a trans man and his experiences.

      I’m interested in recommendations of other media featuring trans men/masc individuals. I want to cast a broad net, especially if there are other people who might find this useful, so:

      • Any type of media is fine (books, memoirs, movies, shows, webcomics, anime, manga, games, etc.)
      • Trans men and/or trans masc people should feature, but they don’t have to be the main focus
      • The media can be specifically about the individual(s) trans identity or journey, but it can also simply feature the character(s) without delving into those aspects

      Now, I’ll also add some more parameters for what I’m looking for specifically if you’re looking to recommend to me personally rather than in general. Don’t limit your recommendations to just these, though. I’m ultimately open to anything and want this topic to be valuable to others with different tastes/preferences as well:

      • I’d love for the trans man to be older, since a lot of the trans representation I do already see tends towards depicting younger individuals (nothing wrong with that, of course, and I definitely understand why that is, but as a middle-aged guy myself I’m more drawn towards stories about people my age/older)
      • I am interested in stories that are specifically focused on trans identity and journey
      • As a gay guy, I’d love to read about my gay trans brethren
      • Like Chappell Roan, I want nonfiction (but fiction is cool too)

      1. While I did enjoy it, I thought the pacing of the movie was really odd. It wasn’t until after I watched it that I learned it was originally broadcast as a series and was later cut into a single film (which explains the pacing issues). For anyone interested in watching it, I assume the series version does a better job with pacing than the film version.

      24 votes
    3. Donation drive: Lambda Legal

      Donation Total: $2,325 one time + $25 recurring Lambda Legal is an American non-profit organization focused on legal action in support of LGBTQ individuals. They have already committed to...

      Donation Total: $2,325 one time + $25 recurring


      Lambda Legal is an American non-profit organization focused on legal action in support of LGBTQ individuals.

      They have already committed to challenge Trump’s anti-queer executive orders in court.


      I am encouraging people here to donate to Lambda Legal if you are able to.

      Incentive: The following people have committed to match donations:

      If anyone else is willing to match donations as well, please let me know and I will edit this post to include you.

      Also, check to see if your employer will match donations.

      If you donate, simply comment here or PM me. You do NOT have to provide proof that you donated — just share your amount.

      If you would rather donate to a different organization instead, please do so. Also please share it here in case others would like to join you.


      To our trans users here, especially those in the US: please remember that there are still SO many people out there who love and support you and want you to be able to live your lives with the dignity that you deserve.

      40 votes
    4. Please check on each other

      Hey all, given everything going on, please keep checking on your communities. There was a recent death by suicide in Syracuse of a VA patient who had wrapped themselves in the trans flag prior to...

      Hey all, given everything going on, please keep checking on your communities. There was a recent death by suicide in Syracuse of a VA patient who had wrapped themselves in the trans flag prior to their death.

      We're in this together, and I know it's going to get worse, and the only way we get through is with the support of each other. So, just, please check-in.

      During the darkest days of the AIDS crisis, we buried our friends in the morning, we protested in the afternoon, and we danced all night.
      The dance kept us in the fight because it was the dance we were fighting for. It didn't look like we were going to win then and we did. It doesn't feel like we're going to win now but we could. Keep fighting, keep dancing. -Dan Savage

      78 votes
    5. Polyamory, visibility, and public perception

      Any poly folks struggling with judgement from family, friends, or strangers? I'm openly bisexual and polyamorous to my friends and some family, and I've been steadily trying to let the veil down...

      Any poly folks struggling with judgement from family, friends, or strangers? I'm openly bisexual and polyamorous to my friends and some family, and I've been steadily trying to let the veil down more lately. However, I've been feeling resented and mistrusted by folks -- some online and in person. These experiences aren't exclusive to conservative regions, either. A lot of the online hate I've received has been in Greater Boston community spaces, one of the cities with the most non-monogamous folks. I suppose I'm just feeling bad and isolated about it all. Would love to hear about experiences (good and bad) y'all have had!

      35 votes
    6. Post your good jokes about LGBT+ people!

      I remember this one from the 80's which was viral some time ago for being non-offensive (for its time). There is some outdated language of course. After years of regular meetings at a local bar,...

      I remember this one from the 80's which was viral some time ago for being non-offensive (for its time). There is some outdated language of course.

      After years of regular meetings at a local bar, one of a trio of friends stunned his companions by announcing that he was really a woman trapped in a man's body and had finally decided to have a sex-change operation.

      Months later, she reappeared at the old haunt and greeted her friends. Both men congratulated her on her appearance and began questioning her about the most painful aspect of the grueling operation.

      "Lopping off your dick must have been the worst part," one said, wincing.

      "Ummm," she pondered. "No, not really."

      "Cutting off your balls, then, decided the other.

      "No," she said. "That was bad, but not the worst."

      "What was worse than that?"

      "Getting my salary cut in half."

      34 votes
    7. Meeting a trans elder

      I thought I would share this story as I've been thinking about it ever since coming out as transfem and it always makes me smile. for every year it's been going on -- which is two... but I digress...

      I thought I would share this story as I've been thinking about it ever since coming out as transfem and it always makes me smile.

      for every year it's been going on -- which is two... but I digress -- I've helped out at a major trade show to put some iconic industry products on display as mainly fully working examples for people to play around with.

      I noticed this lady looking at one of our exhibits and struck up a conversation with her as I had done with countless other people that day. turns out she was working at the company who built that exhibit during its production run in the early eighties! we spoke a lot about her experiences with that company.

      after a bit, a few more people from that same company came over and they were all reminiscing about their time working there. it was at this point I realised she was trans because she kept saying to all these old guys "you probably knew me by a different name back then"! they were all really accepting and had no issues, goes to show older people can and do respect trans people!

      it really inspired me to meet not only a trans elder but a trans elder working in my industry, who had worked on an exhibit I had set up the day before -- we opened it up later and found her initials on an electrical testing label from 1983! in meeting her it feels like I saw a possible future for myself, which is not something I had properly envisioned before, not on the order of decades at the very least. I like the idea of having a future. it gives me something to strive for. I want to be the lady who goes to trade shows and regales bright-eyed students with tales of a long and fulfilling career in my industry. I want to have stories to tell and I want to be there to tell them. meeting her made all that seem that much more possible.

      I hope this makes someone else smile like it does me and I'd love to hear more stories like this if anyone is willing to share!

      44 votes
    8. Looking to hear experiences about Laser Facial Hair Removal

      I am a guy (I don't really feel as being very masculine at all, but also not feminine, and I do feel kinda close to the nonbinary community, but I just don't really care, so I just stick with the...

      I am a guy (I don't really feel as being very masculine at all, but also not feminine, and I do feel kinda close to the nonbinary community, but I just don't really care, so I just stick with the default that was assigned to me to make things easy for me), but I don't really like my facial hair at all. Even when I do (what I think is) a pretty smooth shave in the morning it just ends up being ugly again by the evening. I'd much prefer to not have to deal with facial hair at all. So I was wondering if laser facial hair removal might be an option for me. I have dark hair and light skin, which from what I've read should be the combination on which it works the best.

      I am a huge overthinker of everything, so I already did quite a bit of research myself, and thought about it for a number of weeks, but as with most things it's not easy to find a conclusive simple answer that it's good or bad. I've seen people say that it works amazing, others that it didn't do much, I've seen a lot of people say that it's not permanent, I've seen people say that it damaged/scarred their skin, I've even seen people say that it made them have more facial hair instead!

      So I'd kind of like to hear if the people of Tildes have any experience with it. Did it work well for you? Do you still need to shave your face every day afterwards? Did it cause any issues?

      24 votes
    9. LGBTQ folks check-in thread - how're you all doing?

      I don't want to rehash US election stuff here, but I wanted to make a space for fears and support, and idk, some community here for us. Don't feel obligated to focus on the US election, but if...

      I don't want to rehash US election stuff here, but I wanted to make a space for fears and support, and idk, some community here for us. Don't feel obligated to focus on the US election, but if that's what you're dealing with it's an ok space for those feelings.

      41 votes