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Comment on I am a transwoman, I am in the closet and I am not coming out in ~lgbt
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Comment on 2026 Fifa World Cup - Finals discussion and news megathread (quarters/semis/finals) in ~sports.football
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI'm a fan of the cougar (Tupi in origin) by her many, many names as well. And her screaming! I don't care if they're Florida panthers, mountain lions, catamounts, gol (Tehuelche), grey ghosts,...I'm a fan of the cougar (Tupi in origin) by her many, many names as well. And her screaming! I don't care if they're Florida panthers, mountain lions, catamounts, gol (Tehuelche), grey ghosts, shunta-haska (Mandans), night crier, deer tiger, puma (Quechua), mountain devil, silver lion, Erielhonan (Lake Erie tribes), sneak cat, swamp screamer, çuçuarana (Portuguese from Tupi), and the one you say when you meet them in person "oh shit, shit shit shit shit aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaugh"... I love them.
This has been Mitzli Facts â (Aztec)
The Mayaimi appear to have been the victims of raids by other indigenous tribes, and the survivors may have gone to Cuba. (Not accounting for the mass casualties from disease in the Americas) I did not dig too deep, as I need some positivity still and researching Native histories is far less joyful and names for a Puma concolor.
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Comment on 2026 Fifa World Cup - Finals discussion and news megathread (quarters/semis/finals) in ~sports.football
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentWelcome to America Facts⢠Bienvenidos a Miami Miami is named for the river of the same name, which is named for the Mayaimi people. (No relation to the Miami people of woodlands tribes in...Welcome to America Factsâ˘
Miami is named for the river of the same name, which is named for the Mayaimi people. (No relation to the Miami people of woodlands tribes in Illinois. Same with the recognized Miami tribe in Oklahoma who used to live in Illinois but don't now, because of the colonization.)
Did you know it was founded by a woman? I didn't!
It has the warmest winters in the US, which means mid-July is a great time to hold a game there.This has been America Facts â˘
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI have read Heretical Fishing, or some of it, not sure where I left off! Thanks for the reminder about it. The other two seem worth checking out! I have clicked on a few of the shout outs from...I have read Heretical Fishing, or some of it, not sure where I left off! Thanks for the reminder about it.
The other two seem worth checking out! I have clicked on a few of the shout outs from Metaworld Hopecore and if they pan out I'll add them as recs too. I'm mostly in a pattern of just binge reading a new RR, catching up on all my other RR, and then starting again lol
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Comment on After pushing anti-trans laws to "protect womenâs sports", Project 2025âs Heritage Foundation now wants to eliminate women's sports to "assist fertility" in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOh so now gender affirming treatment is fine. Weird how it's always fine on cis men and usually maybe ok on cis women.Oh so now gender affirming treatment is fine. Weird how it's always fine on cis men and usually maybe ok on cis women.
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Comment on After pushing anti-trans laws to "protect womenâs sports", Project 2025âs Heritage Foundation now wants to eliminate women's sports to "assist fertility" in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIt's not like most Germans cared about what happened, hence the poem. Most folks don't care what doesn't happen to them.... Probably not most, I'm just cynical..We fought for these rights before....It's not like most Germans cared about what happened, hence the poem. Most folks don't care what doesn't happen to them.... Probably not most, I'm just cynical..We fought for these rights before. We could do it again. We just shouldn't have to. And like before people will suffer and die for it.
From the beginning of bathroom laws this was always going to be about controlling women by making clear delineations in publicly acceptable dress and behavior by sex... and removing protections against sex based dress codes means women can't even expect to wear pants at work. Transmisogyny is misogyny. Sexism often underlies homophobia.
They have already demanded women be incubators even when dead and when that isn't appealing they want to take away rights, and force women into a life where the only options are marriage without divorce. (I'm sure like always this mostly applies to middle class white women as black women and poor women have always worked....)
They have openly talked about repealing the 19th.
They have openly talked about institutionalizing people. How long before the crazy women who don't want kids get sent away for their retraining? And before anyone says they can't, that doesn't mean they don't want to.Let's stop them now, and not defend or appease them.
And I wonder if anyone will say "this is good for women actually because then the right wing men will leave them alone."
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI think Battle Mage Farmer was someone else's rec! I keep up with Bee Dungeon still, it's been very enjoyable. I just started Metaworld Hopecore and am enjoying it, tried Derek's Dungeon Depot and...I think Battle Mage Farmer was someone else's rec!
I keep up with Bee Dungeon still, it's been very enjoyable.I just started Metaworld Hopecore and am enjoying it, tried Derek's Dungeon Depot and am bored with how often he's drunk and making bad choices, and just snagged Maze and Common Sense, both on Kindle U.
I'll say DWBS remains a top five if not #1
Suggestions are welcome!
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Comment on Silicon Valley has a science fiction problem in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIt's also hard to be neutral about people saying, "man that space/fantasy stuff is cool, I'm going to be the evil Emperor/Saruman/the Dominion/the bad guys.". Like there are some very basic...It's also hard to be neutral about people saying, "man that space/fantasy stuff is cool, I'm going to be the evil Emperor/Saruman/the Dominion/the bad guys.". Like there are some very basic lessons in the books the folks highlighted here claim to love, this isn't about deep analysis of the text.
It's the most basic of media literacy really.
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Comment on After pushing anti-trans laws to "protect womenâs sports", Project 2025âs Heritage Foundation now wants to eliminate women's sports to "assist fertility" in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkAnd they take and they take and they take. So if we could stop thinking that sacrificing trans women, trans people, gender non conforming cis people is a necessary thing to appease the right now,...And they take and they take and they take.
So if we could stop thinking that sacrificing trans women, trans people, gender non conforming cis people is a necessary thing to appease the right now, that would be great.
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I believe that women's sports are still the side show for the fascists that want to control my body and my "fertility"; revoking Title IX would do much more damage than cutting women's sports (which it would do). But that alone would still be devastating.
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Comment on Silicon Valley has a science fiction problem in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentRather than the ones highlighted as popular by the tech billionaires I recommend the ones they ignore I liked all three of these, though I don't think I finished the Mars trilogy.Rather than the ones highlighted as popular by the tech billionaires I recommend the ones they ignore
Silicon Valleyâs power rests on presenting a narrow, reactionary fantasy as inevitable progress. But other futures are possible, and other science fictions exist. Ursula K Le Guinâs The Dispossessed (1974) imagines an anarchist Moon colony built on mutual aid rather than extraction. Octavia Butlerâs Parable series (1993-98) depicts communities surviving collapse through adaptation and care rather than escape to Mars. Kim Stanley Robinsonâs Mars trilogy (1992-96) shows planetary settlement as collective democratic project, not billionaire venture. These are not naive or utopian texts â they are demanding, difficult and honest about the costs of building anything new. They refuse the consolation of the lone visionary and insist, over and over, that the future is made by people working together.
I liked all three of these, though I don't think I finished the Mars trilogy.
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Comment on US House passes bill to âditch the switchâ and make daylight saving time permanent in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI'd have to go back and look as it's been a while. But the major sleep organizations and AMA have also come out in favor of Permanent ST. I suspect that there could be different experiences...I'd have to go back and look as it's been a while. But the major sleep organizations and AMA have also come out in favor of Permanent ST. I suspect that there could be different experiences depending on if one is at the East or West side of a larger time zone and population density might impact whether ST or DT makes more sense
Iirc one argument is how late sunrise would be for several months and that the commute at the beginning of the day is riskier due to that tiredness than the end of the day. But the argue, and again successfully enough that dozens of sleep organizations are behind them, that human sleep rhythms (especially combined with our enforced work schedules) are more aligned with ST in aggregate.
I talked it through with the person I know who posted it so I'd have to literally recreate my thought processes from several years ago, but I did feel it was overall compelling. They have a lot of material (including stuff I don't care about like "religious freedom") to speak to a lot of different groups so it's a bit overwhelming.
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Comment on China is dealing with its own manosphere in ~life.men
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThe individual seems to be able to move it's just that there's a push pull about losing land in the country vs taking up resources in the city. So if you create your own family you have to move to...The individual seems to be able to move it's just that there's a push pull about losing land in the country vs taking up resources in the city. So if you create your own family you have to move to where your hukou is even if you were living and working somewhere else before that. Some folks want to update their hukou, but some don't want to lose family land if they were "upgraded" even if they would want to keep working or raising their family elsewhere.
It's definitely more control over a populations movement but not quite as restrictive as serfdom (at least as currently implemented)
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Comment on US House passes bill to âditch the switchâ and make daylight saving time permanent in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentNo, I'm wrong. I swear I read this yesterday and it was the opposite. Mea culpa, thanks for the catchNo, I'm wrong. I swear I read this yesterday and it was the opposite. Mea culpa, thanks for the catch
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Comment on Silicon Valley has a science fiction problem in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI think that is a separate point where they're "stealing" the philosophy of the book rather than the flashy name/idea without any of the message coming along. I also suspect fewer of them read it...I think that is a separate point where they're "stealing" the philosophy of the book rather than the flashy name/idea without any of the message coming along. I also suspect fewer of them read it at all
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Comment on US House passes bill to âditch the switchâ and make daylight saving time permanent in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkPosted before but, knowing someone from this project: Save Standard Time has led me to have considered the evidence and fully be on team standard time.Posted before but, knowing someone from this project: Save Standard Time has led me to have considered the evidence and fully be on team standard time.
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Comment on US House passes bill to âditch the switchâ and make daylight saving time permanent in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentNope. I'm incorrectTo be clear, they're doing permanent standard time not permanent daylight.Nope. I'm incorrect
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Comment on 2026 Fifa World Cup - Finals discussion and news megathread (quarters/semis/finals) in ~sports.football
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI think it's better than the men's game and will probably not change that until the men stop getting nominated for Emmy's. I don't find the NBA entertaining either. I don't watch the WNBA...I think it's better than the men's game and will probably not change that until the men stop getting nominated for Emmy's. I don't find the NBA entertaining either. I don't watch the WNBA regularly but enjoy when I do. I just don't follow sports teams much. Mostly I hate the toxicity of men's leagues and love the inclusiveness of the women's leagues.
It's an opinion so there's not really a debate. But the Men's World Cup is the worse one IMO.
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Comment on What did banning Airbnbs in NYC accomplish? in ~finance
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI think that's an interesting point, and will likely make some difference, as will the fact that NYC continues to have more people wanting to move there, invest there, etc. It doesn't surprise me...I think that's an interesting point, and will likely make some difference, as will the fact that NYC continues to have more people wanting to move there, invest there, etc. It doesn't surprise me that that change didn't "solve" everything, and maybe the restrictive regs were enough (or maybe prices would be even higher without the change).
I will be curious to see the impact of similar bans in smaller cities and see if at lower volumes it's enough of a pressure valve. People in NYC will pay huge rents for closets, perhaps in alternative locations that trade off point is at a more reasonable (to me) equilibrium
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Comment on Silicon Valley has a science fiction problem in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkThis is absolutely excellent. This article says pretty much everything I feel about the the billionaire technocrats who think they're the "great man" who will create the AI that will solve all the...This is absolutely excellent. This article says pretty much everything I feel about the the billionaire technocrats who think they're the "great man" who will create the AI that will solve all the worlds problems.
I want to read the rest of the essays, especially "Whitey on Mars" referencing the Whitey on the Moon poem, that I believe I first heard when watching Lovecraft Country
From Wiki a neat tidbit
On April 17, 2023, NASA astronaut Victor Glover, who would later pilot Artemis II in a planned fly-by around the Moon, said that he listened to "Whitey on the Moon" every Monday on his way to work as a reminder "that, at that time, that community, which is very similar to the community I grew up in, they didn't feel heard."[27]
If I have one complaint...
I get why the title is framed this way, but Silicon Valley doesn't have a Science Fiction problem, they have an ethics and a moral problem. They have appropriation problems and media literacy problems.We have a Silicon Valley problem.
But I get the title framing
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Comment on China is dealing with its own manosphere in ~life.men
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentCulturally bride prices and dowries exist in different cultures for different reasons. Typically to my knowledge it's rarer to have both, but this is not an area of my expertise. A bride price is...Culturally bride prices and dowries exist in different cultures for different reasons. Typically to my knowledge it's rarer to have both, but this is not an area of my expertise.
A bride price is meant to compensate the bride's family for the cost of raising her and the loss of her labor, because the bride becomes part of the husband's family and leaves her parents household. Since the husband does not leave his family there's no reciprocal payment for him. And since the cultural perspective is not "two people striking out on their own" it's got this angle of the "transference" of women from one man to another. There is also a sense of the husband being in debt to his inlaws for their daughter (and never affording it.) This is more common where the daughter's labor supports the family (or historically has). Bride prices are more common when women are scarcer. Sometimes these are just token amounts
A dowry is money that is designed to go to the new couple and often remain as the woman's to control in the case of widowhood or divorce. It's a security net for women in cultures where they couldn't earn their own income. This was more common where there's an independent household and where women don't/can't work. It offsets the cost of the husband feeding her and is sort of an advance on her inheritance from her father (or the only one she'd get). But women may have been pressured or expected to spend it at their husbands' demands.
So there's no husband price, just a difference in who the money is from and for. Because historically and culturally men have been allowed to work (outside the home) and have been the accepted heads of the household (or their father/grandfather), while women have had different societal restrictions/expectations. As culture has changed, all traditions have not. Not everyone follows them, and I can't speak to China specifically so perhaps someone else can, but they don't account for a more egalitarian society (though I wouldn't call the current state of affairs truly egalitarian.)
This brings me such joy đ