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Comment on Babylon 5 S01E03: “Soul Hunter” - Episode Discussion in ~tv
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Comment on Punching, slamming, screaming: A chef’s past abuse haunts Noma, the world’s top-rated restaurant in ~food
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI am not particularly empathetic to the comparison of kitchens to the military as far as how the teamwork is so important that hazing is an obvious outcome. I'm of course also opposed to hazing,...I am not particularly empathetic to the comparison of kitchens to the military as far as how the teamwork is so important that hazing is an obvious outcome. I'm of course also opposed to hazing, abuse and violence in all of the other areas as well. I don't think it's a coincidence that these are all fields that think exploitation of the lowest levels of its workforce is not just acceptable but ideal no matter the physical or mental cost. And everyone feels the need to prove they can hang, especially those who are breaking gender (or other) barriers to be there.
That's not reasonable, and even if you could make the case it was for the military, sports and cooking don't really come close to that in theoretical importance. Lots of people can cost their industries lots of money with a mistake, or even kill someone. I haven't seen anyone need to get beaten or abused in the ones I've worked in to take it seriously.
It seems far more that no one has held anyone accountable for it until relatively recently and even then not really. And everyone willing to let it slide contributes to that.
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Comment on Yakult ladies are an icon in Japan in ~life.women
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentFrom the article: It's absolutely emotional and physical labor. I couldn't do deliveries because I can't pull off "customer service voice/face" all day. And they're expected to be sociable to...From the article:
Yakult ladies bike everywhere, cycling around town for hours, sometimes going out of their way to make a single delivery. Though most Yakult ladies deliver to private homes, the team at the Osu Kannon center have corporate routes, meaning they’re dipping in and out of office buildings to hand off drinks to clients. They’re also supposed to stop and chat with anyone who strikes up a conversation on the street.
They may decide their own schedules, but Yakult ladies don’t have designated holidays or sick days. The company encourages them to manipulate their schedules to accommodate time off. Even with an electric bike, it can all take a physical toll, and the manager told me Yakult ladies need to “get creative” to make it work. That might not be worth it to some mothers.
It's absolutely emotional and physical labor. I couldn't do
salesdeliveries because I can't pull off "customer service voice/face" all day. And they're expected to be sociable to anyone.A manager saying "get creative" is a big red flag to me, personally.
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Comment on What are you no longer a fan of? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentTamsyn Muir has similarly taken a long time to finish the Locked Tomb series. And if she never finishes I'll be sad but not angry. She's said she was still writing and is also dealing with her own...Tamsyn Muir has similarly taken a long time to finish the Locked Tomb series. And if she never finishes I'll be sad but not angry.
She's said she was still writing and is also dealing with her own mental health. Maybe she never hits a point where she can write the last book. Hopefully she does.But she's not out here promising chapters to fundraisers.
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Comment on What are you no longer a fan of? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI'm empathetic to mental health and the difficulties of writing. I don't think I can forgive rothfuss for lying about having work done for the purpose of raising money for a charity - he never...I'm empathetic to mental health and the difficulties of writing. I don't think I can forgive rothfuss for lying about having work done for the purpose of raising money for a charity - he never released the chapter and at some point it's just fraud.
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Comment on What are you no longer a fan of? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI can't imagine having that much money and not funding charities and schools and everything. I'd burn through it if I somehow made it in the first place. It's much easier if you give it away.I can't imagine having that much money and not funding charities and schools and everything. I'd burn through it if I somehow made it in the first place. It's much easier if you give it away.
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Comment on Punching, slamming, screaming: A chef’s past abuse haunts Noma, the world’s top-rated restaurant in ~food
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI want to point out that this article explicitly highlights the physical violence. This chef was punching people. We gloss over all the things you listed because it's "worth it" but you can't omit...Ridiculously long shifts, few to no days off, enormous pressure, no room for anything but perfection, no life outside of work, huge mental stress, constant verbal abuse, comically bad pay, incredible ingredients and food.
I want to point out that this article explicitly highlights the physical violence. This chef was punching people. We gloss over all the things you listed because it's "worth it" but you can't omit the repeated physical violence/assault/abuse if we're going to talk about how worth it things are.
We shouldn't gloss over emotional and mental abuse, horrible work conditions, etc. either.
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Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of March 2 in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentProbably for the best.Probably for the best.
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Comment on At the largest US Immigration and Customs Enforcement detention camp, staff bet on detainee suicides in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkDHS says he's lying. Sure. From the AP article Both articles are grim.Staff at the nation’s largest Immigration and Customs Enforcement detention facility have placed bets on which detainee will be the next to die by suicide, according to new reporting from the Associated Press based on 911 calls and detainee accounts.
Owen Ramsingh, a legal permanent resident who spent several weeks at the Camp East Montana detention facility in Texas, told AP that he overheard a security guard talking about a betting pool for which detainee would next die by suicide. The guard said he had paid $500 into the pot, which would all go to the winner with the most accurate predictions on detainees harming themselves.
DHS says he's lying. Sure.
From the AP article
The talk was particularly jarring, he said, because he had contemplated suicide himself.
Both articles are grim.
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At the largest US Immigration and Customs Enforcement detention camp, staff bet on detainee suicides
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Comment on Yakult ladies are an icon in Japan in ~life.women
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThis seems even more like the piragua carts in NYC. Just a push cart, a giant block of ice and all the flavors for shaved ice.This seems even more like the piragua carts in NYC. Just a push cart, a giant block of ice and all the flavors for shaved ice.
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Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of March 2 in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentNope, I'm wondering if I'm mixing up which conversations I had where as I don't have any comments showing in a deleted post. So I suspect I may have been a shitshow. But if not I really hate...Nope, I'm wondering if I'm mixing up which conversations I had where as I don't have any comments showing in a deleted post. So I suspect I may have been a shitshow.
But if not I really hate losing good discussions to deleted posts. (I hate losing bad ones too frankly.)
It does come up if you Google for it on Tildes though
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Comment on Proton Mail helped US FBI unmask anonymous ‘Stop Cop City’ protester in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAgree, it pretty much avoids long complex sentences and is very direct. It could have been hit by grammarly's AI or something but it was curated if so. Now legal, they absolutely reviewed it...Agree, it pretty much avoids long complex sentences and is very direct. It could have been hit by grammarly's AI or something but it was curated if so. Now legal, they absolutely reviewed it heavily and so did marketing.
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Comment on What I dislike the most about the US in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAlso, as a note, the idea that Vietnam somehow desensitized us when probably over half our population wasn't born at the time, and we frankly don't get taught about it often given how history...Also, as a note, the idea that Vietnam somehow desensitized us when probably over half our population wasn't born at the time, and we frankly don't get taught about it often given how history class is set up (and we prefer to teach about the "good" wars where we won against the bad guys). They spent a long time rehabilitating the military image.
Personally I'd argue we're pretty desensitized to the death of soldiers too. The media leans in on the jingoistic propaganda of flag covered coffins, but our current president doesn't honor them, and we've been in an active conflict for almost my entire adult life.
9/11 happened my senior year of high school. Even as a child we had ads like these on TV and before movies:
- US Marines - The Climb
- US Marines - The Knight - before my time
- US Marines - Contest of Honor - AKA fight a Lava Monster, become a Marine. This is the one I remember from movies the most.
- US Marines - Toward the Sounds of Chaos - a more modern example
Be a marine and be a superhero, run towards death and danger, and be brave, young white men (mostly).
And as you said, media never talks about civilian deaths in any but the vaguest terms and often repeats Pentagon or Presidential claims about it being no big deal. The stories are there but often from foreign news or smaller publications and those don't play 24/7 in our doctor lobbies.
It's not an excuse, but it absolutely is propaganda and many people are speaking up about it. It's just hard to break through the constant noise.
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Comment on Survey reveals almost 50% of California teachers may quit teaching soon in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIt's been coming, school district by school district; Illinois has a number that have banned them in some capacity or entirely I do still think there's going to be some blowback when the first...It's been coming, school district by school district; Illinois has a number that have banned them in some capacity or entirely
I do still think there's going to be some blowback when the first school shooting where phones are banned occurs (but it's far sadder that I can say "when") but at least here it's being discussed and acted on.
There's probably no (available) amount of pay that makes up for shitty work environments. People who are doing work they love and being appreciated for it are pretty intrinsically motivated for it.
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Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of March 2 in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYeah, invalidated past tense. There was no grace period, it was instant. It was discussed in ~lgbt but got deleted, idk why.Yeah, invalidated past tense. There was no grace period, it was instant. It was discussed in ~lgbt but got deleted, idk why.
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Comment on Good News Everyone! - your semi regular good news thread in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI think it counts. And also this is not the first time I have seen this sort of strategy and it remains one of the best onesI think it counts.
And also this is not the first time I have seen this sort of strategy and it remains one of the best ones -
Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of March 2 in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkThis was just an odd one: I'm done': MAGA actor James Woods says he's no longer a Republican This "theory" btw is that her husband is actually her brother and the marriage was citizenship fraud....This was just an odd one:
I'm done': MAGA actor James Woods says he's no longer a Republican
The catalyst for Woods' anger appears to be a far-right account that posted a video from Lindell TV of Rep. Nancy Mace (R-SC) complaining that the House GOP refused to sign on to her subpoena to pursue racist conspiracy theories against Rep. Ilhan Omar (D-MN).
This "theory" btw is that her husband is actually her brother and the marriage was citizenship fraud. (Weird they don't seem to care about the incest...)
Also calling him an actor, as in current, suggests he's done more than voice Hades in the past decade or so. They had to downplay that he was an executive producer of Oppenheimer and tell him not to do promos because no one likes him but he owned the rights so they couldn't yeet him completely.
But ah, well, celebrity news inspires the pettiness.
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Comment on What are you no longer a fan of? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIt really only works on two types of people, the ones that think it's their true purpose to explain things to others (in my experience specifically to women), and the ones who think you'd agree...It really only works on two types of people, the ones that think it's their true purpose to explain things to others (in my experience specifically to women), and the ones who think you'd agree that the thing they said is funny or true or whatever if only you understood.
It also doesn't work if the person has backup that'll jump in and "save" them vs the social pressure of embarrassment at the joke bombing.
It can absolutely make your point of "that's not cool" but it's just one tactic for that.
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Comment on ABC's 'The Rookie' to crossover with Dropout's 'Game Changer' in March episode in ~tv
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentCopyright strikes being pretty automatic for network shows probablyCopyright strikes being pretty automatic for network shows probably
Ahhh ok so this is not my favorite episode BUT I love that this does something that sets Babylon 5 apart from Star Trek early. Edit 2 things!
We got souls! And reincarnation. And irreconcilable deeply held religious beliefs not just from our species of the week, but from one of our regulars. To the Minbari the capture of souls is true death. To the hunters not capturing them is true death
Who's right? Yes. (To quote Kosh)
Of course this soul hunter is also doing serial killing so this one is specifically a problem
#2: poverty and violence on our station. It's not so clean here, and people are left behind in this universe.
Sinclair does continue to the SF trope of the commander/captain putting himself on the front lines. He's such a pilot. (JMS mentions he has to keep his flight hours current to maintain his status but that sounds like plot convenience to me)
I like N'grath as an alien underworld figure.
This episode asks some bigger questions - well not necessarily bigger than souls, but more plot-y questions. Why is Delenn there if she's so important? What is up with Sinclair?
"You're a pessimist"
"I am Russian..."