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  1. Comment on DEI isn't dead: New research finds most companies still back workplace inclusion in ~finance

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    With just a touch of sparkling misogyny on top. Because its "DEI" if anyone other than a white cis man gets the job to them. (White women just get a pass occasionally)

    With just a touch of sparkling misogyny on top.

    Because its "DEI" if anyone other than a white cis man gets the job to them. (White women just get a pass occasionally)

    4 votes

  2. Comment on After pushing anti-trans laws to "protect women’s sports", Project 2025’s Heritage Foundation now wants to eliminate women's sports to "assist fertility" in ~society

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    Or that somehow it's doing more harm than good. Literally how.

    Or that somehow it's doing more harm than good. Literally how.

    3 votes

  3. Comment on How are you different than you were last week? in ~life

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    I am taking meds for high blood pressure. Sudden, as it was an ER trip and I'd never had anything like that happen before. Conscious I suppose in that i am choosing to take them.

    I am taking meds for high blood pressure.

    Sudden, as it was an ER trip and I'd never had anything like that happen before. Conscious I suppose in that i am choosing to take them.

    3 votes

  4. Comment on After pushing anti-trans laws to "protect women’s sports", Project 2025’s Heritage Foundation now wants to eliminate women's sports to "assist fertility" in ~society

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    So they start by saying, women shouldn't have to receive the same outcomes with Title IX, then they say it's ok to cut some women's sports for "hiking clubs". The idea that schools, who only have...

    So they start by saying, women shouldn't have to receive the same outcomes with Title IX, then they say it's ok to cut some women's sports for "hiking clubs". The idea that schools, who only have so many women's sports as they do because they need to balance their football teams, will keep more than whatever legally required minimum someone sets (and what would that be), is believing that this time they won't take another inch after we give them one.

    Never mind that colleges offer all of these fitness classes and hiking clubs and the like already, this all exists... So why cut women's sports again?

    Well of course they're doing it so women will be less likely to postpone having children ("more oriented toward motherhood" to mirror his language) and less likely to stop menstruating or take birth control to do so, to keep competing. Their premise is misogynistic garbage and their outcome is misogynistic garbage. I mean they're not saying men should stop playing violent sports where their testicles get compressed and crushed and torqued despite a cup doing its best... What if they became infertile?!

    Crickets

    And that ignores the fact that just because they say they would keep some sports doesn't mean that they don't want to eliminate them. Personally I think they absolutely do based on the entire context of their statements.

    But I agree they don't only want to eliminate women's sports, they want to destroy Title IX entirely.

    • They cut loans for women dominated career fields
    • They want to cut Title IX protections
    • They want women to not postpone having children
    • They wail about the fertility crisis and birthrates going down among high school and college age girls/women.
    • They literally contradict their own arguments about keeping trans women out of women's sports.
    • They want to ban abortion and have significantly damaged my rights to my body.
    • They want to remove coverage of emergency contraception from healthcare
    • They oppose any contraception, the medical marvel that lets women have functional careers and live longer.
    • They want to kill anything that sounds like "DEI" which they use to describe "a woman who got a job in a field they think a man might have done better in."
    • They want to remove no-fault divorce.
    • Our Secretary of Defense is blocking promotions of women in the military for no reason other than that they're women.
    • Our Secretary of Defense is sharing videos advocating for the loss of franchise for women. (This one is in the "getting you used to hearing it" stage, where soon we'll have to actually argue about it instead of dismiss it, because it's just being said so much )

    They want women out of schools, without means to address sexual assault in schools, without "unladylike" activities, without freedom or rights at all. That's what they want.

    I beg folks to stop trying to rationalize the fascism and insist we're exaggerating. It is a clear and direct line from what they want and the return of second class status for women. I literally have fewer rights today than a decade ago, and they would want me forced into a dress, unable to escape an abusive marriage, forced back into the closet.

    We do not need to give them the benefit of the doubt, or even defend them. It's absolutely unnecessary. But especially when doing so requires ignoring everything else project 2025 and The Heritage Foundation argues for.

    Tl;Dr I cannot express how clearly obvious it is to me that they do in fact want that without either a million words or name calling. They laid out a roadmap and claiming that they don't actually want to take the route that they mapped feels like denial, gaslighting, or naivete.

    9 votes

  5. Comment on After pushing anti-trans laws to "protect women’s sports", Project 2025’s Heritage Foundation now wants to eliminate women's sports to "assist fertility" in ~society

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    That is what I've been Screaming for a while now.

    That is what I've been saying Screaming for a while now.

    8 votes

  6. Comment on I am a transwoman, I am in the closet and I am not coming out in ~lgbt

  7. Comment on 2026 Fifa World Cup - Finals discussion and news megathread (quarters/semis/finals) in ~sports.football

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    I'm a fan of the cougar (Tupi in origin) by her many, many names as well. And her screaming! I don't care if they're Florida panthers, mountain lions, catamounts, gol (Tehuelche), grey ghosts,...

    I'm a fan of the cougar (Tupi in origin) by her many, many names as well. And her screaming! I don't care if they're Florida panthers, mountain lions, catamounts, gol (Tehuelche), grey ghosts, shunta-haska (Mandans), night crier, deer tiger, puma (Quechua), mountain devil, silver lion, Erielhonan (Lake Erie tribes), sneak cat, swamp screamer, çuçuarana (Portuguese from Tupi), and the one you say when you meet them in person "oh shit, shit shit shit shit aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaugh"... I love them.

    This has been Mitzli Facts ℠ (Aztec)

    The Mayaimi appear to have been the victims of raids by other indigenous tribes, and the survivors may have gone to Cuba. (Not accounting for the mass casualties from disease in the Americas) I did not dig too deep, as I need some positivity still and researching Native histories is far less joyful and names for a Puma concolor.

    2 votes

  8. Comment on 2026 Fifa World Cup - Finals discussion and news megathread (quarters/semis/finals) in ~sports.football

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    Welcome to America Facts™ Bienvenidos a Miami Miami is named for the river of the same name, which is named for the Mayaimi people. (No relation to the Miami people of woodlands tribes in...

    Welcome to America Facts™

    Bienvenidos a Miami

    Miami is named for the river of the same name, which is named for the Mayaimi people. (No relation to the Miami people of woodlands tribes in Illinois. Same with the recognized Miami tribe in Oklahoma who used to live in Illinois but don't now, because of the colonization.)

    Did you know it was founded by a woman? I didn't!
    It has the warmest winters in the US, which means mid-July is a great time to hold a game there.

    This has been America Facts ™

    4 votes

  9. Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books

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    I have read Heretical Fishing, or some of it, not sure where I left off! Thanks for the reminder about it. The other two seem worth checking out! I have clicked on a few of the shout outs from...

    I have read Heretical Fishing, or some of it, not sure where I left off! Thanks for the reminder about it.

    The other two seem worth checking out! I have clicked on a few of the shout outs from Metaworld Hopecore and if they pan out I'll add them as recs too. I'm mostly in a pattern of just binge reading a new RR, catching up on all my other RR, and then starting again lol

  10. Comment on After pushing anti-trans laws to "protect women’s sports", Project 2025’s Heritage Foundation now wants to eliminate women's sports to "assist fertility" in ~society

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    Oh so now gender affirming treatment is fine. Weird how it's always fine on cis men and usually maybe ok on cis women.

    Oh so now gender affirming treatment is fine. Weird how it's always fine on cis men and usually maybe ok on cis women.

    12 votes

  11. Comment on After pushing anti-trans laws to "protect women’s sports", Project 2025’s Heritage Foundation now wants to eliminate women's sports to "assist fertility" in ~society

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    It's not like most Germans cared about what happened, hence the poem. Most folks don't care what doesn't happen to them.... Probably not most, I'm just cynical..We fought for these rights before....

    It's not like most Germans cared about what happened, hence the poem. Most folks don't care what doesn't happen to them.... Probably not most, I'm just cynical..We fought for these rights before. We could do it again. We just shouldn't have to. And like before people will suffer and die for it.

    From the beginning of bathroom laws this was always going to be about controlling women by making clear delineations in publicly acceptable dress and behavior by sex... and removing protections against sex based dress codes means women can't even expect to wear pants at work. Transmisogyny is misogyny. Sexism often underlies homophobia.

    They have already demanded women be incubators even when dead and when that isn't appealing they want to take away rights, and force women into a life where the only options are marriage without divorce. (I'm sure like always this mostly applies to middle class white women as black women and poor women have always worked....)

    They have openly talked about repealing the 19th.
    They have openly talked about institutionalizing people. How long before the crazy women who don't want kids get sent away for their retraining? And before anyone says they can't, that doesn't mean they don't want to.

    Let's stop them now, and not defend or appease them.

    And I wonder if anyone will say "this is good for women actually because then the right wing men will leave them alone."

    17 votes

  12. Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books

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    I think Battle Mage Farmer was someone else's rec! I keep up with Bee Dungeon still, it's been very enjoyable. I just started Metaworld Hopecore and am enjoying it, tried Derek's Dungeon Depot and...

    I think Battle Mage Farmer was someone else's rec!
    I keep up with Bee Dungeon still, it's been very enjoyable.

    I just started Metaworld Hopecore and am enjoying it, tried Derek's Dungeon Depot and am bored with how often he's drunk and making bad choices, and just snagged Maze and Common Sense, both on Kindle U.

    I'll say DWBS remains a top five if not #1

    Suggestions are welcome!

  13. Comment on Silicon Valley has a science fiction problem in ~tech

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    It's also hard to be neutral about people saying, "man that space/fantasy stuff is cool, I'm going to be the evil Emperor/Saruman/the Dominion/the bad guys.". Like there are some very basic...

    It's also hard to be neutral about people saying, "man that space/fantasy stuff is cool, I'm going to be the evil Emperor/Saruman/the Dominion/the bad guys.". Like there are some very basic lessons in the books the folks highlighted here claim to love, this isn't about deep analysis of the text.

    It's the most basic of media literacy really.

    5 votes

  14. Comment on After pushing anti-trans laws to "protect women’s sports", Project 2025’s Heritage Foundation now wants to eliminate women's sports to "assist fertility" in ~society

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    And they take and they take and they take. So if we could stop thinking that sacrificing trans women, trans people, gender non conforming cis people is a necessary thing to appease the right now,...

    And they take and they take and they take.

    So if we could stop thinking that sacrificing trans women, trans people, gender non conforming cis people is a necessary thing to appease the right now, that would be great.

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    I believe that women's sports are still the side show for the fascists that want to control my body and my "fertility"; revoking Title IX would do much more damage than cutting women's sports (which it would do). But that alone would still be devastating.

    29 votes

  15. Comment on Silicon Valley has a science fiction problem in ~tech

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    Rather than the ones highlighted as popular by the tech billionaires I recommend the ones they ignore I liked all three of these, though I don't think I finished the Mars trilogy.

    Rather than the ones highlighted as popular by the tech billionaires I recommend the ones they ignore

    Silicon Valley’s power rests on presenting a narrow, reactionary fantasy as inevitable progress. But other futures are possible, and other science fictions exist. Ursula K Le Guin’s The Dispossessed (1974) imagines an anarchist Moon colony built on mutual aid rather than extraction. Octavia Butler’s Parable series (1993-98) depicts communities surviving collapse through adaptation and care rather than escape to Mars. Kim Stanley Robinson’s Mars trilogy (1992-96) shows planetary settlement as collective democratic project, not billionaire venture. These are not naive or utopian texts – they are demanding, difficult and honest about the costs of building anything new. They refuse the consolation of the lone visionary and insist, over and over, that the future is made by people working together.

    I liked all three of these, though I don't think I finished the Mars trilogy.

    8 votes

  16. Comment on US House passes bill to ‘ditch the switch’ and make daylight saving time permanent in ~society

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    I'd have to go back and look as it's been a while. But the major sleep organizations and AMA have also come out in favor of Permanent ST. I suspect that there could be different experiences...

    I'd have to go back and look as it's been a while. But the major sleep organizations and AMA have also come out in favor of Permanent ST. I suspect that there could be different experiences depending on if one is at the East or West side of a larger time zone and population density might impact whether ST or DT makes more sense

    Iirc one argument is how late sunrise would be for several months and that the commute at the beginning of the day is riskier due to that tiredness than the end of the day. But the argue, and again successfully enough that dozens of sleep organizations are behind them, that human sleep rhythms (especially combined with our enforced work schedules) are more aligned with ST in aggregate.

    I talked it through with the person I know who posted it so I'd have to literally recreate my thought processes from several years ago, but I did feel it was overall compelling. They have a lot of material (including stuff I don't care about like "religious freedom") to speak to a lot of different groups so it's a bit overwhelming.

    4 votes

  17. Comment on China is dealing with its own manosphere in ~life.men

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    The individual seems to be able to move it's just that there's a push pull about losing land in the country vs taking up resources in the city. So if you create your own family you have to move to...

    The individual seems to be able to move it's just that there's a push pull about losing land in the country vs taking up resources in the city. So if you create your own family you have to move to where your hukou is even if you were living and working somewhere else before that. Some folks want to update their hukou, but some don't want to lose family land if they were "upgraded" even if they would want to keep working or raising their family elsewhere.

    It's definitely more control over a populations movement but not quite as restrictive as serfdom (at least as currently implemented)

    4 votes

  18. Comment on US House passes bill to ‘ditch the switch’ and make daylight saving time permanent in ~society

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    No, I'm wrong. I swear I read this yesterday and it was the opposite. Mea culpa, thanks for the catch

    No, I'm wrong. I swear I read this yesterday and it was the opposite. Mea culpa, thanks for the catch

    5 votes

  19. Comment on Silicon Valley has a science fiction problem in ~tech

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    I think that is a separate point where they're "stealing" the philosophy of the book rather than the flashy name/idea without any of the message coming along. I also suspect fewer of them read it...

    I think that is a separate point where they're "stealing" the philosophy of the book rather than the flashy name/idea without any of the message coming along. I also suspect fewer of them read it at all

    6 votes

  20. Comment on US House passes bill to ‘ditch the switch’ and make daylight saving time permanent in ~society

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    Posted before but, knowing someone from this project: Save Standard Time has led me to have considered the evidence and fully be on team standard time.

    Posted before but, knowing someone from this project: Save Standard Time has led me to have considered the evidence and fully be on team standard time.

    14 votes