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Comment on Making sense of South Korea’s senseless martial law declaration in ~society
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Comment on Pornhub to block access in thirteen states as age-verification laws expand across US in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link Parent"Think of the children" and " these substances are particularly unsafe for people whose brains are not fully developed and due to the physical and/or addictive risks we have an age minimum." are..."Think of the children" and " these substances are particularly unsafe for people whose brains are not fully developed and due to the physical and/or addictive risks we have an age minimum." are two different things.
The language these laws are using is intentionally brosd. The Kansas law doesn't "prevent access to pornography" or even "obscene materials" it's "harmful to minors."
The options here are not enact these laws or give 4 year olds a Jack and Coke with their heroin and personalized Pornhub login.
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Comment on HIV/AIDs-centered camp in northern Minnesota is closing, and that's wonderful! in ~lgbt
DefinitelyNotAFae Link(LGBTQ due to the history of HIV and AIDS in the community and the shared stigma from the 90s, but it wasn't quite health either so move if you need to) Transmission from parent to child through...(LGBTQ due to the history of HIV and AIDS in the community and the shared stigma from the 90s, but it wasn't quite health either so move if you need to)
The 80-acre site is home to a camp that has served kids living with or affected by HIV/AIDS for more than 30 years. But the number of babies contracting the virus through their mothers has declined to the point where such a camp no longer needs to exist. (Emphasis mine)
As a Wisconsin college student, founder Neil Willenson read about a 5-year-old boy in the Milwaukee area living with HIV who faced isolationism and discrimination at his school. Willenson reached out to the family and got to know them, learning the virus’s deep effects on each member.
He founded One Heartland in 1993 when he was 22, intending it to be a short project. Now 53, he often marvels at how quickly his college-age dreams of working in Hollywood as an actor and producer diverged to running a nonprofit.
Transmission from parent to child through pregnancy/birth is down to less than 1%. There are just very few kids now born in the US needing this support. And they're not facing the imminent deaths of their family, camp friends and themselves the way it seemed 30 years ago. And while they're sad to see the camp go, they can't be mad about why it's not needed.
For anyone that needs a win today, I hope this helped 💜🌈
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HIV/AIDs-centered camp in northern Minnesota is closing, and that's wonderful!
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Comment on The Walmart effect in ~finance
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentCool. I'm being more explicit this time that I'm done running in circles with you. I don't care.Cool. I'm being more explicit this time that I'm done running in circles with you. I don't care.
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Comment on The Walmart effect in ~finance
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI've explained myself thoroughly multiple times and you're insisting on disagreeing with what I haven't said. Some small business are in fact worse by some metrics than large businesses because...I've explained myself thoroughly multiple times and you're insisting on disagreeing with what I haven't said.
Some small business are in fact worse by some metrics than large businesses because they're outright directly and actively abusive and harmful to employees or exploit the vulnerable (but that wasn't my point. But it's all in how you're measuring bad. In the timeline of the sun none of this matters.
My point was that small businesses don't all deserve to survive because they're small. Those are different. Please don't bother to repeat yourself.
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Comment on The big five publishers have abandoned literary fiction, putting it on life support in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAre those other books gone or just recategorized?Are those other books gone or just recategorized?
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Comment on The return of non-PC language in the US mainstream in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI won't say it's never used casually here but I've only seen it in essentially Nazi spaces.I won't say it's never used casually here but I've only seen it in essentially Nazi spaces.
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Comment on The return of non-PC language in the US mainstream in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkHonestly, if folks would stop using words as insults, they'd stop being considered impolite. That's all 95 percent of this really boils down to. But when enough people put enough derision behind a...Honestly, if folks would stop using words as insults, they'd stop being considered impolite. That's all 95 percent of this really boils down to. But when enough people put enough derision behind a word, it becomes something you really don't want to get called ever again. Everyone is hurt by different words. Try not to use them because you're a decent human being. It's not that hard.
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Comment on The return of non-PC language in the US mainstream in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIs the one you're referencing a word (or relative of the word) for people who lived on the Asian Steppes on horseback? I don't see that used in the US outside of some deeply racist/eugenics heavy...Is the one you're referencing a word (or relative of the word) for people who lived on the Asian Steppes on horseback?
I don't see that used in the US outside of some deeply racist/eugenics heavy sorts of spaces. We're talking about the folks that would kill disabled people rather than care what they're called.
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Comment on What are some words or usage that became more prominent in 2024, either in your life or in general? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAvoiding stigmatizing language around mental health, but also just the slang evolving. I agree, it's wild.Avoiding stigmatizing language around mental health, but also just the slang evolving. I agree, it's wild.
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Comment on The Walmart effect in ~finance
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI feel like you're deliberately not hearing me now.I feel like you're deliberately not hearing me now.
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Comment on The Walmart effect in ~finance
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentNo, no I didn't. I said "should they be open either" with the intent of saying sometimes both are bad. As a teen I struggled to see why Walmart was worse than where I was being paid less....No, no I didn't. I said "should they be open either" with the intent of saying sometimes both are bad. As a teen I struggled to see why Walmart was worse than where I was being paid less.
Expressing understanding why people go work for and shop at stores like Walmart isn't the same thing as saying survival of the fittest either.
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Comment on Meet the people running LGBTQ+ youth shelters during the hardest season in ~lgbt
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAgreed, it's one of those "once you know a thing" and I'm familiar with situations where the child has severe enough mental health that they're threatening siblings, the parent(s) and it's...Agreed, it's one of those "once you know a thing" and I'm familiar with situations where the child has severe enough mental health that they're threatening siblings, the parent(s) and it's genuinely unsafe. Parents will sometimes surrender their child to the state to ensure they get enough treatment as well.
It's still a last resort among last resorts.
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Comment on Tildes Demographics Survey, year… uh, it’s 2024? in ~tildes
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThey were saying that those are several things that certain political ideologies disagree with vehemently. I don't see them calling those identities political, just that rightwing folks may...They were saying that those are several things that certain political ideologies disagree with vehemently. I don't see them calling those identities political, just that rightwing folks may perceive them as such due to their ideology.
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Comment on "The Telepathy Tapes" is taking America by storm. But it has its roots in old autism controversies. in ~misc
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOk the comparison is unfair, professionally speaking, but yes basically. Changelings got blamed for a lot that we had nothing to do with. Indigo is just...╮(╯_╰)╭Ok the comparison is unfair, professionally speaking, but yes basically. Changelings got blamed for a lot that we had nothing to do with. Indigo is just...╮(╯_╰)╭
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Comment on Sweden is a nearly cashless society – here's how it affects people who are left out in ~finance
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThe Sacagawea's are discontinued but they still make dollar coins. Technically they're collectibles but they can be ordered for currency. It's a weird middle ground.The Sacagawea's are discontinued but they still make dollar coins. Technically they're collectibles but they can be ordered for currency. It's a weird middle ground.
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI found Emily Wilde interminable as an audio, and I think I decided I just didn't like Emily that much. And not because she's autistic coded. My review was: By the end I just wanted the book to be...I found Emily Wilde interminable as an audio, and I think I decided I just didn't like Emily that much. And not because she's autistic coded. My review was:
This has been generally fine and if Emily is not intended to be written as autistic I'll eat my hat. It's dry, and I want to be more interested. But I cannot relate to any of the characters and I just don't care about them. The side characters are more interesting but because Emily truly doesn't care about other people in a way I can connect with, putting research first, we don't see them. We get hints of what they're like through background motion.
There's interesting stuff here on the fae and on women in academia, but it's... Just fine. I'm disappointedBy the end I just wanted the book to be done. Even sped up. I do also realize that I don't love the timeframe as a setting for fiction and because I'm not enamored with all the society things it doesn't engage me just because it has fae...( whatever those are.)
Anyway I'm glad it worked for you, it's weird because it seems like it should be up my alley and I'm always interested in discussing why things work and don't forget different people.
I liked Iron Widow a lot, and am eyeing book 2
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Comment on "The Telepathy Tapes" is taking America by storm. But it has its roots in old autism controversies. in ~misc
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentJust because I referenced them in my rant... /JJust because I referenced them in my rant...
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Comment on "The Telepathy Tapes" is taking America by storm. But it has its roots in old autism controversies. in ~misc
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There is obviously and clearly a lot of regional and local history playing into this, but that summary sounded so familiar. One more proof America is not not exceptional, we're common as dirt.