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  1. Comment on Megathread: April Fools' Day 2026 on the internet in ~talk

    DefinitelyNotAFae
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    Got a link or is this a weird "see it's a joke because it's ridiculous for a woman" thing? Ah this is a Euronews joke, because it's ridiculous for a woman

    Got a link or is this a weird "see it's a joke because it's ridiculous for a woman" thing?

    Ah this is a Euronews joke, because it's ridiculous for a woman

    1 vote

  2. Comment on Jeopardy! YouTube Edition | Full episode feat. Monét X Change, Rebecca Black & Brennan Lee Mulligan in ~tv

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    Previous thread with links to the episode and post ep chat And yes there are ads if you don't have Premium or block them.

    Previous thread with links to the episode and post ep chat

    And yes there are ads if you don't have Premium or block them.

    2 votes

  3. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    I am nonbinary, she/they are correct but "she" is something I'm not really attached to. It's not wrong really, and it doesn't actively bother me other than when folks don't ever use "they" and...

    I am nonbinary, she/they are correct but "she" is something I'm not really attached to. It's not wrong really, and it doesn't actively bother me other than when folks don't ever use "they" and only use "she". (Non-binary folks don't fit into the discrete binary boxes, that doesn't mean we don't sometimes have a foot in them, and I do for now. I know someone who likes he or she but not they and which one depended on the day. Bigender + some fluidity)

    Demi-woman seems to mostly describe me, as does Gender non-conforming or gender apathetic. But I "look" more like a woman than not and my name is femme and it's not worth having to insist on anything different. And maybe someday my preference and my energy will both have shifted sufficiently that I'm interested in doing so.

    2 votes

  4. Comment on US Supreme Court rules against Colorado ban on ‘conversion therapy’ for LGBTQ+ kids in ~lgbt

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    So, to be clear, it's not overturned, it just requires "strict scrutiny" which will probably lead to it being overturned. I do still maintain that we have to be able to regulate mental health...

    So, to be clear, it's not overturned, it just requires "strict scrutiny" which will probably lead to it being overturned.

    I do still maintain that we have to be able to regulate mental health professionals to prevent them from offering the equivalent of homeopathy or worse. There has to be a way that works. And I suspect a law could be written that way that passes the strict scrutiny standard. Bare minimum its unethical as fuck and they should lose their licenses.

    I don't think a professionally provided service should be held to the same standard as something someone says on the street.

    2 votes

  5. Comment on Megathread: April Fools' Day 2026 on the internet in ~talk

  6. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    Ironically I think working in my role supporting students exposes me to how much hateful shit is still out there, in general, not just targeting any one group. Some of that is students will go out...

    Ironically I think working in my role supporting students exposes me to how much hateful shit is still out there, in general, not just targeting any one group. Some of that is students will go out of their way to be shitty, where most folks won't stir the pot (though I did have a lady yell "no it's MURDER" while following me in my "Abortion is Healthcare" shirt through Costco...) even if they have opinions. Some of it is also just seeing the reports about some thousands of people. Some of it is seeing the harm parents do regularly. Proportionally it's small but it's never gone from my sight. My secondary trauma is both real and shoved in a box in the corner.

    I try to be visible if only so I'm safe for my students, and so whoever comes next will have an easier time with having they/them pronouns or won't have to be the first to raise an issue. It feels like today (yesterday) balances the day of remembrance... Like on one we mourn and on the other we say We're Still Standing.

    Idk thanks for being here and I'm glad you've found a wonderful family

    6 votes

  7. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    I understand all the reasons folks may not post here or may not see this, but I'll share that I invalidate myself a lot being nonbinary. In many ways this is because I'm more gender apathetic than...

    I understand all the reasons folks may not post here or may not see this, but I'll share that I invalidate myself a lot being nonbinary. In many ways this is because I'm more gender apathetic than strongly aligned to a gender. I know I'm not a dude but I am not strongly attached to being a woman, and in part I keep the "she" around because I don't want to have to correct people and I know for others I'm she-shaped rather than sidhe shaped. (Similarly while fae/faer pronouns wouldn't upset me, I don't have the energy for that fight. And it would be, not just IRL and I'm too gender-meh for it.)

    I also don't want to take up space from those with gender dysphoria, for whom "passing" can be life saving, and who are targeted by the media and news day to day. But I'm here, I try to be visible and loud in the best ways I can be. And thanks to those who reached out with kind messages the past week or so.

    Fuck TERFs and Transphobes and all those who wish us ill.

    21 votes

  8. Comment on Jeopardy! YouTube Edition | Teaser in ~tv

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    Spoilers Brennan locking-in once he got the buzzer timing down absolutely tracks, as does his final jeopardy math though as a 2x parent I'm surprised he didn't get the last question. I feel like...
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    Brennan locking-in once he got the buzzer timing down absolutely tracks, as does his final jeopardy math though as a 2x parent I'm surprised he didn't get the last question.

    I feel like his next Um Actually appearance will reference this.

    2 votes

  9. Comment on Jeopardy! YouTube Edition | Teaser in ~tv

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    Non-spoiler - I about cried at two of them choosing the Trevor Project and then GLAAD happened and I did. Trevor Project is near and dear to my heart. ( ･ั﹏･ั)

    Non-spoiler - I about cried at two of them choosing the Trevor Project and then GLAAD happened and I did. Trevor Project is near and dear to my heart. (⁠ ⁠･ั⁠﹏⁠･ั⁠)

    2 votes

  10. Trans Day of Visibility

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    Hey folks, My apologies but you've rolled a nat 1 on your stealth check (the D&D kind...) as today you have disadvantage. If you are trans, including all sorts of folks under the broader umbrella,...

    Hey folks,

    My apologies but you've rolled a nat 1 on your stealth check (the D&D kind...) as today you have disadvantage.

    If you are trans, including all sorts of folks under the broader umbrella, please, if you choose, take this moment to be visible, share something that brings you joy, gender euphoria or just small happinesses.

    You are valid and loved even when this world does not feel validating or loving

    (⁠⁠˘⁠︶⁠˘⁠⁠)⁠.⁠｡⁠*⁠♡

    49 votes

  11. Comment on US Supreme Court rules against Colorado ban on ‘conversion therapy’ for LGBTQ+ kids in ~lgbt

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    Mark Joseph Stern on bluesky about this ruling If I understand this. Technically the law isn't overturned, it's likely to be, but it's not yet.

    Mark Joseph Stern on bluesky about this ruling

    This decision applies only to talk therapy, not forms of "conversion therapy" that involve physical interventions (which are really abuse). It does not strike down Colorado's law on its face. Actually, it does not invalidate anything—it just holds that this kind of law is subject to strict scrutiny.

    Gorsuch's opinion for the court holds that Colorado's law is subject to strict scrutiny as applied to talk therapy.

    But Gorsuch does not actually run through the test here—he just strongly implies that when the lower court does, it'll be obligated to block the law's application to this plaintiff.

    If I understand this. Technically the law isn't overturned, it's likely to be, but it's not yet.

    4 votes

  12. Comment on Can we talk about rice cookers? in ~food

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    There's a guy online whose whole schtick is dressing up like Mulan and yelling at people for not washing their rice (in good fun).

    There's a guy online whose whole schtick is dressing up like Mulan and yelling at people for not washing their rice (in good fun).

  13. Comment on US Supreme Court rules against Colorado ban on ‘conversion therapy’ for LGBTQ+ kids in ~lgbt

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    I know and also... Stares at my students I am where I am for a reason. It might be the "right" decision and still be bad and still hurt.

    I know and also... Stares at my students

    I am where I am for a reason. It might be the "right" decision and still be bad and still hurt.

    5 votes

  14. Comment on US Supreme Court rules against Colorado ban on ‘conversion therapy’ for LGBTQ+ kids in ~lgbt

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    Agreed that rights for children would address a lot but I do think there has to be a way to ban certain modalities - including the abuse that happens in the troubled teens industry. Maybe that's...

    Agreed that rights for children would address a lot but I do think there has to be a way to ban certain modalities - including the abuse that happens in the troubled teens industry. Maybe that's requiring evidence based practice, maybe that's making regulatory agencies have teeth, idk.

    But factually kids will die because of this and while I acknowledge the complexity of it all, we have to be able to do something because in the meantime, dead kids.

    3 votes

  15. Comment on TV series suggestions in ~tv

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    Dang I thought I got a new one for you! Glad you enjoyed it though! You can watch a lot on YouTube and if you have questions about where to start, please just ask! (For Dimension 20 specifically...

    Dang I thought I got a new one for you! Glad you enjoyed it though!

    You can watch a lot on YouTube and if you have questions about where to start, please just ask!

    (For Dimension 20 specifically they provided this video to help!)

  16. Comment on US Supreme Court rules against Colorado ban on ‘conversion therapy’ for LGBTQ+ kids in ~lgbt

    DefinitelyNotAFae
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    In a more perfect world a therapist providing this therapy would have their license pulled and then be unable to practice and thus it wouldn't need to be a broad legislation, just tacked on to...

    In a more perfect world a therapist providing this therapy would have their license pulled and then be unable to practice and thus it wouldn't need to be a broad legislation, just tacked on to licensure laws or by regulatory agencies or even the ACA or what have you.

    However in many states you can provide pastoral counseling, life coaching and many other unregulated types of not-quite-therapy that don't require a specific degree or a license or whose regulations are relatively weak. There are other forms of therapy that are banned but fairly few. Regulatory agencies don't have any teeth in many states.

    And once again, how do you stop someone "just talking" to someone if they're not licensed. But that license should be the leverage where it matters. Because we know this harms kids. Like explicitly increases their suicide rate. It also doesn't work so it's ineffective. They're charging Medicaid, Medicare, insurance companies for this therapy.

    The idea that we cannot regulate an ineffective treatment that harms the recipients is one that leaves every single client vulnerable.

    7 votes

  17. Comment on US Supreme Court rules against Colorado ban on ‘conversion therapy’ for LGBTQ+ kids in ~lgbt

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    Today is one of the wanting to give up days. ( ´◡ゝ◡`)

    Today is one of the wanting to give up days. (⁠ ⁠´⁠◡ゝ⁠◡⁠`⁠)

    11 votes

  18. Comment on Vaping likely to cause lung and oral cancer, Australian researchers find in new review of evidence in ~health

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    No clearly it was odorless! There's no way he could have been vaping. Ignore the giant fucking clouds of vapor ಠ_ಠ It was mostly the disrespect to the site/us and the inability to walk to the...

    No clearly it was odorless! There's no way he could have been vaping. Ignore the giant fucking clouds of vapor ಠ⁠_⁠ಠ

    It was mostly the disrespect to the site/us and the inability to walk to the designated spot because he thought he knew better than everyone else.

    8 votes

  19. Comment on US Supreme Court rules against Colorado ban on ‘conversion therapy’ for LGBTQ+ kids in ~lgbt

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    If they can't regulate healthcare HOW CAN THEY BAN ABORTION. The answer is inconsistency. I just, ugh.

    If they can't regulate healthcare HOW CAN THEY BAN ABORTION.

    The answer is inconsistency. I just, ugh.

    35 votes

  20. Comment on Can we talk about rice cookers? in ~food

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    It's such a long song on the Samsung devices. Like, give me half that and I wouldn't want to turn it off

    It's such a long song on the Samsung devices. Like, give me half that and I wouldn't want to turn it off