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  1. Comment on Tumblr to begin selling user content to AI generative service companies, opt-out will be per blog in ~tech

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    It's almost like someone taking someone else's fanfic and binding it as a physical book and selling it on Etsy.

    but I still feel icky that these companies are taking information that’s freely available, packaging it into a bundle, and then selling it for their own profit and putting up guardrails against others being able to use it in their own ways.

    It's almost like someone taking someone else's fanfic and binding it as a physical book and selling it on Etsy.

    5 votes
  2. Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies

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    I don't love the book, I read the first 3 as a teen and re-read the first one as an adult and I'm good being done with that now. I don't think it's needed to appreciate the movie. You just miss...

    I don't love the book, I read the first 3 as a teen and re-read the first one as an adult and I'm good being done with that now. I don't think it's needed to appreciate the movie. You just miss the occasional "oh that thing is important later." Or "oh they're wearing kilts because they're descended..." Etc

    But I enjoyed just the experience of the first movie. I'm glad to hear the 2nd continues and even improves.

    4 votes
  3. Comment on Etsy sellers are turning free fanfiction into printed and bound physical books [against the wishes of the authors], and listing them for sale for more than $100 per book in ~books

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    I think, and I may have missed if this was mentioned elsewhere that the real issue in suing over fanfic is the lack of articulable damages. When fanfic is free there is not really any point in...

    I think, and I may have missed if this was mentioned elsewhere that the real issue in suing over fanfic is the lack of articulable damages. When fanfic is free there is not really any point in suing. It likely why fanfic authors are taking their fics down, because they respect that boundary.

    I'll note that author Naomi Novik is one of the founders of Archive of our own (a fanfic site) and other authors have been open about writing fanfic - Tamsyn Muir and Seanan McGuire are two that come to mind that I read voraciously. They clearly don't feel that fanfic is inherently illegal or illicit although they cannot read it themselves (of their own works).

    6 votes
  4. Comment on Weekly Israel-Hamas war megathread - week of February 26 in ~news

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    An unbiased psychologist wouldn't weigh in on the individual - I mean someone out there will go on the media and talk really indirectly about what might have been going on, but you cannot diagnose...

    An unbiased psychologist wouldn't weigh in on the individual - I mean someone out there will go on the media and talk really indirectly about what might have been going on, but you cannot diagnose someone ethically without speaking to them and assessing them. Not all suicidal people are also dealing with mental illnesses.

    Not talking about him though (and I have a counseling degree but am not licensed to practice clinically by choice so take this as you like), It is fairly 'normal' for people to be able to compartmentalize indirect, distant, or similar sorts of harm and negative outcomes. Its also common for that compartmentalization to break down - and thus people do all sorts of things like, stop buying chocolate made with child labor, go zero waste/emissions, and yeah to be sad or horrified at things happening in the world, especially when you can connect direct lines from your actions to them.

    Is it ideal to live in that sadness and grief? No. But it's really not "abnormal" to feel it. Is it unhealthy to fixate on? Yeah in the same way it's unhealthy to fixate on anything you cannot change. (And some things that you can). I had a student come crying to me several years ago overwhelmed because of everything going on in the world at the time - BLM, pandemic, political strife, etc. but the topper was the ocean being on fire. And I had to tell her the ocean had been on fire before and would be again, and the world would still turn and bad happens but so does good. But if you don't have people telling you that, or it isn't enough, you can absolutely be weighed down by even distant devastation. But most of us shove that horror into a box and move on with our day and it sort of dissipates rather than exploding out at inconvenient times and in less productive ways.

    (I don't find normal and abnormal useful here. A lot of behaviors are common and unhealthy, or unusual but absolutely fine and normal means very little and is often a biased standard, especially in psychology)

    6 votes
  5. Comment on Collapse comments? in ~tildes

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    It's not helpful for me for reading or for my own formatting. My brain doesn't work like that (headings and such) and formatting on mobile is easier with the firefox plugin but still not intuitive...

    It's not helpful for me for reading or for my own formatting. My brain doesn't work like that (headings and such) and formatting on mobile is easier with the firefox plugin but still not intuitive for me.

    It makes it much harder in my case to engage with that sort of comment than it is to engage with a long one and I'm way more likely to scroll past it than read it in full.

    1 vote
  6. Comment on Fitness educational resources? in ~health

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    Ok I did just have to laugh at Those are not the range of options I was considering lol

    Ok I did just have to laugh at

    "• Simple & Sinister will physically prepare you for almost anything life could throw at you, from carrying a piano upstairs or holding your own in a street fight."

    Those are not the range of options I was considering lol

    2 votes
  7. Comment on Police bodycam shows sheriff hunting for 'obscene' books at library in ~books

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    I don't mind disagreeing, just the misrepresentation of my words. I am operating on the assumption that the people who use the document understand it fine and neither of our external POVs are...

    I don't mind disagreeing, just the misrepresentation of my words. I am operating on the assumption that the people who use the document understand it fine and neither of our external POVs are relevant.

  8. Comment on Police bodycam shows sheriff hunting for 'obscene' books at library in ~books

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    I did not say that it put most libraries in violation. I said that it is much more likely that this brief reading of the rules by non-librarians is probably incomplete and inaccurate.

    I did not say that it put most libraries in violation. I said that it is much more likely that this brief reading of the rules by non-librarians is probably incomplete and inaccurate.

    2 votes
  9. Comment on Active US Air Force serviceman self-immolates himself in front of the Embassy of Israel in ~news

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    Not all suicidal people have a mental illness. It would not be ethical to diagnose a person that a licensed clinician has not met with based on one piece of information. Whatever was going on in...

    Not all suicidal people have a mental illness. It would not be ethical to diagnose a person that a licensed clinician has not met with based on one piece of information. Whatever was going on in his life we can absolutely wish that he had felt able to speak to someone and to get help addressing the feeling of hopelessness and helplessness that he expressed.

    8 votes
  10. Comment on Police bodycam shows sheriff hunting for 'obscene' books at library in ~books

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    They distinguish here some of those distinctions. And here they talk about having collections and programs to reflect the community. I am not a librarian but I think that trying to find...

    They distinguish here some of those distinctions.

    A rotating selection of books that fit into a themed, non-moral, non-doctrinal category is not the same as labeling all books by a value driven system.

    And here they talk about having collections and programs to reflect the community.

    I am not a librarian but I think that trying to find technicalities and gotchas is not a useful way with engaging with any set of regulations or policies.

    Maybe every library I've been in has been violating ALA guidelines but it seems more likely to me that the guidelines aren't saying that these actions are in violation.

  11. Comment on Police bodycam shows sheriff hunting for 'obscene' books at library in ~books

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    This is kind of like pointing out that any decision making is discrimination but not all discrimination is illegal discrimination. Librarian picks or end caps for new books or books that meet a...

    This is kind of like pointing out that any decision making is discrimination but not all discrimination is illegal discrimination.

    Librarian picks or end caps for new books or books that meet a theme are not the same, no. Sections like Teen/Adult are usually based on information from the publishers but any avid teen reader goes to the adult section sooner rather than later.

    The idea that you cannot be like "here are books for Black History Month" because it'd be the same as labeling for content warnings is absurd.

    5 votes
  12. Comment on Shaun on Palestine in ~misc

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    Thank you, I had none of that context and very much wondered who Shaun was and what sort of video it was.

    Thank you, I had none of that context and very much wondered who Shaun was and what sort of video it was.

    6 votes
  13. Comment on Why is it so hard to tell the sex of a dinosaur? in ~science

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    This was really enjoyable, but it doesn't surprise me that we don't fully understand sexual dimorphism of dinos, especially given how easy it is to mis-sex a bird or reptile that doesn't have...

    This was really enjoyable, but it doesn't surprise me that we don't fully understand sexual dimorphism of dinos, especially given how easy it is to mis-sex a bird or reptile that doesn't have obvious secondary sex characteristics

    3 votes
  14. Comment on Shaun on Palestine in ~misc

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    As odd as it feels for a post on this particular topic to get six minutes of screening before sharing a video 15x that length, it'd be nice to have some context on who Shaun is or why his video is...

    As odd as it feels for a post on this particular topic to get six minutes of screening before sharing a video 15x that length, it'd be nice to have some context on who Shaun is or why his video is worthy of the quick share?

    26 votes
  15. Comment on New moons of Uranus and Neptune announced in ~space

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    Coming soon to a solar system near you! (´◔‿ゝ◔`)━☞

    Coming soon to a solar system near you! (´⁠◔⁠‿⁠ゝ⁠◔⁠`⁠)⁠━⁠☞

    4 votes
  16. Comment on I donated platelets for the first time! in ~health

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    Less than an hour usually! I recommend scheduling at a permanent blood donation center your first time (and tbh for me every time.) It's less chaotic and usually more "on time" with its...

    Less than an hour usually! I recommend scheduling at a permanent blood donation center your first time (and tbh for me every time.) It's less chaotic and usually more "on time" with its appointments than blood drives at schools or churches can get.

    If your vitals and iron are good (heart rate, blood pressure and a finger stick for the iron) and you do all the consent paperwork in advance, donation is under a half hour, with the actual needle but being around 10-15min (I donate in about five but that doesn't count the prep and post work on the table)

    Also you get apple juice and cookies.

    5 votes
  17. Comment on Three long-term effects of a "plastic wrap parenting" style in ~life

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    Yeah going for cool queer cat auntie (we'll see where gender is at when they're of an age to grasp that)

    Yeah going for cool queer cat auntie (we'll see where gender is at when they're of an age to grasp that)

    2 votes
  18. Comment on Three long-term effects of a "plastic wrap parenting" style in ~life

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    Hey sometimes it's goes for like a whole week and it's the end of the world... Oh I'm not looking forward to my niblings being teens... The stress

    Hey sometimes it's goes for like a whole week and it's the end of the world... Oh I'm not looking forward to my niblings being teens... The stress

    2 votes
  19. Comment on Three long-term effects of a "plastic wrap parenting" style in ~life

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    Eh they "date" though it looks different than in older teens

    Eh they "date" though it looks different than in older teens

    2 votes
  20. Comment on I’m worried that the Israel-Palestine conflict is tearing Tildes apart in ~tildes

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    That's probably better than a deliberate (or public) tag-in. But it doesn't fully address those borderline comments outside of those threads - someone above elaborated on this in depth but I can't...

    That's probably better than a deliberate (or public) tag-in. But it doesn't fully address those borderline comments outside of those threads - someone above elaborated on this in depth but I can't find that comment.

    I'd almost rather not put that thread in LGBT as odd as that sounds.

    2 votes