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  1. Comment on The everything, everywhere, all at once corruption story in ~society

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    I don't agree with that take. First, you can complain online and also do things. Second, the small number of influencers compared to progressives in general means that anything people do that...

    I don't agree with that take. First, you can complain online and also do things. Second, the small number of influencers compared to progressives in general means that anything people do that everyone sees on Tiktok is a pretty small subset.

    iME the biggest names I watch on Tiktok are actually active in multiple ways. But even if they're not, I can just look at the protests across the country, the political gains over the past year to point out that people are doing things.

    I don't think we "become like Mamdani" or NYC though. My village or the nearby city won't function and arguably shouldn't like NYC, but they can be better

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  3. Comment on The everything, everywhere, all at once corruption story in ~society

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    Unfortunately I don't have any good relationships with influential people in this town, putting any sort of sign in my yard would much more likely result in harassment than it would change. But...

    Unfortunately I don't have any good relationships with influential people in this town, putting any sort of sign in my yard would much more likely result in harassment than it would change. But maybe in a few years.

    Dems and DSA have good representation in our county and the larger communities here and are more likely to make that change at that level. Locally our Dems don't hate the idea they just won't support a third party (understandably IMO) without those bigger changes first. Unfortunately I'm in one of those gerrymandered red districts in a blue state so while I may be able to canvas again this year, and we even have someone running against our House rep for once ( I think) I'm volunteering my time in some more "survival" sorts of spaces. I may reach out to some county level folks though to see what possibilities exist. (But it wouldn't surprise me if they fear losing a hard won majority too.)

    Thanks, appreciate the thoughts. I do think it's far more than "people just trying" though. Like you described it's a lot of work to educate and build a desire for change - and recognizing that it will help people "we" don't like too.

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  4. Comment on The everything, everywhere, all at once corruption story in ~society

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    They tried to kidnap the governor of Michigan and coup that state for far less.

    They tried to kidnap the governor of Michigan and coup that state for far less.

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  5. Comment on The everything, everywhere, all at once corruption story in ~society

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    It's not "if people just tried" it's "if we changed the system significantly." We should change the system, but currently a third party does not have a chance and will either remain very small or...

    It's not "if people just tried" it's "if we changed the system significantly." We should change the system, but currently a third party does not have a chance and will either remain very small or as has happened in the past, replace one of the existing two. And then the cycle repeats. So it's a big thing and requires more than people just "trying."

    Everyone voting third party wouldn't solve our system, but electing people who wish to change the system will. However, in any given election, I will, for example, vote based on many things other than "will change this specific system". Because they also need enough power to do so, and I need to not be the target of terrorism investigations by the federal government for opposing fascism and supporting trans people.

    Changing the system at the local level is where there is a lot more leverage; volunteering with orgs that lobby, educate and propose referenda and legislation; and canvassing and volunteering for candidates who back that change.

    Can I genuinely ask what you're doing to try to create this change? Have there been things that have been particularly effective? I am open to attempting it in my local village but I'd need a roadmap for changing the (maybe county?) election law.

    8 votes

  6. Comment on Why is it so hard to get an ADHD diagnosis? How do you find a good psychologist? in ~health.mental

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    My pediatrician (I was in college but hadn't transitioned) switched me to Adderall shortly after and here we are today... In a nationwide Adderall shortage. ಠ︵ಠ

    My pediatrician (I was in college but hadn't transitioned) switched me to Adderall shortly after and here we are today... In a nationwide Adderall shortage. ಠ⁠︵⁠ಠ

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  7. Comment on Why is it so hard to get an ADHD diagnosis? How do you find a good psychologist? in ~health.mental

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    In my case it was "good student but annoying know it all" I completed all my assignments in class before going home until high school where I couldn't always keep up like that, but at which point...

    In my case it was "good student but annoying know it all" I completed all my assignments in class before going home until high school where I couldn't always keep up like that, but at which point no one documents it.

    Not being a boy meant that it didn't even flag, especially in the era of it being Hyperactive forward.

    5 votes

  8. Comment on Why is it so hard to get an ADHD diagnosis? How do you find a good psychologist? in ~health.mental

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    Yeah the controlled substance aspect - and I suspect like other such drugs, the US federal pressures on and requirements for such prescriptions - makes some doctors wary. It can work great for...

    Yeah the controlled substance aspect - and I suspect like other such drugs, the US federal pressures on and requirements for such prescriptions - makes some doctors wary. It can work great for some but the side effects of Strattera were so bad for me my compliance was awful and I never got out of the weird Technicolor dreams phase.

    9 votes

  9. Comment on Tiny robot drones learn to navigate the world like honeybees in ~tech

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    I hope you don't, you'd be missed ETA: new favorite nickname

    I hope you don't, you'd be missed

    ETA: new favorite nickname

    15 votes

  10. Comment on Tiny robot drones learn to navigate the world like honeybees in ~tech

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    That was a pretty good faith response for a 3 word throwaway comment I think you're misreading the tone and intent of their reply. /Gen

    That was a pretty good faith response for a 3 word throwaway comment

    I think you're misreading the tone and intent of their reply. /Gen

    11 votes

  11. Comment on Jet Lag Season 17: Taiwan Rail Rush | Trailer in ~hobbies

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    Idk they skipped multiple, intentionally! Doesn't feel like every station to me! But really I like the journey

    Idk they skipped multiple, intentionally! Doesn't feel like every station to me!

    But really I like the journey

    1 vote

  12. Comment on Jet Lag Season 17: Taiwan Rail Rush | Trailer in ~hobbies

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    Honestly I'm so pissed at this season they didn't go to EVERY STATION. they're just lying to us now. It says EVERY STATION... /J But really I'm not bothered by the screw ups and the eight hour+...

    Honestly I'm so pissed at this season

    they didn't go to EVERY STATION.

    they're just lying to us now. It says EVERY STATION... /J

    But really I'm not bothered by the screw ups and the eight hour+ snack zone. That's just how the game goes sometimes, and I think that's learning new game style.

    Speaking of, I loved the overall format and that they did a lot more sightseeing!

    2 votes

  13. Comment on Polish PM apologises to same-sex couples, pledges to recognise marriages conducted in other EU states in ~society

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    This seems like basically the status quo in Italy. Same sex couples can have their weddings recognized if performed out of the country and can't legally adopt, either as a couple or as a step...

    This seems like basically the status quo in Italy. Same sex couples can have their weddings recognized if performed out of the country and can't legally adopt, either as a couple or as a step parent.

    Fucking sucks.

    7 votes

  14. Comment on Decluttering X and Bsky feeds in ~tech

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    Extension wise most of what I can find on bluesky is removing reposts and a few things like that. Also moderation lists that mute/hide pics without alt-text. Nothing that explicitly hides images...

    Extension wise most of what I can find on bluesky is removing reposts and a few things like that. Also moderation lists that mute/hide pics without alt-text. Nothing that explicitly hides images or link previews. I'm wondering if there's just a straight browser that offers a text only or image blocking option.

    Also apparently this is the preference some people have for Threads but I haven't used it to compare.

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  15. Comment on We should take hantavirus more seriously in ~health

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    Fwiw that isn't my experience - I don't know anyone transitioning to no aid, no benefits, etc. but I have solid state government and my governor declares emergencies to gain access to funding even...

    Fwiw that isn't my experience - I don't know anyone transitioning to no aid, no benefits, etc. but I have solid state government and my governor declares emergencies to gain access to funding even in very rural areas.

    No "benefits" means my partner is in a nursing home, hospital, or dead, so it's not something I can currently live with.

    15 votes

  16. Comment on Did wokeness leave us worse off? (gifted link) in ~society

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    My belief that people have to choose to, and want to change before they do is not cynical nor defeatist, it's based on my understanding of human nature. To create that desire to change, individual...

    there's this cynical and defeated vibe that all these racist people who have supported this fascist movement can't be reasoned with, or that their change must come solely from within.

    My belief that people have to choose to, and want to change before they do is not cynical nor defeatist, it's based on my understanding of human nature. To create that desire to change, individual conversations are the most effective, including everything from therapy to trusted peers redirecting them when they say something shitty. This is a group particularly inclined to ignore advice/influence/etc. they don't like out of spite, but who also are easily swayed by peers they look up to.

    But that, IME, is just how people work. I'm not a sociologist so I may be biased by my professional perspective.

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  17. Comment on We should take hantavirus more seriously in ~health

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    My understanding is the CDC activated an emergency response at its lowest level which given the current status probably makes sense. And most of the folks I know are trying not to panic because...

    My understanding is the CDC activated an emergency response at its lowest level which given the current status probably makes sense. And most of the folks I know are trying not to panic because they're traumatized from 2020. So some people are taking things seriously

    I get the point of this, but also don't know why the author expects Trump to give a fuck given that he didn't in 2020 either, or change anything. They're not likely to "un-cut" the funding or do more.

    I don't know, I guess I'd care more about this if it were a factual scientific article not an opinion essay with the frame of "those people shouldn't do this, we should care more" when "we" care and "they" don't. May just be my mood today. Maybe I'm just tired of being considered "we" with our administration. But like yeah, I don't want RFK Jr in charge of public health when it's cold and flu season, much less when there's an epidemiological crisis.

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  18. Comment on The boy that cried Mythos in ~comp

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    No no, maybe we let them fight it out. Surely that can't come back to haunt us

    No no, maybe we let them fight it out. Surely that can't come back to haunt us

    2 votes

  19. Comment on Canvas hack impacts university students and professors during finals week in ~tech

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    Well, unfortunately it's probably Password1, Password2, Password3 (until you can go back to Password1) but it might be the same as people's other passwords. One would hope not, but thankfully the...

    Well, unfortunately it's probably Password1, Password2, Password3 (until you can go back to Password1) but it might be the same as people's other passwords. One would hope not, but thankfully the SSO should avoid it.

  20. Comment on ‘It’s shameful’: New York’s elite lash out at Zohran Mamdani’s second-home tax in ~finance

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    Some are definitely owned by corporations, but corporations are ... People? One article I read said Bloomberg established his primary residence in two different neighboring buildings with two...

    Some are definitely owned by corporations, but corporations are ... People?

    One article I read said Bloomberg established his primary residence in two different neighboring buildings with two different LLCs which, unless they connected the buildings I don't even know how that works.

    But yeah I mean, it's telling that he's separating himself from the Griffen's of the world and their quarter billion dollar second homes.

    4 votes