DefinitelyNotAFae's recent activity
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Comment on I fixed my lactose intolerance -- by chugging all the lactose in ~health
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Comment on Ireland among countries boycotting Eurovision after Israel allowed to compete in ~music
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThe law itself is just that inevitably someone will make the comparison should the conversation go on. The creator says that this usually results in trivializing the holocaust. That's not always a...The law itself is just that inevitably someone will make the comparison should the conversation go on. The creator says that this usually results in trivializing the holocaust. That's not always a thing. His intent was mostly to make people try harder than comparing it to Hitler, but this seems like a relevant comparison even if the situation isn't identical
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Comment on Netflix wins bidding war, starts talks with Warner Bros. Discovery in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentNot just movie theaters but physical media... And movies at the library...Not just movie theaters but physical media... And movies at the library...
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Comment on Why are 38 percent of Stanford students saying they're disabled? in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentFinances are a big part of it. Even in college, even with really good student insurance, getting an ADHD diagnosis can be expensive or have a long wait. If your parents did it when you were a kid...Finances are a big part of it. Even in college, even with really good student insurance, getting an ADHD diagnosis can be expensive or have a long wait. If your parents did it when you were a kid your pediatrician could have done it, but they want you to get a full psychological workup when you're older. (Tbh it's best practice but it's so cashy or time consuming to wait months many people give up.)
For several years there was no Medicaid accepting child psychiatrist in my county. Not sure if that has been fixed or if telehealth has solved it, but imagine having a depressed kid, or a teen with OCD and not being able to get them treatment because there's literally nowhere in your city, county, within a hundred miles.
And even good parents don't always see the issues because they just don't have the education themselves, or don't see it when they're exhausted from work, or whatever. Sigh
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Comment on Why are 38 percent of Stanford students saying they're disabled? in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIt's incredibly common for students who have parents who don't really believe in ADHD or autism or who attended schools that are broadly or universally accommodating - and thus don't need a...It's incredibly common for students who have parents who don't really believe in ADHD or autism or who attended schools that are broadly or universally accommodating - and thus don't need a 504/IEP for example - to still be undiagnosed in college.
I wasn't until my senior year of college but I was an AFAB smart kid without hyperactivity, so no one knew how to handle the fact I wouldn't do my homework unless I finished it in class other than letting me do a lot of makeup work in HS and college had me doing a ton of last minute work to get over the executive dysfunction hump.
However you also get accommodations for depression, anxiety, learning disabilities, etc. you can get a relevant accommodation for pretty much any diagnosis. And that's a good thing. More students would benefit from more flexibility IMO and we should be less worried about the possibility of someone "taking advantage"
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Comment on San Francisco sues ultra processed food producers in ~food
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentThat's the case here too, sure, acetaminophen is something I have heard people say would be a much harder approval now. But the issue of not reviewing old ones is the same on both continents, and...That's the case here too, sure, acetaminophen is something I have heard people say would be a much harder approval now. But the issue of not reviewing old ones is the same on both continents, and not a point in the favor of either "side"
But the point is that broadly they're not banned in "Europe" as a whole even if a small number of countries have banned a few of them here and there. People bringing up this misconception are generally making a point about European food safety, in relation to food dyes and additives, that is not substantiated by their claims; the "it's complicated" part isn't really necessary to explain in that context. (And for example, California has banned dyes, eventually, in 2027 that the FDA hasn't)
Iirc there are three dyes regulated in the EU (that are allowed in the US ) to have a warning label on them because they "may" affect attention in kids. (There are another 3 the US does not allow but are allowed in the EU.)
I follow food scientists and dieticians and journalists who are good at parsing and citing the research individually but I don't have a handy pro-publica article or anything. I don't find most organizations that talk about these topics trustworthy because I can't verify their motives at least not without a ton of legwork I'm not up for. For example multiple websites, including several University sites, discussing the differences between the two claim that Red 40 is banned in Europe. And unless they mean, say, just the UK and Switzerland, that's wrong.
I'm not dying on the hill of "yay food dye" but I don't see much evidence that they're somehow a particular evil, nor will their removal do much IMO to improve our food. It's just a subset of "chemicals bad" without actual evidence. Mostly what I see is the usual "if humans ate the equivalent amount of X as a rat was fed, they might get cancer" where that equivalent amount is some quantity no human would ever eat of that thing. Same as with sugar substitutes, UPF, and the current bogeyman, "seed oils." Now that Steak N Shake serves Beef Tallow Fries™ I doubt we're any healthier.
But hell maybe I'm wrong. I was just correcting the piece of info that I know to be correct.
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Comment on San Francisco sues ultra processed food producers in ~food
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentMost of those additives and colors are allowed in Europe, they just have different names or use standardized codes instead of the "color #" method here. So they don't "allow" Red 40 because that...Most of those additives and colors are allowed in Europe, they just have different names or use standardized codes instead of the "color #" method here. So they don't "allow" Red 40 because that same chemical compound is labeled as E129 which is not banned.
Similarly we ban some things in the US that Europe allows. Generally I believe US food safety standards are considered higher than European but I don't think it's dramatically different.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (December 2025) in ~health.mental
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentGive yourself grace! You're handling so much change and doing the best you can. Hope things settle in life for you. You'll figure things out with your students.Give yourself grace! You're handling so much change and doing the best you can. Hope things settle in life for you. You'll figure things out with your students.
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Comment on Ex-Barack Obama aide says Holocaust education is ‘confusing’ young people into sympathizing with ‘weak, skinny’ Palestinians in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI agree with calling them what they want to be called. So if that's the issue that makes sense. But the article you linked to starts with So you may understand where my confusion came from as I...I agree with calling them what they want to be called. So if that's the issue that makes sense.
But the article you linked to starts with
The Romani in Spain, generally known by the endonym Calé,[6] or the exonym gitanos (Spanish pronunciation: [xiˈtanos]), belong to the Iberian Romani subgroup known as Calé, with smaller populations in Portugal (known as ciganos) and in Southern France (known as gitans).
So you may understand where my confusion came from as I did my own research.
I appreciate the focus on the fact that gitanos are Spanish not "other" and it's something missing from how other countries view their various traveler/Romani/etc. populations.
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Comment on Swiss reject millionaire inheritance tax in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI believe you're missing my point so I'm going to stop here. But I'll continue to also be annoyed at The Audacity.I believe you're missing my point so I'm going to stop here. But I'll continue to also be annoyed at The Audacity.
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Comment on ‘Zootopia 2’ jumps to $556.4m global opening for biggest WW start of 2025 in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThe equation of all furries with public or inappropriate sexual behavior is so odd to me. I'm wondering how many folks with that opinion personally are friends with any furries. I've hung out with...The equation of all furries with public or inappropriate sexual behavior is so odd to me. I'm wondering how many folks with that opinion personally are friends with any furries. I've hung out with a lot, and there's so much more non-sexual stuff in any category, from art to fursuits, that I don't get this assumption. Folks running around in public in fursuits are generally hanging out, not doing anything sexual. Especially in a full suit which are expensive, hot, and cumbersome.
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Comment on Swiss reject millionaire inheritance tax in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThe person basically said "the audacity" and didn't call anyone a traitor or state they shouldn't be allowed to leave. They find the threat to leave being used as political leverage to be...The person basically said "the audacity" and didn't call anyone a traitor or state they shouldn't be allowed to leave. They find the threat to leave being used as political leverage to be disgusting.
I appreciate your personal experience but I think calling billionaires rude isn't equivalent to being called a traitor. They are certainly not being forced out of anywhere and if they were, they have all of the legal, political and financial resources to do whatever they want.
The power dynamics are vastly different and no one is either kicking them out nor forcing them to remain. Just disdaining their political threats. Being annoyed at billionaires is a progressive western hobby.
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Comment on Swiss reject millionaire inheritance tax in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThere's a difference between "threatening to leave " being a rude sort of boldness and a country being a prison. Tbh this is basically like Cuomo (and other billionaires) saying he won't live in...There's a difference between "threatening to leave " being a rude sort of boldness and a country being a prison.
Tbh this is basically like Cuomo (and other billionaires) saying he won't live in NYC if he lost the mayoral election. He's obviously free to go, but his statements made it clear he didn't give a shit about the city to the residents who can't imagine wanting to live anywhere else.
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Comment on US shoppers, drawn by steep discounts, power through Black Friday in ~finance
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYeah I guess. If I "shop" on Black Friday I buy the same stuff I buy the rest of the year - which isn't typically plastic from China - as the past decade or so has not really been that old...Yeah I guess. If I "shop" on Black Friday I buy the same stuff I buy the rest of the year - which isn't typically plastic from China - as the past decade or so has not really been that old stampede of people experience and I was mostly in grad school or broke or a kid for when it was.
The boycott is separate, regardless
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Comment on US shoppers, drawn by steep discounts, power through Black Friday in ~finance
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYeah I've bought groceries, fast food and medical supplies but nothing for Christmas since a cat tree off Tiktok shop a month ago. There's no national will for it though. I did laugh at the Target...Yeah I've bought groceries, fast food and medical supplies but nothing for Christmas since a cat tree off Tiktok shop a month ago.
There's no national will for it though. I did laugh at the Target "swag bags" for Black Friday shoppers having like maybe ten bucks worth of stuff in them. Serves them right
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Comment on Ex-Barack Obama aide says Holocaust education is ‘confusing’ young people into sympathizing with ‘weak, skinny’ Palestinians in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI think there's a difference between a group of Romani/gitanos using the term and others. And differences from the 1970s when the band was founded by those people to today. But Spanish gitanos are...I think there's a difference between a group of Romani/gitanos using the term and others. And differences from the 1970s when the band was founded by those people to today. But Spanish gitanos are Iberian Romani aren't they? And "gitano" from egiptano (-> egitano -> gitano) is basically the same as the English term in question.
How are they not being correctly referred to as Roma/ni? Travellers aren't Romani but that didn't seem to be your point? Or am I misunderstanding?
A view from an academic and Romani on the topic of the name.
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Comment on Advice request: potentially adopting a cat in ~life.pets
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI had one climber and two "ignores the whole thing" cats last year. This year with the new kitten I think I'll probably have the same. Worth trying just the tree without decor first.I had one climber and two "ignores the whole thing" cats last year. This year with the new kitten I think I'll probably have the same.
Worth trying just the tree without decor first.
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Comment on Advice request: potentially adopting a cat in ~life.pets
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAnd then some of them will drag the same toy with all its feathers plucked out, run over multiple times onto the bed and howl at you to demonstrate their hunting prowess. And then play with a...Also, toys wise, cats can get bored playing with the same toy over and over again. So once you figure out what type of toy they like, you'd need a variety.
And then some of them will drag the same toy with all its feathers plucked out, run over multiple times onto the bed and howl at you to demonstrate their hunting prowess.
And then play with a stray piece of cardboard or the ring off a milk gallon for an hour 乁( •_• )ㄏ
Cats.
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Comment on Advice request: potentially adopting a cat in ~life.pets
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentPretty much everything depends on the cat, you've got the basics down as a starting point and if the cat doesn't do what you expect, then ask questions! Even though @RheingoldRiver is right that...Pretty much everything depends on the cat, you've got the basics down as a starting point and if the cat doesn't do what you expect, then ask questions!
Even though @RheingoldRiver is right that cats are basically liquids who can teleport, some cats don't get up on counters. Some go looking for people food and will find anything you leave out. Some won't eat food or treats that are too much like real food.
Some will kill any mice or crickets that get into your place. Some will do nothing about it, or be very bad hunters.
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Comment on Advice request: potentially adopting a cat in ~life.pets
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkToys and cat trees for keeping them busy, though (especially adult) cats often will sleep during the day and be active at dawn/dusk. If the cat seems interested in getting on the counter put some...Toys and cat trees for keeping them busy, though (especially adult) cats often will sleep during the day and be active at dawn/dusk.
If the cat seems interested in getting on the counter put some foil on it, and that usually stops the urge as they don't like the feel under their paws.Food and water wise every cat is different, same food is good to start but the lower carb/higher protein you can get for a cat the better (and wet food is sadly the best option). I have one cat who likes a fountain, one who won't touch it and one who hasn't tried because I don't have one anymore. So ymmv. Making sure water is clean helps but some cats drink fine and others need more moisture via their food (see above)
I can't speak to the allergies.
Lots of scratching pads and posts, having them protects your furniture most of the time.
I've had a bunch of apartment cats. They do fine as long as you play with them a lot, and I recommend a window ledge or some place they can watch outside for more entertainment.
It's not that I need it to be cured, it's that I'm going to eat dairy regardless so the less I suffer the better.
I don't drink or use regular milk anymore but do drink Fairlife or equivalent which is lactose free. (And not sweet). They got rid of my favorite plant based substitute (Silk Next Milk was a chemical wonder) and sometimes I want cereal. Plus cheese is basically my go to snack and I don't like limiting myself to lactose free options.
I've pretty successfully maintained my level of intolerance and not had it get worse like my mom's side of the family usually does (they're Sardinian mostly) but I may have just gotten the milder version of it handed down.