DefinitelyNotAFae's recent activity
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Comment on CIA offers buyouts to entire workforce to align with US President Donald Trump priorities, sources say in ~society
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Comment on Family sues over adult son's fatal asthma attack after US insurance company removed medication from coverage in ~health
DefinitelyNotAFae I disagree, they'd absolutely drop the coverage of medication for someone medically fragile who is likely to be expensive. Chronic conditions are not money makers. Even without that, businesses...I disagree, they'd absolutely drop the coverage of medication for someone medically fragile who is likely to be expensive. Chronic conditions are not money makers. Even without that, businesses are not inherently rational decision makers only making the best "free market" decisions. Too many business owners were quite happy to not take the money of someone the wrong color, or are outspoken about denying business to Muslims or what have you
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Comment on Family sues over adult son's fatal asthma attack after US insurance company removed medication from coverage in ~health
DefinitelyNotAFae I manage my partner's pain meds, because present "in pain" him doesn't think about future "will still be in pain" him. I've become very familiar with the regular fuck ups of the doctor's office,...I manage my partner's pain meds, because present "in pain" him doesn't think about future "will still be in pain" him. I've become very familiar with the regular fuck ups of the doctor's office, the pharmacy, insurance, etc. as well as the rules for when they'll fill. Knowing the regular pharmacists helps but inevitably we need every pill I save because something happens. Oh and then remote supply pharmacy is a whole other thing. And this is all with Medicare and fewer arguments about coverage than before.
Even today, I sat at the pharmacy waiting for a fill because we now live out of town and there's freezing rain.
Yeah anything but better than perfection leads you to have to deal with pain, side effects and even more frustration.
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Comment on US DeepSeek users could face million-dollar fine and prison time under proposed bill in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Agree but I will fail to tag our folks who do that because I cannot spellAgree but I will fail to tag our folks who do that because I cannot spell
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Comment on Donald Trump won’t rule out deploying US troops to support rebuilding Gaza, sees ‘long-term’ US ownership in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae As I said, self-determination. I'd rather they decide that for themselves. Any change to the status quo would have a process, not a kick to the curb. If we don't already have an ethical one, we...As I said, self-determination. I'd rather they decide that for themselves. Any change to the status quo would have a process, not a kick to the curb. If we don't already have an ethical one, we should create one.
I just think the whole point is to stop insisting we get to decide their future. My opinion is the same as yours, I'd rather they be a state. But my opinion shouldn't matter to the outcome.
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Comment on Will the Apple TV+ adaptation get The Murderbot Diaries right? in ~tv
DefinitelyNotAFae Between Eden and Rin, one of those personas, other characters called Murderbot in that persona "she." I'd have to go back and confirm which persona it was, though it uses Rin longer. I'll be...Between Eden and Rin, one of those personas, other characters called Murderbot in that persona "she." I'd have to go back and confirm which persona it was, though it uses Rin longer.
I'll be honest I'd seen the WoG from Martha so long ago that I truly did not remember it was from her blog not from the narrative. So that's on me. But I think it speaks to her intent clearly as she writes the character regardless. As does the narrative itself!
Here is the text of a keynote speech she gave, where she cites Anne Leckie as well on how AI/robot stories are about slavery and often slave rebellions.
And while it's certainly possible to cast the character as basically any race or gender, it's the least interesting choice (and least true to the narrative choice) to put a Skarsgard there.
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Comment on Jurassic World Rebirth | Official trailer in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae I misunderstood because the "vehicles on a track with kid hackers" is accurate of JP not just JPWI misunderstood because the "vehicles on a track with kid hackers" is accurate of JP not just JPW
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Comment on Jurassic World Rebirth | Official trailer in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae The first movie has a custom dino plot? The first World did, but other than the "frog DNA" stuff I don't recall a custom dino plot in the OGThe first movie has a custom dino plot? The first World did, but other than the "frog DNA" stuff I don't recall a custom dino plot in the OG
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Comment on Donald Trump won’t rule out deploying US troops to support rebuilding Gaza, sees ‘long-term’ US ownership in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Regardless of how it benefits "our side" it'd really be for the best of PR gets self-determination.Regardless of how it benefits "our side" it'd really be for the best of PR gets self-determination.
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Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of February 3 in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Eh for what it's worth, "anxiety" at 3:30 AM was a mix of "did I double up on my ADHD meds and why won't my brain shut up" along with "I'd rather finish this book that is my coping mechanism, its...Eh for what it's worth, "anxiety" at 3:30 AM was a mix of "did I double up on my ADHD meds and why won't my brain shut up" along with "I'd rather finish this book that is my coping mechanism, its absolutely normal to read 3 books in 5 days." I wasn't really having anxiety symptoms last night.
Body tired/brain awake and the odd night of zero sleep is an ADHD quirk
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Comment on Family sues over adult son's fatal asthma attack after US insurance company removed medication from coverage in ~health
DefinitelyNotAFae Exactly, it's the perspective of someone with minimal health care needs, often young and healthy folks, who would typically save money by paying a cash price. Which is fine until it isn't. You can...Exactly, it's the perspective of someone with minimal health care needs, often young and healthy folks, who would typically save money by paying a cash price. Which is fine until it isn't.
You can shop around if it's just an annual visit and a med check. Not so much for an emergency or urgent care visit or even when you need a specialist and don't live in a well off area.
I struggle to cover my copay alone for physical therapy when they've wanted me to come 3x a week. If my copay is prohibitive, it's not gonna be more accessible if I'm paying for the entire visit
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Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of February 3 in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae No I get where you're coming from and I use the idea that we've survived before and will again with folks facing despair, I just can't set aside that there is still pain occurring and there will...No I get where you're coming from and I use the idea that we've survived before and will again with folks facing despair, I just can't set aside that there is still pain occurring and there will be loss in the meantime
I am happy to provide a chuckle wherever I can. My own anxiety has me awake long past when I should have slept
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Comment on Will the Apple TV+ adaptation get The Murderbot Diaries right? in ~tv
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentMurderbot being cast as a cis white man is bad casting for the role. That isn't bad form to point out, it's accurate criticism that's based on the books - medium brown skin tone, lean build and...Murderbot being cast as a cis white man is bad casting for the role. That isn't bad form to point out, it's accurate criticism that's based on the books - medium brown skin tone, lean build and assumed to be/pretending to be a woman when it pretends to be an augmented human. (Correction: Martha Wells noted the specifics about its appearance in a blog comment, not in the narrative.)
It suggests a lack of understanding of the work - both the corporate rim itself and the people that live outside of it that Murderbot and ART work with. And it sets them in the back foot for convincing me they'll make a good adaptation.
Martha Wells has been explicit that AI revolt narratives are slave revolt narratives. She was quite intentional with her descriptions of her characters.
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Comment on Family sues over adult son's fatal asthma attack after US insurance company removed medication from coverage in ~health
DefinitelyNotAFae People with disabilities and major surgeries? Nursing home residents? Wheelchairs that cost more than cars? Medicaid funded personal assistants and home renovations? It just trades one "rich...People with disabilities and major surgeries? Nursing home residents?
Wheelchairs that cost more than cars? Medicaid funded personal assistants and home renovations?
It just trades one "rich people can afford health care" problem for another "only healthy people can afford health care" problem.
When you can't afford to keep the money in savings because your furnace breaks you get the free market choice to asphyxiate instead of getting that breathing treatment at the hospital.
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Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of February 3 in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae I listen to news from multiple countries but in English because I don't speak the other languages. So yeah I know things are bad around the world at all times. I know it's the strategy. I also...I listen to news from multiple countries but in English because I don't speak the other languages. So yeah I know things are bad around the world at all times. I know it's the strategy. I also cannot ignore the immediate direct impacts on the people I care about. The Treasury stuff is obviously bad but emotionally it's a non-impact for me. We're all going to care about different things and find dark humor in different places and take care of ourselves in different ways.
My point was that I cannot pivot from "this makes me feel very bad" to "well, it's happened before and people have lived (some did) and they're not death camps (yet, still bad either way) and people vote for this (yeah and the people that will suffer include millions who didn't vote for this and even if you vote to lose your rights you shouldn't). Might as well go do stuff at home." It felt blasé, which I simply stated I cannot do.
My community is impacted by these things, there's no getting around it. My community was impacted by other horrible things occurring elsewhere. The difference lies in the level of community impact - it's not incidental or part of the broader humanity, its local and in my own country, and directly impacting me and those I care about personally. The other major difference is the pace at which it's happening. There's no time for the restorative joy between hits of existential crisis.
If your boundary is not engaging with the existential crisis that's fine. I just ask you not try to tell me that people have survived concentration camps before without engaging with the inhumanity and the fact that at the least other people's communities are directly impacted and we cannot turn away to focus on those communities separate from these tragedies. That is not reassuring, but comes off as dismissive.
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Comment on Swedish police say eleven people dead in Örebro campus attack - Victims still being identified after what Sweden’s PM says was the worst mass shooting in the country’s history in ~news
DefinitelyNotAFae I'd have said "my worst fear" a few months ago, and today it's probably still true, but I had to think about it. My worst realistic fearI'd have said "my worst fear" a few months ago, and today it's probably still true, but I had to think about it.
My worst realistic fear
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Comment on Family sues over adult son's fatal asthma attack after US insurance company removed medication from coverage in ~health
DefinitelyNotAFae Ask at the pharmacy counter, and check Cost Plus drugs (Mark Cuban's online pharmacy) too. That last one won't work if it's a controlled substance though.Ask at the pharmacy counter, and check Cost Plus drugs (Mark Cuban's online pharmacy) too. That last one won't work if it's a controlled substance though.
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Comment on Family sues over adult son's fatal asthma attack after US insurance company removed medication from coverage in ~health
DefinitelyNotAFae Many many people forget that disability is the identity that most people will acquire at some point in their lives, because otherwise you died first. Complex or expensive medical issues are just...Many many people forget that disability is the identity that most people will acquire at some point in their lives, because otherwise you died first. Complex or expensive medical issues are just one of the ways that can show up.
People are satisfied with their healthcare until they get screwed over. Or see someone they love screwed over. I've watched the doctor's office fuck up prescriptions too many times for my partner, myself. And BCBS no longer covers one of my diabetes meds. So... Yeah.
On the other hand, his Medicare+ Medicaid supplement generally takes good care of him. So get paralyzed if you want people to not make you prove you're in pain or need physical therapy. (Don't get paralyzed)
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Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of February 3 in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae It's beyond just empathy, that's part of it, but this is also one more turning point for us as a country. And I'm not sure when we tip too far over that line. Just because it's not a death camp,...It's beyond just empathy, that's part of it, but this is also one more turning point for us as a country. And I'm not sure when we tip too far over that line. Just because it's not a death camp, even if leaves a "yet" unsaid.
The burnout comes when you're not taking care of yourself, not because you care too much for others. You have to care for your community, sure, but not at the expense of forgetting that those are people, part of other people's communities and thus part of our larger one. And it'd be weird to me if I were to truly have no one impacted by this or other EOs. Who's my community made up of that they're not impacted at all?
I am always surprised when people tell me "I'm not affected so I've been able to not pay attention." When their coworkers are directly impacted. And the people at their church. And their, nominally, friends. And the students or clients they work with. And the family of those folks. And so on. (Now if your boundaries are not engaging with the news that's different than "I'm not affected..." This is about caring, not how that care is acted on.) Its especially bad coming from Christians; "The least of my people," and all that.
Anyway, no, I don't fundamentally agree. We skipped from saying we're starting a concentration camp to doing it very quickly. Followed up with talking about deporting American citizens to El Salvadoran prisons. This is deeply and fundamentally wrong.
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Comment on I hate the new internet. I hate the new tech world. I hate it all. I want out, and I can't be the only one. in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Honestly once you know the secrets of the fire swamp, you can live there quite happily for some time.Honestly once you know the secrets of the fire swamp, you can live there quite happily for some time.
They non-partisanly sent an unclassified email containing partial names of recent hires at the orders of the president which will definitely not cause any harm to our intelligence operations or operatives.
What used to be non-partisan is not anymore.