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Comment on What are you working through? in ~life
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Comment on What are you working through? in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI wish you the best of luck. It sounds like you're already making some plans about what makes the most sense for you and your spouse. Be honest about what you think you can handle and what you...I wish you the best of luck. It sounds like you're already making some plans about what makes the most sense for you and your spouse. Be honest about what you think you can handle and what you can't, and that those things may change. Please make sure you have supports - family, therapist, community caretaker groups, friends - who can help you. ♡
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Comment on Human-driven global warming could cause the collapse of the Atlantic Meridional Overturning Circulation, a powerful ocean current system, and throw Iceland into a deep freeze in ~enviro
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThere isn't a consensus (from the masses about acting)There isn't a consensus (from the masses about acting)
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Comment on This week on 'Good One', Greg Davies and Alex Horne join us for a conversation about YouTube's biggest British comedy show 'Taskmaster' in ~tv
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOoh thanks for this find!Ooh thanks for this find!
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Comment on The tiny details in Red Dead Redemption 2 you weren't meant to notice in ~games
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkI'm just here because I thought it said R2D2 before clicking into the thread. If anyone else is too we can just have our own little thread for us here. ಡ ͜ ʖ ಡI'm just here because I thought it said R2D2 before clicking into the thread.
If anyone else is too we can just have our own little thread for us here. ಡ ͜ ʖ ಡ
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Comment on US Immigration and Customs Enforcement plans to spend $38 billion on warehouse conversions in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThanks for that. We're not getting the voices of many of the victims of these locations The one above is a short term holding facility. The idea that the long term concentration camp locations...Thanks for that. We're not getting the voices of many of the victims of these locations
The one above is a short term holding facility. The idea that the long term concentration camp locations won't be worse even if they end up being less physically crowded is a level of optimism I can't muster.
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Comment on US Immigration and Customs Enforcement plans to spend $38 billion on warehouse conversions in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkU.S. Rep. Jamie Raskin calls Baltimore ICE facility "staggeringly overcrowded" - CBS Baltimore From his Facebook post My expectations are very low of their future facilitiesU.S. Rep. Jamie Raskin calls Baltimore ICE facility "staggeringly overcrowded" - CBS Baltimore
From his Facebook post
I just exercised my right as a Member of Congress to conduct an unannounced oversight visit of the ICE field facility in Baltimore. The staff I met with respected my right to visit, but what I saw was disgraceful. Kristi Noem has a budget of $75 billion she could use to ensure humane conditions, but we saw 60 men packed into a room shoulder-to-shoulder, 24-hours-a-day, with a single toilet in the room and no shower facilities. They sleep like sardines with aluminum foil blankets. Whether it’s for three days or seven days, nobody would want a member of their family warehoused there. The room set aside for dangerous criminals and violent offenders was empty. We’re demanding immediate answers and action.
My expectations are very low of their future facilities
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Comment on What the troubling use of the term ‘ghettos’ reveals about Denmark's attitude towards immigration in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentI am aware that Greenlanders are indigenous to Greenland but that's colonialism for you. The US has many indigenous peoples who are not from the mainland of the US and they're still US citizens...I am aware that Greenlanders are indigenous to Greenland but that's colonialism for you. The US has many indigenous peoples who are not from the mainland of the US and they're still US citizens (or automatically eligible for citizenship depending). The US does its share of demanding integration socially but has legally built a lot of (somewhat fragile) protections to create documents in other languages, require translators, not put indigenous children in foster care with non-indigenous families, etc. We still are incredibly biased and prejudicial against some of our own citizens (and non-citizens; how we treat immigrants is garbage and I don't believe citizenship matters that much but it's useful for being a legal baseline here). I'm not exempting my country from any of this. But Greenlanders are legally Danish and when Denmark treats Danish citizens as needing to integrate because they speak a different language from birth then that's discrimination.
It actually is odd that when people move from one location to another with more wealth, access to social services and opportunity that outcomes don't change. So why are Greenlanders not doing better in Denmark? Why is alcoholism higher in Greenland? What are the after effects of pressing a bunch of different, smaller cultural groups into one "country" that doesn't have universal access to things like education and medical care. These are huge questions and there are many more of them.
It's very odd to me btw that you acknowledge that the Danish people with a doctorate can't pass the tests but still expect her to pass them. It includes a Rorschach test. What does that have to do with parenting? (It's validity is poor, it's certainly not been culturally normed to Greenlanders and there are other more effective (valid and reliable) diagnostic tools) If there's an actual public copy of this entire test available btw I'd take it, even translated by my phone and give my professional opinion. We know that this sort of testing is often inherently biased in every other context. It isn't really a big leap to say it's biased here.
Regardless as I said, dinging someone for not speaking Danish in a parenting evaluation is literally expecting integration. (So is demanding less Greenlandic and more Danish facial expressions.)
Even if everything else is true I don't understand how you can say that isn't the case. -
Comment on Something big is happening in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAnd I'm not going to because I'll just go back to not using them. (Got anxious about the MRI results and got ahead of the doctors and really I should just stop checking MyChart)And I'm not going to because I'll just go back to not using them. (Got anxious about the MRI results and got ahead of the doctors and really I should just stop checking MyChart)
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Comment on Something big is happening in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI hit a point where I asked an AI to explain some medical results for me by posting the results and asking it to explain them. Nothing else. It hit me something like "no problem, these are very...I hit a point where I asked an AI to explain some medical results for me by posting the results and asking it to explain them. Nothing else.
It hit me something like "no problem, these are very dense medical jargon, so it can be hard to understand" or something
I didn't ask for your bullshit. I asked for the answers. It's weird that this is theoretically the less obsequious version.
And this is why I still don't use them. It was worth a try and it did break them down but I could have googled the results just as easily and broken them down myself with more time. Or asked the docs. But like... Ugh. The one time I thought I had a use case.
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Comment on Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news in ~news
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentA number of cat shelters will write someone's name on a sticky note and put it under the cat litter this time of year for you. I think it's a brilliant fundraiserA number of cat shelters will write someone's name on a sticky note and put it under the cat litter this time of year for you.
I think it's a brilliant fundraiser
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Comment on Border czar Tom Homan says Minnesota immigration surge is ending in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThrilled to hear, I do think most of what I saw was from about a week ago before life toppled apart for me. So I am just behind the times.Thrilled to hear, I do think most of what I saw was from about a week ago before life toppled apart for me. So I am just behind the times.
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Comment on What the troubling use of the term ‘ghettos’ reveals about Denmark's attitude towards immigration in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI read everything you said and responded to multiple points specifically. I also read other articles and information and took in the input from the people involved in these processes. I'm not...I read everything you said and responded to multiple points specifically. I also read other articles and information and took in the input from the people involved in these processes. I'm not claiming to understand "how your country works" better than you, a thing not being discussed.
And to repeat, if it is difficult to take children away and the system is actually amazing, they still lost the ability to say so by using unethical, biased tests implemented in this way. I don't think you can brush away the history of colonialism as over and done and things like this as a lingering aftereffect rather than looking not just at the test itself but how it's used as part of a system and what the disparate impacts of that system are on different groups of people.
And again, my initial point was that the expectation of integration included its own indigenous citizens. Let's say everything else about these articles is wrong, it was explicitly written out that not speaking Danish at home was considered a problem. What is that if not expecting integration of the indigenous citizens?
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Comment on What the troubling use of the term ‘ghettos’ reveals about Denmark's attitude towards immigration in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentThe clinical psychologist who performed those tests said that he and his colleagues couldn't pass them. What services was this woman provided to exceed the educated abilities of someone with a...The clinical psychologist who performed those tests said that he and his colleagues couldn't pass them. What services was this woman provided to exceed the educated abilities of someone with a doctorate? Her baby was not removed because she neglected it, but because they assumed she would.
this is at the intersection of a lot of things I'm passionate about. I stand by everything here but it's long. tldr:still racism.
When the cultural narrative is that a certain group of people are more likely to be unfit parents and cognitively deficient then those people get flagged as potential unfit parents. I cannot speak to what you experienced but when society targets a racial minority population for assessment apparently based on vibes (it does not seem to require an actual welfare concern since there's not even a baby here), and then testing has nothing to do with what you actually claim to assess, but the person is literally told it's "to see if you're civilized enough" that is racist. It wasn't even performed in her language.
Other things that are racism:
It added: “Keira states that it is common in Greenlandic culture that even small facial features have communicative significance … but Zammi will grow up in Denmark and will be dependent on being able to read the social contexts she will be involved in – and therefore needs to learn this in order to be able to cope in social relationships with peers.” To have her baby returned to her, she would have to work on multiple areas and “show development” – including “expressing herself in Danish”, becoming “more nuanced in her approach to herself and her surroundings” and being “able to express herself with clearer facial expressions”.
She needs to be more nuanced but not in her facial expressions, because those are not Danish enough? Like for real? And the children are entirely removed from their culture? Kids learn to navigate social situations through all their interactions. And it seems like Keira is navigating hers.
Her older daughter was taken for them speaking not speaking Danish at home and being scared to let her child walk alone?
They told her before she took another test to get an abortion or her baby would be taken. She didn't make eye contact? Seriously? (Are autistic people unfit? Wait this is super ableist too!) What about any of this is unfit? She literally asked for help so she wouldn't lose the baby. The father not participating doesn't really mean anything here. And frankly I would be emotionally labile and angry at the system after all that trauma and you could call me unfit. It sounds like she's broke and needs therapy from a therapist who speaks her language.This is absolutely classist and ableist too. It shouldn't be used on anyone. But it's the classic problem with IQ tests, knowing what glass is made of only tells you someone's education, not their intelligence, unless the only intelligence you value speaks Danish and knows who Mother Teresa was. (This is not a standard IQ question)
Maybe Keira is a horrible parent or would have been if she'd been allowed to be. But at every point the system failed her and her kids. And any high ground about how hard it is to take children away is IMO shattered by having this test and taking the child away at birth from someone with no apparent history of abuse. The US makes it hard to take kids away too, but that doesn't mean its implementation isn't racist nor that it doesn't unjustly remove, for example, native children from their families and culture. We have to have laws to stop it from happening. It's not hard to see the exact same patterns there. I don't think you can save a hand at past colonialism and brush it aside as if it's done and over and there's no lingering effects here.
My point in my initial comment was that it happens not just to Middle Eastern or African immigrants but to Danish citizens who are ethnic minorities. It's either a coincidence that these injustices just keep happening to those minorities or... I just don't see the point in pretending. If they want her to speak Danish they explicitly want her to "integrate" despite her being a citizen.
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Comment on Sweden is moving forward with plans to lower the age of criminal responsibility from 15 to 13 in serious cases as it grapples with a growing number of children recruited into gangs in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentFor sure, my point isn't that it shouldn't be done, but that it probably won't be the "penal society" implementing positive and effective things. Which limits what can and will be done (and...For sure, my point isn't that it shouldn't be done, but that it probably won't be the "penal society" implementing positive and effective things. Which limits what can and will be done (and introduces the potential biases of charity workers... It's amazing how many people find Jesus in prison; it gets you out of your cell after all. So I was speaking from a more societal and less individual lens.
But the reentry program I worked for was for the same people running privatized concentration camps. I did good work and changed very little. We have to try. But we really have to change that "penal society" part to do more than hand out bandaids for bullet wounds.
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Comment on What the troubling use of the term ‘ghettos’ reveals about Denmark's attitude towards immigration in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentHistorical sure But also today. Greenlandic families fight to get children back after parenting tests banned Young Greenlandic woman living in Denmark will regain custody of the infant girl taken...Historical sure
But also today.
Greenlandic families fight to get children back after parenting tests bannedThose tests were banned just over a year ago. And seem both incredibly biased and designed to take children from Greenlander parents. Especially since there are still lingering issues after the ban.
The recent apology for historical forced sterilization take up most of the search result bandwidth so I leaned mostly on articles posted on Tildes in the past six months. But that was going on into the 90s. So yeah pretty recent history in the sense that women alive today were the victims..
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Comment on Sweden is moving forward with plans to lower the age of criminal responsibility from 15 to 13 in serious cases as it grapples with a growing number of children recruited into gangs in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI think this is overly optimistic. If only because a society that values punishment so highly rarely seems to share a desire for reintegration, safety in prisons, effective education/job...For example, even in a heavily penal society, prison outreach, watch body, and post incarceration reintegration can do a lot of good.
I think this is overly optimistic. If only because a society that values punishment so highly rarely seems to share a desire for reintegration, safety in prisons, effective education/job training/supports in prison, etc.
But I am open to seeing where it does work. I just think if you care about the ethics of prisons as a society you use them less and less.
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Comment on What the troubling use of the term ‘ghettos’ reveals about Denmark's attitude towards immigration in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentDoesn't Denmark also treat its Greenlander citizens as lesser and demand they "integrate" as well? Can't get more Western than Greenland and still be in Europe. How many more articles about...Doesn't Denmark also treat its Greenlander citizens as lesser and demand they "integrate" as well? Can't get more Western than Greenland and still be in Europe. How many more articles about children taken from indigenous parents will it take?
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Comment on Border czar Tom Homan says Minnesota immigration surge is ending in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI've been seeing posts from Minneapolis saying that things aren't better, attention is just pointed elsewhere. I'm not sure if this will make more of a difference. Hopefully. But I feel it'll move...I've been seeing posts from Minneapolis saying that things aren't better, attention is just pointed elsewhere. I'm not sure if this will make more of a difference. Hopefully. But I feel it'll move elsewhere.
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Comment on Spotify will soon sell hardcover and paperback books through its app, in partnership with Bookshop.org in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentTry hitting cancel, they'll try to talk you out of it and I know that's where audible (at least used to) offer(s) its "silver" plan. I don't have a sub anymore so I can't checkTry hitting cancel, they'll try to talk you out of it and I know that's where audible (at least used to) offer(s) its "silver" plan.
I don't have a sub anymore so I can't check
For sure, and taking care of yourself is incredibly important - I'm really not great at it and it makes things harder.
I had to take a whole recovery day yesterday to sleep and catch up on taking care of me and it's helping a lot. Glad to hear you have time. Partner gets into a funk about how I don't "deserve" this or didn't know what I was getting into, as if we arent basically married with all the "sickness and in health" that entails.
Good luck and build those structures now!