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Comment on Avengers: Doomsday | X-Men teaser in ~movies
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Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentNo clue, saw it in 3 cheers, read the initial comment, had to get on a plane, it was gone. Did a search on the web version to try to be sure I wasn't just missing it. Could not say how or why it...No clue, saw it in 3 cheers, read the initial comment, had to get on a plane, it was gone. Did a search on the web version to try to be sure I wasn't just missing it.
Could not say how or why it is absent.
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Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentWhen I fade out a bit it's because my real life is uber stressful either personally, professionally or in the broad "the world is on fire" sense. I'm unlikely to be driven off and do my best to...When I fade out a bit it's because my real life is uber stressful either personally, professionally or in the broad "the world is on fire" sense.
I'm unlikely to be driven off and do my best to follow the rules. I can't promise not to get banned as that's in the power of just one person, but I make it a point not to.
For whatever little that's worth and to the chagrin of whoever thinks I'm the worst this week.
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Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIt is odd that the opposite thread I saw briefly was deleted... Not sure why as there were no comments.It is odd that the opposite thread I saw briefly was deleted... Not sure why as there were no comments.
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Comment on Hacktivist deletes three white supremacist websites live onstage during hacker conference in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkA lot of people jump real quickly to "if you support this, you're as bad as they are" which, no, this is not comparable to being a white supremacist. And then a lot of people are jumping to making...A lot of people jump real quickly to "if you support this, you're as bad as they are" which, no, this is not comparable to being a white supremacist. And then a lot of people are jumping to making this the equivalent of murder. As in if you're ok with one "bad" thing you must be ok with the "worst" bad thing. Or that we should in fact do mass murder to be ethically consistent. ETA: and now genocide comparisons.
This is not the trolley problem. This is a question of ethics but not a theoretical one. This is not about mass murder.
Can we keep some level of perspective here? These are not the first people who have been doxxed on the internet, I don't want people to threaten these people, but I personally don't mind them being mocked. We'll all have different lines there. But like damn, very little makes me go "this is absolutely unreasonable" on this site and this whole thread is it.
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Comment on Executive (dys)function flavors? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOne I liked for myself but is older now is You Mean I'm Not Lazy Stupid or Crazy? If you prefer video, I can recommend some creators who do good ADHD tips/education/solutions. Whether you have...One I liked for myself but is older now is You Mean I'm Not Lazy Stupid or Crazy?
If you prefer video, I can recommend some creators who do good ADHD tips/education/solutions. Whether you have ADHD or something adjacent or whatever, a lot of tools can be helpful.
My super easy one is a kitchen timer, those little digital plastic ones, and setting a minute timer and tossing it across the room.... Gotta get up. And once you're up, might as well do the thing.
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Comment on Hacktivist deletes three white supremacist websites live onstage during hacker conference in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentHey so hate speech is absolutely protected by the first amendment. People can say slurs, curse, all of that and it's very broadly covered except for a very narrow category of direct threats and...Hey so hate speech is absolutely protected by the first amendment. People can say slurs, curse, all of that and it's very broadly covered except for a very narrow category of direct threats and incitement to violence (and these have gotten narrower under the supreme court.
Other countries have stricter laws against certain types of speech, and there are pros and cons to both. But hateful rhetoric is not against the law in the US.
The paradox of intolerance applies in other, non-governmental - spaces.
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Comment on Advice needed: Getting an elderly parent set up with a home health aide in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentI'm glad this helped! Aging & Disability Resource Centers (ADRCs) | DSHS Here's the Washington state equivalent! I know you were talking about the ER visit, it is true that this is a method of...I'm glad this helped!
Aging & Disability Resource Centers (ADRCs) | DSHS
Here's the Washington state equivalent!
I know you were talking about the ER visit, it is true that this is a method of accessing referrals but it isn't the only one. If his PCP isn't up to the referral task and you aren't able to get some more guidance from the ADRCs then i would probably suggest it if you continue to be worried about his overall health/safety.
Other things that can help are prepared meals - like heat and eat, meal replacement shakes (not diet ones, you want more calories not less), and just food he likes. At this point it probably does not matter if all he eats is hostess cakes as long as he's eating.
Happy to try to find more info out if it's helpful
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Comment on You are a better writer than AI (yes, YOU!) in ~creative
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI don't understand what your point is hereI don't understand what your point is here
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Comment on Advice needed: Getting an elderly parent set up with a home health aide in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentRemember you're almost always going to get more negative reviews than positive ones. You can absolutely call agencies and ask the same questions but first I would reach out to your state's...Remember you're almost always going to get more negative reviews than positive ones.
You can absolutely call agencies and ask the same questions but first I would reach out to your state's department on aging (or equivalent) or local senior center (or Area Agency on Aging or equivalent) for more resources. They may be able to assist navigating Tricare vs any secondary coverage. I'm going to link Illinois's info just as an example.However it does not sound like Tricare will cover a personal assistant - someone who's just day to day tasks - but might cover home health care - OT or PT, nursing, etc. So you may be looking at paying out of pocket vs having that covered. (Then again there can be medical reasons he's not eating such as difficulty swallowing which would be PT/OT) Either way a doctor will need to start that process. Case management in the medical field includes handling this sort of thing but also sometimes... Idk I do non medical case management and I am consistently disappointed by nurse case managers.
A lot of figuring out what is covered will depend on his medical need vs his "Activities of Daily Living" needs. For access to state programs there is typically an asset test (home and furniture are exempt) for example. If he's below that asset level a bunch of resources should become available, including both in-home and day programs.
If he (or you all as family) can afford the OOP costs it will be relatively easy in that you're paying for a service. The rest gets more complicated. The state agencies should be able to help some in getting you guidance.
My partner's assistant comes through a different state program and I used to work for Illinois's agency that handles Medicaid waivers (providing in home care) in grad school so I've got a bunch of info but it's pretty state specific.
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Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link Parent"performative" is the term that would capture what you're intending."performative" is the term that would capture what you're intending.
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Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAs I noted before "woke" was a term used since at least the 1930s by Black folks. While it was popularized outside of Black culture during the BLM movement, it was not created by anyone in...As I noted before "woke" was a term used since at least the 1930s by Black folks. While it was popularized outside of Black culture during the BLM movement, it was not created by anyone in particular.
Are you thinking of Erykah Badu whose song included the "stay woke" chorus? I just don't want misinformation spread.
Here's what she has to say about the term now fwiw.
“I think they mean ‘Black,’” Badu replied matter-of-factly after seeing how the politicians appropriated the term. “Yeah. Just another way to say ‘thug’ or something else.”
Reclamation doesn't happen without work and pain. And I'd argue it's Black folks' word to "reclaim" but even so, if you know you're "reclaiming" you have to also know that you'll get perceived as questionable at best by many whose experience with the term is negative. Same with any reclaimed word.
It shouldn't be a surprise. And if it is I encourage you to read the work of those who have reclaimed other identities and terms before continuing without that info.
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Comment on US strikes Venezuela and says its leader, Nicolas Maduro, has been captured and flown out of the country in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentWe fundamentally disagree about the positive outcomes of external coups.We fundamentally disagree about the positive outcomes of external coups.
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Comment on You are a better writer than AI (yes, YOU!) in ~creative
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentWell I'd prefer you stop telling me what I think. I'm not going and asking models for erotica. But there are plenty of people who post their AI stories on various sites so I've read my share. So I...That's why I said I think your disagreement is philosophical rather than practical. Otherwise you'd be naming models, which obviously all write differently, prompts and settings which obviously affect this. Listen, I respect your hardline anti-AI stance, I get responses from you practically every single time I say something that isn't "AI is always terrible" on tildes. Just don't present it as an actual comparison of the results.
Well I'd prefer you stop telling me what I think. I'm not going and asking models for erotica. But there are plenty of people who post their AI stories on various sites so I've read my share.
So I am comparing human and AI written works and find the results different.
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Comment on US strikes Venezuela and says its leader, Nicolas Maduro, has been captured and flown out of the country in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYeah, I don't think the corporations are the "losers" in this situation.Yeah, I don't think the corporations are the "losers" in this situation.
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Comment on I am kinda curious about the demographics of Tildes in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAnd to ask non-binary separately because even if I acknowledge I'm in the trans umbrella I don't feel right answering "yes" to being trans. Mostly because I still semi-/demi- identify with the...And to ask non-binary separately because even if I acknowledge I'm in the trans umbrella I don't feel right answering "yes" to being trans. Mostly because I still semi-/demi- identify with the gender I've experienced my whole life. I'm just more complicated than that.
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Comment on US strikes Venezuela and says its leader, Nicolas Maduro, has been captured and flown out of the country in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThis is essentially describing having a colony. And yeah, exploiting the resources of another country is usually cheaper.Edit: I can see one silver lining in this mess, though - fracking is expensive and it damages the environment. If Venezuela reaches new peaks of production, it'll be cheaper to buy ours from them than it is to keep fracking. That means no new fracking wells, and when old ones shut down, no more new ones replace them. Don't even need legislation for this, it's just market pricing. We'd stop fracking and rely on Venezuelan oil, and that'd be a huge environmental win for us. Probably drive up natural gas prices in the long run too, since they are a fracking byproduct that we would lose over time. Either way we can transition to electric by then, this is a lotta runway for the green revolution to get their tech sorted and take over.
This is essentially describing having a colony. And yeah, exploiting the resources of another country is usually cheaper.
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Comment on You are a better writer than AI (yes, YOU!) in ~creative
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentIt isn't satisfying and what it tricks me into is "thinking itll be satisfying and not being. " For me, the AI material is 100% junk vs the human work which has plenty of junk and plenty of good...I don't even know what that means. All I want when it comes to smut is to be satisfied. If it "tricks" you into being satisfied, then it is good.
It isn't satisfying and what it tricks me into is "thinking itll be satisfying and not being. "
That's wading through junk in search for treasure and it's not enough. The vast majority of what you encounter written by humans is going to be junk, which was my point. To put it another way, it is vastly preferable to prompt an AI and get what you want instantly than wading through endless pages hoping to find that diamond in the rough.
For me, the AI material is 100% junk vs the human work which has plenty of junk and plenty of good shit.
Yeah it does. I don't need my smut to be philosophically soulful art gallery material or whatever. The difference in how fast you can get what you want to see (which to me is all that matters for smut) is just night and day.
I want quality not "philosophically soulful." I can get junk anywhere. And all AI work is junk for me. I'm not telling you what has to work for you. But this started with:
I think anyone who's ever read any online erotica will tell you for certain that even given time, resources and horniness, you are not necessarily a better writer hahahahaha
And I don't agree!
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Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOh for sure, I didn't think you were pro "let them rot" I just tend to ramble on about these topics, and I'm reading a book that touched on rehabilitation (lightly) so it's in my head.Oh for sure, I didn't think you were pro "let them rot"
I just tend to ramble on about these topics, and I'm reading a book that touched on rehabilitation (lightly) so it's in my head.
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Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI really appreciate you using my comment to think about your worldview, and I'm humbled to have made an impact like that. I am a firm believer that if the state takes custody of people for...I really appreciate you using my comment to think about your worldview, and I'm humbled to have made an impact like that.
I am a firm believer that if the state takes custody of people for whatever reason it should be responsible for their safety and well-being, both physical and mental. We fail on that in nearly every way from foster care to incarceration.
But this is also why I don't think we ever have to focus on "women's safety" or "what if someone lies" or just trans folks in general for having the audacity to confuse our gender binary.
If we were actually keeping inmates safe, it wouldn't really matter. And if we only used prison to isolate the people that are truly unsafe to be among society for the amount of time necessary, we wouldn't need to figure out how and where to hold so many people of any gender.
But even in the meantime, IMO the focus should be on the basic human rights of incarcerated people to be safe, not the danger to them from a very small minority. (There's no where near this panic about the number of sexual assaults by guards for example!)
Which this was all me rambling, I'm glad I was helpful :)
BUT THEY SENT THEM OFF ALREADY MULTIPLE TIMES.
Honestly that's what is frustrating I think. The flailing around (seemingly at the whims of the "mob" of "fans" with YT channels complaining about the women and Black people in the MCU ) and an inability to move on. Resurrecting dead heroes is a classic comic strategy but I don't really want to see movies of older and older heroes who were already retired and given endings at this point. Especially when they did all the effort to set up the young avengers and new Cap and such.
But also ultimately I don't care because those choices have numbed me to the whole thing. I canceled Disney+ and probably won't see this in the theater unless something changes.