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Comment on Beyoncé’s ‘Cowboy Carter’ wins Grammy for Album Of The Year in ~music
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Comment on Polyamory, visibility, and public perception in ~lgbt
Haywright Link ParentI'm sorry to hear that. Surely it's been a massive and challenging adjustment for you both. "Polytraining" can definitely be tedious, especially when you're already low on bandwidth.I'm sorry to hear that. Surely it's been a massive and challenging adjustment for you both. "Polytraining" can definitely be tedious, especially when you're already low on bandwidth.
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Comment on Polyamory, visibility, and public perception in ~lgbt
Haywright Link ParentI hear that, thank you for the solidarity! Until very recently, I was also on a hiatus with new partners. How are you feeling about those limitations? Are they self-imposed? Don't feel obligated...I hear that, thank you for the solidarity!
Until very recently, I was also on a hiatus with new partners. How are you feeling about those limitations? Are they self-imposed? Don't feel obligated to open up or elaborate about it, but I'm happy to lend an ear if you need one.
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Comment on Polyamory, visibility, and public perception in ~lgbt
Haywright (edited )Link ParentI appreciate your comparison to biphobia. That makes a lot of sense to me and is something I hadn't thought much about. Both feel and present similarly, and I've encountered both in queer circles....I appreciate your comparison to biphobia. That makes a lot of sense to me and is something I hadn't thought much about. Both feel and present similarly, and I've encountered both in queer circles. Finding out I'm poly tends to amplify the insecurities non-bisexual partners have about my bisexuality (and vice versa) -- "you might leave me for a <other gender>", "I won't be enough because I don't have <x, y, z attribute>", etc.
I have friends with partners nervous or resentful about them spending time with me too! They're afraid I'll steal them away or encourage them to cheat, even though I would never do something like that. As a result, it sometimes feels like being openly poly makes it harder for me to meet new friends.
And I absolutely agree, though, that I've had more positive experiences than negative. Especially with polyamory becoming more known (and with many of the apps adopting non-monogamous banners/tags), it is becoming easier to have that discussion early. Before the tags, I encountered people far more frequently that didn't read my bio and missed that I am poly. That often led to rude conversations and/or ghosting.
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Polyamory, visibility, and public perception
Any poly folks struggling with judgement from family, friends, or strangers? I'm openly bisexual and polyamorous to my friends and some family, and I've been steadily trying to let the veil down...
Any poly folks struggling with judgement from family, friends, or strangers? I'm openly bisexual and polyamorous to my friends and some family, and I've been steadily trying to let the veil down more lately. However, I've been feeling resented and mistrusted by folks -- some online and in person. These experiences aren't exclusive to conservative regions, either. A lot of the online hate I've received has been in Greater Boston community spaces, one of the cities with the most non-monogamous folks. I suppose I'm just feeling bad and isolated about it all. Would love to hear about experiences (good and bad) y'all have had!
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Comment on What is your opinion on Dan Brown novels? in ~books
Haywright LinkI read them in middle school and really enjoyed them. Looking back, that probably means they were not that good. I recall them being super intellectual, insightful, and complex, which I find...I read them in middle school and really enjoyed them. Looking back, that probably means they were not that good. I recall them being super intellectual, insightful, and complex, which I find really embarrassing to think back on today. That said, they were an enjoyable read with an assortment of historical easter eggs or wiki rabbit holes to dive down. I don't regret reading them, but I would not recommend them to a friend.
I read ...
- Deception Point
- Digital Fortress
- Angels and Demons
- The Da Vinci Code
- The Lost Symbol
- Inferno
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Comment on US Supreme Court leaves in place a Texas law requiring pornographic websites to verify users' ages in ~society
Haywright LinkThey claim we need age verification because porn is addictive? Are we also going to require ID to buy soda, coffee, video games, and trading cards? What a silly line of reasoning. Texas is yet...They claim we need age verification because porn is addictive? Are we also going to require ID to buy soda, coffee, video games, and trading cards? What a silly line of reasoning. Texas is yet again dragging us decades into the past
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Comment on Stops along a drive from Texas to Pennsylvania in ~travel
Haywright Link ParentI haven't been in town in a while, but I recall Roots having good reviews.I haven't been in town in a while, but I recall Roots having good reviews.
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Comment on Stops along a drive from Texas to Pennsylvania in ~travel
Haywright LinkWhen you get to State College, be sure to eat at Big Bowl Noodle House! It's my favorite spot in town. My go-to order is the beef stir fry with egg noodles. If you like parks/hiking consider...When you get to State College, be sure to eat at Big Bowl Noodle House! It's my favorite spot in town. My go-to order is the beef stir fry with egg noodles.
If you like parks/hiking consider checking out New River Gorge National Park in West Virginia or Ohiopyle near Pittsburgh. Both are beautiful areas
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Comment on What do I do if I don't have any clothes? in ~life.style
Haywright Link ParentI just buy 3-4 pair of the Goodfellow slim fit pants from Target, usually half khaki and half other colors. They are comfy and work as casual or professional pantsI just buy 3-4 pair of the Goodfellow slim fit pants from Target, usually half khaki and half other colors. They are comfy and work as casual or professional pants
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tech
Haywright Link ParentGood point, I should've been clearer about that. I mainly intended to say that noise canceling helpsGood point, I should've been clearer about that. I mainly intended to say that noise canceling helps
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tech
Haywright LinkI use the Sony Link Buds S on the train to cancel out folks talking, and they do a pretty good job. I'd say it's at least a 70% reduction in background volume, possibly more. They also block out...I use the Sony Link Buds S on the train to cancel out folks talking, and they do a pretty good job. I'd say it's at least a 70% reduction in background volume, possibly more. They also block out the guy in my office with a mechanical keyboard that he beats like it owes him money.
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Comment on Iran launches dozens of drones toward Israel in ~news
Haywright Link ParentGood point. Especially true for poll responses. The "no preference" movement in the last primary was a great way of doing that, but there is a long time between now and the election. Bolstering...Good point. Especially true for poll responses. The "no preference" movement in the last primary was a great way of doing that, but there is a long time between now and the election. Bolstering third party candidates could be a pathway to keeping up that pressure
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Comment on Iran launches dozens of drones toward Israel in ~news
Haywright Link ParentDoes the threat work if you aren't willing to follow through though? Not that it matters much for my vote. I live in a solid-colored state, so I have the privilege of taking a moral position on...Does the threat work if you aren't willing to follow through though?
Not that it matters much for my vote. I live in a solid-colored state, so I have the privilege of taking a moral position on the presidential vote.
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Comment on Iran launches dozens of drones toward Israel in ~news
Haywright Link ParentI totally hear that, thanks for the summary. The angle I think I disagree with is that politics is strictly binary. Yes, we live in a two-party system, so inevitably, the three options are left,...I totally hear that, thanks for the summary. The angle I think I disagree with is that politics is strictly binary. Yes, we live in a two-party system, so inevitably, the three options are left, right, or some flavor of abstaining, but there are still coalitions in both the left and the right. Simply, if Biden chooses to ignore one of these group, he should not count on their support.
The onus is on the candidate to earn our votes. If we just fall in line for the blue or red candidate, they have no incentive to cater to anyone but moderates on the fence, especially in an election year without a primary opponent. Withholding our vote is democracy in action. It gives Biden a reason to listen to us, to stop enabling the genocide in Gaza, to end the subsidies of this Israeli offensive.
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Comment on Iran launches dozens of drones toward Israel in ~news
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Comment on Where will people commune in a godless America? in ~humanities
Haywright Link ParentIf you truly believe that claims of seeing a demon and experiencing sadness should be treated the same, then we will just have to agree to disagree.If you truly believe that claims of seeing a demon and experiencing sadness should be treated the same, then we will just have to agree to disagree.
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Comment on Where will people commune in a godless America? in ~humanities
Haywright Link ParentNo, it wouldn't. It is neither disrespectful nor unreasonable to dismiss claims that someone saw a mythical being. The burden of proof is on the one claiming to see the demon, and I do not owe...No, it wouldn't. It is neither disrespectful nor unreasonable to dismiss claims that someone saw a mythical being. The burden of proof is on the one claiming to see the demon, and I do not owe them the benefit of the doubt if they fail to prove it.
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Comment on Any friendly entrepreneurship communities that aren't rotten with the whole "grindset," hustle culture stuff? in ~life
Haywright LinkAs far as I am concerned, the Venn diagram of "entrepreneurship" and "hustle culture" is a circle. Certainly the types of people in both groups are quite similar (in values, goals, etc), but I'd...- Exemplary
As far as I am concerned, the Venn diagram of "entrepreneurship" and "hustle culture" is a circle. Certainly the types of people in both groups are quite similar (in values, goals, etc), but I'd be curious what you or others think differentiates the two.
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Comment on What is a scam that more people should be aware of? in ~life
Haywright Link ParentThanks for sharing the story! That one is definitely what I would consider a trap and scamThanks for sharing the story! That one is definitely what I would consider a trap and scam
Crazy decision. Feels like she is getting credit for crossing genres more than for the quality of the album. Giving it to her over Charli, Collier (I'm biased), or Chappell is crazy to me. Charli took over pop music for months (and appropriated the color green), Collier completed a 50+ track masterwork at 30 y.o., and Chappell became a queer icon seemingly overnight off the back of her album.