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Comment on The strangest encounter in ~talk
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Comment on Confess your food crimes in ~food
smoontjes Link ParentPsychiatrist examined and said I'm in a grey zone with it. So no diagnosis. I think it's just incompetence to be honest lol, and not having the energy to make anything that is even remotely...Psychiatrist examined and said I'm in a grey zone with it. So no diagnosis. I think it's just incompetence to be honest lol, and not having the energy to make anything that is even remotely difficult - so I just make the same safe things over and over. I have actual meltdowns if I try something new and screw it up, which when you try to learn a new recipe, you always screw it up the first time, so it's just a no-go for me sadly..
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Comment on The strangest encounter in ~talk
smoontjes Link ParentNot exclusive to just Americans nor men - I have been in this position before but that was when I was younger. I allowed the crush to build and when I was rejected I had to stop talking to her...Not exclusive to just Americans nor men - I have been in this position before but that was when I was younger. I allowed the crush to build and when I was rejected I had to stop talking to her because it was too painful otherwise. So I wouldn't blame him at all. But at least it's someone to be friendly with right? It's nice to know my neighbours. a kind of camaraderie with those in your physical vicinity is nice.
Anyway he came back in regards to those tickets, he had been to practice and asked his manager about how it works. He had definitely thought about what I said and he was still super friendly but no hugs or anything this time. And he brought me a Chinese snack, some kind of sweet potato? And he invited me for tea again, which I politely declined since I had a commitment but that I'm happy to figure something else out.
So, seems good for now!
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Comment on Denmark: former MP and minister for business indicted for possession of child sex doll and possession of child abuse material in ~society
smoontjes Link ParentCorrect translation, yes, 60 days. Blows my mind too, but I'm not surprised.. 'regular' rapists sometimes serve less than a year. Murder can be as little as 5 years. It's a whole thing here, these...Correct translation, yes, 60 days. Blows my mind too, but I'm not surprised.. 'regular' rapists sometimes serve less than a year. Murder can be as little as 5 years.
It's a whole thing here, these short sentences. A focus on rehabilitation. I am not an expert but criminologists apparently say that longer sentences does not reduce crime, but at some point I feel like these people need to be removed from society. I do not believe that a fully grown man with such a long history of this disgusting behavior is going to be able to reintegrate as a normal member of society. Nor does he deserve to. But my personal feeling of justice is not equal to these expert's opinions on what is best. But I can only say that for me, it's not enough.. some people really do need to be punished for these violent crimes - he may be correct about not physically harming a human being himself, but these are still violent crimes because it increases demand for the materials.
Re: "I didn't hurt any children and my mission is the opposite"
Lol yeah, just the typical politician thing to say isn't it? Anyone doing this stuff is a true monster. Totally agree.
The thing is that you can get help for being a pedophile. You can talk openly to your doctor and they can guide you to the correct place where therapists can help. You can choose to take medicine to eliminate sexual urges. It feels odd to say but there is nothing wrong with being a pedophile as long as they do not hurt anyone in any way. It's a sickness that they cannot help, but they can help themselves out of it. And this man clearly did not.. which is why he will not come to any sort of realization like this that you say.
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Comment on The strangest encounter in ~talk
smoontjes LinkQuick update Felt brave for a moment and went to knock on his door, mentioned I wanted to clarify intentions etc., was very awkward but he said he did not intend for us to hang out after the...Quick update
Felt brave for a moment and went to knock on his door, mentioned I wanted to clarify intentions etc., was very awkward but he said he did not intend for us to hang out after the concert. So I just said that that's alright, but maybe I can still ask for the discounted tickets and I can bring my mom. He would look into that. Smalltalked a bit, showed me his playing the violin. Then he started shamelessly hitting on me, a lot of compliments, very huggy.. so I had to come out and say I'm a lesbian and I don't want to mislead him but that we can be friends. He seemed fine with all that thankfully so we'll see what happens
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Denmark: former MP and minister for business indicted for possession of child sex doll and possession of child abuse material
Article in Danish. Translated snippets: The former Social Democratic minister denies all charges. The indictment in the case has not been released at this time, which is why DR cannot read the...
Article in Danish. Translated snippets:
The former Social Democratic minister denies all charges.
The indictment in the case has not been released at this time, which is why DR cannot read the exact charges against Henrik Sass Larsen.
However, according to DR's information, there are several charges, and Henrik Sass Larsen's home has been searched several times.
The case was created in the police systems in 2023, according to the police file number. However, several sources tell DR that the police investigation began before that.
- I had planned to publicise the course of events myself in connection with a book I am currently completing in order to give a full and complete account of the case,’ he writes in the press release.
- I had hoped and expected to have more time to do so, but I will now put all my efforts into finalising the book, telling my side of the story and clearing my name.
Another article. Tabloid though.
Henrik Sass Larsen indicted: Had child sex doll and thousands of child abuse materials
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Comment on Confess your food crimes in ~food
smoontjes LinkI eat the same 3 things for at least 90% of my meals.I eat the same 3 things for at least 90% of my meals.
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Comment on Confess your food crimes in ~food
smoontjes Link ParentDo you put the feta before or after the oven?Do you put the feta before or after the oven?
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Comment on How come the mods on here keep editing the titles of my post to be exactly what they already were? in ~tildes
smoontjes Link ParentThankfully my subscriptions are pretty down to earth most of the time but yeah that is very obnoxious - and through this lens it does make sense that titles get streamlined here. I Only Personally...Thankfully my subscriptions are pretty down to earth most of the time but yeah that is very obnoxious - and through this lens it does make sense that titles get streamlined here.
I Only Personally Think About It When It's Every Word That Has The First Letter In Upper Case, because it's like I'm on a rollercoaster, or when it's RANDOMLY in ALL CAPS for some ODD reason, because that feels like somebody is yelling at me
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Comment on How come the mods on here keep editing the titles of my post to be exactly what they already were? in ~tildes
smoontjes Link ParentCannot be repeated enough that we appreciate all that you do ❤Cannot be repeated enough that we appreciate all that you do ❤
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Comment on The strangest encounter in ~talk
smoontjes Link ParentI do not envy you, wow that sounds miserableI do not envy you, wow that sounds miserable
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Comment on The strangest encounter in ~talk
smoontjes Link ParentHouse rules are house rules. Every other day of the year it is expected you follow the rules which say it must be quiet between 23 and 7 and you should not bother neighbours with loud noises or...As for the new year noises...... I'm slightly conflicted between (1) dudes that's your culture but you need to not do your culture if it bothers people, and (2) hey man, it's one day a year and folks are loud on Dec 31/Jan 1 too.
House rules are house rules. Every other day of the year it is expected you follow the rules which say it must be quiet between 23 and 7 and you should not bother neighbours with loud noises or music during daytime anyways. It's pretty vague though and people break them in weekends often but if you do want to host a party you are supposed to give advance notice. To be fair, yeah there is also something to be said about living in an apartment. Certain amounts of noise is to be expected from neighbours.
About the social acceptability and dominant population thing, that seems to be a heavy philosophical debate that I don't think I can participate in. I can say though that out of the 3 of us that were there to complain, I am the only Dane, like I'm the only "dominant population". The other one said he is half Iranian, half Danish, so knew about this Iranian new year, and the third one is Chinese-American. So all 3 of us were more or less from completely different cultures so I don't think we were discriminating when all of us felt like it was unacceptable. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect people to respect one another's sleep. Yes people don't follow them on western new year's, but that is to be expected because that's 99% of the country that celebrates it and everyone is awake anyway.
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Comment on How come the mods on here keep editing the titles of my post to be exactly what they already were? in ~tildes
smoontjes Link ParentCan't say I really understand why there has to be consistency in titling. But I definitely appreciate all the tagsCan't say I really understand why there has to be consistency in titling. But I definitely appreciate all the tags
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The strangest encounter
I woke up around 23 this evening to some noise from the common room which I live right next to (large apartment building). No biggie, I thought, I have noise cancelling earbuds so I can listen to...
I woke up around 23 this evening to some noise from the common room which I live right next to (large apartment building). No biggie, I thought, I have noise cancelling earbuds so I can listen to some music to drown it out. Well, right as it struck 24, it was like a bomb went off. The music was turned up beyond belief and they were yelling and screaming and stomping in the floor to the point that I could feel it in my own floor and my room was shaking a little bit. Absolutely nuts.
Having anxiety, I had to summon the courage for a while to prepare myself to go out and complain about it, and ask them to please keep it down, it's past midnight, people are sleeping, etc. etc.
When I opened my door to the hallway, two guys were standing there, also in pajamas. Obviously in those outfits they were not part of the party so I asked them if they were here to complain too, and they said yeah they live right above the common room and had their sleep ruined because of it. So I said that like, well if we are 3 people from 3 separate apartments, it will probably help a lot that the partiers took it seriously. They had already been in there to complain but they joined me anyways. Turns out the party is because of Iranian new year, and that's why it was a relatively measured party but went so crazy at midnight.
We ended up in the hallway chatting for a while about the noise and one of the guys had even called the police in the past when another party happened, and I said yeah I was thinking of doing the same tonight - it seems to have worked all fine though, so no need, because it's now about 2 o'clock and they are keeping it quiet-ish out there.
The one guy said he's American and only been here for 3 months, so he's not really sure about the customs about parties, nor really the house rules because somebody once knocked on his door to complain to him in the middle of the afternoon because he plays the violin in the symphony orchestra here. So I told him the house rules and whatnot, explaining that no, it's never okay to bother your neighbours like this, no matter the time of day. But the other guy and him share a wall, and he said he never hears him at all - so that's why he was confused about the rules I guess.
Anyway that other guy had to get up super early apparently and went back upstairs to go to bed, so we wished him good night and sleep well, but the American and I smalltalked a little bit more. Just like names, handshake, where are you from, what do you do for a living blah blah. He said that he had had such a long day, doing rehearsals for hours and then played a concert in the evening. So I thought well he really needs to sleep then, so I was about to just say goodnight to him as well, then jokingly said that maybe we'll meet again - as in, complain about noise together some day.
I think he didn't quite get the joke though, so he said that yeah sure, I should come watch him play sometime, they do concerts every week. Or I could come up for tea if I'd like.
So I think I was just asked out on a date???? I'm not really interested in that so if we do go ahead with meeting up again I should probably tell him that, but that I wouldn't mind making a friend. What a story that would be though:
"How did you two meet?"
"Oh we bonded over telling people to shut up."So yeah, that was pretty strange lol, just a a funny encounter that I wanted to share - probably a bit of a long story. I am not very concise but thanks for reading!
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Comment on Perhaps I should write worse? in ~talk
smoontjes LinkThis is so relatable! I'll follow your example and not correct or use the dictionary for this comment, because I almost always do when I post more than just a few sentences here on tildes. It...This is so relatable! I'll follow your example and not correct or use the dictionary for this comment, because I almost always do when I post more than just a few sentences here on tildes. It feels like a lot more effort to do that than necessary, maybe more than most others put in? Tildes does have a completely different context like @fefellama says. If people here are familiar with my comments and posts they might expect certain things from me but comparing here to chatting on discord or just how I sound in real life, you'd think I was a completely different person and that I'm an idiot haha
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Comment on Russia-Ukraine war megathead - March 2025 in ~society
smoontjes (edited )Link ParentOfftopic but that's kinda curious. APN was/is also there. link edit: read through your link. Weird to say but to me, it's all positive news and just confirms yet again that news here are...An update on the war following a recent trip.
Offtopic but that's kinda curious. APN was/is also there. link
edit: read through your link. Weird to say but to me, it's all positive news and just confirms yet again that news here are reactionary. A lot of people on r/denmark are living in fear which is clearly not warranted. At worst we will see more hybrid warfare stuff from Russia but there really is not, in my opinion, any danger whatsoever. Russia is weak and in no position to attack anyone else in any foreseeable future. Wouldn't mind counterarguments though, if anyone has any - but people are way too scared (maybe it's just an online thing and impression though. Don't hear anyone express similar things in real life)
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Comment on Russia-Ukraine war megathead - March 2025 in ~society
smoontjes LinkAPN: Ukraine leaves Kursk — What did they achieve? Sections:APN:
Ukraine leaves Kursk — What did they achieve?
Ukraine is leaving the Kursk region amid intense Russian pressure. In this video I discuss what they got out of the incursion, and if it was worth the effort. The most ambitious goal was to convince Biden to give up the fear of Russian escalation and ramp up the deliveries of weapons to Ukraine, and that did not work out. But other goals were achieved.
Sections:
War on Russian territory, Disprove fear of escalation, Prisoners of war, Diversion operation, Bargaining chip, Trump's disinformation, Intelligence sharing
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Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies
smoontjes Link ParentI have only seen The Great Gatsby, been a while, and apparently only rated that one 6/10 as well. I do remember the same problems with some strange CGI as they drive through an oil field (?)....Baz Luhrmann
I have only seen The Great Gatsby, been a while, and apparently only rated that one 6/10 as well. I do remember the same problems with some strange CGI as they drive through an oil field (?). Otherwise the CGI was great - there's a reel of it somewhere and you have no idea about a lot of it. And you're right, it is mostly really good looking. They really hit home with the lavishness. I did feel a bit of whiplash in Elvis though so disagree there.
It makes me a bit worried for the upcoming Jean d'Arc film. I have been wanting an epic movie about her for a long time (as well as Lady Godiva but that's entirely different of course, I digress), and yeah, I really fear I won't like it very much if he's doing it in his usual full on nothing-held-back stylized way. All I want from true stories like hers is realism, historical accuracy, and for it to be as down to earth as possible.
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Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies
smoontjes LinkMacArthur - 5/10 Regarding General Macarthur's life from WWII to the Korean War. It's a big ask for a movie to cover a decade of someone's life and so it wasn't really a surprise that it didn't...MacArthur - 5/10
Regarding General Macarthur's life from WWII to the Korean War. It's a big ask for a movie to cover a decade of someone's life and so it wasn't really a surprise that it didn't quite work. He was a very interesting person and big personality in real life, but the performance of the actor left a lot to be desired. He more or less had just a single expression throughout most of the movie which is one of those things that you can't unsee. Pretty disjointed movie too, jumping from one thing to the next too way too quickly, like it wants to skip to the good parts. At one stage it even had a weird news reel montage to skip ahead 3-4 years. I'm glad to have watched it though, seemed like a good way to learn more about such an important historical figure. Maybe it would work better as a miniseries or something because this was a clunky film.
Lords of Chaos - 6/10
About Mayhem, pioneer Norwegian black metal band. I felt very immersed since they don't hold back in showing what happens - all the darkest sides of humans to the point that it basically becomes a horror movie in many scenes. They are some very powerful scenes, and as someone that likes a lot of black metal and so have read and seen a ton of things about what the movie portrays, I know that those things are indeed exactly what happened or at least very close to what happened (there are artistic liberties but it's smaller things, not really important in my opinion as it doesn't take away from these true events).
As for the quality of it as a movie, they did a lot with what they had. It was pretty obvious how limited budget their budget was, and they did make it go a long way, but there were odd choices. Colour grading was weird, soundtrack was great, locations were good, main character played by Rory Culkin was great, supporting character's actor was awful. So a very mixed movie but ultimately well worth the watch - will not ever watch it again though because of the horrific scenes mentioned above. I won't mention specifics/spoil it, but two scenes in particular were way too disturbing for me.
Elvis - 6/10
Hoped for an A Complete Unknown level movie but was left kind of unsatisfied. It also had a style to it that I didn't quite vibe with. I get what they were going for, but overall, that editing and hyped up thing didn't work for me.. like, I really don't understand why you'd want a hiphop soundtrack for a period piece. The overall look of the film was also disappointing. They had an airport/airfield scene for example which looked like everything was a giant bluescreen - like, why don't you just find an actual airfield to make that scene? This is also the worst I have ever thought of Tom Hanks, truly awful, which really surprised me as I usually think he's good (although I can never see him in the roles he play, no matter what, I only ever see Tom Hanks). I realize I'm sounding pretty negative about it and so but Austin Butler almost made up for most of these things, I really loved him in this. The story was also great. Unlike MacArthur above, they successfully crammed decades of story into 2½ hours and it definitely worked. Writing was great, just too bad there are so many things to drag it down.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
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I have made quite a few other American acquaintances here since a friend of mine's wife is American, and I am always in doubt about these things. I'm pretty sure they just said things to be nice, like a couple asked if I want to come over sometime - I then took them up on it but it felt like they didn't actually mean it. It's super confusing as a Scandinavian because we are all very cold and almost always shut out strangers. Which makes it hard to make new friends outside of school/work. So I do like how open Americans are, they are always very friendly and hospitable and invite people for stuff.
Was hanging out briefly with one of them and he saw someone he knew and said he's going to introduce me to her. I was genuinely shocked lol, a Dane would never have done that. This was positive of course but I agree with your family in law that it can be very off putting - mostly because it's just so foreign to us.