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Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society
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Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society
286437714 LinkWhat a mean thread. Even with the retitle from 'wokism' to 'progressivism', this is still full of (what seems like) stories from men in privileged positions making fun of well-meaining efforts to...- Exemplary
What a mean thread.
Even with the retitle from 'wokism' to 'progressivism', this is still full of (what seems like) stories from men in privileged positions making fun of well-meaining efforts to do good stuff, with thin justifications like 'it was management!' to snigger behind their hands. Not many of these stories seem to be coming from a place of kindness, and a lot of them smell like the view from the IT server room.
This, and another thread recently on Tildes about people questioning whether neurodivergent people or people with mental health issues are 'really disabled' has certainly taught me a lot about the userbase.
If not the lurkers, then the ones who are comfortable expressing this stuff. I'd rather know it than not, but it is depressing. If there's any other lurkers reading through this thread with a mix of surprise and disgust, hello.
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Comment on What's something you're "in too deep" on? in ~talk
286437714 Link ParentI always found one-bagging in Hawaii really easy because of the climate. Temperate destinations with changeable climates are where I struggled. But yes, I did swim in my gym shorts, even for...I always found one-bagging in Hawaii really easy because of the climate. Temperate destinations with changeable climates are where I struggled.
But yes, I did swim in my gym shorts, even for months-long trips when I could have just dropped into Target.
And I still beat myself up for bringing too many t-shirts and 'weighing my bag down' 🙄
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Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society
286437714 Link ParentDid the US ever get the Picanto? It's super popular where I live and the new generation looks great. I see a lot of them around where I typically would have seen Yaris's or Honda Fits. They seem...Did the US ever get the Picanto? It's super popular where I live and the new generation looks great.
I see a lot of them around where I typically would have seen Yaris's or Honda Fits. They seem to be a really strong choice for subcompact buyers now. I hired one in the UK when visiting and it was like Mario Kart (in a good way). Plus the visibility and manouvrability made me, a sedan driver, very jealous.
I can't believe the US killed off the Honda Fit.
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Comment on What's something you're "in too deep" on? in ~talk
286437714 Link ParentThat's amazing. I feel so validated that someone else has had the same experience as me. I used to be so proud when I was a kid of how I could travel to pretty much anywhere in the world just with...That's amazing. I feel so validated that someone else has had the same experience as me.
I used to be so proud when I was a kid of how I could travel to pretty much anywhere in the world just with my checked backpack and nothing else. I think because of that feeling of self-sufficiency, I tried to carry it into adult life - post-marriage, and even for trips back home where I knew I'd have to bring presents down, and bring presents back.
I feel like such a dummy for trying to stick to it for so long.
There's just no joy in carrying that extra 15 - 20 pounds by hand
This is really the heart of it. I think the reason I felt fun and adventurous travelling to places with all my stuff in my backpack when I was young becasue I was doing fun and adventurous things. Hauling all of my stuff in one bag for a week long work trip with social stuff mixed in was just annoying and lame. I didn't feel all smug when I walked past the baggage carousel, I was just like... man, my back hurts.
I ended up just buying a 70 litre checked suitcase and got over the fact that I would no longer be fun, adventure man when going to another office in a different state (sick!) or travelling home for the holidays (extreme!).
On actual vacations, I still have a voice chiding me for packing too much if I haven't worn that nice shirt I packed, or that pair of shoes, or whatever. But that is the voice of a 20-something year old who is still rebelling against the fact that, instead of fast-roping out of helicopters to rescue dogs from burning buildings, I am just a regular person, and that's okay.
I'm very glad I never found the reddit onebag community, I probably would have brought all kinds of useless crap.
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Comment on Not-so-humble brag: What are you proud of that you don't normally get to talk about? in ~talk
286437714 Link ParentYou have made my life better this year, and I am sure I am not the only one. Thank you for being so lovely, and happy new year!You have made my life better this year, and I am sure I am not the only one.
Thank you for being so lovely, and happy new year!
I've been giving a lot of thought on how I can give your thoughtful comment an equally thoughtful reply, but I can't find the right words really.
I read through this entire thread and posted my reaction, and it's one I hadn't seen yet. It's rare that I make a contribution, but I felt the need to in case other people were feeling the same - and judging by the messages and notes on the exemplary tags I've gotten, I think my feeling that I wasn't the only one was correct.
The premise and content of this thread still to me feels cruel. It's like an outworking of the last 18 months of normalising making fun of well-meaning past attempts at empathy now that people have been given license to do so, and now empathy and inclusivity are socially punished by leaders in society.
Again, that is my feeling. And that's really all I can give you. I am really, really tired of being asked to analyze what (to me) reads as exlusionary and 'what if inclusivity is actually bad, though?' arguments from people who vehemently claim they are acting in good faith. I don't know why the burden always falls on people like me from marginalized groups. I don't know why the onus isn't on the people writing the 'argument' or 'criticism' to not make statements that make people from non-majority groups excluded or dismissed. It's exhausting.
I think it's become more exhausting because broadly, again, people (especially people in the Anglosphere) have been given free reign to openly mock 'wokeism'. Maybe there is some real criticism in there, but I think sorting through it has become much more onorous now that the tide has turned against civil institutions and power structures advocating for me, and I - and people like me - are basically asked to justify our existence every day.
This whole thread just feels like a much longer and much more overt version of what I call the Tildes special. Whenever I say something has made me feel a certain way, I'm asked to prove it, and the person promises me, pinky promises me, that they're acting in good faith. It's just that they'd quite like a systemic review from a peer-reviewed journal (only STEM!) that logically justifies a feeling I've expressed is rooted in 'facts and logic', when that is a ridiculous proposition.
I'm just tired and sad, and it's very depressing to see this be the most active thread the site has had in months.
Sorry, it's not a great answer to your comment, but it's all I've got in the tank.