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Comment on Any interest in a mental health support thread? in ~health.mental
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Comment on Advice for people terrified of board games? in ~games.tabletop
UnderwearNinja Link ParentI feel like Splendor operates about the same as Dominion where you collect cards, then do stuff with those cards. It's also really easy to learn, and unlike Dominion you don't have to read/learn a...I feel like Splendor operates about the same as Dominion where you collect cards, then do stuff with those cards. It's also really easy to learn, and unlike Dominion you don't have to read/learn a bunch of cards to figure out how to play. Granted it's only 10 at a time, but people I've shown both too seem to pick up and enjoy Splendor really quickly.
Your comment made me look up the terminology though, thank you for that! According to Board Game Geek, Splendor is "set collection" and it shares "card drafting" with Dominion. Hence the similar feel, but Dominion clearly involves a Deck.
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Comment on What long term goal are you working towards right now? in ~talk
UnderwearNinja Link ParentLosing weight can be a real fucked up endeavor for a LOT of people; you're not alone with this! You did it once though, so, internet stranger, I'm confident you can do it again, and beyond. You've...Losing weight can be a real fucked up endeavor for a LOT of people; you're not alone with this! You did it once though, so, internet stranger, I'm confident you can do it again, and beyond. You've got this!
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Comment on What long term goal are you working towards right now? in ~talk
UnderwearNinja LinkBuilding a software project for trade associations Raising my girls right Building my trade association management business so I can get out of the day-to-day- Building a software project for trade associations
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- Building my trade association management business so I can get out of the day-to-day
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Comment on Let's talk podcasts. What are some that you like and why? in ~talk
UnderwearNinja LinkI love 99pi - Anything that explains why something in the world works the way is does (or doesn't) hooks me right away.I love 99pi - Anything that explains why something in the world works the way is does (or doesn't) hooks me right away.
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Comment on Advice for people terrified of board games? in ~games.tabletop
UnderwearNinja LinkThere's an overwhelming number of game "types" out there too. Like "deck builders" and "euros" and I don't even know what they really are. I have found that Splendor is a super easy "Deck Builder"...There's an overwhelming number of game "types" out there too. Like "deck builders" and "euros" and I don't even know what they really are.
I have found that Splendor is a super easy "Deck Builder" style that people pick up and enjoy quickly.
Love Letter is another great game that probably has a "type" but I find it super simple to teach/play for just about anyone as well.
This sounds rough. I personally like to avoid the label of "mental illness". Lots of people get emotional easily. I do, but I only learned this about myself in the last few years and I'm a grown-ass man. I know you have a lot of potential. I'm certain of it. I have some tips and ideas that might work for you. Like anything, I recommend taking it in, using what works and discarding the rest.
Write this down (or don't, I'm not the boss of you) -- We do what is reinforced.
This applies to every behavior you have. You're absolutely not alone in the world for people who have free time and then "squander" it on mindlessness. Browsing reddit is rewarding. New things to click on and read reinforce the behavior, making it more likely for you to go back. A more subtle reinforcement happens though. It lets you shut off your brain a little bit and not engage with your feelings. If you were to engage, you might feel overwhelmed. Bored. Hopeless. Might add to the narrative that you're unlikable. So, reddit (or others) reward you by letting you off the hook. You have to break that bond. When you want to do something productive and are drawn to reddit, get out paper and timer and set it for 5 minutes. Then journal for 5 minutes. Write about anything. Or stare at the paper for 5 minutes. Or doodle. Doesn't matter. When the timer goes off, reward yourself extravagantly by saying "Good Job Stardivarius! You're fucking amazing! You stared at that paper for 5 minutes. That was actually way hard!" Now treat yourself to reddit, or ice cream, or chocolate. Anything at all. You deserve it. And don't think it was easy. If it was easy, you'd have done it already.
Continue to reward the good things you do, and stop shaming yourself for things that are "bad". You can then use this tool to improve on anything you want to do more, and it will help you reduce the things you want to do less. Don't hate yourself because you're human. No one ever taught you to properly "train" yourself. You can do it yourself though, start today!
You're not alone. You got this! I'm as sure of this as I am anything.