this is a very strange article to read as a male. I don't think ever in a million years would something like this ever happen between men. Another thing, why do the women in the article even need...
this is a very strange article to read as a male. I don't think ever in a million years would something like this ever happen between men. Another thing, why do the women in the article even need the validation? With how sexualised women's bodies are you'd think they wouldn't really need a reminder that they're still sexy and desirable. If anything it's men who need this with how desexualised the male body has been.
My wife explained this one to me years ago. I probably won't do it justice. Women have been told to be ashamed of their sexuality. Hypocritical standards relative to men. Harassed and assaulted...
Another thing, why do the women in the article even need the validation?
My wife explained this one to me years ago. I probably won't do it justice.
Women have been told to be ashamed of their sexuality. Hypocritical standards relative to men. Harassed and assaulted from a young age...my wife starting getting harassed at age 12.
A huge percentage of media thrives on fostering insecurities in women. Entire industries rest on these insecurities Your natural face isn't good enough. That you're too fat/thin. Your labia are weird. Your nipples are too big/small. Body hair is undesirable. So on and so forth.
Only women have the power to liberate other women from this cycle in the way described in the article. The key word is 'platonic'.
It is beyond strange to me, on so many levels. I'm still trying to untangle all the different issues that intersect here but maybe what I find most questionable is framing this (or any sort of...
It is beyond strange to me, on so many levels. I'm still trying to untangle all the different issues that intersect here but maybe what I find most questionable is framing this (or any sort of external validation-seeking, really) as self-care.
Another thing, why do the women in the article even need the validation? With how sexualized women's bodies are you'd think they wouldn't really need a reminder that they're still sexy and desirable.
Men in the media could be constantly portrayed as strong, capable action heroes, but that doesn't necessarily mean you or any other rando will identify with them and feel empowered. On top of that, most men may have their anecdotes about the things women notice, but they really have no clue how much more critical women are when it comes to looking at bodies and faces. Women are supposed to be able to pick out an extra two pounds of chub, or a slightly-off complexion, or a 0.25% difference in waist-to-hip ratio. They evolved to assess all that stuff, just like every other mammalian species where the females inspect potential mates for fitness, and I suppose it feeds into their competition with each other, and their own self-image, too.
this is a very strange article to read as a male. I don't think ever in a million years would something like this ever happen between men. Another thing, why do the women in the article even need the validation? With how sexualised women's bodies are you'd think they wouldn't really need a reminder that they're still sexy and desirable. If anything it's men who need this with how desexualised the male body has been.
My wife explained this one to me years ago. I probably won't do it justice.
Women have been told to be ashamed of their sexuality. Hypocritical standards relative to men. Harassed and assaulted from a young age...my wife starting getting harassed at age 12.
A huge percentage of media thrives on fostering insecurities in women. Entire industries rest on these insecurities Your natural face isn't good enough. That you're too fat/thin. Your labia are weird. Your nipples are too big/small. Body hair is undesirable. So on and so forth.
Only women have the power to liberate other women from this cycle in the way described in the article. The key word is 'platonic'.
It is beyond strange to me, on so many levels. I'm still trying to untangle all the different issues that intersect here but maybe what I find most questionable is framing this (or any sort of external validation-seeking, really) as self-care.
Men in the media could be constantly portrayed as strong, capable action heroes, but that doesn't necessarily mean you or any other rando will identify with them and feel empowered. On top of that, most men may have their anecdotes about the things women notice, but they really have no clue how much more critical women are when it comes to looking at bodies and faces. Women are supposed to be able to pick out an extra two pounds of chub, or a slightly-off complexion, or a 0.25% difference in waist-to-hip ratio. They evolved to assess all that stuff, just like every other mammalian species where the females inspect potential mates for fitness, and I suppose it feeds into their competition with each other, and their own self-image, too.