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Disability activists call for sex ed

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    sublime_aenima
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    My cousin has mental issues that make him have the intelligence of a child while the body of an adult. My aunt never knew he was interested in sex until he was arrested for having sex with his...

    My cousin has mental issues that make him have the intelligence of a child while the body of an adult. My aunt never knew he was interested in sex until he was arrested for having sex with his girlfriend (aunt found out about her at the same time) in the bathroom of a McDonalds while on a group outing with his class. My aunt’s immediate reaction was to get him a vasectomy, but never wanted to address the lack of sex Ed. It took my dad months of badgering her for her to finally repent and try to teach him about sex.

    It’s so easy to dismiss them as not functioning enough to want or enjoy sex, when the reality is they have the same urges and desires as everyone else.

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      Askme_about_penguins
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      Off-topic, but did the girlfriend have a mental disability too?

      Off-topic, but did the girlfriend have a mental disability too?

      1. sublime_aenima
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        Yes, the class they were in was to help them learn how to live on their own. So they were being taught how to order and pay for the food on their own. Both were in their twenties

        Yes, the class they were in was to help them learn how to live on their own. So they were being taught how to order and pay for the food on their own. Both were in their twenties

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    2. Catt
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      That's really sad, but at least she taught him in the end. Sex, in general, is such a taboo topic even without any complications.

      That's really sad, but at least she taught him in the end. Sex, in general, is such a taboo topic even without any complications.

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    Askme_about_penguins
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    I wonder what these preparations are, exactly.

    Now more than two decades later, Gurza's podcast, Disability After Dark is devoted entirely to the topic. One of the issues he's covered is how to talk about sex with a new care attendant, an awkward conversation he's personally had to face because he sometimes needs an attendant to help him prepare for sex.

    I wonder what these preparations are, exactly.

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    1. sublime_aenima
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      Since he's wheelchair bound, it most likely is getting him into bed, probably without clothes, if he's hooked up to anything that is needed at the moment, it would probably be removed, etc.

      Since he's wheelchair bound, it most likely is getting him into bed, probably without clothes, if he's hooked up to anything that is needed at the moment, it would probably be removed, etc.