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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
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Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food
sublime_aenima LinkWe've been trying to eat much more vegetarian meals lately. Our garden has recently produced lots of 8 ball squash and tomatoes to where we can harvest them before the wildlife steals them (better...We've been trying to eat much more vegetarian meals lately. Our garden has recently produced lots of 8 ball squash and tomatoes to where we can harvest them before the wildlife steals them (better protection is a late winter/early spring project on the books). Stuffed squash has been a hit at our house recently adding in vegan breakfast sausage, brown rice, and topped with cheese.
I made an eggplant and cauliflower based stew the other night that went way quicker than I would have guessed, especially since my kid doesn't like eggplant too much. Tonight I plan on using the remaining eggplant and cauliflower with tofu to make a casserole.
I would love to hear more vegetarian or pescatarian recipes that others have enjoyed, especially if they can go into a slow cooker or instant pot for hearty meals during a busy week.
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Comment on Ten remote cabins with artist residency programs in ~travel
sublime_aenima LinkI love these retreats. I have a friend who has done the one in New Mexico and it really helped kickstart her artistic career by giving her confidence that others loved her work. She is now...I love these retreats. I have a friend who has done the one in New Mexico and it really helped kickstart her artistic career by giving her confidence that others loved her work. She is now regularly showing her art in exhibits, fairs, galleries, etc. and has thankfully managed to quit her previous job.
My neighbor has a rustic cabin (outhouse, tub on porch, etc.) on her property that I tried to convince her to advertise as an artistic retreat since we are on the edge of a national forest, and she needed to find a tenant to help survive (she’s 90 and relies on a bit of charity). Fortunately, she found a tenant without advertising it as such. If her current tenant leaves, I will share this article with her to show that it is not unheard of.
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Comment on Non-queer men of Tildes: PLEASE consider before commenting on ~life.women and ~lgbt without careful consideration. We are losing members over this issue. in ~tildes
sublime_aenima Link ParentThe being able to afford it part is what stops most from being able to do it. My oldest kid is trans and most of his friends are LGBT+ in rural Midwest and are absolutely stuck there. In fact, the...The being able to afford it part is what stops most from being able to do it. My oldest kid is trans and most of his friends are LGBT+ in rural Midwest and are absolutely stuck there. In fact, the only reason that he is not is because my wife and I moved to a more progressive area and after convincing him to move I flew out to drive back with him and pay for all costs of the move. He now lives with us rent free. Many of his friends have expressed that they wish they could do the same, but they suffer through the hate and bigotry because they're already barely able to afford to survive, let alone to move across the country.
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Comment on Looking for low-mess wild bird feeder or birdseed recommendations in ~hobbies
sublime_aenima LinkMy wife won’t let me hang bird feeders on our deck unless they are no mess or no waste seeds. They are the same seeds as in wild bird feeders bags, but without the shells. Before I moved we had a...My wife won’t let me hang bird feeders on our deck unless they are no mess or no waste seeds. They are the same seeds as in wild bird feeders bags, but without the shells. Before I moved we had a local shop that sold it, now there isn’t one close. I now hang my hummingbird feeder on the deck and regular feeders elsewhere.
Alternatively we bought one that hung off a window for my son when he was younger so he could have one on the 2nd floor. It would allow regular feeders but the shells would not be over the balcony if you have other windows.
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Comment on F1nn5ter: Coming out in ~lgbt
sublime_aenima Link ParentWe moved from a republican stronghold in a blue state to a purple state. The freedom this has afforded my oldest to truly live his best self has been awesome. Both sets of grandparents back in...- Exemplary
We moved from a republican stronghold in a blue state to a purple state. The freedom this has afforded my oldest to truly live his best self has been awesome. Both sets of grandparents back in California tried their hardest to prevent him from becoming the man he is today and as much as moving across the country during Covid had its challenges, I couldn’t be happier for him nor more proud.
One of his best friends struggles with identity and lived with us for a while as a trans woman. He recently reverted back to identifying as a gay man who struggles with gender. Running into him with a mustache threw me for a loop, but he seemed happy which is all I can ask for.
I know my kid is on HRT and is worlds better than when he was in the closet. He still struggles with bigotry from time to time and has several friends who do as well, but I trust that it’s the right decision even if he does wear makeup and skirts on occasion. The freedom to express himself and explore his gender have been life affirming.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~movies
sublime_aenima Link ParentBubble Boy is such a fun movie. My brothers and I used to watch it every time it was on TV. I especially love Fabio’s cult group that wanted to save him.Bubble Boy is such a fun movie. My brothers and I used to watch it every time it was on TV. I especially love Fabio’s cult group that wanted to save him.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~movies
sublime_aenima Link ParentI love Oscar as well. I really enjoy how everyone is trying to get out on top of everyone else, all the meanwhile Oscar keeps getting pulled into events while wanting to go straight.I love Oscar as well. I really enjoy how everyone is trying to get out on top of everyone else, all the meanwhile Oscar keeps getting pulled into events while wanting to go straight.
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Comment on Do you have favorite lighthearted or silly songs? in ~music
sublime_aenima Link“Grandma got run over by a reindeer” will always have a special place in my heart. My grandpa was the first one to introduce me to the song and he cackled as my grandma chastised us that it was a...“Grandma got run over by a reindeer” will always have a special place in my heart. My grandpa was the first one to introduce me to the song and he cackled as my grandma chastised us that it was a rude song.
L.M.F.A.O’s “Party Rock Anthem” is fun as are most of their songs.
Bloodhound Gang’s “The Bad Touch” is also great silliness.
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Comment on Seeking advice to make a trip to Italy better in ~travel
sublime_aenima Link ParentI have to disagree with @nacho. I enjoyed Venice for the unique experience that it offers (although wouldn’t recommend more than a couple days). Seeing a glass factory and the amazing art they...I have to disagree with @nacho.
I enjoyed Venice for the unique experience that it offers (although wouldn’t recommend more than a couple days). Seeing a glass factory and the amazing art they create was my highlight.
Rome was fantastic as well. We visited the Forum, the Vatican, museums and spent days just tooling around taking in the sights and rich history.
Verona was a disappointment for me. It was crowded and aside from their amphitheater wasn’t all that great. Its claim to fame is the Juliette house which is really just an over crowded tourist trap.
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Comment on Man bitten by stray cat contracts infection unknown to science in ~science
sublime_aenima LinkWhen my wife was pregnant with our first kid her family from a 3rd world country gifted us some linens. Turns out a flea hitched a ride and bit my wife. She ended up growing a brain like, tennis...When my wife was pregnant with our first kid her family from a 3rd world country gifted us some linens. Turns out a flea hitched a ride and bit my wife. She ended up growing a brain like, tennis ball sized mass on her hand. Going to multiple doctors in California we had reactions such as “what the heck is that?” Eventually a dermatologist took a biopsy and found that it was a fungus transmitted from a flea. A week after a diagnosis it was gone and now 20 years later she has a small scar to remind her of when she stumped multiple doctors.
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Comment on Want employees to return to the office? Then give each one an office. in ~life
sublime_aenima LinkI’ve worked in labs, in cubicles, in open offices, remote, and currently in a private office onsite. Each one has its advantages and disadvantages depending upon the actual work being performed....I’ve worked in labs, in cubicles, in open offices, remote, and currently in a private office onsite. Each one has its advantages and disadvantages depending upon the actual work being performed.
I’ve found that if the meeting I’m in is boring or if I only need to pay attention to the details that concern me I will prefer virtual meetings and do something else for the bulk of the meeting. Sometimes it’s productive, more often than not it’s browsing the web or doing an unrelated task. When working from home this would often be running errands, cleaning my house, making meals, etc. At work it’s sitting on my phone, or doing actual work in a separate window. If it’s an in person meeting, I will pay attention even if it’s just enough to not be rude.
The problem with many meetings are that they don’t need to be meetings and could be an email instead. If I call a meeting it’s to brainstorm, align, or get feedback. For those I prefer in person because body language is an important part of feedback.
Working in an open office is good when everyone’s job overlaps and you need to work as a team. Otherwise it’s absolutely horrible. In reality a conference room that can be used when needed or an office when not is a much better option. Cubicles are acknowledgment that you probably need an office or WFH but the company doesn’t value you / your privacy enough.
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Comment on Starter tool set for someone starting out in ~life.home_improvement
sublime_aenima Link ParentThe green is also generally used for rough surfaces such as stucco or cinder blocks.The green is also generally used for rough surfaces such as stucco or cinder blocks.
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Comment on Starter tool set for someone starting out in ~life.home_improvement
sublime_aenima Link ParentYes, but either with a wall anchor or I use my fish tape with a small hole in the drywall to find the stud.Yes, but either with a wall anchor or I use my fish tape with a small hole in the drywall to find the stud.
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Comment on Starter tool set for someone starting out in ~life.home_improvement
sublime_aenima Link ParentI was gifted a stud finder and aside from using it to make my wife roll her eyes, I have rarely used it. It can be a bit inaccurate and aside from mounting a TV, I typically don’t need to find studs.I was gifted a stud finder and aside from using it to make my wife roll her eyes, I have rarely used it. It can be a bit inaccurate and aside from mounting a TV, I typically don’t need to find studs.
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Comment on Starter tool set for someone starting out in ~life.home_improvement
sublime_aenima LinkMore and more is held together with Allen screws. I would suggest a set of metric and imperial to cover both options. Also agree with @the_man, ear protection is crucial. I have a pair of...More and more is held together with Allen screws. I would suggest a set of metric and imperial to cover both options.
Also agree with @the_man, ear protection is crucial. I have a pair of Bluetooth ear muffs that I use anytime I’m using power tools, moving the lawn, ignoring extended family, etc. I also have a bin full of foam ear plugs for when I’m working with others. I make sure to bring some to concerts as well.
A pencil and sharpie are also critical tools in my tool box, especially in this digital age when I rarely use them outside projects.
I also get more use out of my flexible grabber claw than I ever thought I would. -
Comment on How do you hang stuff—from the walls or ceilings—around your house when you're decorating? in ~life.home_improvement
sublime_aenima Link Parent@herbs too 3M has poster putty which works very well with raw posters rather than needing the claws or command Hooks. I’ve even used it to put on small frames.@herbs too
3M has poster putty which works very well with raw posters rather than needing the claws or command Hooks. I’ve even used it to put on small frames.
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Comment on Seeking help with understanding compression fittings in ~life.home_improvement
sublime_aenima LinkUse silicone to create a seal. Make sure to get it around the hole and threads. Then use a nut and washer on the inside to mechanically keep it in place. Wait 24 to 72 hours before you add water....Use silicone to create a seal. Make sure to get it around the hole and threads. Then use a nut and washer on the inside to mechanically keep it in place. Wait 24 to 72 hours before you add water. I have used similar set ups in the past for high vacuum and high pressure systems.
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Comment on US Federal Reserve announces that its new system for instant payments, the FedNow Service, is now live in ~finance
sublime_aenima Link ParentI refuse to use Venmo and last used paypal a decade ago and even then only because it was a business account. I have used Zelle many times for many various reasons since it’s through my bank, but...I refuse to use Venmo and last used paypal a decade ago and even then only because it was a business account. I have used Zelle many times for many various reasons since it’s through my bank, but never for a commercial transaction. For business purposes I have credit cards and don’t care how long it takes them to receive the funds.
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Comment on I'm generally confused about dating women in ~life.men
sublime_aenima Link ParentBut that’s the thing. Finding the right person should not be mentally exhausting. I get mentally exhausted at work and look forward to coming home and being mentally rejuvenated by spending time...But that’s the thing. Finding the right person should not be mentally exhausting. I get mentally exhausted at work and look forward to coming home and being mentally rejuvenated by spending time with my wife. I don’t have to think about what to say or do, I’m just me.
Don’t get me wrong, I do have lots of conversations with my wife that force me think critically and have sometimes led me to change my perspective. There have been challenging conversations that leave me exhausted, but that’s when we get I to deep talks. If my wife wasn’t mentally stimulating I wouldn’t be with her. That said, it’s refreshing to know that I can come home from work and mentally decompress or even check out while still enjoying time with my wife.
The night we met, she didn’t speak a word to me and I only spoke a single sentence to her. But the more we interacted through the groups we hung out with, the more we were drawn together. 20 years later, I can’t imagine my life without her. Similarly, most (not all) the people I know in decades long love started their relationships by being friends first and the dating began later.
I’m not sure if it really fits in this theme, but my wife is a mental health professional, and one of the games she’s brought home has been delve deck and tales both have been fantastic for us. They are question based cards that kind of force you to think about things that you sometimes I’m always think about. There’s different varieties, but it allows us to spend time without electronics and learn more about each other. Obviously, it’s much more fun when it’s not just you and your partner, so we’ve been using it a lot with friends and family more so with friends. Even amongst just the two of us, it does spark some interesting conversation but there’s no points winners losers, etc. it’s really more just conversation starters so it’s really fun or good when with groups of people or even just couples start communication.