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  1. Comment on For those that have been the target of online harassment, what was it like for you? in ~talk

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    I was a bit of a powermod on reddit and I didn't mind throwing rocks at the hive so I've had a fair bit of the harrassment, stalking, doxing, etc. The first time it happened was the worst...

    I was a bit of a powermod on reddit and I didn't mind throwing rocks at the hive so I've had a fair bit of the harrassment, stalking, doxing, etc.

    The first time it happened was the worst experience for me. I had enough information out there so that someone was able to determine where I live and threatened to shoot my kids in front of me and my wife. They named a some specific locations near me, enough to have me get the admins involved and file a report with my local police. After that, I made sure to scrub all identifying information from my account and I was very selective over what truthful information I put on reddit.

    I set up an account so that I would get a notification from pastebin every time my username would pop up. I would get a notification at least once every other month. Usually it was a list of mods that the person(s) thought were cancerous, but every once in a while it was someone listing everything they knew about me (which was never much). Still, it was useful to know when someone was trying to gather info about me.

    Because I had very little personal info out there, I was often the mod that had to be the bad guy. My response was typically to either lean into the harassment and take on whatever boogeyman they perceived me to be. Depending upon the subreddit and the rule the person broke, I was typically a SJW or Nazi (sometimes both). Other times I would simply respond with copypasta (post and comment are copypasta) and/or gifs mocking their outrage, gifs mocking them, or copypasta gifs. I enjoyed the drama and would often instigate the drama in order to take the attention of some of my other mods.

    One time I got drunk on a Friday night and went trolling in subredditcancer after a different mod nuked a controversial thread in a different sub. In SRC, I was as immature and over the top as I could be. The result was something like 9 threads on reddit and over 16 on 4chan throughout the weekend. My inbox had hundreds of PMs after that weekend and they trickled in over the next couple months. Most PMs echoed the comments in the thread linked above, but others were much more explicit and hateful. They typically ranged from wishing me hurt/dead, to graphically explaining how they were going to rape me or kill me.

    I was once doxxed by a company that was trying to use reddit as the base for their chat service. They had been getting promoted by lots of subs, but had some shady stuff popping up. I called them out on it and ended up getting harassed at my work email, and cell phone. That led to the app getting banned from reddit, several accounts getting banned and the company folded. That whole event made the news, which amused me.

    I had a person create a couple subreddits that were centered around me raping them and another about me raping their mom. I have no idea what information was on the subs as they were private, then banned after someone linked them to me and I asked the admins for access so I could see what was there. Another person created over 100 accounts to stalk me over the course of several months. They would link child porn and gore to subs that I moderated, or would link them in comments to me in other subs. People get worked up over sometimes the weirdest things, usually from already being on edge over stuff that happened offline. Sometimes people would come back at a later date and apologize for having a bad day, but 99% of the time I would never hear back from someone after a day or two.

    5 votes
  2. Comment on Democratic Debate #2 Thread (Night 1) in ~news

  3. Comment on Democratic Debate #2 Thread (Night 1) in ~news

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    The same things can be said about lots of politicians and lots of Americans. The problem is that she speaks to the uneducated, "love will heal all" people out there. She comes across as the...

    She is 100% an anti-science whackjob and absolutely contributed to masses of people dying from AIDS in the late 80s.

    She is a horrible person and no matter how memey or "straight-talking" her comments are, should not be given the level of credibility the media is providing her now. It is a disgrace.

    The same things can be said about lots of politicians and lots of Americans. The problem is that she speaks to the uneducated, "love will heal all" people out there. She comes across as the typical suburbanite who had very little interest in politics until the current debacle started taking airtime away from the latest celebrity fiasco. She speaks to the people that swear by Essential Oils and Goop. Just from personal experience, these people tend to not vote, or to vote however their SO tends to vote. I think she could be helpful if she turned her support for a realistic candidate and rallied her fan base to actually vote.

    2 votes
  4. Comment on House votes to condemn Trump’s language as racist. in ~news

  5. Comment on Principal Who Tried to Stay ‘Politically Neutral’ About Holocaust Is Removed in ~news

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    It's not just systems that have been cut to the bone though. It's the actual educational system. They gloss over and omit much of history to shape a specific perspective. Even very expensive...

    It's not just systems that have been cut to the bone though. It's the actual educational system. They gloss over and omit much of history to shape a specific perspective. Even very expensive private schools and well funded charter schools pick and choose the version of history they present their students. The people in power are the ones that dictate the curriculum.

    3 votes
  6. Comment on Workers With Disabilities Are Making Cents Per Hour — and It’s Legal in ~life

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    It's definitely not enough for him to live alone, but it definitely does help. I think the school aspect is what my cousin really enjoys. That's where they help him learn to ride a bus, go on fake...

    It's definitely not enough for him to live alone, but it definitely does help. I think the school aspect is what my cousin really enjoys. That's where they help him learn to ride a bus, go on fake dates (which turn into real ones) and include a tip in the bill, among other social interactions. The reality is that he needs someone keeping an eye on him, and making sure he's not going to get lost.

    2 votes
  7. Comment on Workers With Disabilities Are Making Cents Per Hour — and It’s Legal in ~life

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    The money comes as long as he doesn't make too much money. He receives SSI which is to pay for food and housing, which goes directly to his mom and stepdad with whom he lives. He is also enrolled...

    The money comes as long as he doesn't make too much money. He receives SSI which is to pay for food and housing, which goes directly to his mom and stepdad with whom he lives. He is also enrolled in a program that tries to teach him how to live independently (but the reality is that if he outlives his mom and stepdad, he's likely moving in with a sister). This involves classes at a community college and eventually got him into the workforce. At one point he was making minimum wage stocking shelves in a grocery store, but he lost that job after a few too many incidents. At one point he was working in a warehouse moving boxes and crates all day. I think the only job he's actually been proud of and enjoyed was when he was mowing lawns for some neighbors. If it was up to him, he would be playing basketball all day long.

    3 votes
  8. Comment on Workers With Disabilities Are Making Cents Per Hour — and It’s Legal in ~life

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    I have a cousin who works under this program. When he visited me a couple weeks ago, we were talking about this. I was appalled to learn he was working 30-40 hours per week breaking down and...

    I have a cousin who works under this program. When he visited me a couple weeks ago, we were talking about this. I was appalled to learn he was working 30-40 hours per week breaking down and stacking cardboard boxes and yet only making a couple bucks an hour. He works as fast as any person without handicap and would gladly skip lunch and breaks if his boss asked him to. His and his mom defended the program by saying how important it was for him to have a real job, and that he received tons of supplemental income and insurance from the federal government in lieu of a fair wage. Ideally, he would receive a fair wage, with insurance and not need the federal subsistence. Q

    10 votes
  9. Comment on Confessions of a Reddit 'Karma Whore': My years-long journey to the top of Reddit's karma leaderboards has only made me feel more alone in ~tech

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    I’ll take your word over my memory of his.

    I’ll take your word over my memory of his.

    2 votes
  10. Comment on Confessions of a Reddit 'Karma Whore': My years-long journey to the top of Reddit's karma leaderboards has only made me feel more alone in ~tech

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    GallowBoob, dickfromaccounting, iBleedOrange, etc are all "karma whores" first and "powermods" second. They mute quickly because people whining and crying about them posting content gets old and...

    GallowBoob, dickfromaccounting, iBleedOrange, etc are all "karma whores" first and "powermods" second. They mute quickly because people whining and crying about them posting content gets old and tiresome very fast. In most cases, they became mods because of nepotism and knowing that they are constantly around and can be counted on to submit content (especially in smaller subs). In these cases, it's often other mods who are quick to mute people in modmail because they don't want to see the whining for the tenth time that day.

    Contrary to what they think and what you may think, they control very little. If any of them stopped posting tomorrow, their spot would quickly be filled by another person with lots of free time on their hands. Same with mods, there is always someone else willing to step up and get their 5 minutes of internet fame. As long as there is a way to keep track of the karma or moderation, people will be drawn to the fame (one of the main reasons why most karmawhores/ powermods stay away from tildes).

    Reddit is very easy to game and if you want to spend a little bit of cash, there are many sites/ users that would love to help you get your spam content to the front page. Some of the most prolific users on reddit are never noticed because they use lots of different accounts in order to be able to establish accounts so when they are used for marketing, they are less likely to be noticed. These are the people who really control what makes the front page, not just karmawhores posting content that has a 90% chance of making it to reddit on it's own anyways.

    4 votes
  11. Comment on Many in Chinatown have never tried its most popular restaurant, so I brought the food to them in ~life

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    This is so absurd to me. I love coming to Chinatown to shop in the maze of cheap knockoffs and to enjoy the shops that we don’t have near our house. I would never think about waiting in line for...

    This is so absurd to me. I love coming to Chinatown to shop in the maze of cheap knockoffs and to enjoy the shops that we don’t have near our house. I would never think about waiting in line for hours for some fried chicken, and especially not while some of the best food is readily available in small carts, shops or restaurants.

    I think the author would have been better off buying from some of the other places and offering some fantastic Chinese food to people waiting in line for overpriced chicken.

    3 votes
  12. Comment on The MTHFR Gene and Why Anti-vax Doctors Are Ordering 23andMe Tests in ~science

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    My wife and all the women in her family were freaked out about the MTHFR gene because their grandma was told her blood clots and other ailments were all related to that specific gene. They got...

    My wife and all the women in her family were freaked out about the MTHFR gene because their grandma was told her blood clots and other ailments were all related to that specific gene. They got their testing a few years back through their primary care physician. In fact, my wife was denied a surgery a couple years back because the doctor cited that the MTHFR variant she carried caused clotting problems.

    I think people tend to jump to erroneous conclusions because they feel more comfortable blaming problems on something rather than the unknown.

    6 votes
  13. Comment on Unlike men, women’s cognitive performance may improve at higher room temperature in ~science

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    Bat + Ball = 1.10 Bat - Ball = 1.00 Bat = Ball + 1.00 Substitute Ball + 1.00 + Ball = 1.10 2Ball = 0.10 Ball = 0.05

    Bat + Ball = 1.10

    Bat - Ball = 1.00

    Bat = Ball + 1.00

    Substitute

    Ball + 1.00 + Ball = 1.10

    2Ball = 0.10

    Ball = 0.05

    2 votes
  14. Comment on White House launches tool for social media censorship complaints in ~news

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    I don’t think there’s any tin foil hat needed, that’s exactly what the site is being used for. However, it looks simple enough to have lots of false data fed to it.

    I don’t think there’s any tin foil hat needed, that’s exactly what the site is being used for. However, it looks simple enough to have lots of false data fed to it.

    11 votes
  15. Comment on White House launches tool for social media censorship complaints in ~news

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    This seems like a terrible idea just waiting to have bots and trolls flood it with false reports.

    This seems like a terrible idea just waiting to have bots and trolls flood it with false reports.

    13 votes
  16. Comment on Does your city have civil defense/fire/air raid sirens or similar systems? in ~talk

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    Once the nuclear power plant near me shit down, the siren testing did as well.

    Once the nuclear power plant near me shit down, the siren testing did as well.

    1 vote
  17. Comment on Will the Canadian Premier League turn the country into a football power? in ~sports

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    I think a big part of the US's problem is there are too many alternatives. For most powerhouses in Europe and South America, most children learn to play at a young age and grow to idolize the...

    I think a big part of the US's problem is there are too many alternatives. For most powerhouses in Europe and South America, most children learn to play at a young age and grow to idolize the pros. In the US, the NBA, NFL, MLB, NHL, etc are older and more established. The kids want to be the next Lebron James or Tom Brady and focus their energy and attention on those sports rather than soccer. The US focuses on a top-down approach rather than getting the youth excited about soccer. Everyone wants immediate gratification, rather than taking the time and money to get youth attention and development fixed.

    2 votes
  18. Comment on Not Dead But Gone: How a Concussion Changed My Girlfriend's Personality Forever in ~life

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    My wife fell off my son's scooter and broke her skull (for the second time in her life) a little over a year ago. My wife went through quite a bit of the same things that Gabrielle went through,...

    My wife fell off my son's scooter and broke her skull (for the second time in her life) a little over a year ago. My wife went through quite a bit of the same things that Gabrielle went through, but her injury was more severe and required a stay in the hospital.

    This is partly because we don’t fully understand just how far the damage spreads beyond the initial site of impact. Understanding of how the brain is damaged during a concussion is a rapidly evolving field of study

    The trauma center where my wife was initially treated is outside our normal insurance group. The neurosurgeon who picked the bone fragments from her head and put her skull back together with metal plates was not the same one we would see for any follow up appointments we had. The first week in the hospital was a bit of a blur for me, and my wife barely remembers any of it. We had amassed a long list of questions for the neurosurgeon and neurologist when we went in for our first follow up appointment, but pretty much the only answer we got was "We don't know, every person is different." It was incredibly frustrating.

    Gabrielle could appear to be frustratingly normal for brief stretches of time, only to completely break down later, when there was only me there to see these things.

    My wife is one of the strongest people I have ever met. She's also one of the most stubborn and unwilling to accept help. When I returned to work, she fired the caretaker I had hired, and cancelled the service. I got her best friend to come over for a few hours a day, until after 4 days my wife figured out what was happening and kicked her friend out. She talked her doctor into allowing her to return back to work part time after 6 weeks, rather than the original 10 weeks they had agreed upon. Everyone she saw throughout the day would remark how if it wasn't for the shaved head, they would have never known she had an accident. Except every afternoon she would collapse into the bath, followed immediately by bed until it was time to get up the next day. My kids and I were walking on eggshells for months, making sure that once she was in bed, everyone was quiet and quick to help her get comfortable if she needed anything. Failure to act quick enough or to wake her from her slumber caused a fit similar to a toddler. I can't say they are gone yet, but they are much fewer and further between now.

    The person I married is no longer here. She has moments where she loses empathy and becomes almost robotic, a far cry from the person who would cry if a "cute" bug died. She sometimes gets confused or forgets words, especially if she is stressed or tired. I still love my wife and she is still a fantastic mother, but she is different now and it takes patience to remember that sometimes.

    15 votes
  19. Comment on The Woman Who Plotted a Valentine's Mass Murder Shares How the Internet Radicalized Her in ~misc

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    I don't think anyone is innately hateful. It has to start somewhere, usually at home. Both of these people likely had stuff happening between them and their parents. Gamble specifically wanted to...

    I don't think anyone is innately hateful. It has to start somewhere, usually at home. Both of these people likely had stuff happening between them and their parents. Gamble specifically wanted to target middle-aged Christian women, which is probably how he identifies his mother, while Souvannarath likely had something happening with her Laotian father and/or other minorities close to her. Over time, their lack of skills to deal with/ process their emotions forces them inward and in a feedback of self hate and resentment/anger for those around them. To have helped them would probably have required earlier intervention and lots of therapy for some trauma (perceived or real) that they have grudgingly built up for years.

    6 votes