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When You’re Trans, Living With Your Parents Can Be Complicated

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  1. A_Little_Star
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    When i moved back in euth my parents after transitioning I gave them an ultimatum. Either they use my correct pronouns and new name or I will make every effort to move out and will not see them...

    When i moved back in euth my parents after transitioning I gave them an ultimatum. Either they use my correct pronouns and new name or I will make every effort to move out and will not see them again, until they make trh changes. I meant it, and explained that literally everybody except them uses my name and correct pronouns; I also discussed how it was embarrassing out on public and made me feel disrespected they they wouldn't even try.

    The next morning they put effort into the changes and we now have a wonderful relationship. They are even advocates to lgbtq rights and challenge people who are outwardly transphobic. I know this isn't the same for everyone but this is what worked for me. When I threatened to move they knew I would (I had moved across the country earlier in life).

    We all put a lot of effort into communicating and rebuilding our relationships. I understood that this wasn't easy for them,, especially with a religious background and how they were raised. Prior to my ultimatum I had given them 6-8 years to make these changes, I felt like I had given then enough tiem to adjust. My family is now a huge support for me and although not easy it was worth it to be candid about my feelings and for all of us to communicate openly.

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