Who are the "men outraged" this is referring to? If it's third party people throwing a fit I agree with the sentiment, but if I was a guy whose date turned out to be part of a trick for an...
Aponte says the men outraged by the Tinder trick exemplified "how men are so quick to just judge [women] and put a label on us just because we didn't give them what they wanted ... it's just a bruise to their ego," she said.
Who are the "men outraged" this is referring to? If it's third party people throwing a fit I agree with the sentiment, but if I was a guy whose date turned out to be part of a trick for an "experiment" I think I'd be rightfully annoyed.
To be fully clear I'm not defending Tinder or the way people act on it, and I don't have much of a problem with the stunt itself. I just think it's silly not to recognize that in doing so some people were hurt, however minor the hurt may have been.
This is how these things go. Society is so quick to say, "Uh oh man didn't get what he wanted look at how he is behaving because he didn't get what he wanted." But they don't point out underlying...
This is how these things go. Society is so quick to say, "Uh oh man didn't get what he wanted look at how he is behaving because he didn't get what he wanted." But they don't point out underlying factors of what is really happening. Women like this like to play victim, "I am unfairly judged!" But you know they judge men the same. But if men point it out it just goes back to, "Uh oh outraged man not getting what he wants!"
I mean the mentality. I think anyone with that mentality is goofy. Not saying don't have self confidence, but this is egotistical. The wording of, Do you have what it takes like this person is a...
I mean the mentality. I think anyone with that mentality is goofy. Not saying don't have self confidence, but this is egotistical. The wording of, Do you have what it takes like this person is a prize. People really have that mentality of people too. They go into dating looking at it like that.
She is an actor. I said anyone and used generalizing key words just to refer to anyone thinking like this. And people perpetuating it in the dating world. People look at it like a contest and it's...
She is an actor. I said anyone and used generalizing key words just to refer to anyone thinking like this. And people perpetuating it in the dating world. People look at it like a contest and it's sickening. A lot of people just want a partner in every sense of the word.
The article touches on it when it calls Tinder and the like ablest.
I'm not really aware of how things are on Tinder or the such (never tried online dating), so this might be a stupid question, but do people actual treat dating like a contest? Or is this...
I'm not really aware of how things are on Tinder or the such (never tried online dating), so this might be a stupid question, but do people actual treat dating like a contest? Or is this event/actor basically an extreme/exaggerated version like really just "made for TV"? I guess I honestly can't imagine wanting people to "win a date with me"...
It's not so much win a date in black and white. It definitely can be a game and you need a strategy. There are guides laid out across the web and they do work to an extent. A big part of why this...
It's not so much win a date in black and white. It definitely can be a game and you need a strategy. There are guides laid out across the web and they do work to an extent. A big part of why this experiment was so successful was because it was in a big city. Here where I am, we are the second largest city in the state, but still a tiny city. On Tinder or Bumble there will be maybe 50 women on it and you know each have 15-20 men messaging / matching). So it isn't really a great resource. I have tried it, but haven't had much luck.
Here where I am it isn't like it is in bigger cities. You don't meet someone and then go on a date that night with them. And there are so few people on that you don't have continuous Tinder / Bumble dates happening in a short period. We don't have a lot of places to go other than eating and smokey bars. Those are our two real options. So you have to plan it out and by the time the date night comes (usually the coming up weekend) the other person has gotten bored and cancels. It's real common here for that to happen.
The dates I went on weren't successful more for chemistry reasons. The last one I went on was late last year. I felt kind of catfished. The woman was very heavy which you couldn't tell from her pictures. I am not a picky man, but I like the women I date to be in decent shape since I am and like to be active. Plus I am a smaller man anyway. The point is, it's a game and a tactic is tricky photography. Every profile I look a woman has a hand full of pictures and looks like a different person in every one. So you never know what they look like. Which aids in a couple ways, one appealing to different men all at once and hiding what they actually look like.
But in short, women have a ton of men after them on these apps so it is kind of like win a date because a lot of it is strategy and these 15-20 men competing for each woman and in a pool of 50 women odds go down. Photos are a major part of it. Then as a man you can't just say "Hey." And that kind of makes me laugh because on Bumble women have to message you first. And I got a lot of messages when I was on and they always started with Hello or Hey, but if I started out like that I'd be unmatched. Like I keep saying, it's a game and a lot of the time not worth it. Meeting someone you find interesting in person is a much better way to do it. Because you both know what you're getting and that first meeting is out of the way.
A major problem with dating today is, we have constant access to each other. Texting and the internet made chatting easy. So online dating works like this. You match, decide to go out on a date, date isn't for a day or two so one party keeps talking and talking until everything is talked out. Then is goes silents and that party gets bored and cancels the date. But back in the day, you made a date and didn't talk until the date. In dating that first meeting is important. Get that out of the way, show a little charm, and you can land a date that won't be canceled a lot easier. Plus when you don't actually know someone, canceling or ghosting is easier.
Where the roles reversed I'm fairly certain a large portion of women would also be pretty pissed off with being used as part of a trick. Then made to compete with each other, reminds an episode...
Where the roles reversed I'm fairly certain a large portion of women would also be pretty pissed off with being used as part of a trick. Then made to compete with each other, reminds an episode from Unreal. I mean nobody like to get objectified and I suppose dating apps have just moved some of that process away from an in person interaction. Is that such a bad thing, why should people be forced to get rejected in person?
Who are the "men outraged" this is referring to? If it's third party people throwing a fit I agree with the sentiment, but if I was a guy whose date turned out to be part of a trick for an "experiment" I think I'd be rightfully annoyed.
To be fully clear I'm not defending Tinder or the way people act on it, and I don't have much of a problem with the stunt itself. I just think it's silly not to recognize that in doing so some people were hurt, however minor the hurt may have been.
This is how these things go. Society is so quick to say, "Uh oh man didn't get what he wanted look at how he is behaving because he didn't get what he wanted." But they don't point out underlying factors of what is really happening. Women like this like to play victim, "I am unfairly judged!" But you know they judge men the same. But if men point it out it just goes back to, "Uh oh outraged man not getting what he wants!"
This made me a little sick..
They have a point though - it is exactly what we do online, so why is it cruel and upsetting in person and just the way things are online?
I mean the mentality. I think anyone with that mentality is goofy. Not saying don't have self confidence, but this is egotistical. The wording of, Do you have what it takes like this person is a prize. People really have that mentality of people too. They go into dating looking at it like that.
Not agreeing with this event at all, because I honestly find it stupid, but isn't she just an actor?
From the article:
She is an actor. I said anyone and used generalizing key words just to refer to anyone thinking like this. And people perpetuating it in the dating world. People look at it like a contest and it's sickening. A lot of people just want a partner in every sense of the word.
The article touches on it when it calls Tinder and the like ablest.
I'm not really aware of how things are on Tinder or the such (never tried online dating), so this might be a stupid question, but do people actual treat dating like a contest? Or is this event/actor basically an extreme/exaggerated version like really just "made for TV"? I guess I honestly can't imagine wanting people to "win a date with me"...
It's not so much win a date in black and white. It definitely can be a game and you need a strategy. There are guides laid out across the web and they do work to an extent. A big part of why this experiment was so successful was because it was in a big city. Here where I am, we are the second largest city in the state, but still a tiny city. On Tinder or Bumble there will be maybe 50 women on it and you know each have 15-20 men messaging / matching). So it isn't really a great resource. I have tried it, but haven't had much luck.
Here where I am it isn't like it is in bigger cities. You don't meet someone and then go on a date that night with them. And there are so few people on that you don't have continuous Tinder / Bumble dates happening in a short period. We don't have a lot of places to go other than eating and smokey bars. Those are our two real options. So you have to plan it out and by the time the date night comes (usually the coming up weekend) the other person has gotten bored and cancels. It's real common here for that to happen.
The dates I went on weren't successful more for chemistry reasons. The last one I went on was late last year. I felt kind of catfished. The woman was very heavy which you couldn't tell from her pictures. I am not a picky man, but I like the women I date to be in decent shape since I am and like to be active. Plus I am a smaller man anyway. The point is, it's a game and a tactic is tricky photography. Every profile I look a woman has a hand full of pictures and looks like a different person in every one. So you never know what they look like. Which aids in a couple ways, one appealing to different men all at once and hiding what they actually look like.
But in short, women have a ton of men after them on these apps so it is kind of like win a date because a lot of it is strategy and these 15-20 men competing for each woman and in a pool of 50 women odds go down. Photos are a major part of it. Then as a man you can't just say "Hey." And that kind of makes me laugh because on Bumble women have to message you first. And I got a lot of messages when I was on and they always started with Hello or Hey, but if I started out like that I'd be unmatched. Like I keep saying, it's a game and a lot of the time not worth it. Meeting someone you find interesting in person is a much better way to do it. Because you both know what you're getting and that first meeting is out of the way.
A major problem with dating today is, we have constant access to each other. Texting and the internet made chatting easy. So online dating works like this. You match, decide to go out on a date, date isn't for a day or two so one party keeps talking and talking until everything is talked out. Then is goes silents and that party gets bored and cancels the date. But back in the day, you made a date and didn't talk until the date. In dating that first meeting is important. Get that out of the way, show a little charm, and you can land a date that won't be canceled a lot easier. Plus when you don't actually know someone, canceling or ghosting is easier.
Thanks for the insight.
Where the roles reversed I'm fairly certain a large portion of women would also be pretty pissed off with being used as part of a trick. Then made to compete with each other, reminds an episode from Unreal. I mean nobody like to get objectified and I suppose dating apps have just moved some of that process away from an in person interaction. Is that such a bad thing, why should people be forced to get rejected in person?