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23 votes
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A picture of what dating looked like in the 1950s
4 votes -
A factsheet about single people in the USA
10 votes -
The journalist and the pharma bro
9 votes -
Going undercover on a racist dating site
31 votes -
Why do women still change their names?
25 votes -
How to let someone down?
for those still committed to monogamous relationships: if you've been in a situation where you're talking with a few people that could be romantic interests, how do you let them know it's not...
for those still committed to monogamous relationships: if you've been in a situation where you're talking with a few people that could be romantic interests, how do you let them know it's not gonna happen once you've found the (current) one ?
9 votes -
Five women affected by child marriage tell their stories – and of their struggles to protect others
7 votes -
Why don't you tell me a little bit about yourself?
9 votes -
Flirting for morons
29 votes -
For those in marriages or long-term relationships, what do you do with mementos of previous relationships?
I recently went through some old boxes and found my collection of mementos - birthday cards, love letters, ticket stubs, etc. - from years gone by. I'm not convinced marriage will ever be for me,...
I recently went through some old boxes and found my collection of mementos - birthday cards, love letters, ticket stubs, etc. - from years gone by. I'm not convinced marriage will ever be for me, but I've always imagined if I were to get to that point, I'd want to show such a collection to my SO as a way for them to fully understand my story, so to speak. On the one hand, I think of it as a pretty powerful expression of trust in your partner... but I realize the potential for that to massively backfire by introducing jealousy and insecurities. At the same time, I'm very strongly of the belief that what is shared within a relationship is not to be shared with others outside it without mutual consent. I hate gossip, and have had my share of conflict throughout the years over desiring more privacy and discretion in my various SO's conversations with their friends and family about us. That means I would probably choose to leave aside certain things out of respect for my exes, but then I'm not sure if that devalues the gesture.
Any thoughts?
24 votes -
Is marriage over?
7 votes -
Don't nag your husband during lockdown, Malaysia's government advises women
6 votes -
Love in coronavirus times – couple meets for dates on closed Danish-German border
5 votes -
What it’s like to isolate with your girlfriend and her other boyfriend
17 votes -
Love in the time of coronavirus?
Following an off-topic conversation starting here: https://tildes.net/~health.coronavirus/mq7/advice_from_a_doctor_who_studied_coronaviruses_for_50_years#comment-4qi7 I thought it would be handy...
Following an off-topic conversation starting here:
I thought it would be handy to establish that life still continues even in pandemic lockdown. One participant mentions a successful video date, and another wishes for sex.
The questions below may be personal and sensitive - please use your best judgement in answering or refraining to do so. Usual Tildes rules of courtesy apply.
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If you're in a relationship, what are you doing to keep it alive and healthy?
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If you're not partnered, what are you doing, if anything, to date or otherwise meet your needs while everything is closed down (if this is the case where you are)?
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Does your idea of love or sex require physical contact?
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If physical contact is required, what, if anything, are you doing to stay safe right now?
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How Sweden is fixing the housework gender gap – do Swedish-style tax breaks for cleaners provide a solution or perpetuate gender-role norms?
6 votes -
How dating became a market, and the consequences that follow from this
22 votes -
Eight things toxic mothers have in common
10 votes -
The new breed of sex addicts - who don't have sex
10 votes -
Advanced love: The secrets of a lasting (and stylish) relationship
4 votes -
An adult’s guide to social skills, for those who were never taught
7 votes -
How to date when you're pushing forty?
Semi-throwaway cause you'll see. I used to know my way around dating. I felt some control over my projected image. Witty yet humble, respectful yet naughty, interesting yet safe. Just the right...
Semi-throwaway cause you'll see.
I used to know my way around dating. I felt some control over my projected image. Witty yet humble, respectful yet naughty, interesting yet safe. Just the right amount. I made no promises, but relationships were never of the table — and I had quite a few. I was frank, true and kind. Telling the truth about my intentions was both liberating and effective. Ladies liked it.
Maybe that's a consequence of age, but the shtick is not working anymore. Most women my age (and in my location) seem to expect someone more "mature", someone to marry with, or at least someone that is willing to become a father figure for their children. IDK. But I'm not that guy. Going after younger women is a double-edged sword since I'll have to deal with growing pains I have long left behind. And it's not like they're too interested in me anyway. I refuse to believe that marriage and fatherhood are necessary steps for maturity, but sometimes this seems like an inevitability. And it's not like I blame women for wanting that: it's within their right to want whatever suits them. And I want their company. I just don't want to participate in the big project.
I do not believe in marriage, the same way I do not invest in any large project with such a slim chance of success (and for me divorce is only one of many ways a marriage can fail). I absolutely do not judge anyone who chooses to become married, but it's not for me.
So hence the question: how to date when you're pushing forty?
17 votes -
Learning about love and banter from Tinder, Garry Kasparov, and Turing tests
7 votes -
When does a boyfriend or girlfriend become part of the family?
10 votes -
Lovers in Auschwitz, reunited 72 years later. He had one question
7 votes -
What if your abusive husband is a cop?
7 votes -
'You don't have to settle': the joy of living (and dying) alone
10 votes -
On finding the freedom to rage against our fathers
8 votes -
Romantic Regimes
6 votes -
Why your inner circle should stay small, and how to shrink it
6 votes -
Polyamory in the Pacific Northwest
10 votes -
My life with face blindness
21 votes -
Is It Time for a Sleep Divorce?
11 votes -
Do you know who your ‘friends’ are?: Making digital conversations humane will require defining our online relationships
5 votes -
More people need to talk about having fewer children
29 votes -
The Crane Wife - Ten days after calling off her engagement, CJ Hauser travels to the Gulf Coast to live among scientists and whooping cranes
10 votes -
The village where every cop has been convicted of domestic violence
9 votes -
People tell us how QAnon destroyed their relationships
26 votes -
The Day the Fire Came: A tale of love and loss on the Panhandle plains
4 votes -
When the racist is someone you know and love…
12 votes -
Where Disease Stopped and My Brother Began: Coming to terms with a sibling's suicide
3 votes -
Torn apart by the Syrian war, these siblings struggle to stay connected across 6 different countries
6 votes -
Millennials are causing the U.S. divorce rate to plummet
20 votes -
Why I Found My Community in a Starbucks
6 votes -
Five Kinds of Relationship Problems
7 votes -
When you give a friend a kidney
5 votes -
The world of online dating for socialists
9 votes -
Many people having affairs consider themselves to be ‘happily’ married
8 votes -
How many bones would you break to get laid? “Incels” are going under the knife to reshape their faces, and their dating prospects
28 votes