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Comment on Murderbot | Official trailer in ~tv
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Comment on Which challenging book was worth the effort for you? in ~books
lackofaname Link ParentSame here. I listened on audiobook, so I didn't have any challenge with writing style. But, it was so anxiety inducing I felt afraid to continue reading, and had to take ling breaks to steel...Same here. I listened on audiobook, so I didn't have any challenge with writing style. But, it was so anxiety inducing I felt afraid to continue reading, and had to take ling breaks to steel myself for whatever might be next.
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Comment on Help me understand the phrase, "Elbows up" in ~society
lackofaname Link ParentAhh, yea, fair. When you frame it within the specific context of Canada's history with the US, I can see what you mean.Ahh, yea, fair. When you frame it within the specific context of Canada's history with the US, I can see what you mean.
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Comment on Help me understand the phrase, "Elbows up" in ~society
lackofaname Link ParentTo add another Canadian perspective to your interpretation: I'm not even a huge hockey fan insofar as Im not hugely into most organized sports. my exposure is pretty passive - family or friends...To add another Canadian perspective to your interpretation: I'm not even a huge hockey fan insofar as Im not hugely into most organized sports. my exposure is pretty passive - family or friends who play, or a game being broadcast in the background.
Still, I immediately understood the sentiment, much as you decribe, of 'elbows up' in the context of showing grit, resiliance, and resistance in the face of adverse conditions.
Yet, there's one sentiment I had never personally heard applied to Canadians prior to now, but it's become very common: that Canadians hold a grudge. Perhaps it's simply been a blind spot in my understanding of Canadian identity. Or, perhaps it's growing as an aspect of the Canadian identity just now.
Either way, grudge-holding isn't an attribute I personally consider healthy or would like to see grow in attachment to the national identity. I'd much rather see the focus of similar ideas of taking a stand, resistance, determination, grit, resiliance, etc.
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Comment on What is one of the coolest museums you've visited? in ~travel
lackofaname Link ParentNo, I've not seen it. ty for the recommendation, next time I have access to Nextflix!No, I've not seen it. ty for the recommendation, next time I have access to Nextflix!
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Comment on What is one of the coolest museums you've visited? in ~travel
lackofaname Link ParentOoh, I went through a period of watching of glass videos they post. It's such a mesmerising process, I can only imagine how fun it'd be in person.Ooh, I went through a period of watching of glass videos they post. It's such a mesmerising process, I can only imagine how fun it'd be in person.
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Comment on Tildes Book Club - How is it going with Elder Race? in ~books
lackofaname LinkI read this a few months ago. To help gather and remember my thoughts, I took extensive notes while listening. It'll be the first time I try referencijg for the book club, so I'll be curious to...I read this a few months ago. To help gather and remember my thoughts, I took extensive notes while listening. It'll be the first time I try referencijg for the book club, so I'll be curious to see how it goes!
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Comment on CinemaCon takeaways: fights over theatrical window, fizzling star power and Amazon MGM’s big promise in ~movies
lackofaname LinkI've probably seen just about as many movies in theatre this year alone than most of my adult life prior. This is almost exclusively because of the little independent movie theatre in my city....I've probably seen just about as many movies in theatre this year alone than most of my adult life prior. This is almost exclusively because of the little independent movie theatre in my city. It's very cute and in a walkable downtown area. It's also reasonably priced, locally owned, and shows a good mix of smaller independent movies, classics, newer 'mainsteam' features (once it can get them.. exclusivity rights of large chains often cause delays), and special events.
Going feels like Im getting more than just a movie, but also a nice time 'out on the town', so the whole experience becomes appealing.
I have so little desire to go to (in my opinion) bland big chain theatres, which in my area are in huge strip mall lots you need to drive to, with almost no restaurants beyond fast-casual chains. I'm probably not the norm, but bigger screens and louder sounds just aren't the way into my heart to get me into a theatre.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (April 2025) in ~health.mental
lackofaname Link ParentYes, absolutely. When I'm stressed, it's so difficult turning my mind off and it affects my sleep. Then, my sleep schedule gets completely disregulated and into weird cycles (sometimes not falling...Yes, absolutely. When I'm stressed, it's so difficult turning my mind off and it affects my sleep. Then, my sleep schedule gets completely disregulated and into weird cycles (sometimes not falling asleep, sometimes waking up in the middle of the night, sometimes waking way too early).
During the daytime, I sometimes find myself humming to block out an intrusive thought. A funny little thing but it seems to help! My last therapist also helped me learn to create "balancing thoughts" that help me flip my own narrative against whatever is stressing me. They don't change or dismiss reality. Just help change my outlook where possible, which can have an overall positive impact on my thoughts.
I also give myself grace that can be perfectly ok to distract myself from my own worries. Doom scrolling wouldn't really be a healthy distraction, but at night, I sometimes fall asleep (or fall back asleep) listening to an audiobook or long video on my phone, as my brain is too busy focusing on the narration to get stuck worrying.
Exercise and spending time outdoors can also help me sleep, if only by tiring me enough physically that it overrides my mind's activity.
As a final measure, I have a prescription for a light sleep aid. I don't (and am not supposed to) use it often, but it's frankly a relief just to know I have a backup, and it helps me to re-regulate my sleep cycle when I do take it.
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Comment on What keeps you up at night? in ~talk
lackofaname Link ParentI'm 37, and it's so easy for me to feel old. But, I read a comment online the other day by someone stating they were 35, about where they were at, and for a brief moment, my brain completely...I'm 37, and it's so easy for me to feel old.
But, I read a comment online the other day by someone stating they were 35, about where they were at, and for a brief moment, my brain completely forgot about me, and I just thought "wow, you have so much to look forward to".
It took me a moment of self reflection to reconcile how I view myself, vs. this very similarly aged stranger.
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Comment on What are your goto cocktails? in ~food
lackofaname Link ParentOh, good point. I really love unsweetened grapefuit, so I wouldn't personally add sugar. But I'm sure it would also be very tasty with simple syrup to balance out any bitterness. If you wanted to...Oh, good point. I really love unsweetened grapefuit, so I wouldn't personally add sugar.
But I'm sure it would also be very tasty with simple syrup to balance out any bitterness. If you wanted to have fun with the syrup, you could even infuse the rosemary.
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Comment on Confess your food crimes in ~food
lackofaname Link ParentWhile I am a fan of pineapple on pizza, so bias, I particularly like pineapple and green olives together on pizza. I think its a similar balance, that the acidic, salty olives balance out the...While I am a fan of pineapple on pizza, so bias, I particularly like pineapple and green olives together on pizza. I think its a similar balance, that the acidic, salty olives balance out the juicy sweetness of the pineapple.
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Comment on What does a newcomer moving to your town/city/state/country need to know? in ~life
lackofaname Link ParentHuh, we live in the same town, by which I mean: even if we don't literally, we do.Huh, we live in the same town, by which I mean: even if we don't literally, we do.
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Comment on What are your goto cocktails? in ~food
lackofaname LinkNot sure about a name or specific ratios, but I enjoy: -highball-sized glass, add ice -Empress gin, about 1 hearty shot -Grapefruit juice, a couple shots -top with fizzy water -Garnish with fresh...Not sure about a name or specific ratios, but I enjoy:
-highball-sized glass, add ice
-Empress gin, about 1 hearty shot
-Grapefruit juice, a couple shots
-top with fizzy water
-Garnish with fresh rosemary sprig, rubbed to release the flavours -
Comment on How do you feel about your PTO? in ~life
lackofaname Link ParentFlip side of banking so many days off is that you could.. maybe.. float a sabbatical and have them hire a temp fill in. I realize crappy companies or managers wouldn't respond well to that, and...Flip side of banking so many days off is that you could.. maybe.. float a sabbatical and have them hire a temp fill in.
I realize crappy companies or managers wouldn't respond well to that, and even crappier ones could jeopardise your job, but might be an idea.
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Comment on How do you feel about your PTO? in ~life
lackofaname Link ParentThis is pretty similar to my experience (19 paid days off, plus normal holidays, unlimited sick), and I feel the same, I could use more. I rarely take big, fun vacations as most of my longer...This is pretty similar to my experience (19 paid days off, plus normal holidays, unlimited sick), and I feel the same, I could use more. I rarely take big, fun vacations as most of my longer periods off I dedicate to visiting family and the rest I end up using to make many long weekends over the year for mini-recharges (especially after paid Friday afternoons off got cancelled in my dept).
I'm also able to opt into a certain amount of unpaid vacation. The deducted pay gets taken out of my paycheques throughout the year, so normal pay isn't disrupted (it gets paid out if unused). I'm feeling such a need for a rest, this might be the first year I end up using it. We'll see.
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Comment on Long-term experiences with Google search alternatives? in ~tech
lackofaname LinkI've tried to use DDG over the years, but it never quite stuck. At the moment, I've switched to Qwant on my phone, mostly because it's not US based. At least for casual, nonwork use, I'm liking it...I've tried to use DDG over the years, but it never quite stuck.
At the moment, I've switched to Qwant on my phone, mostly because it's not US based. At least for casual, nonwork use, I'm liking it well enough to keep using it. It reminds me of a little of old-school Google, at least in the simple list layout.
Occasionally, I switch back to Google if I'm particularly stuck getting results for something, maybe 1 in 20 casual (nonwork) searches? A small annoyance, but If I'm looking for recent results I find it funny qwant doesnt offer an option for 'past year' (only up to past month).
I haven't yet tried it for work on my laptop, so can't opine on that usage.
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Comment on What's a feeling you sometimes experience that you don't have a name for? in ~talk
lackofaname Link ParentAhh, you know maybe it is. I guess I've never associated my experience with that term. Fever just makes it sound so frenetic and bacchanal.Ahh, you know maybe it is. I guess I've never associated my experience with that term. Fever just makes it sound so frenetic and bacchanal.
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Comment on What's a feeling you sometimes experience that you don't have a name for? in ~talk
lackofaname Link ParentOoh, that's a good one. Still get it as adult sometimes in the right context, though it'd be so much nicer if streetlights were still warm orange.Ooh, that's a good one. Still get it as adult sometimes in the right context, though it'd be so much nicer if streetlights were still warm orange.
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Comment on What's a feeling you sometimes experience that you don't have a name for? in ~talk
lackofaname LinkVery timely one. I suppose it is describable, but not in a word alone. Every year, mid-march, I start to feel the lightness of spring. The days are beginning to feel juuust long-enough, the...Very timely one. I suppose it is describable, but not in a word alone.
Every year, mid-march, I start to feel the lightness of spring. The days are beginning to feel juuust long-enough, the weather is juuust warm enough, the snow is melted juuust enough to see some grass and a few early flowers, my winter SAD lifts, and all the potential of the year ahead is spread out in front of me. It's the confluence hope, relief, energy, brightness, contentment all in one.
Funny enough, it's this comment that's finally compelled me to try the series. I'm not sure why I've come away from past recommendations assuming the books to be overly comedic, so seeing an opinion tempering that expectation gave me the final push.
I really enjoyed the first novella!