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Comment on I think I've failed the United States in ~society
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Comment on Follow up on the username thread: What Tildes users do you recognize when browsing and, without being rude or inflammatory, what is your impression of them? in ~tildes
lackofaname Link ParentYou make a fair point, I am honestly too lazy to actually follow through with multiple accounts :DYou make a fair point, I am honestly too lazy to actually follow through with multiple accounts :D
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Comment on Follow up on the username thread: What Tildes users do you recognize when browsing and, without being rude or inflammatory, what is your impression of them? in ~tildes
lackofaname LinkThere are a solid number of user names I recognize, and even a few who I've noticed enough similarities or differences in my own view points that I tend to recall them. Though I don't think I...There are a solid number of user names I recognize, and even a few who I've noticed enough similarities or differences in my own view points that I tend to recall them. Though I don't think I comment frequently enough to have had or expect the same impact on others, I think that recognition contributes somewhat to the sense of community?
In a different thread around security/privacy, a few users (with usernamesIve come to recognize) mentioned flipping between multiple accounts, and it really made me rethink the meaning of "identity" in a forum like this. Also made me wonder about doing this myself, as I often find myself not commenting because I want to be mindful about how much info I share about myself. I don't really know how to express it, but there's something interesting to the idea of exploding one's identity into discrete separate public presences. Maybe analogous to the different ways we present ourselves "irl" in different settings and to different people.
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
lackofaname Link ParentFor me, the playback speed I choose generally depends on the narrator. Some narrators I mesh really well with at their normal cadence. Some I have to speed up 1.05 - 1.15x to sound 'right' to my...For me, the playback speed I choose generally depends on the narrator.
Some narrators I mesh really well with at their normal cadence. Some I have to speed up 1.05 - 1.15x to sound 'right' to my ear. Every so often, I encounter a narrator I've had to slow down.
Also, if it's a passage I'm bored with but I'm not necessarily ready to dnf, I'll speed it wayyyyy up to get through.
Also anecdotally, I personally don't feel any difference in immersion/imagination between reading-reading vs listening-reading.
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Comment on Tildes Book Club Discussion - Kindred by Octavia Butler in ~books
lackofaname Link ParentThe period after Dana returns to present leaving her husband behind, I found particularly tense. As the story progressed and her husband had been away for longer and longer, I was increasingly...The period after Dana returns to present leaving her husband behind, I found particularly tense. As the story progressed and her husband had been away for longer and longer, I was increasingly concerned about the impact the period would have on him.
I was immensely relieved when they reunited, even if he was changed he hadn't become a bad person.
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Comment on I think it's time to give a "news detox" a try in ~talk
lackofaname LinkMuch like other responses, I've found tuning out of news (selectively) over the past couple of years to be very refreshing to my mental health. One observation I noticed when my partner put on...Much like other responses, I've found tuning out of news (selectively) over the past couple of years to be very refreshing to my mental health.
One observation I noticed when my partner put on live US election coverage the other night: After only a few minutes, the whole overall production (across multiple networks) felt very geared toward inducing a stress response.
Everyone speaks really aggressively, the animations are overly flashy, the sounds and music force a sense of alert and immediacy.
It was so offputting and grating we had to put it on mute, and then abandonned altogether and went to bed early.
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Comment on I think it's time to give a "news detox" a try in ~talk
lackofaname Link ParentI've really gotten into audiobooks over the past couple of years, and it's become what I think is a healthy distraction activity. I really like their versatility. I can multitask (go for a walk,...I've really gotten into audiobooks over the past couple of years, and it's become what I think is a healthy distraction activity.
I really like their versatility. I can multitask (go for a walk, garden, chores), or I can just sit back/lie down, close my eyes, and listen when Im too tired to do much else.
I get they aren't for everyone, just my 2 cents!
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Comment on I think it's time to give a "news detox" a try in ~talk
lackofaname Link ParentThis is similar to my approach, also Canada, though I do try to also learn about the specific representatives of my riding, and my area's voting trends, to help me decide whether to vote purely...This is similar to my approach, also Canada, though I do try to also learn about the specific representatives of my riding, and my area's voting trends, to help me decide whether to vote purely ideologically or (somewhat) strategically.
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Comment on What is happening outside the US? in ~talk
lackofaname Link ParentWhile I kind of wish my province would have an election, current polls suggest it wouldn't change a thing. I can't believe how consistently I'm disappointed in the actions of my current provincial...While I kind of wish my province would have an election, current polls suggest it wouldn't change a thing. I can't believe how consistently I'm disappointed in the actions of my current provincial gov.
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Comment on What is happening outside the US? in ~talk
lackofaname Link ParentIn Canada, our opposition (conservative) leader has been holding nonconfidence votes against the government (liberal). Truthfully I've been limiting news exposure for a while, but there seems to...In Canada, our opposition (conservative) leader has been holding nonconfidence votes against the government (liberal).
Truthfully I've been limiting news exposure for a while, but there seems to be a decent chance of Canada having a federal election sometime in the next year.
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Comment on Tildes Book Club - Spring 2025 nomination thread - Books from minority or diverse or disadvantaged perspectives in ~books
lackofaname LinkThe sentence, Louise Erdrich, Native american author (Edit - Sorry, very long day, keeping this comment ahort for now)- The sentence, Louise Erdrich, Native american author
(Edit - Sorry, very long day, keeping this comment ahort for now)
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Comment on Can/should Tildes pull out of search engine results? in ~tildes
lackofaname Link ParentPardon my technical ignorance, but would "rel=nofollow", if applied to a user name, mean that if I e.g., did a Tildes-site specific search of a username on google, there'd be no results? I know...Pardon my technical ignorance, but would "rel=nofollow", if applied to a user name, mean that if I e.g., did a Tildes-site specific search of a username on google, there'd be no results?
I know tildes limits user profile info/comment history when viewing as logged out, but the comment history aspect is easily bypassed.
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Comment on US Election Distractions Thread in ~talk
lackofaname Link ParentI've written so many comments that have never seen the light of day. I get halfway through a thought, give up completing it, and abandon.I've written so many comments that have never seen the light of day. I get halfway through a thought, give up completing it, and abandon.
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Comment on US Election Distractions Thread in ~talk
lackofaname Link ParentI just replied to the top comment, but I realised I do it differently depending on the type of clothing (trousers vs. Dresses/skirts)I just replied to the top comment, but I realised I do it differently depending on the type of clothing (trousers vs. Dresses/skirts)
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Comment on US Election Distractions Thread in ~talk
lackofaname Link ParentOn jeans/trousers: fasten zip On skirts/dresses: I think usually zip then fastenOn jeans/trousers: fasten zip
On skirts/dresses: I think usually zip then fasten
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Comment on US Election Distractions Thread in ~talk
lackofaname Link ParentThis is more or less what I attempt, too. I dont like being dishonest, but I do try to be vague about certain details.This is more or less what I attempt, too. I dont like being dishonest, but I do try to be vague about certain details.
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Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food
lackofaname Link ParentOh, that pumpkin bolognese looks really lovely. Thanks for the inspiration, I have a couple pie pumpkins I need to use but havent felt like baking.Oh, that pumpkin bolognese looks really lovely. Thanks for the inspiration, I have a couple pie pumpkins I need to use but havent felt like baking.
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Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food
lackofaname Link ParentI like adding red lentils to butternut squash soup*. Blended all together, the lentils add a nice smoothness to the soup but otherwise it's normal squash soup. *Lots of variations, but I typically...I like adding red lentils to butternut squash soup*. Blended all together, the lentils add a nice smoothness to the soup but otherwise it's normal squash soup.
*Lots of variations, but I typically do: butternut squash, onions, (garlic), sage, thyme, ginger, pepper, nutmeg, broth, butter, plus cooked red lentils.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2024) in ~health.mental
lackofaname Link ParentI just wanted to share that I make the same distinction between happiness and contentedness. Which, maybe is just their definition, but I told a doctor once that my emotional aim is to be content,...I just wanted to share that I make the same distinction between happiness and contentedness. Which, maybe is just their definition, but I told a doctor once that my emotional aim is to be content, and they pushed back asking why I didn't aim for happiness. That push-back felt weird to me.
Best of luck in finding your balance.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2024) in ~health.mental
lackofaname Link ParentI'm really sorry you and your spouse are going through this. While no two situations are the same, to commiserate a little, I feel like I've been the stressed-out partner before (work,...I'm really sorry you and your spouse are going through this.
While no two situations are the same, to commiserate a little, I feel like I've been the stressed-out partner before (work, covid-times, economy). It was like a frog in heating water: I didn't notice I needed help/change until I was boiling and dumping on/snapping at the people in my life. Ending the stressful work + beginning therapy helped.
I hope both of you are able to work through this.
This post, thread, and your reply remind me quite a bit of another post from today about underrated ways to change the world. For anyone who's missed/skipped it I found it to be an engaging and positive little read.