On paper she can be highly marriageable but it kind of feels like she's also judging potential partners on paper as well. Like, atleast from the article the primary things she pays attention to are incredibly superficial.

But yeah, at the end of the day the only thing her system is good for is staying single, it seems.

I met my eventual spouse online, as have at least half of my social circle across several countries. Older millennial, for reference.

Once you are actually communicating, and certainly once across the table from them, the most important thing is to stop thinking of it systematically as an absolute optimization problem to find The One(tm). Focus on them as an individual on a human level, give it an honest chance with your full attention not just ticking mental boxes, and see whether there’s enough of a connection to want to meet them at least once more.

Maybe it goes exactly as expected after all or maybe it’s a pleasant or unpleasant surprise. Either way there’s always something worth learning no matter how small.

When I was single, I found that meeting online led to somewhat better matches than meeting in person, but it needed to be more casual and less rushed (basically the exact opposite of this woman's strategy) than most people are willing to do. This is because I am extremely slow to feel attraction to someone; I have to feel very comfortable around them and regard them as a good friend before I can develop romantic feelings. I did form some connections with a few guys who accommodated my cold feet, and so there were a few potential relationships I was very interested in pursuing (until I fell in love with my current partner instead).

I also went on a large number of dates with people I met in person, but I never felt any chemistry. In-person dating was inherently too rushed; I was not anywhere close to experiencing any kind of romantic or sexual attraction to someone I barely knew.

All of my relationships grew out of established platonic friendships. But all but one of these (the one I am in now) didn't really work out — I think because, as a general rule, most people are far quicker to experience attraction than I am, and so the fact that these guys didn't make any moves earlier in the friendship suggests that I wasn't really their #1 pick, if that makes sense.

I ended up with someone I originally met on a dating website, but we were from the opposite sides of the globe, and I think the circumstances were basically ideal for us. Dating was absolutely not on the cards due to the distance (for example, I had a hard rule where I wouldn't date someone who lived more than 2 hours away from me — and we were more like 36 hours apart), so we were just penpals for years. We fell in love when we started video chatting for the first time, and I think that was about ideal: I felt very comfortable with him after years of email correspondence, yet the chemistry was also immediate and essentially love at first sight (something I had never experienced before).

What proceeded was years of long distance, mountains of paperwork, and savings-depleting expenses to be together. This was a far higher price than either of us had previously ever imagined a relationship could be worth, but once we fell in love, there was no question that we would do it. We knew it would be hard, but the alternative was inconceivable.

Online dating is just a tool, which can absolutely be used to good effect, but she doesn't seem to know how. She is systemically searching for men as if she were arranging a compatible-but-loveless marriage, but then she is disappointed when she doesn't feel any chemistry for them or them for her. I think she misunderstands how love works and believes it's a simple numbers numbers game. I mean, it is a numbers game to a certain extent, but she has probably met dozens of men she could have fallen in love with if she had given them and herself the chance to do so. How many years will she try this failing strategy over and over again before she realizes she's doing it wrong?

I wonder if this has changed over time? I met my wife online in 2013. I had dated a few other women that I also met online before her, and there was only one instance where I felt like the woman was a serial dater. Based on hearing other people's stories about online dating, I feel like I had relative success in that space, which is surprising to me considering I'm not conventionally attractive.

I mentioned this book in another reply

https://blogs.lse.ac.uk/lsereviewofbooks/2012/05/24/book-review-why-love-hurts/

which does make the case (from a feminist standpoint) that women are right to be concerned about taking too long to find a partner because women's fertility is not infinite. It's not a matter of "my body my choice" but more a matter of the choice being made for you if enough time passes. Not like people have to have kids but it is something that most people find to be one of the most satisfying things they did in their life. Her opportunity is not lost at 32 but if she loses another 5 years here and another 5 years there it could be.

That's something entirely different from the pushy parents with traditional values or the Woody Allen types who might think 17 is getting too old.

You ever had a friend who does something interesting? You ever had a friend who knows anyone who works in any kind of media? Usually, you'll tell a friend a weird story and they'll tell someone else who'll say "Oh, So and so works for [Radio, TV, Print outlet] you've got to tell them!" and once it's carried on one outlet it'll get found by other people who run the story as well.

I suppose the more attention hungry people might call the news on themselves but that's not the usual way.