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Comment on What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga) in ~anime
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Comment on What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga) in ~anime
chizcurl (edited )Link ParentI personally wouldn't think too deeply about the comedic style of the show by trying to assign greater purpose to it. I thought it was funny from the start. The characters, dialogue, and events...I personally wouldn't think too deeply about the comedic style of the show by trying to assign greater purpose to it. I thought it was funny from the start. The characters, dialogue, and events reminded me of Spongebob season 1's random pure stupidity (in a good way). It's such a fine line between that and cringe, I was actually quite impressed by the writing.
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Comment on Buying a game from a director that you really have problems with (Kingdom Come) in ~games
chizcurl LinkI would really encourage you to stick to your values. It sounds like you already have a solution: buying the game heavily discounted. I think you can fight the FOMO by removing yourself from...I would really encourage you to stick to your values. It sounds like you already have a solution: buying the game heavily discounted. I think you can fight the FOMO by removing yourself from spaces discussing KC2 and video content. You can also update your social media algorithms by blocking key words and removing video/channel recommendations.
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Comment on I need to be making $90,000 in ~life
chizcurl Link ParentIt's going to be hard to give advice without seeing your resume, but I'll focus on some things that were important for me during my job search. I'm based in the US and in a remote position. The...It's going to be hard to give advice without seeing your resume, but I'll focus on some things that were important for me during my job search. I'm based in the US and in a remote position.
The most obvious thing is to make sure that you're applying to jobs (which you're actually interested in) that align with your experience and skills. You can track your application response rate to see which job titles you have the most success with.
You wrote in another comment that you have quantified your achievements with stats. Do you place 2-3 of these achievements bullets at the top of your recent position(s)? Do you also put them in the "Summary" section at the very top, under your name?
Additionally, how much do you tailor your resume to the job description? I'd imagine that you would frequently include or omit specific positions in your job history if the bullet points aren't relevant to the job description. You may be copying and pasting key words (or entire bullet points) from the job duties into your resume. You may be reordering or omitting specific stats if they aren't relevant to the job description. Even your Skills section may be updated with key words from the JD. And don't forget to demonstrate your impact within each bullet point, regardless of whether or not they include stats.
All of this sounds like a lot of work, because it is LOL 🫠 The competition for remote roles is fierce. Thousands of applicants may apply within the first day that the role is posted. Eventually, your master resume becomes filled with your own "commonly used bullet points" that you can mix & match (some tailoring still required).
Lastly, are you also using your Google-fu skills to email the hiring manager? If you're already spending all this time on each application, then you might as well go the extra mile to increase your chances of being seen.
Another way to "skip the line" into a first interview is to get referred by someone you know - family, friends, old coworkers, etc. When you're catching up with people, it doesn't hurt to ask them if they know anyone who's hiring for XYZ position(s). You'd be surprised who you might hear from 1-2 months later!
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Comment on I need to be making $90,000 in ~life
chizcurl LinkIn the comments, you mentioned having trouble with selling yourself/convincing prospective employers. Where are you feeling the strain - are you having trouble getting interviews, progressing to...In the comments, you mentioned having trouble with selling yourself/convincing prospective employers. Where are you feeling the strain - are you having trouble getting interviews, progressing to the final interview, or both?
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Comment on Holidays mental health thread in ~health.mental
chizcurl Link ParentThat sounds really tough. I'm sorry that your family isn't supportive. 😔 You deserve more than this, and I think you will get there someday. I'm just a stranger, but I am rooting for you!!!That sounds really tough. I'm sorry that your family isn't supportive. 😔 You deserve more than this, and I think you will get there someday. I'm just a stranger, but I am rooting for you!!!
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Comment on Holidays mental health thread in ~health.mental
chizcurl (edited )LinkI read your linked comment in the other thread, and I hope this message is okay because I'm not sure if validation or problem solving is something you want to hear right now - so I'll try to keep...I read your linked comment in the other thread, and I hope this message is okay because I'm not sure if validation or problem solving is something you want to hear right now - so I'll try to keep it short. What happened was (and still is) messed up. It seems like you are facing a major crossroad in life because you cannot ignore everything that you know now. Sometimes, I get really stressed out thinking about the future and every decision tree to consider when making a choice. If you need to hear this, just know that it's okay to take things one step at a time.
Without knowing your cultural background and financial situation, all I can say is that not everyone has to pretend that everything is fine when it is not. Is it possible to make something up so you don't have to go to those gatherings? Like say there's a sudden work deadline or that you got food poisoning and it's coming out of both ends?
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Comment on Struggling with nihilism and the inability to enjoy things in ~health.mental
chizcurl Link ParentHey! It's great to hear that you're doing better now. I checked out your other comment as well, and I'm so happy for you. Wishing you the best! ☺️Hey! It's great to hear that you're doing better now. I checked out your other comment as well, and I'm so happy for you. Wishing you the best! ☺️
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Comment on What moderate countries are left to emigrate to? in ~travel
chizcurl LinkI'm in the same boat, not sure where to possibly escape to if needed. My current option by birthright would be a place under the threat of invasion. If I took a stab in the dark, then I'd start...I'm in the same boat, not sure where to possibly escape to if needed. My current option by birthright would be a place under the threat of invasion. 🫠 If I took a stab in the dark, then I'd start looking at either Finland or Sweden. They constantly come out on top of those annual "happiest country in the world" lists.
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Comment on How would you go about teaching (or learning) critical thinking? in ~humanities
chizcurl (edited )LinkI think practicing how to fact check and point out inconsistencies is important. Most people encounter some form of that in school by writing essays and presenting arguments. Other activities that...I think practicing how to fact check and point out inconsistencies is important. Most people encounter some form of that in school by writing essays and presenting arguments. Other activities that reinforced the concept for me include joining mock trial and playing mystery/detective video games. Now that I think about it, the games served as an exercise for a majority of concepts listed in this thread (sources, persuasion, motivation, etc.)!
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Comment on World Health Organization declares mpox outbreaks in Africa a global health emergency as a new form of the virus spreads in ~health
chizcurl LinkFor anyone else who may be curious, I looked up mpox on Mayoclinic for a general definition and symptoms, and CDC for sample images of the rash.For anyone else who may be curious, I looked up mpox on Mayoclinic for a general definition and symptoms, and CDC for sample images of the rash.
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Comment on Struggling with nihilism and the inability to enjoy things in ~health.mental
chizcurl (edited )LinkOther people brought up good points about psychology and brain chemistry as well as mindfulness. The way I see it, focusing on the micro doesn't mean to stop thinking, but rather think more about...Other people brought up good points about psychology and brain chemistry as well as mindfulness. The way I see it, focusing on the micro doesn't mean to stop thinking, but rather think more about the current task at hand. It's hard to do that if your mind is too far into the future (we're all dying in the end, so what's the point of XYZ?).
Have you talked to your therapist about exercises to bring you back into the present? There's something like hyper focusing on one of the 5 senses to interrupt yourself when you catch yourself drifting.
I'll also echo what others said about medication. If it hasn't been explored yet, it sounds like an important piece of the puzzle.
On a side note, have you thought about a more cottagecore lifestyle as a means of rejecting society (rather than hedonism)? Like living in the suburbs or countryside and taking up more homestead activities. It's totally fine to be more reclusive if you feel drained by trying to fit into a social mold that doesn't feel authentic to you.
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Comment on Why does "Everything Everywhere All at Once" repulse me so much? in ~movies
chizcurl (edited )LinkWatching the actual movie would probably give you a better idea as to why it mentally and physically repulses you. Taking some notes could help you unpack. You wrote a few comments indicating that...Watching the actual movie would probably give you a better idea as to why it mentally and physically repulses you. Taking some notes could help you unpack.
You wrote a few comments indicating that the way the movie is shot rubs you the wrong way. Idk maybe it evokes bad memories for you for some reason.
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Comment on How should you prepare for the end of the honeymoon phase? in ~life
chizcurl (edited )Link Parent@0d_billie Happy for you both! 🥰 DialecticCake gave great questions for setting relationship boundaries. I've also asked these questions in the past. In addition, I would discuss whether both...@0d_billie Happy for you both! 🥰 DialecticCake gave great questions for setting relationship boundaries. I've also asked these questions in the past. In addition, I would discuss whether both parties are pausing or deleting their online dating profile.
For the long term, I asked my friends and family for advice. These were their tips, which I included in my discussion:
- Treat each other like best friends. Don't expect that they have to listen to you. Don't yell at them.
- If they have upset you or you feel a certain way about something, then communicate ASAP. Don't hold things inside - it'll boil up eventually. Listen to each other during arguments and understand the other person’s perspective.
- You can be angry, but don't take it out on each other. Give each other space when needed. Try not to go to bed angry with each other.
- Couples fight about the same 3-5 things during their whole relationship, so you’re choosing which 5 things you’re ok with fighting about forever. Figure out if that fits with your own boundaries and goals.
- Keep going out on dates with each other, even as you guys get more and more comfortable with one another.
- Always think of each other. Share everything and show that you care: If only one of you has an umbrella, share it; ask for each other's opinion.
- Teamwork, being open minded, and always being there to listen. Being able to compromise.
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Comment on I was an MIT educated neurosurgeon. Now I'm unemployed and alone in the mountains. How did I get here? in ~health.mental
chizcurl Link ParentI had the same big picture question. I wondered if he considered pivoting to primary care or starting his own practice, since he seemed to have an aha moment about preventative care. "Convenient...I had the same big picture question. I wondered if he considered pivoting to primary care or starting his own practice, since he seemed to have an aha moment about preventative care.
"Convenient external excuses for his shortcomings" seems kind of harsh though? He likely devoted 12-15 years of his life becoming a neurosurgeon and embraced the mission to ease human suffering. US doctors themselves aren't treated well by the system, especially during residency. As you pointed out, they often sacrifice their own health in order to help others. I also suspect that Dr. Goobie saw way more BS behind the scenes than he let on in the video. He hinted at hospital administration getting in the way of curing people, since that would be like working themselves out of a job. I'm guessing that all of these realizations culminated in his massive disillusionment of the system, whether he went for-profit or nonprofit.
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Comment on Help my wife decide about AJ & Smart in ~tech
chizcurl LinkI think I found a free 1 hour training from this program on their website. If this is the right one, then she can get a sense of the instructor's style and content here. For answers to the...I think I found a free 1 hour training from this program on their website. If this is the right one, then she can get a sense of the instructor's style and content here.
For answers to the in-depth questions, has your wife tried networking on LinkedIn? I searched for "AJ & Smart Master Workshopper" and found posts made by people who went through the program.
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Comment on Co-op game recommendations in ~games
chizcurl LinkYou could check out the "Activity" games in Discord. I played some in a group of 3 last week. We got hooked on Blazing 8s, which was basically Uno. But that might be less fun for a party of 2. Two...You could check out the "Activity" games in Discord. I played some in a group of 3 last week. We got hooked on Blazing 8s, which was basically Uno. But that might be less fun for a party of 2.
Two years ago, I had a blast playing Resident Evil 5 online co-op. My friend and I were in voice chat, which added to the bonding experience because the story is so dumb but enjoyable. Co-op made the "partner" aspect shine in areas such as resource management (you have shared inventory), combat, puzzles, and QTEs. You have to get past the horrible camera though.
All the best to you and your friend! 🙂
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Comment on Job search blues in ~talk
chizcurl (edited )LinkYou're definitely not alone. I've been searching for almost a year, and the competition is just that fierce. Companies are casting wide nets and then splitting hairs due to the flood of qualified...You're definitely not alone. I've been searching for almost a year, and the competition is just that fierce. Companies are casting wide nets and then splitting hairs due to the flood of qualified candidates. A recruiter once told me that the company went with another candidate, and the only explanation she could think of was that I lived too far from the office. 🤷♂️ Like you, I also haven't had success with employee referrals. It was shocking to be complimented on my expertise during the interview, only to be rejected the next day. The common thread was that I didn't have experience in the exact industry or specialized role. What happened to having transferrable skills and being vouched for by current employees??? Anyways, I wouldn't be too concerned about your LinkedIn unless you notice a pattern of rejections after companies view your profile.
I'm actually doing okay with getting interviews, I'm just weak at the interview part. 😅 If you're tailoring your application materials, which have been reviewed by managers and made ATS-friendly, then something else is happening that is excluding you from the beginning. Perhaps it is the sheer number of senior SWE's to compete with? I'm not a SWE, but I have seen sooo many job postings that require "2+" years of experience. While the minimum pay correlates with junior level, the maximum correlates with senior level, so the company might not actually be considering what it says on paper.
One thing that helps me get more responses is cold emailing the hiring manager after submitting the job app. I just make sure not to click on shady websites in the search results. Is this something you've tried?
I also track my job apps and application methods in a spreadsheet to figure out my interview conversion rates, where most opportunities are coming from, and what job titles I have a better chance at pursuing.
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Comment on Generic preventitive healthcare advice wanted in ~health
chizcurl (edited )LinkIn addition to the standard "physical" part of the annual physical, I'd ask your doctor if they recommend additional exams based on your current age, reproductive health (pap smear, testicular...In addition to the standard "physical" part of the annual physical, I'd ask your doctor if they recommend additional exams based on your current age, reproductive health (pap smear, testicular exam), or medical history.
I would also ask about standard blood work. You would have to fast appropriately if you intend to do blood tests on the same day though. Sometimes my lab orders include a urine sample. I don't know why, but I bring a big water bottle in case I need it. 😂
If STD screening is a concern, then I would ask for an STI panel that can be detected from blood work/urine. (That would be a lot of blood drawn if done all at once with the standard tests!)
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Comment on What video games have had you taking real-life notes? in ~games
chizcurl LinkMonster Hunter World takes the cake for me when it comes to note-taking for a game. I've got a 14-page google doc that I created when I was learning each new weapon! Plus the updates to weapon...Monster Hunter World takes the cake for me when it comes to note-taking for a game. I've got a 14-page google doc that I created when I was learning each new weapon! Plus the updates to weapon movesets after the Iceborne expansion.
Devil May Cry 5 forced me to break out the pen and paper too. Compared to the other DMC games, #5 seemed to have way more characters with different weapons and fighting styles that actually matter if you're trying to get high damage scores. 😵💫
I don't mind having to do additional studying or note-taking if I enjoy the combat. I'd recommend both games if you like the action RPG genre. However, MHW can be harder to get into since the gameplay is essentially a grindfest with a ton of resource management activities, and it requires an extensive amount of knowledge that lives outside of the game.
While waiting for my library hold on Witch Hat Atelier volume 4 (available in 3 weeks; volume 5 in 9 🥲), I looked for manga with a similar feel - beautiful art, fantasy, mystery, good storytelling.
I landed on A Kingdom of Quartz. It's set in a society of angels. I thought it was pretty good, but it's also an ongoing series. So now I have even more to wait for. 😆