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  1. Comment on How best to get a thorough inspection after avoiding doctors for a decade? in ~health

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    Yes, absolutely. I don't know if it's an issue, or just a normal amount of pain to be in. I also don't often remember when things started. I don't know how a body is supposed to work! I've never...

    Would you have told them anything at those visits?

    Yes, absolutely.

    Was something never an issue before but now it is? Was something always an issue?

    I don't know if it's an issue, or just a normal amount of pain to be in. I also don't often remember when things started.

    just ask about the things that don't seem like they're the way a body is supposed to work.

    I don't know how a body is supposed to work! I've never experienced living in one that I was confident was working correctly.

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  2. Comment on How best to get a thorough inspection after avoiding doctors for a decade? in ~health

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    I understand that they're doing that, but I'm worried about the assumption that "normal for me" means that there's no disease process happening. Just because it's been happening for a long time...

    I understand that they're doing that, but I'm worried about the assumption that "normal for me" means that there's no disease process happening. Just because it's been happening for a long time doesn't mean that it's healthy or unproblematic. Lots of very bad things can go on for a long time without killing or hospitalizing you!

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  3. Comment on How best to get a thorough inspection after avoiding doctors for a decade? in ~health

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    I'm in a similar situation, not this one exactly, but similar. How do I know if something is "out of the ordinary" when I never had a baseline of ordinary be established? For example, I think...

    I'm in a similar situation, not this one exactly, but similar. How do I know if something is "out of the ordinary" when I never had a baseline of ordinary be established? For example, I think everyone sometimes gets a bit dizzy when they stand up too fast, but how do I know if it's happening more than it should? I know it's not happening more often than is usual for me, but that might just mean that I've had low blood pressure for several years rather than meaning that I'm fine.

    I think what OP wants, and what I've wanted for years, is a way to establish a healthy baseline from which I can note deviations in the future. Are these random aches and pains normal? Is this level of fatigue normal for my 30s? Is this frequency of headache normal? I know that it's normal for me, but does that mean that it is normal, or that I've had a problem for years? My mom doesn't trust doctors, so I didn't go when I was a kid either, even when I had things happen that definitely weren't normal for me. Some of those things went away, and some I just got used to. It's not impossible that I'm dealing with some health issue that's been harming me for 20 years and I've just never realized that it shouldn't be happening.

    I did try to see a PCP a few years ago and go over some things that had been of particular concern, but she was spectacularly unhelpful. She just asked if I wanted prescriptions for drugs or referrals to other doctors, and refused to understand that I was trying to determine if I needed drugs or referrals, I didn't just want her to dispense them at my request.

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  4. Comment on TikTok makes app unavailable for US users ahead of ban in ~tech

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    Android. All the cards I've ever used for Google Play have US billing addresses. That might be it.

    Android. All the cards I've ever used for Google Play have US billing addresses. That might be it.

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  5. Comment on TikTok makes app unavailable for US users ahead of ban in ~tech

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    I'm not sure why, but it's also not working for me. I'm in Sweden on a phone that I bought in Sweden. I used to live in the US but I haven't been there for over a year.

    I'm not sure why, but it's also not working for me. I'm in Sweden on a phone that I bought in Sweden. I used to live in the US but I haven't been there for over a year.

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  6. Comment on Supreme Court seems ready to back Texas law limiting access to pornography (gifted link) in ~tech

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    How do I prove that I'm an adult without sharing other information that is private, like my name?

    How do I prove that I'm an adult without sharing other information that is private, like my name?

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  7. Comment on There is no safe word: How the best-selling fantasy author Neil Gaiman hid the darkest parts of himself for decades in ~books

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    You're right. It was out of place in this context and I shouldn't have participated in it. I'd mark my own comment as noise if that was an option. I'm leaving it up to preserve context but I'll...

    You're right. It was out of place in this context and I shouldn't have participated in it. I'd mark my own comment as noise if that was an option. I'm leaving it up to preserve context but I'll delete it if anyone would prefer that.

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  8. Comment on There is no safe word: How the best-selling fantasy author Neil Gaiman hid the darkest parts of himself for decades in ~books

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    Last I heard there will be a Good Omens "season 3" but it will be one 90 minute episode. Gaimain will not be involved so you can watch without guilt. I waited 18 years to see Azerophael and...

    Last I heard there will be a Good Omens "season 3" but it will be one 90 minute episode. Gaimain will not be involved so you can watch without guilt.

    I waited 18 years to see Azerophael and Crowley kiss and I need plot resolution, damn it.

    Edit: since this is my only comment in the thread I want to add that my access to content that I enjoy is so distant from these awful crimes in terms of importance that it hardly bears thinking on. I just don't have anything else to say about Gaiman besides being horrified by him.

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  9. Comment on There is no safe word: How the best-selling fantasy author Neil Gaiman hid the darkest parts of himself for decades in ~books

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    I haven't played the game yet, but I do know that he's a cop, so I am incredibly suspicious of him on that basis alone.

    I haven't played the game yet, but I do know that he's a cop, so I am incredibly suspicious of him on that basis alone.

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  10. Comment on How do I cope with/recover from divorce? in ~health.mental

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    I'm seconding this. I don't have any advice or relevant experience on this subject, but I'll happily listen to a vent or help gas you up if you're feeling low. @sparksbet I recognize you as a...

    I'm seconding this. I don't have any advice or relevant experience on this subject, but I'll happily listen to a vent or help gas you up if you're feeling low. @sparksbet I recognize you as a commenter who is typically very kind, and iirc we have some experiences in common wrt immigration and queerness. I think you've got more expertise than I do with both topics, but if you want a listening ear that can empathize on that level, I'm happy to be that person.

    I hope the trip back to the states gives you what you're needing right now.

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  11. Comment on More than a dozen US states have passed new laws that led to restrictions on pornography. Now, the Supreme Court will weigh in. in ~society

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    I feel like that's a pivot to a different kind of bad. Before it seemed like you were implying that it was inherently psychologically deleterious and now it seems more like you're saying it's bad...

    I feel like that's a pivot to a different kind of bad. Before it seemed like you were implying that it was inherently psychologically deleterious and now it seems more like you're saying it's bad in a "no ethical consumption under capitalism" kind of way. That's sort of a mott and bailey rhetorically.

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  12. Comment on More than a dozen US states have passed new laws that led to restrictions on pornography. Now, the Supreme Court will weigh in. in ~society

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    Why? I satisfy all sorts of other needs quickly and easily. If I'm cold I put on a sweater, I don't have to build a fire or shelter or knit the sweater myself. Is it unhealthy that I eat an apple...

    You should not be able to just sit on your phone for five minutes and have a quickie with yourself,

    Why? I satisfy all sorts of other needs quickly and easily. If I'm cold I put on a sweater, I don't have to build a fire or shelter or knit the sweater myself. Is it unhealthy that I eat an apple that I didn't grow or pick myself when I'm hungry? Is the problem with porn the video aspect - if I had a bunch of magazines ready to go at home, would that be fine? The idea that porn is inherently bad for adults because it's easy seems pretty arbitrary to me. It can be bad, but that's a different claim than it is bad.

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  13. Comment on More than a dozen US states have passed new laws that led to restrictions on pornography. Now, the Supreme Court will weigh in. in ~society

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    I don't think that's their point or anyone's point. I don't think anyone has a problem with making it harder for children to get access to porn, in a vacuum. The problem is what needs to be done...

    Their point, I’m pretty sure, is that porn should be super easy for children to access because kids are being denied knowledge about safe sex

    I don't think that's their point or anyone's point. I don't think anyone has a problem with making it harder for children to get access to porn, in a vacuum. The problem is what needs to be done to prevent children from accessing it also affects adults, and no way has yet been found that successfully bars children without unacceptably affecting adults. I have not seen anyone argue that porn should be super easy for children to access. The closest argument to it that I've seen is that it's probably not that big of a deal if kids see porn, which is very different from arguing that it's important for kids to see it.

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  14. Comment on What are your favourite TV shows of all time? in ~tv

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    I had the same experience. I understand that the sexism was realistic for the time, but that doesn't make it any less stressful to watch.

    I had the same experience. I understand that the sexism was realistic for the time, but that doesn't make it any less stressful to watch.

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  15. Comment on What are your favourite TV shows of all time? in ~tv

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    My favorite examples of this genre are books by M R Carey. I was introduced to it by the book The Girl With All The Gifts (which is also an excellent movie) and the prequel/sequel The Boy On The...

    My favorite examples of this genre are books by M R Carey. I was introduced to it by the book The Girl With All The Gifts (which is also an excellent movie) and the prequel/sequel The Boy On The Bridge. The depiction of autism in The Boy On The Bridge is deeply imperfect but lovingly done.

    The author then wildly surpasses himself with The Book of Koli, The Trials of Koli and The Fall of Koli, which make up the Rampart Trilogy. In my opinion these are the best examples of optimistic humanist post-apocalyptic fiction. They define the genre for me.

    I am also always looking for more recommendations!

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  16. Comment on A note on Worm - A review of John McCrae's Worm in ~books

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    I always had an understanding of what Amy did to Victoria as being an accident. She had feelings for her and had an impulse that she physically could not control, like a freudian slip. I'm sure...

    I always had an understanding of what Amy did to Victoria as being an accident. She had feelings for her and had an impulse that she physically could not control, like a freudian slip. I'm sure we've all had impulses that we're glad could not have physically manifested - burning a hole through the head of the person talking to you in the movie theater, for example. Amy just had the misfortune to be physically capable of manufesting that impulse, and not reactive enough consciously to stop herself from doing it. Through this lens she's no more of a villain than Of Mice and Men's Lenny. She's just not as in control as someone with that strength should be, but that's not her fault.

    Of the people I've talked to about Worm no one else sees it that way, and I'm wondering if I'm reading something into that isn't there, or if it is open to interpretation and my interpretation is just unpopular.

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  18. Comment on Revisions of ‘hateful conduct’: what users can now say on Meta platforms in ~tech

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    I don't think my family would even notice. Maybe if there were 7 of me.

    I don't think my family would even notice. Maybe if there were 7 of me.

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  19. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

  20. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    I can easily get all of these things! How long does a batch of this usually last?

    I can easily get all of these things! How long does a batch of this usually last?