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  1. Comment on Question for the European contingent regarding teenage/minor nudity in ~tv

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    This is so strange, because I don't think this cultural attitude stops US teens from having sex around those same ages.

    And not just casually, either. Most of the people I asked, they felt perfectly comfortable with the idea of 14 year olds having sex, but the thought of a 13 year old, that evoked that same squicky "oooh, that's-not-right" kind of feeling for them, that we Americans get about under-18 activity.

    This is so strange, because I don't think this cultural attitude stops US teens from having sex around those same ages.

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  2. Comment on Question for the European contingent regarding teenage/minor nudity in ~tv

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    It's not a specific scene, there are multiple, minutes-long dance music videos with the kids performing explicit dances. I think one would've done it to get the point across, if you want to make...

    It's not a specific scene, there are multiple, minutes-long dance music videos with the kids performing explicit dances. I think one would've done it to get the point across, if you want to make people really uncomfortable.

    In regards to the video, it was the best I could do because I'm really not going to go into hellhole of googling "Cuties - Dance compilation".

    Isn't that the whole point of the movie? To be uncomfortable and to be exposed to what some children are living through?

    I did address this in the comment you replied to.

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  3. Comment on Austrian village of 'Fucking' decides to change its name in ~life

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    as far as I know most people who go there take a picture of themselves with the sign of the town and leave, occasionally taking that sign with them. It's got stolen a lot and in such a small town,...

    as far as I know most people who go there take a picture of themselves with the sign of the town and leave, occasionally taking that sign with them. It's got stolen a lot and in such a small town, they probably just really don't care and want to be left alone.

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  4. Comment on Question for the European contingent regarding teenage/minor nudity in ~tv

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    I disagree. The dance scenes are quite directly shot in a way that sexualizes the cast of kids. This is a thin line, because I think we are supposed to be uncomfortable with it, but there are...

    contemporary story in a non-exploitative way

    I disagree. The dance scenes are quite directly shot in a way that sexualizes the cast of kids. This is a thin line, because I think we are supposed to be uncomfortable with it, but there are better ways to bring this point across than having a multitude of dance montages with dolled up children, the camera actually directly focusing on their asses.

    Look, I don't have an issue with the topic of the movie, I don't even have a real problem with the age of the characters, though I think they could've cast kids that are a little older, I just think the point could've been brought across without sexualizing the children.

    So, is it that we're uncomfortable with the actual issue, or just the fact that it's being shown on TV?

    In this case, I have a problem with the execution. Talking about it is fine and good even, I think it's an incredibly important thing to talk about for people who grow up in families that are so radically different than the society they live in, it makes for an interesting plot and it's a good topic to explore. I really dislike parallel societies of any shape, so I don't have a problem with it being talked about or media being created and shown on TV, just the way it was done here.

    5 votes

  5. Comment on What is/are your favorite quote/s? in ~talk

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    I've selected the Pratchett quotes fairly randomly, because frankly all his books are fucking fantastic.

    "It would be funny, if it weren't so sad."
    - GlaDOS, Portal 2

    “It was much better to imagine men in some smokey room somewhere, made mad and cynical by privilege and power, plotting over brandy. You had to cling to this sort of image, because if you didn't then you might have to face the fact that bad things happened because ordinary people, the kind who brushed the dog and told the children bed time stories, were capable of then going out and doing horrible things to other ordinary people. It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was Us, then what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.”
    - Terry Pratchett, Jingo

    “Why do you go away? So that you can come back. So that you can see the place you came from with new eyes and extra colors. And the people there see you differently, too. Coming back to where you started is not the same as never leaving.”
    - Terry Pratchett, A Hat Full of Sky

    Time is a drug. Too much of it kills you.”
    - Terry Pratchett, Small Gods

    “Evil is Evil. Lesser, greater, middling… Makes no difference. The degree is arbitary. The definition’s blurred. If I’m to choose between one evil and another… I’d rather not choose at all.”
    - Andrzej Sapkowski,, The Last Wish

    "“People," Geralt turned his head, "like to invent monsters and monstrosities. Then they seem less monstrous themselves. When they get blind-drunk, cheat, steal, beat their wives, starve an old woman, when they kill a trapped fox with an axe or riddle the last existing unicorn with arrows, they like to think that the Bane entering cottages at daybreak is more monstrous than they are. They feel better then. They find it easier to live.”
    - Andrzej Sapkowski, The Last Wish

    "Not all those who wander are lost."
    - J. R. R. Tolkien, The Riddle of Strider

    I've selected the Pratchett quotes fairly randomly, because frankly all his books are fucking fantastic.

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  6. Comment on Question for the European contingent regarding teenage/minor nudity in ~tv

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    Austrian here. First time I ever saw nice boobs was in a evening documetary show that ran dail with different topics, with the topic of that particular evening being saunas. I was like 10 I think...

    Austrian here.

    First time I ever saw nice boobs was in a evening documetary show that ran dail with different topics, with the topic of that particular evening being saunas. I was like 10 I think and I vividly remember wishing for a rerun. Fun times.Also those were some really nice boobs

    It's normal around here, and tbh I prefer it that way. Depictions of minors are obviously illegal, so anyone part of a serious production showing nudity is 18+ anyway, so why would I care?

    I really hate this specific cultural aspect of the US. Sexuality between people doesn't start at 18, it starts way earlier. Hiding behind frigid "morality" and puritan attitudes only damages it. Comprehensive sex ed would do you lads really good.

    Mignonnes in particular is problematic because it does actually show children and sexualizes them in a way I'm personally uncomfortable with, but tbh I haven't heard much discussion outside of reddit and some rage-bait youtube videos at all, it seems like the free advertising Netflix was hoping for didn't land that well around these parts.

    It's a strange position, because between adults especially in bigger cities, Americans seem to be way more comfy with casual sex and hookups. I haven't seen that work that well around here, Austrian Tinder is a fucking wasteland when you're looking for hookups and nothing permanent. I've had a few convos and most chicks on there seem to be interested in longer relationships only. It seems way more focused on going to a club and trying your look there. So it's just really strange to me that American media is so puritan about it, especially because that media mostly gets produced in the more liberal parts of the US.

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  7. Comment on Biblically accurate angels and the first sphere of the angelic hierarchy explained in ~humanities

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    What is it with the biblically accurate angels suddenly everywhere? I remember a meme going viral a few months back, does this all stem from that?

    What is it with the biblically accurate angels suddenly everywhere? I remember a meme going viral a few months back, does this all stem from that?

    5 votes

  8. Comment on Royal Republic - When I See You Dance With Another in ~music

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    A song about jealousy. Lyrics: COME ON [Verse 1:] When I see you dance with another When I see you dance with another I can't bring myself not to bother When I see you dance with another (Come...

    A song about jealousy.

    Lyrics:

    COME ON

[Verse 1:]
When I see you dance with another
When I see you dance with another
I can't bring myself not to bother
When I see you dance with another

(Come on!)

[Verse 2:]
When I see you talk to another
When I see you talk to another
I got no choice but to go undercover
When I see you dance with another, come on!

HO! HA! HO!

[Chorus:]
I can't get you off of my mind
I can't get you off of my mind
Gotta know your love is unkind
I can't get you off of my,my,my mind

Yeah!
Come on!

[Verse 3:]
When I see you dance with another
When you put your hands on another
I can't bring myself not to bother
When I see you dance with another, come on!

[Verse 4:]
When I see you walk with another
When I see you talk to another
I got no choice but to go undercover
WHEN I SEE YOU DANCE WITH ANOTHER
HO! HA! Yeah

WOW!

[Chorus:]
I can't get you off of my mind
I can't get you off of my mind
Gotta know your love is unkind
I can't get you off of my,my,my mind

[Bridge:]
With every second, my heart gets colder
With every minute, you're getting bolder
If you wanna do it, do it to my face
If you wanna do it, do it to my face (oh come on)
If you wanna do it, do it to my face
If you wanna do it, do it to my face (oh come on)

[Chorus:]
I can't get you off of my mind
I can't get you off of my mind
Gotta know your love is unkind
I can't get you off of my (MY) mind
I can't get you (I can't get you)
I can't get you
Say it: "I can't get you"
I can't get you
And if i can't get ya, no one can
I can't get you (off of my mind)
I can't get you (off of my mind)
I can't get you (off of my mind)
I can't get you (yeah, yeah)
I can't get you off of my mind
I can't get you off of my mind
I can't get you off of my mind
I can't get you off of my,my,my mind
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  10. Comment on Rising Appalachia - I Shall Be Released (On the Farm Sessions @ Pickathon) in ~music

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    People sitting around a campfire, having pleasant conversations, maybe cuddled up together under blankets. All around you a quiet forest that seems to be listening to the music as well, and if you...

    People sitting around a campfire, having pleasant conversations, maybe cuddled up together under blankets. All around you a quiet forest that seems to be listening to the music as well, and if you look up you'll have a big moon and a million stars shining down on you. It's even better if you have someone to cuddle up to in a tent afterwards.

    Double-fuck this year, eh?

    Yeah mate, how could everything go so wrong?

    2 votes

  11. Comment on Rising Appalachia - I Shall Be Released (On the Farm Sessions @ Pickathon) in ~music

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    This cover is great. I think the song in general is a testament to how powerful simple music can be, I love playing it on the guitar and it's a campfire favourite. Back when there were campfires....

    This cover is great. I think the song in general is a testament to how powerful simple music can be, I love playing it on the guitar and it's a campfire favourite.

    Back when there were campfires.

    Man fuck this year.

    2 votes

  12. Comment on „Hating Men is a freeing form of hostility” in ~life

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    No worries, it happens.

    No worries, it happens.

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  13. Comment on „Hating Men is a freeing form of hostility” in ~life

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    You're generalizing here. But the issue of banning religious symbols in public institutions is incredibly complicated, because I want to respect the people that exercise their religion for...

    By forcing women to expose themselves in a way that's deeply uncomfortable?

    You're generalizing here.

    But the issue of banning religious symbols in public institutions is incredibly complicated, because I want to respect the people that exercise their religion for themselves and don't hurt anyone else while at the same time breaking apart structures where women are forced into covering themselves through social pressure or outright threats. This is also a thing.

    I haven't made up my mind yet on if I support such a ban or not, because it feels very much to me like treating symptoms and not causes.

    1 vote

  14. Comment on „Hating Men is a freeing form of hostility” in ~life

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    I was referring to Kant's categorical imperative. But I don't think her arguments hold up under that particular angle because I don't think that disassociating yourself from an entire sex is a...

    I was referring to Kant's categorical imperative. But I don't think her arguments hold up under that particular angle because I don't think that disassociating yourself from an entire sex is a good idea for the rest of society.

  15. Comment on „Hating Men is a freeing form of hostility” in ~life

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    I get where you're coming from and I agree, partially. Statements like Defund the police or Black lives matter however are ambivalent and open room for interpretation. Some people choose to...

    I get where you're coming from and I agree, partially. Statements like Defund the police or Black lives matter however are ambivalent and open room for interpretation. Some people choose to interpret either maliciously or out of a place of ignorance. There's little room for interpretation in the statement I hate men or Men are trash. Furthermore, she doesn't get to say things like that and then backtrack on basically everything including the hate because she was simply starting a conversation. I heavily dislike that justification, but it's rampant in liberal circles.

    I get where she's coming from too, but she doesn't get to dictate me being offended by the sentence, but I will, cause I'm a man.

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  16. Comment on „Hating Men is a freeing form of hostility” in ~life

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    yes but you see since men are a social construct, it's okay now! /s

    yes but you see since men are a social construct, it's okay now! /s

  17. Comment on „Hating Men is a freeing form of hostility” in ~life

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    Makes sense to me. You look like one group which you feel you don't belong to and wish to leave, but the author wants you to belong into that group. No wonder it makes you uncomfortable. Speaking...

    Makes sense to me. You look like one group which you feel you don't belong to and wish to leave, but the author wants you to belong into that group. No wonder it makes you uncomfortable.

    Speaking of which, I wonder what Harmange's opinion on trans people is. The interview sounds a little TERFy to me.

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  18. Comment on „Hating Men is a freeing form of hostility” in ~life

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    I mean does this surprise you? It's almost using inflammatory rhetoric, you can't just expect the insulted side to take it calmly because you think they fucking deserve it. It describes to me a...

    The interviewer is clearly a bit more focused on la détestation than le patriarcat in this text, as are many of the comments on this thread. I suppose this is to be expected on a site so dominated by men (85%+, as I recall), even one as purportedly leftist as Tildes.

    I mean does this surprise you? It's almost using inflammatory rhetoric, you can't just expect the insulted side to take it calmly because you think they fucking deserve it. It describes to me a person that has spent her short life mostly in academia and surrounded by people from academia, which is kind of strange, because academia is a very limited part of society (as it should be) and it's not going to take her feminist fight very far.

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  19. Comment on „Hating Men is a freeing form of hostility” in ~life

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    Agreed. You don't get to exclude individuals in your bigoted rhetoric just because you say so. The recipient of your message gets to decide this.

    If I were to rail indiscriminately against "cishets" for the oppressions that I faced as a gay man in a deeply homophobic culture, I would be hurting many of the people who were my social safety net after I came out and to whom I literally owe my life. I think of the "cishet" parents of a trans student I had a few years ago who were such powerful supporters for and allies of their child and other LGBT youth at our school that it makes me cry.

    Agreed. You don't get to exclude individuals in your bigoted rhetoric just because you say so. The recipient of your message gets to decide this.

    12 votes

  20. Comment on „Hating Men is a freeing form of hostility” in ~life

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    I'm going to keep my comments brief because I just spent an hour translating this into English. When talking about emotions everyone will define them differently for themselves, but I think there...
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    I'm going to keep my comments brief because I just spent an hour translating this into English.

    When talking about emotions everyone will define them differently for themselves, but I think there are a few core fundamental emotions that people have in common; And one of them is hate. Commonly defined as the opposite of love, I believe that hate needs a strong ground to fester. Emotional damage, baggage, drama trauma, etc. I also think that hate burns strongly, just like love. This is why bigotry has to focus on key negative aspects that a certain group then has to share, because it reduces diversity down, grinds away all the pointy edges that make a person unique till only a formless blob remains that is no different to anyone else.

    Harmange fails to describe her supposed hate as such. Even more, she says that she doesn't hate men, but "men", because she defines them a social construct. She's married to a man. It seems like incredible mental gymnastics to justify her being edgy by saying "I hate men" and "men are trash" and clarify it as a feminist fight but it's okay guys and gals, it's okay she doesn't mean everyone! Except yes, except a few select individuals, so... Not everyone?

    Even better, when the interviewer pushes her on this idea of women hating men being cool, she says that she doesn't want to live in a society where all women hate men. So, uh, does she accept herself as a bad person then? Ever heard of Kant? Ay, what the actual fuck?

    I need to stop writing, so have this picture which encompasses my reaction perfectly, because I can't be bothered to write another thousand words.

    27 votes