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Comment on Graduating college, starting work, and being lonely in ~talk
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Comment on Graduating college, starting work, and being lonely in ~talk
Gaywallet LinkAs a queer who lives in SF, the community you're seeking is mostly up in SF and Oakland. Figuring out how to get to the city on the weekend and finding out what communities within the weirdos and...In college, I made a lot of really close friends who were mostly "weirdos", without any better way to put it - lots of queer leftist folks, people into strange art and music, people I could really be myself around.
As a queer who lives in SF, the community you're seeking is mostly up in SF and Oakland. Figuring out how to get to the city on the weekend and finding out what communities within the weirdos and queerdos galaxy appeal to you will really help with living on the peninsula and south bay. Out of curiosity, are you queer yourself or do you just feel more at ease around them? If you happen to be queer yourself, a very common way to find community out here is to just get on all the dating apps and go wild. We're heavily poly in the bay, and there's usually at least one person in every polycule who enjoys finding new cool folks and connecting them with others.
Can you speak more about your hobbies or things you like to do in the presence of other folks who you vibe with? Like are you looking to go out and drink socially? Karaoke? Live music? Raves? Kink events? Arts and crafts? Something else?
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Comment on Follow up on the username thread: What Tildes users do you recognize when browsing and, without being rude or inflammatory, what is your impression of them? in ~tildes
Gaywallet Link ParentYayyyy I love you fellow queers I'm glad I can help this place be a little warmer and more welcoming 🥰💜Yayyyy I love you fellow queers I'm glad I can help this place be a little warmer and more welcoming 🥰💜
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Comment on Follow up on the username thread: What Tildes users do you recognize when browsing and, without being rude or inflammatory, what is your impression of them? in ~tildes
Gaywallet Link ParentHa! I'm not that influential over here. Beehaw on the other hand, I'll take credit for being influential in it's creation 😄Ha! I'm not that influential over here. Beehaw on the other hand, I'll take credit for being influential in it's creation 😄
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Comment on Follow up on the username thread: What Tildes users do you recognize when browsing and, without being rude or inflammatory, what is your impression of them? in ~tildes
Gaywallet Link ParentI do! It's a unique enough username that it's rarely taken on platforms when I migrate to them.I do! It's a unique enough username that it's rarely taken on platforms when I migrate to them.
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Comment on Follow up on the username thread: What Tildes users do you recognize when browsing and, without being rude or inflammatory, what is your impression of them? in ~tildes
Gaywallet Link ParentWas surprised people still recognize me around here 💜, I don't post nearly as often as I used to. Thanks for the kind words, friend.Was surprised people still recognize me around here 💜, I don't post nearly as often as I used to. Thanks for the kind words, friend.
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Lost in the future
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Comment on I've added ~society for topics related to politics, law, policies, and similar societal-level subjects in ~tildes.official
Gaywallet LinkWhat is the difference between this and humanities? Humanities is fundamentally the study of human society. Is the split supposed to be hard vs soft science on society? Or is this just a way to...What is the difference between this and humanities? Humanities is fundamentally the study of human society. Is the split supposed to be hard vs soft science on society? Or is this just a way to organize politics by another name?
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Comment on LGBTQ folks check-in thread - how're you all doing? in ~lgbt
Gaywallet LinkI live in SF and have a good job, so I'm pretty isolated from what the rest of the country does. I'm arguably living in the most progressive city in the world (it's the only one with a transgender...I live in SF and have a good job, so I'm pretty isolated from what the rest of the country does. I'm arguably living in the most progressive city in the world (it's the only one with a transgender district) for trans folks and I have a strong trans community. I'm pretty involved in community and I have to say the energy post-election towards getting off our collective butts and actualizing the plans we've had for things that didn't seem so pressing at the time has been really great to watch! I'm looking to get more involved with a local anarchist collective (which happens to be heavily trans) on a few decentralization projects they are thinking about and hoping to get plugged into more local community focused projects where impact can be maximized.
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Comment on How California has been ‘Donald Trump-proofing’ itself against federal reprisal in ~society
Gaywallet Link ParentOh absolutely. To be clear, I'm privileged enough and more than happy to pay to do it. But also, we have a duty to fight back and the means to do so. We should not be afraid to wield the power...Oh absolutely. To be clear, I'm privileged enough and more than happy to pay to do it. But also, we have a duty to fight back and the means to do so. We should not be afraid to wield the power that we have.
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Comment on How California has been ‘Donald Trump-proofing’ itself against federal reprisal in ~society
Gaywallet Link ParentI'm aware that we do and that we are, but I'd rather the plan look a lot more like utilizing our economic pressure than what I read in this article. Not that prepping briefs and other stuff...I'm aware that we do and that we are, but I'd rather the plan look a lot more like utilizing our economic pressure than what I read in this article. Not that prepping briefs and other stuff shouldn't happen- it absolutely should. Just that I'd like to hear how we're going to be on the offensive in ways which won't just end up costing the average person in California more money. I'm tired of giving so much to the federal government and having to deal with assholes like this.
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Comment on US election results (other than presidential) thread in ~society
Gaywallet Link ParentIn SF, at least, most of the theft is food products and they are sold on street corners.But I don't know if the reselling is on the street, online, or through shady bodegas. Maybe all of the above? I've heard anecdotes.
In SF, at least, most of the theft is food products and they are sold on street corners.
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Comment on US election results (other than presidential) thread in ~society
Gaywallet Link ParentThat's not a part of the measure, though, and it simply will not happen. The old law protected people from small amounts of personal drugs, this repeal could have not touched the drug portion of...- Exemplary
I think the drug-related measures need to be followed up with increased funding for housing and and healing addicts.
That's not a part of the measure, though, and it simply will not happen. The old law protected people from small amounts of personal drugs, this repeal could have not touched the drug portion of this law, but every time they've tried to repeal it (by my count it's been a measure every election year since it was passed) they've always tried to get rid of the drug portion as well. It's been a clear republican bill every time.
As for shop-lifting, IMO if you shop-lift 3 times you've been given more than enough warning that you need to stop. It's something you should be afraid to do even once and we're going to give people little more than a ticket 3 times in a row.
Of note, there's a billion ways this could have been solved by amending the existing law to simply have a limit of how many times. In fact, the very law itself does have limits of a total of $950 in a 12 month period specifically if you steal from your employer. It would be so easy to simply copy that language down from section b3 to e. But they didn't, every single time they've tried to repeal the entire thing because a war on drugs and locking people up is what they want to do.
In fact, the wording of the law in section e uses the words "distinct but related acts", which could be easily settled by the supreme court in California to mean shoplifting multiple times are distinct but related (and even apply some reasonable time-frame). This could even be enforced through the executive branch by having the governor or other folks instruct DAs to start prosecuting this as a violation of the law and grand theft and appeal it up to get a formal ruling.
But perhaps more importantly, even for the real extreme repeat offenders, the maximum amount of times you can actually do this is limited in a year. The maximum penalty for petty theft in California is a fine up to $1000 (which obviously they aren't going to be able to pay, because they are stealing to survive) and up to 6 months in jail. If you've ever talked to anyone who deals with sentencing these people, or talked to people who have multiple misdemeanors for this, you'll find that many of them will get locked up for a month then let out. That means they're violating the law at most 12 times a year once they've done it enough, which results in at most, $11.3k in theft. Ignoring the fact that this theft can be written off in taxes (as a loss) and is actually beneficial for many large corporations for balancing profits at other locations, the costs of a county jail are significantly less than a prison. While it's hard to find modern figures, historical studies have generally shown that it costs around 50% less to put someone in jail versus prison in California. As of 2024, the average cost per inmate in prison is $132,860. Assuming half the cost in jail and an immediate violation of the law and being put back in jail, by allowing these to be felonies we have just increased the total cost per theft by approximately $66.5k for every person we throw in prison (cost of jail vs. prison for 1 year for 1 person). Even if you subtract the cost of their theft ($11.3k) we've now made it $55k/yr more expensive per person we give a felony to. Given that expense and the current rates of ~310 prisoners per 100k population in California, assuming we only increase prison population by a modest 5%, this will likely increase the cost to California by approximately $400m/yr.
In addition to that, by branding these individuals with a felony, we will be significantly reducing the ability to employ these individuals in the future, reducing their ability to contribute to society. Modern figures on lifetime earnings show that convicted felons who go to prison earn approximately 52% less over their life then those who have no convictions. Folks with misdemeanors earn 16% less so by moving this from a misdemeanor to a felony we will also reduce their earnings by 36%. In California in 2023, the median annual salary was ~$85k. Using the same approximations above we've also now reduced gross income by approximately $190m/yr which results in approximately $28.5m in tax revenue, bringing our yearly cost up to ~$428.5m in the first year, and compounding by an additional ~28.5m reduction each year after that assuming a 5% YOY increase in prisoners (ignoring inflation, rising medical costs, and other prison employment overhead).
Unfortunately I don't have good figures or an idea of what the additional administrative cost will now be to be giving these people felonies which means longer court cases, more legal appeals, the need to now appeal prison sentences and attempt to get early release, and other costs.
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Comment on How California has been ‘Donald Trump-proofing’ itself against federal reprisal in ~society
Gaywallet LinkTax us and take more of our money to replace the lack of federal funding? Wow I'm so happy with you Gavin, you'll really be improving things here. Surely by repeatedly annoying the federal...Tax us and take more of our money to replace the lack of federal funding? Wow I'm so happy with you Gavin, you'll really be improving things here. Surely by repeatedly annoying the federal government with court cases which will be appealed to the supreme court which is run by Republicans will make things better.
How about you start taxing the rich in this state, start taxing all companies that do business in California, or otherwise apply the huge economic pressures we have in ways which the federal government can have no say? The whole reason why California consumer protection laws end up affecting the entire US and sometimes the world is that we have such a huge economy. Use that to our advantage.
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This was always going to be a generational fight for transgender people
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Comment on American election mental health thread in ~health.mental
Gaywallet Link ParentAs an FYI- Cali is huge and there's a lot of land where housing is dirt cheap. It's pretty much all out in the middle of nowhere, which may or may not be your thing. The more expensive places to...I likely wouldn't ever be able to in Cali
As an FYI- Cali is huge and there's a lot of land where housing is dirt cheap. It's pretty much all out in the middle of nowhere, which may or may not be your thing.
The more expensive places to live also come with strong community and better pay (especially if you can learn how to do tech, of which I know countless trans girls who've done so as a means to survive out here).
Trans stuff, maybe slightly TMI: I was still undecided on bottom surgery, but now I feel forced to get an orchiectomy in case my meds are taken away, even though it might later tank my chances of success on vaginoplasty. I shouldn't have to be making these decisions based on who's controlling the government, I just want to live my life, dammit.
When they just do an orchi they basically never take the scrotal skin, which is the important part (but only if you don't have enough penile skin, if you're aiming for PIV). Split and full thickness grafts can easily be taken from the inner thighs and stomach. There's also the possibility of utilizing peritoneal tissue if there isn't enough length. You do lose the tunica vaginalis that surrounds the testes, however, which can also be used to line the vagina (similar to peritoneal tissue) but that's much rarer/newer and we don't have good long term outcomes. Long story short, you're perfectly fine to have an orchi even if you want a vaginoplasty later.
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Comment on American election mental health thread in ~health.mental
Gaywallet Link ParentCalifornia and New York also have enshrined LGBT rights. I can't speak for other states but California, but we have explicitly enshrined transgender rights, which include healthcare (medi-cal, the...I'm in probably the safest state and have the most chance. We've enshrined LGBT rights here.
California and New York also have enshrined LGBT rights. I can't speak for other states but California, but we have explicitly enshrined transgender rights, which include healthcare (medi-cal, the state free health insurance for those with very low income explicitly covers top surgery, bottom surgery, facial surgery, voice therapy, hair removal, mental health therapy, full drug cost coverage for hormones, etc.), and California also has a history of enacting state laws which affect the entire country as well as the entire world - a quirk we can get away with because of how huge our economy is. I strongly believe that California is perhaps the best place in the world for a transgender person to currently exist (especially if they are in/near San Francisco which is the only city with a transgender district in the world). If you're considering moving, I would highly recommend this state.
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Inside the plan to use AI to purge US voter rolls
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Comment on The Vatican’s anime mascot is now an AI porn sensation in ~tech
Gaywallet Link ParentLet's be real, there'd be plenty of gay male porn if it was a male mascot too. There's probably already gender swapped versions of porn of this avatar as well. It's unfathomable to me for there...Let's be real, there'd be plenty of gay male porn if it was a male mascot too. There's probably already gender swapped versions of porn of this avatar as well. It's unfathomable to me for there not to be endless porn of basically any vaguely mainstream character.
With that being said, I do think female characters get more porn drawn of them than male ones.
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This spider scientist wants us to appreciate the world's eight-legged wonders
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Plenty of folks on dating apps are looking for queer friends, just because you don't want to date or hookup doesn't mean they can't be useful to you. I'd highly recommend hopping on Lex as well and asking about events in your wheelhouse or just browsing to get a sense of community in the area.
Lots of art and music up in the city. I know some other queer folks into hyperpop and at least one girl who loves machine girl. I'm more into EDM than hyperpop, but keep an eye on DNA lounge events, they're the kind of place that'll have hyperpop shows.