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  1. Comment on A Nazi tattoo exposes US Democrats’ greatest weakness in ~society

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    The general population was there until the propaganda hate machine targeted trans people in general and there was no counter-messaging. I'd love to see where you think the democrats 'lashed their...
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    the general population is just not there yet

    The general population was there until the propaganda hate machine targeted trans people in general and there was no counter-messaging.

    lashing the entire democratic strategy to that horse just doesn't make sense

    I'd love to see where you think the democrats 'lashed their entire strategy to that horse'. With the exception of a few progressive dems, they've been throwing trans people under the bus since the beginning. This whole year has them compromising on trans strategy (the consultants straight up said to fold on these issues). They are not, and have essentially never made this a major part of their strategy. What little rights trans people have won in the past two decades have been primarily behind the scenes and exceedingly small victories.

    It's a catchy soundbite, and it works.

    So are the dozen other soundbites that they have. Why are you so focused on this one and not any of the other dozen issues? Have you ever thought a bit more deeply about what these soundbites represent and how they are working? Because they are absolutely distilling every issue down to a catchy soundbite, and that's precisely why the right is winning. They make everything an individual issue which is what their voters care for and they simplify it down to an emotional appeal. Showing how it affects the individual, simplifying something complex, and appealing to the voters emotions are the three key components that the democrats need to focus on.

    As a general thought, I'm sick and tired of this false narrative being pushed as a reason to abandon trans people. I know you're desperate for a win, but the answer is not abject cruelty to a group in the hopes that kicking them off the ladder will somehow win over voters. Guess what happens when one boogeyman is gone? They will simply shift to another one, like immigration (remember how that used to be the issue people talked about as losing the centrist voters to the right?). Stop acting like your warped sense of reality is somehow either the truth or a path forward. Not only is this both incorrect and insane, but it's exactly the kind of infighting that the people in power want. If you want to be helpful focus on the positive messages you think we're doing a bad job on. You spend all of one sentence on fiscal responsibility and the latter half of a single paragraph talking about literally anything but trans people. Be better

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  2. Comment on Queer temperature check: how is everyone doing right now? in ~lgbt

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    There's always folks in cities that are the absolute worst match for their personality and ideology and San Francisco is no exception to this. It's much rarer per capita than other places, but...

    There's always folks in cities that are the absolute worst match for their personality and ideology and San Francisco is no exception to this. It's much rarer per capita than other places, but I've gotten my fair share of slurs thrown at me. Simultaneously it's also the place where I've gotten the most compliments on my outfit on a daily basis.

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  3. Comment on ‘I realised I’d been ChatGPT-ed into bed’: how ‘Chatfishing’ made finding love on dating apps even weirder in ~tech

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    Why would you come here to repeatedly say this? This exchange is aggressive, offensive, and passes a judgement on several groups of individuals. I would encourage you to think more deeply about...
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    I think in general people that tend to be more “sexed up” (poly, multiple partners in short periods, rough and less mainstream sex) trend less attractive.

    Why would you come here to repeatedly say this? This exchange is aggressive, offensive, and passes a judgement on several groups of individuals. I would encourage you to think more deeply about why you thought it was okay to share this statement publicly and why you thought it was okay to judge entire groups of people based on their bedroom activities or how "attractive" they are. Even assuming you were correct (there's plenty of literature which proves attractive people have more sex, so it's quite questionable), why would you need to disparage a group of people publicly, repeatedly? Have you considered that you might be projecting a need for validation on these individuals and have crafted a reality to fit a situation you genuinely don't understand? Also, have you considered what "attractive" even is - that is to say have you considered that some of the people you consider unattractive would also consider you unattractive?

    I ask all of these questions because you jumped into a conversation with a disparaging take on large swaths of people and repeatedly doubled down when anyone engaged in conversation. This reads like bait and less of a conversation than you needing to validate your own feelings on something at the expense of others.

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  4. Comment on ‘I realised I’d been ChatGPT-ed into bed’: how ‘Chatfishing’ made finding love on dating apps even weirder in ~tech

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    I mean, this alone describes most of the problems with society. Those who do not care about others are a plague on civilization. Unfortunately, they are often in positions of power.

    some people are profoundly selfish and amoral

    I mean, this alone describes most of the problems with society. Those who do not care about others are a plague on civilization. Unfortunately, they are often in positions of power.

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  5. Comment on What's a product or service that you use but don't want to pay for and why? in ~life

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    They also charge more the older you are and based on your gender - men pay more than women

    They also charge more the older you are and based on your gender - men pay more than women

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  6. Comment on It's impossible to evaluate your sleep with only one number in ~health

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    I don't know about the specific "body battery" mentioned in these comments, but I do want to address one comment you made There's a lot of evidence out there that HRV (heart rate variability) is a...

    I don't know about the specific "body battery" mentioned in these comments, but I do want to address one comment you made

    I don't think there's any scientific evidence that there are circumstances where your watch knows better than you do

    There's a lot of evidence out there that HRV (heart rate variability) is a high quality indicator on immediate short term health. We've been using it in competitive sports training for quite some time to tailor when to push and when to rest, but it can surprisingly accurately predict when someone is under stress for other reasons, such as when one is beginning to get sick. HRV often isn't a thing people are actively aware of and it's absolutely something that devices like halter straps and watches and smart rings can monitor and measure. It's a general measurement of bodily stress, however, and isn't a silver bullet of any sort - but if you're feeling well otherwise and went out the night before, it could let you know to rest to avoid getting sick. Or if you pushed yourself on a workout the day before, or have an impending stressful deadline, it can also be a signal to take it easy so you don't invite illness with a weakened immune system.

    HRV is just about the only thing I pay attention to on my sleep tracking device (and with previous activity tracking devices) and I've anecdotally found it quite useful to stave off illness.

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  7. Comment on Medicine’s AI knowledge war heats up in ~health

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    There's extensive use of AI in healthcare and has been for ages. Radiology has been leading the field for quite some time, as images are a great use-case for pattern recognition. Of note, they've...
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    I had no idea that some doctors were using AI tools already and they're billion dollar businesses. How often do they use these tools?

    There's extensive use of AI in healthcare and has been for ages. Radiology has been leading the field for quite some time, as images are a great use-case for pattern recognition. Of note, they've been using AI since before LLMs existed - these are not LLM prompted models like the vast majority of mainstream "AI" is. Here's a paper from a few years ago that touches on a high level some of the AI use-cases in healthcare, which I think is an important starting point. Of note, it's highly important in drug discovery and understanding genomics as well (protein folding a huge example from this space).

    I think it's important to come from this viewpoint when we talk about AI in healthcare, because approximately 99% of the time, we're not talking about LLMs. We're talking about pattern recognition tools, trained on the data they are attempting to draw a pattern from. The outputs are numbers, not text, and they are not prone to quite the same issues that LLMs are, and we're not confusing them with "thinking".

    With that being said, healthcare is extremely complicated, deals with every kind of data imaginable, and also involves a good amount of human interfacing and thus there are LLM applications as well. For example, in our system, we have an LLM specifically for drafting responses to patients in the digital health record app that we have. It proposes a templated response in certain circumstances. In our testing and stand-up of this tool, it was incredibly important to center the physician in the interaction - it was designed to save them work and to be entirely controllable by them. Ultimately we found it saved very little time (a statistically insignificant amount of time and an amount of rather low magnitude) but was positively rated by the clinicians because it reduced the cognitive burden of writing a response.

    Another example that we're trying to pilot is again a human-centered design- we're looking into whether prompted LLMs can help summarize SAFE events (narrative heavy reports that surmise issues like non-compliance with standard processes) and to help standardize the documentation. Ultimately a human always sees the full original report, but they are also presented with a pre-completed form where they can confirm the items are correct or correct that which is incorrect or hallucinated.

    In the non-LLM field of things, there's a ton of patient prediction and models for things like estimating patient clinical complexity, identifying and fast-tracking individuals based on dermatology pictures for rapid referral if cancer is suspected, identifying and readying patients who are more likely to be discharged today, and so on. These kinds of models often predate LLMs, but are certainly still regularly under development because they help to identify opportunity - be it through improved clinical care, improved access, reduced cost, or some other metric.

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  8. Comment on Elon Musk plans to take on Wikipedia with 'Grokipedia' in ~tech

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    Cool, AI powered pseudo-scientific racism backed by unlimited money what could go wrong?

    Cool, AI powered pseudo-scientific racism backed by unlimited money

    what could go wrong?

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  10. Comment on Charlie Kirk, Ezra Klein, and the cost of civility-theater liberalism in ~society

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    It's a nice sentiment and I agree with the author that we have a civic duty to treat discussion fairly, but it strikes me as drastically naive of the powers at play if they are calling on...
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    It's a nice sentiment and I agree with the author that we have a civic duty to treat discussion fairly, but it strikes me as drastically naive of the powers at play if they are calling on newsrooms, owned by the very billionaires profiting and benefiting from the current system; these very folks designed the semblance of a debate, or at least bought into it (quite literally if all they care about is the money it makes) and are not going to change their behavior - they simply have no incentive to.

    The right has platforms for misinformation and hate and the erosion of critical thinking and democracy because the right owns these platforms. When they didn't have these platforms, they'd fall back on American ideas like "free speech" to demand platforms in places they should not have been granted platforms. The very idea of civility requires civic behavior, yet I have scarcely seen individuals measure someone's behavior and use it as a means to remove actors which aim to destroy or dismantle civic institutions. Just as we must learn to be intolerant of those who are intolerant, if we wish to have a civil society we need to learn to be intolerant of malicious actors both on the stage and on a more personal level.

    This brings up the question of how does one manage to affect or dismantle such a hateful institution and reach these malicious actors? I believe we've tried, unsuccessfully, to give them a space and a voice. We tried being civil with them and they took every chance to erode that they could. We have a civic duty to deprive them of a voice, to impose harsher penalties in response to their hate, to remove them from the very society they wish to erode. Personally for me, that means simple exclusion - I refuse to give them my presence, my time, my voice or my thoughts. I will openly and unapologetically acknowledge the harm that has been caused and chastise those who align themselves with such hate and violence. When the people I love are being threatened with violence on the national stage (to say nothing of their day to day) the time is long past that we can talk about "ideological differences in policy". Everyone on the right gets to bear the responsibility of the actions of their leaders and anything short of open condemnation and actively doing what they can to remove this leadership is simply not enough.

    If you are to ask for my opinion on the matter, I don't personally think that even that is enough. Nothing, short of luck, is poised to stop the current direction of the administration. The fascists have shown that they do not care for speech itself, listening to no one but themselves and bullying their way into power. They dismantle the institutions we created, because they do not care for and simply ignore the rules. We do not have strong mechanisms to remove those who ignore the rules, because we assumed that people would center the health of a society, of civility, over personal goals. But this is incorrect, their cares are centered on what directly affects them and their loved ones. They do not care of society at large because they wish to dismantle it and replace it. They seek to dismantle it with violence, but they are desperately scared of violence in return, only engaging in fights where the magnitude of their power is much greater. Thus, we know precisely what levers are available to us and what actions could stop their progress, yet we hold ourselves to standards the enemy refuses to acknowledge. We must extend the paradox of intolerance to be compatible with actions which we are currently uncomfortable with or we cannot effectively oppose their advance.

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  11. Comment on JK Rowling dismisses Emma Watson as 'ignorant' over trans rights row in ~lgbt

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    As an aside - these kinds of actions, the continued harassment of trans people, are why these interactions are news worthy and why she's been mentioned dozens of times in the last few years. I...

    As an aside - these kinds of actions, the continued harassment of trans people, are why these interactions are news worthy and why she's been mentioned dozens of times in the last few years. I wish she would disappear from the news because I'm god awful tired of her, but until she stops spreading hate speech and stops her violent campaign against the individuals that she hates, her presence and continued blight on this world needs to be reported on. All of this has never been enough for people to stop supporting her work and giving her money, which she is redirecting to hurt others. People deserve to know they are indirectly funding her personal war on innocent people.

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  14. Comment on The Buff Scammer, isolation, and the male loneliness epidemic in ~life.men

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    Since I work so heavily with statistics (in specific in healthcare) this didn't even occur to me - its very rare that statistics are so directly explainable, but rather a symptom for which a root...

    Responding with statistics about sexual assault perpetrators here ultimately carries the heavy implication that we shouldn't acknowledge that this is the result of society and how it trains men to be, but rather that it is something inherent to men that they cannot escape and should not try to.

    Since I work so heavily with statistics (in specific in healthcare) this didn't even occur to me - its very rare that statistics are so directly explainable, but rather a symptom for which a root cause analysis is necessary. But this completely explains why some folks would be so much on the defensive! Thank you for this insight, it will certainly help me frame things in the future to avoid more conflict and have more productive conversations.

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  15. Comment on The Buff Scammer, isolation, and the male loneliness epidemic in ~life.men

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    That's not what I said at all and I don't feel like you've been treating what I've been saying in good faith. A hugely important point! and something we should talk a lot about, but we're talking...

    treating all men as potential threats

    That's not what I said at all and I don't feel like you've been treating what I've been saying in good faith.

    why don't you also mention systemic sexism?

    A hugely important point! and something we should talk a lot about, but we're talking specifically about sexual predation here and important information for people to have.

    When the vast majority of men are not predators, it's ridiculous to paint them all and make all of them suffer

    That's not what I'm arguing at all, and I never did. I really don't like you painting my intentions with a broad brush or attributing malice to what I'm saying just because there are bad actors out there who do.

    The solution is not more stereotyping!

    Can you please help me understand where I suggested that we should be stereotyping individuals? Or that we should be attributing cause or intent to specific individuals based on observations of statistics? I'm at a loss from where you got this intent out of my replies.

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  16. Comment on The Buff Scammer, isolation, and the male loneliness epidemic in ~life.men

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    That's really not a fair analogy because "science" done in that way is done with clear bias aimed at increasing racism. It also doesn't play out unless we're talking about crime statistics, and...

    That's really not a fair analogy because "science" done in that way is done with clear bias aimed at increasing racism. It also doesn't play out unless we're talking about crime statistics, and clear literature shows that's an outcome of systemic racism and choosing to incarcerate black men, for example, at higher rates. It's entirely unfair to paint this as a right wing talking point, because for one right wing people do not quote male violent crime statistics (they are targeted at the groups they are being bigoted towards), but more importantly this is about protecting people from real tangible harms that we can measure and have done a pretty good job of eliminating bias around. It's an unfortunate reality of the world and likely mostly a side effect of the patriarchy and cultural norms but being dismissive of protecting people from reality to save the feelings of men seems rather short-sighted to me.

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  17. Comment on The Buff Scammer, isolation, and the male loneliness epidemic in ~life.men

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    Oh okay, yea that's totally understandable... but it also seems impossible to escape for literally any human? There will always be someone who hates my group and thus gives me the opportunity to...

    I’m saying that being able to climb no higher than “one of the good ones” sucks, and in light of that I’d rather not be part of the group at all. But that’s not an option, nor is ceasing to use “men” as a categorical grouping at all, so I don’t really have a conclusion.

    Oh okay, yea that's totally understandable... but it also seems impossible to escape for literally any human? There will always be someone who hates my group and thus gives me the opportunity to be "one of the good ones", no matter what that group is. That group could be something I was simply born with (like gender or race) or it could be something more innocuous like the fact that I enjoy pineapple on pizza. Perhaps it's because I'm autistic, but I don't really see the difference between the various characteristics that one could be discriminated against by as making any one characteristic more unique or more hurtful, but I do agree that it certainly doesn't feel good for others to have such limited views of the world, strong preconceptions, or simply be wording things in a way that hurts on first brush.

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  18. Comment on The Buff Scammer, isolation, and the male loneliness epidemic in ~life.men

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    I certainly don't have the entire context, but it sounds like they were being some level of vulnerable with you? Like if they thought you were exhibiting this behavior or bore any responsibility...

    After reflection, I think the criticism I got from third parties had more to do with general bad man behaviors that I don't feel I was exhibiting, but ended up bearing the responsibility for anyway. But for weeks after the criticism, I felt hurt because.. what did I as an individual do wrong?

    I certainly don't have the entire context, but it sounds like they were being some level of vulnerable with you? Like if they thought you were exhibiting this behavior or bore any responsibility for it, they probably wouldn't have shared this information with you? It sounds like you feel like a safe space for them to vent about something that was bothering them. It sucks that there happens to be an overlap with your identity, but I genuinely think they may not have been even considering that when they vented.

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  19. Comment on The Buff Scammer, isolation, and the male loneliness epidemic in ~life.men

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    It's complicated, because that attribute is important in the context of building awareness and arming women with the knowledge they need to prepare, defend, and ward themselves from sexual...

    And since that’s always going to be the case with grouping on a characteristic or attribute rather than an action, maybe talking about the actions in the context of the attribute isn’t a great thing to do?

    It's complicated, because that attribute is important in the context of building awareness and arming women with the knowledge they need to prepare, defend, and ward themselves from sexual predation. As I stated elsewhere in my comment, I think the devil is in the details here, and I think you bring up the crux of the problem well when you stated the following:

    The top comment was a thoughtful and heartfelt one that strongly acknowledged the genuine harm done by some men, but expressed sadness for what this means about the perception of male sexuality.

    Balanced messaging and hedging are extremely important, at least in my view, when we make any statements that are negative about a group of individuals. I hate that we need to state it because it's simply not what the words are saying, but we do need to state "not all men" when we talk about the statistically average man and the same is true when we talk about any other group and broad statistical trends. This can be sidestepped, at times, by contrasting pros and cons as the author at the top did and you highlighted, as it's another way to recognize that it's a complicated issue and we're trying to focus in on the problems rather than the individuals and we're not interested in placing blame anywhere so much as we are trying to discuss a complex topic.

    However, I disagree with your following take:

    a direct reply about the statistics absolutely didn’t read as an effort to protect or educate those who can benefit from knowing the information. It read as, essentially, “no, people are right to have a negative view of male sexuality and these numbers prove it, we’ve got to just live with that”.

    because their comment on statistics is immediately followed by the following text

    Of course most men are not predators

    This seems to be exactly the counter-balancing you asked for in your replies, yet it seems to either have gone wholly unnoticed or it wasn't enough. Which makes me wonder, how could they have changed their messaging? Did they not hedge their comment enough for you to realize they aren't throwing all men under the bus? Did they need to expand their viewpoint in more depth for you to realize they are talking about the problem and not the individual and that they are not trying to cast blame on you or any men in specific but rather statistically characterizing the problem?

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  20. Comment on The Buff Scammer, isolation, and the male loneliness epidemic in ~life.men

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    Thank you for your perspective. I agree that we need to be paying attention to the balance of messaging when and where we can.

    Thank you for your perspective. I agree that we need to be paying attention to the balance of messaging when and where we can.

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