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Comment on YouTube mobile app has deeply hidden the subscription feed in ~tech
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Comment on Tesla to wind down Cybertruck production in Texas next year in ~transport
kaffo Link ParentThat explains a lot. Though interestingly I saw one for the first time in real life driving around Trondheim. I guess some nut case imported it theirselves?That explains a lot.
Though interestingly I saw one for the first time in real life driving around Trondheim. I guess some nut case imported it theirselves? -
Comment on YouTube mobile app has deeply hidden the subscription feed in ~tech
kaffo Link ParentOk, that's valid. It did cross my mind as I posted. They do definitely try to push users to the home feed and shorts, and it's been working.Ok, that's valid. It did cross my mind as I posted.
They do definitely try to push users to the home feed and shorts, and it's been working. -
Comment on YouTube mobile app has deeply hidden the subscription feed in ~tech
kaffo LinkI had the same experience. Now to be fair to YouTube here, my understanding is that we are in the minority here. They are really just changing the UI/UX to match what the user base is actually...I had the same experience.
Now to be fair to YouTube here, my understanding is that we are in the minority here. They are really just changing the UI/UX to match what the user base is actually doing. Which is only the home page recommendations and shorts.
I don't have the numbers, it's purely based off watching YouTubers talk about their user base and how their videos are consumed now.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2026) in ~health.mental
kaffo Link ParentTotally agree, it's wild! For me, it's even more bizarre as I have a couple of friends (luckily) where I don't mask and I talk to them without spending energy. But having the mask on/off is...Totally agree, it's wild!
For me, it's even more bizarre as I have a couple of friends (luckily) where I don't mask and I talk to them without spending energy.
But having the mask on/off is completely non-voluntarily.
Why do they not get the mask?
Its wild how different social interactions are between them and literally anyone else.
The brain is a spooky thing!! -
Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2026) in ~health.mental
kaffo Link ParentThanks for replying! For what it's worth, I've been reading your posts too and I've only not replied because I'm not particularly sure how to contribute. But you're not alone! What you said about...Thanks for replying! For what it's worth, I've been reading your posts too and I've only not replied because I'm not particularly sure how to contribute. But you're not alone!
What you said about no-one really knowing you hit hard.
I agree that it sounds like we've got the same problem. I've got this stupid mask that stops be from just being myself, so almost everyone I interact with gets to know this fake version of myself.
I went out last week to meet a friend and he asked if he could bring his friend. I said sure.
The whole conversation I was on autopilot trying to be as likeable as I could, and when I actually thought about it, I didn't even like the guy!
Then when the conversation came back around to me I felt horribly ashamed of admitting I'd spent two weeks riding horses. I don't even know why. Never mind the fact neither of them gave a shit, why should I?So yeah, I get you.
I hope that your Lego and lizards and Lego lizards are bringing you a little joy at least!
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2026) in ~health.mental
kaffo LinkIt’s been the longest month of my entire life. The last thread feels like it was years ago. My last two posts were short, so this one is going to be a novel, prepare yourself... Holiday Before I...It’s been the longest month of my entire life. The last thread feels like it was years ago.
My last two posts were short, so this one is going to be a novel, prepare yourself...Holiday
Before I broke up with my ex, we had booked a trip to Thailand together. After the breakup, I removed her from the booking and asked my friend if he wanted to join me. I’d been waiting five months for this holiday, but with everything going on in my life, I hadn’t thought about it much until the day I left. When I finally got to go, I was really excited.
It was difficult at the start, though. I still had an overwhelming sadness that I’d been battling for months. It was with me every single day, and I was on the verge of crying, but I couldn’t process it.
I had a great time, and I was very emotional. In the middle of the holiday, I went out drinking with my friend and ended up crying for about an hour and a half. In some ways, that was a breaking point for me. It felt quite cathartic, and I felt a lot more positive afterwards. I hadn’t resolved the sadness yet, but I no longer felt so extraordinarily defeated and sad.
I also had a wonderfully exciting few days. I got a very strong feeling that I wanted to find very specific art, something like a moving horse or a running animal. I had it pictured in my head and was on a mission to find this thing that existed somewhere. My friend and I went around a whole bunch of markets across two different cities. Eventually I found an artist who did acrylic canvas paintings, and I bought two original pieces. They absolutely melted my heart and made me happy in a really profound way.
Overall, the holiday was really good for me. It helped me take my mind off the everyday things going on around me. I think it gave me a chance to process some feelings in the background while I was distracted with the busyness of the trip.
On the journey home, I had quite a roller coaster of emotions. I felt really sad leaving Thailand and sorry to see it go. Then I landed in Oslo and felt absolute dread. I just hated the place. Something really put me off being there, and I seriously worried that I was in the wrong place. It wasn’t until I returned home to Trondheim that I felt at ease and a lot happier again. I realised it was very much specifically Oslo that made me feel that way. Those feelings hadn’t been so obvious to me before, and I found it very interesting to process.
Relief and Introspection
Coming back home was a new beginning in a lot of ways. I didn’t have anything planned and was straight back into work. But the most important thing was that I was finally able to process the sadness inside me. I realised with sudden, great clarity that I had a huge amount of grief from losing my previous relationship. Once I’d given the emotion a name and understood why I was feeling it, a weight lifted off my shoulders. For the rest of the month, I’ve felt that I’ve processed it and got over, at least, the largest part of my previous relationship. I feel much better than I did before.
I suddenly had a lot of free time in the evenings and weekends, and I wanted to start filling it. I didn’t want to do it intellectually like I normally would, so I decided to try following my feelings, which is reasonably new to me.
The first week, I spent a lot of time being introspective and a lot more time outside than I have in the past. Listening to my body, I realised it had been craving exercise and fresh air in ways I hadn’t noticed before. Sitting at my desk all day made going outside and exercising a lot more appealing. I went on many walks in the countryside and tried to understand myself a little better.
The strongest things to come out of that were a need for exercise, sun and fresh air. I immediately set up a workout routine and a daily walk for at least 45 minutes, and I've found that I've been craving both without having to force myself to stick to a schedule. I also wanted to understand what I really enjoyed and what hobbies would be good for me. Two things were on my mind a lot: horse riding and acrylic painting. I bought some art supplies with a friend who helped me. I also did some research and found a nearby stable where I can have lessons every week.
Recovery
I feel like I’ve entered a stable loop where I learn things about myself and then apply them. When things go wrong or I discover something challenging, I take time to process it and give myself some emotional support. Then I repeat the cycle, and it’s been getting easier. The lows have been getting less low, and the time for recovery has been getting shorter. The one thing I haven’t felt yet is a real sense of joy and happiness. I think I’m still in the recovery phase.
I’ve been enjoying picking away at different aspects of myself and finding out how different things and people make me feel. It feels like a really novel and fun toy to play with, and it’s very rewarding to apply those feelings.
I’ll try to explain what I mean. Horses have been on my mind a lot since I moved. When I lived with my ex I would spend time with horses almost every day and I found it hard to explain intellectually why I like them. They can be funny, but in objective terms I couldn’t put my finger on the draw. Now, when I consider my feelings, I realise it is the energy and vibe I get around the animals: the calm presence, the trust, the connection, their body language, the herd mentality, their personalities, how goofy they are. Some horses are really cute, others are beautiful or dorky or handsome. When I think about how I feel, it’s obvious why I like horses, why I’m drawn to them and why I miss them. Being around them makes me feel all these positive feelings.
One huge positive is that I’ve discovered I actually like myself. I like a lot of my qualities and a lot of the feelings I have about things and people. I’ve enjoyed this part of the process. However, as I’ve become more able to be alone and self-sufficient, I’ve also realised I have some massive shortcomings. Like I’m discovering that socially I’m pretty bad.
It’s no surprise that I have social anxiety and being neurodivergent, I have a lot of the usual traits. I tend to mask, and I think a lot about what the other person is thinking rather than just enjoying the conversation and letting it flow. But it’s become extremely obvious that I enter a flow state in social encounters, almost like autopilot, where I’m unable to think about myself because I’m engaging so hard. I think I have a lot of work to do there, and it’s been on my mind a lot recently.
What now?
I feel a bit messy right now, like a beginning, a middle and an end at the same time. I can really see the light at the end of the tunnel. In some ways I’m frustrated, because I feel like I’m in a bit of a loop and not making much progress. But thinking about it long term, I think I’m still moving in the right direction, and I suspect that one day everything will suddenly click together.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2026) in ~health.mental
kaffo Link ParentI was reading a book recently and quite a lot of it was filler, but one particular section stuck with me. It encouraged taking a few minutes after an interaction with a person and listing out the...I was reading a book recently and quite a lot of it was filler, but one particular section stuck with me.
It encouraged taking a few minutes after an interaction with a person and listing out the feelings that person made you feel during the interaction, then decide whether those feelings were ones you wanted to feel.I wonder if it would be a useful exercise for you and your friend?
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2026) in ~health.mental
kaffo Link ParentThat's awesome to hear! I wanted to say, don't let a disease define you. It's part of you and helps describe you as a person, but you are a sum of many (interesting and complex) parts! Sounds like...That's awesome to hear!
I wanted to say, don't let a disease define you. It's part of you and helps describe you as a person, but you are a sum of many (interesting and complex) parts!
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Comment on Any tips for improving personal cybersecurity in 2026? (I'm concerned about rogue AI agents) in ~tech
kaffo LinkHonestly. My opinion is the only true way you're going to get real security in 2026 is physical. If it's not physically disconnected from the network, or has physical hardware requirement (like a...Honestly. My opinion is the only true way you're going to get real security in 2026 is physical.
If it's not physically disconnected from the network, or has physical hardware requirement (like a hardware security key) then you've got no guarantee it's going to be secure until this wave of AI fueled cyber attacking and defence comes to some kind of status quo.
Software is coming to a new era and no-one knows what's going to happen, so all we can do is ride the wave. -
Comment on Songs of Syx is a hidden gem that nobody talks about – here's the dev story, the lore, and why it's so complex in ~games
kaffo Link ParentYeah! You probably have missed the same patch I did. I think it was the last major update or the one before. He bent a little on player feedback and made the game a little more relaxed to give...Yeah! You probably have missed the same patch I did. I think it was the last major update or the one before.
He bent a little on player feedback and made the game a little more relaxed to give players more freedom to make their cities how they like, rather than it being a kind of esoteric puzzle to the exact right pattern to layout.It felt a lot more fun for me to play earlier this year. And he said that the next update is a huge polish focus which will be fantastic!
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Comment on Contender for the most non-viable startup: Reflect Orbital in ~tech
kaffo Link ParentI mean I think the idea is cool. It's the 30,000 extra satellites in orbit which makes me uncomfortable. We've got enough crap in orbit and it's only going to get worse.I mean I think the idea is cool. It's the 30,000 extra satellites in orbit which makes me uncomfortable. We've got enough crap in orbit and it's only going to get worse.
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Comment on Contender for the most non-viable startup: Reflect Orbital in ~tech
kaffo Link ParentThey want to put 30,000+ satellites with mirrors in orbit in the next 10 years to allow... Anyone with an app? To direct a spot of sunlight with an adjustable diameter and intensity to anywhere on...They want to put 30,000+ satellites with mirrors in orbit in the next 10 years to allow... Anyone with an app? To direct a spot of sunlight with an adjustable diameter and intensity to anywhere on Earth at any time.
So like, you out at 2am drunk and lost your keys outside the bar? No probs, just order a spot or sunlight to your location!
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Comment on How do you handle being around other people? in ~life
kaffo LinkI used to think my social battery was really low. I'd only really want to hang out with a group like once a week and I would find it exhausting. Like others have said, I have friends who don't...I used to think my social battery was really low. I'd only really want to hang out with a group like once a week and I would find it exhausting.
Like others have said, I have friends who don't drain that battery. They maybe don't "recharge" it like pure extroverts claim, but I could spend all day with them and it wouldn't bother me.
I find if I got too long without seeing people, I get a craving to be social, but between all the socialising I have to do at work, I am quite content with time myself.
That said, with the right people doing the right thing I would jump at the chance to do it for extended periods!
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Comment on Developers are using AI to strip ads and tracking from smart TVs in ~tech
kaffo Link ParentYeah like I see where you're coming from. But I kinda think I'm more ok with my TV being half bricked than giving LG a live stream of the audio from my apartment even when the TV is off.Yeah like I see where you're coming from.
But I kinda think I'm more ok with my TV being half bricked than giving LG a live stream of the audio from my apartment even when the TV is off. -
Comment on Developers are using AI to strip ads and tracking from smart TVs in ~tech
kaffo Link ParentUpdate: looks like the method to root didn't apply correctly on my TV :( Though, maybe at the rate these things are going a one click script/installer will come soon and it'll work pretty...Update: looks like the method to root didn't apply correctly on my TV :(
Though, maybe at the rate these things are going a one click script/installer will come soon and it'll work pretty universally across firmware versions. -
Comment on What is your passion? And why? in ~life
kaffo Link ParentThanks for the kind words! I'll still be posting on the mental health thread every month if you're interested in keeping up. I've still got work to do!!Thanks for the kind words!
I'll still be posting on the mental health thread every month if you're interested in keeping up. I've still got work to do!! -
Comment on Developers are using AI to strip ads and tracking from smart TVs in ~tech
kaffo LinkIt looks like this project for LG WebOs (needs root) adds a bunch of DNS black holes for LG tracking (plus other nice debloat). It's unclear if it includes black holing the horrible audio tracking...It looks like this project for LG WebOs (needs root) adds a bunch of DNS black holes for LG tracking (plus other nice debloat).
It's unclear if it includes black holing the horrible audio tracking crap that got posted her a couple months ago. But I sure hope so!
I'm going to give it a go, because the WebOS home page SUCKS and fuck LG tracking. -
Comment on What is your passion? And why? in ~life
kaffo Link ParentHmm I can try! I do mean passions. When I say "try stuff" I mean spend time immersing myself in the subject then see how it makes me feel, and if the interest wanes or grows as I learn more. And...Hmm I can try!
I do mean passions. When I say "try stuff" I mean spend time immersing myself in the subject then see how it makes me feel, and if the interest wanes or grows as I learn more.
And yes, some passions so have attached hobbies! That does make them easier to experience too.If you look at my post history, you'll see me talk a lot about my journey to today from the start of this year.
Short version though, I broke up with my ex, at the same time got medication for ADHD and (thanks for the kind people here) realised I should really go to therapy and work on myself.
Before... Well about a month or two ago, I honestly could not tell you what I actually liked or enjoyed, because I was so disconnected from my feelings and emotions. I only had intellectually stimulating hobbies.
I'm getting a lot better with feelings and I've learned a lot about myself.
I now know I really like psychology (especially relationship science), I like to understand how things work and by extension I enjoy design.
Very recently I've been feeling a strong desire to spend time with horses again. When I think about going horse riding and going to the stable to see the ponies, it makes me feel happy. I've had horse pictures I like put up just to make me smile haha.
BUT I dunno if these are passions.
Ask me next week, maybe horses will be stupid.I think passions can come and go, but I think they have to mean something to you and my feelings are so messy right now it's hard to tell what I'm happy about and if it's going to last longer than a flash.
I'm OK with that though, because I'm confident I'll get though the hard part (maybe I already am?) and when my week to week is more normal I think it will be obvious what's stuck with me thought the tough times, or maybe something new comes after.
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Comment on What is your passion? And why? in ~life
kaffo Link ParentWe were in Northern Thailand, Chiang Mai and Chiang Rai. I learned quite a lot (from very little!) but it's all still probably quite surface level in the grand scheme of things haha! I learned...We were in Northern Thailand, Chiang Mai and Chiang Rai. I learned quite a lot (from very little!) but it's all still probably quite surface level in the grand scheme of things haha!
I learned about Buddha's journey and the different styles and interpretations of them. I was really fascinated by the donation structure of the religion and how they maintained and built new temples.
I really enjoyed seeing how normal people went to pray, the huge number of ceremonies and events over the year.
All very wonderfully interesting to experience!
I came back here to find the comment that said this. Because for 3 days I've been clicking the button like a millennial moron and when I realized I could just swipe right I was like "oh right that's like no big deal"