kaffo's recent activity
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (October 2026) in ~health.mental
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Comment on Interview: Firefox’s chief on why he hopes a redesign will help win users from Chrome in ~tech
kaffo Link ParentAs someone who hates chrome and chromium, I wish there were more options. I've been a long time firefox user and it's sad to see them flailing so badly. It's still better than chrome but that's...As someone who hates chrome and chromium, I wish there were more options.
I've been a long time firefox user and it's sad to see them flailing so badly. It's still better than chrome but that's not saying much.If anyone has suggestions for any alternatives that aren't chromium based, let me know too.
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Comment on What is your pet peeve with language acquisition? in ~humanities.languages
kaffo LinkI'm still learning Norwegian. It's my first real attempt (I don't count the bs at school). I hit all the usual suspects, like writing/reading is easier than listening and speaking. But learning a...I'm still learning Norwegian. It's my first real attempt (I don't count the bs at school).
I hit all the usual suspects, like writing/reading is easier than listening and speaking.
But learning a language for me is extra stressful because it's just so not logical. And Norwegian is a language that doesn't have loads of exceptions or weird rules.
It just drives me nuts there's so much "you have to remember this" or "it just sounds wrong".
I get that exposure and practice drills it out of you, and I'm getting there, but I feel like all this would be easier to learn if languages didn't live the way they do. Which is unfortunate, because that's what they are! -
Comment on Steam recently made a fundamental change to indie game discoverability in ~games
kaffo Link ParentExcept for allowing and arguably encouraging children (and adult) to gamble. Otherwise, yes, they do seem to make a lot of good business choices which generally benefit everyone (though not...Except for allowing and arguably encouraging children (and adult) to gamble.
Otherwise, yes, they do seem to make a lot of good business choices which generally benefit everyone (though not always! But it's impossible to make everyone happy.)
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Comment on Do you iron your clothes? in ~life
kaffo LinkI only iron shirts. Or other clothes that would show really obvious creases if you didn't. NOW MY MUM. She irons underwear, socks, bed sheets, you name it!I only iron shirts. Or other clothes that would show really obvious creases if you didn't.
NOW MY MUM.
She irons underwear, socks, bed sheets, you name it! -
Comment on Steam Frame product page is now live in ~games
kaffo Link ParentHonestly I think it's a little like the "buying a good pair of headphones" problem. I played Elite Dangerous with a Oculus DK2 and that thing was like taping a calculator screen to your eyeballs....Honestly I think it's a little like the "buying a good pair of headphones" problem.
I played Elite Dangerous with a Oculus DK2 and that thing was like taping a calculator screen to your eyeballs. But yes I loved it.
I've tried the DK2, Rift, Index, one of the quests, and most importantly the pimax 5 and 8k supers.Now honestly, the pimax headsets have shit software/firmware. They are crazy heavy, uncomfortable and I've had various hardware failures over the years. But the clarity and field of view is just so good. I try other headsets and it's like using an IPhone from 2012.
I am sure I've spoilt myself. But there is a future headset one day that will do it, I'm sure.
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Comment on Steam Frame product page is now live in ~games
kaffo LinkHmmm, the reviews are not quite selling it for me. Yes, it seems good. But I was on the fence about getting a Big screen Beyond 2 before (I love how it's light, form fitting and clear the optics...Hmmm, the reviews are not quite selling it for me.
Yes, it seems good. But I was on the fence about getting a Big screen Beyond 2 before (I love how it's light, form fitting and clear the optics are!) but I waited for the steam frame in hopes the display would be good enough to make the choose clear, especially since the frame is wireless first.But it sounds like it's... Fine?
In my experience, the screen door effect and especially field of view are HUGE in VR. And it sounds like the frame is fine, but it's not comparable to the industry leaders. And also LCD!So I dunno. I think I'm going to yet again continue to keep my money until someone releases basically a wireless big screen beyond. If that ever happens lol.
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Comment on putt.day — a daily hole of mini golf in ~games
kaffo LinkSlightly off topic about daily games It seems like we've had a huge boom of "daily games" recently. Like yes, ok they've been a thing for quite a number of years now, especially with mobile and...Slightly off topic about daily games
It seems like we've had a huge boom of "daily games" recently. Like yes, ok they've been a thing for quite a number of years now, especially with mobile and MMO/F2P. But now it seems we have a huge wave of indy devs making web games with "new level every day!".
Why?? I completely understand the business/marketing side of it. I mean if you are one person/tiny team, why has this become the attractive first option?It is obviously a popular format. I know plenty of people (there are obviously people here too!) who have their daily game(s) of choice. It just seems odd to me it (seems to be) getting a surge in this sector.
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Comment on IKEA Kallax “Storageborn” in ~games
kaffo Link ParentIf you have a pc, try out Lorerim. It's the premium Skyrim mod pack, easy to install and it makes the game look and feel like a 2026 game.If you have a pc, try out Lorerim. It's the premium Skyrim mod pack, easy to install and it makes the game look and feel like a 2026 game.
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Comment on LG smart TVs caught logging audio with screen off and snooping on local devices in ~tech
kaffo Link ParentWell ok, "like" webos is a strong statement. It let's me install stremio and once I turned of all the bloat it just let's me open the apps I want and nothing else. So really it doesn't do much for...Well ok, "like" webos is a strong statement.
It let's me install stremio and once I turned of all the bloat it just let's me open the apps I want and nothing else.
So really it doesn't do much for me beyond open stremio and since it runs natively it's not dog slow.It does leave a lot to be desired, I'd not use it if I had a better choice tbh.
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Comment on LG smart TVs caught logging audio with screen off and snooping on local devices in ~tech
kaffo LinkThat's unfortunate to hear. I like my LG TV and I like just using webos connected to the internet. But that sounds like a line to far tbh. Might need to plug in old fire stick again, sigh.That's unfortunate to hear. I like my LG TV and I like just using webos connected to the internet.
But that sounds like a line to far tbh.
Might need to plug in old fire stick again, sigh. -
Comment on Small talk, ice breakers, lines in ~talk
kaffo Link ParentI'm curious where "here" is if you don't mind me asking? I completely agree with your point that different culture and social setting will dictate the flexibility of questions like this. In my...I'm curious where "here" is if you don't mind me asking?
I completely agree with your point that different culture and social setting will dictate the flexibility of questions like this.
In my case, I've always used this question during early dating or at large social events where there's an expectation of meeting new people. Perhaps you're imagining a more "normal" setting where you meet a new person casually and, yeah, that'd be a bit weird if that was the first thing they asked you right off the bat.
I apologize if I'm assuming here, maybe you think it's too personal no matter the situation. -
Comment on Small talk, ice breakers, lines in ~talk
kaffo Link ParentHaha that is surprisingly well thought out and detailed! A possible add-on to the question is: "OK, so you've written the end, but you're not dead yet, so what do you think the next chapter might...Haha that is surprisingly well thought out and detailed!
A possible add-on to the question is: "OK, so you've written the end, but you're not dead yet, so what do you think the next chapter might be?"
But it's a lot more basic and not as fun really as the original question. -
Comment on Small talk, ice breakers, lines in ~talk
kaffo Link ParentI mean, I understand. I would never expect someone to share anything they are not comfortable with. The answer of "my life has been complicated, the beginning would be difficult to talk about....I mean, I understand. I would never expect someone to share anything they are not comfortable with.
The answer of "my life has been complicated, the beginning would be difficult to talk about. Here is my middle and end..." is a good conversation starter.You've got to roll with the question a little. "I'm sorry, my story is too personal to talk about" and then nothing else is going to kill a conversation. I this case you're choosing to shut down the person who asked.
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Comment on Small talk, ice breakers, lines in ~talk
kaffo LinkMy serious answer is: If you were to sit down and write your biography this afternoon, what would the start, middle and end be about? I normally get a puzzled response like "I don't get the...My serious answer is:
If you were to sit down and write your biography this afternoon, what would the start, middle and end be about?I normally get a puzzled response like "I don't get the question, isn't it obvious?"
Yet no two people have answered the same way.
One person decided their biography would start THE VERY MOMENT they came out the womb.
Another wanted their whole "beginning" to actually be about their parents lives, because it had so much impact on theirs.And I've found it gives a lot of leads to talk about. Even the question is kind of interesting and has talking points.
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Comment on What workplace absurdity are you forced to live with? in ~life
kaffo Link ParentI mean, considering it was wrongly filed, I suspect it was something like it wasn't really a 7p biscuit. Maybe it was part of a pack and he divided the cost of the whole pack then didn't post the...I mean, considering it was wrongly filed, I suspect it was something like it wasn't really a 7p biscuit. Maybe it was part of a pack and he divided the cost of the whole pack then didn't post the receipt?
I dunno! We will have to wonder, I'm not friends with the friend any more! -
Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
kaffo Link ParentYeah, if you just do the quests to can get to act 3 (I personally think that's where it starts to get interesting) in like 2/3 hours? It doesn't take long at all. I'd recommend it!Yeah, if you just do the quests to can get to act 3 (I personally think that's where it starts to get interesting) in like 2/3 hours? It doesn't take long at all. I'd recommend it!
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Comment on What's your line? in ~life
kaffo LinkWhen I was younger I worked for a large company that wrote software for call centers. I thought the application was cool at the start but the more I learned the worse it got. And then the new...When I was younger I worked for a large company that wrote software for call centers.
I thought the application was cool at the start but the more I learned the worse it got.
And then the new features started coming and they were so gross. I felt horrible thinking that it was actually humans who the software was targeting.I was too young and naive to make a real move out myself, I ended up being "made redundant" aka fired. But it was because I was refusing to engage and doing basically no work on purpose.
If that was today I'd be job seeking immediately.
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
kaffo LinkI dunno, this one is hard. I'm around 5-8 years behind most people my age in maturity I think. I don't think that knowledge would have helped me, it's just taken me longer to obtain the same...I dunno, this one is hard. I'm around 5-8 years behind most people my age in maturity I think. I don't think that knowledge would have helped me, it's just taken me longer to obtain the same wisdom as other people.
I guess maybe I would have been less worried if I knew it was OK to mature at my own pace and just because my peers were more "adult" than me, that wasn't a problem.One I would definitely say is always go to the doctor about anything, even if it's a question.
Turns out being stubborn about health issues is dumb and stupid and you should try and get help! -
Comment on Want some advice on how to escape my current situation - I [34M] am fed up of my [68F/81M] parents and want out in ~life
kaffo Link ParentYes I agree, as long as OP knows what he's asking for and is aware it's the right thing. Therapy will help knowing what the right thing is, and honestly it's likely unfair to put any of this kind...Yes I agree, as long as OP knows what he's asking for and is aware it's the right thing.
Therapy will help knowing what the right thing is, and honestly it's likely unfair to put any of this kind of responsibility on the brother's shoulders. But he may be both willing and in a good position to offer help, like finding professional help or getting out the parent's house.
It is completely valid for brother to not want to help, OP is right he has his own life and responsibilities, but you will never know if you don't ask and be honest.
I'm going to try and make this one short, because so much has happened this month I could write a novel.
The important, but not life changing stuff:
Now the elephant in the room...
Therapy
Honestly the best decision I've made in a long, long time. I'm very glad people here gave me some gentle encouragement.
It's been really difficult, I've been having to face some painful memories and feelings.
Uh, it's been a really huge deal. I've come to the realization I had completely disassociated from my childhood and I've built myself an actually impressively effective defence system against negative emotions. My conscious brain just deflects and ignores them.
I'm not sure I can even describe what the discovery has been like, but I'll try!
I've been trying to focus on, process and properly feel really old and strong negative emotions. As I've been trying to sit on the feeling I started to notice my inner monologue would interrupt and immediately try and derail me off to something mundane and "safe".
When I noticed it, I thought it was a one off. But then I started to realise I was doing it all the time when I felt anything negative. And it would make me feel "better" when I distracted myself, but it also meant I just never processed a lot of emotions. I never asked "why" or sat with the feeling and told myself it's OK. More like I told myself it was NOT OK and I needed to hide/ignore it.
Basically my whole childhood is under this same banner. I have volumes of negative memories as a kid. I'm realising how just... Sad my circumstances were when I look at it a bit more objectively as an adult.
I always told myself that it wasn't that bad, my trauma, my experience was nothing compared to others. I had nothing to be sad about, my life was and is good. More conscious sweeping under the rug. I think I essentially used toxic positivity on myself.
All of this is early for me. My thoughts here might change.
Though through all of this extremely heavy work, I can see the light more and more clearly.
I can see a life where I feel these emotions, I feel connected with myself and I learn to trust myself.
I don't know about you reader, but my life is directed by conscious throught. I think through my day, my inner monologue sets everything out like a day planner.
The only "feelings" which drive my decisions are hungry, horny and tired. I don't just "feel" like doing something, I do it because "hm I think my body needs some exercise, I should go for a walk or swim, I'll find an hour", "it's been 1 week, I should arrange to see friends"
Something about feeling more emotions and allowing them to help me drive my day makes me happy. I want to get there.
Well, baby steps! Let's see how we do next month! I expect this to take a while!