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  1. Comment on Does anyone else have posting anxiety? in ~tech

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    I agree with pretty much all of this and it resonates with my own experiences. Although I'd like to chime in and add my bit about the discords. I personally found discord very intimidating...

    I agree with pretty much all of this and it resonates with my own experiences.

    Although I'd like to chime in and add my bit about the discords. I personally found discord very intimidating (especially in servers about stuff I actually cared about) because I didn't want to appear dumb or engage the wrong way.
    I found it very useful to join totally random discords I really had no interest in, low population or high population it doesn't matter, and start talking in there. Maybe make a throw away account to get started. When I started making little comments and people actually enjoyed my e-company that really helped me get my post confidence up and made me feel a lot more happy about posted in the spaces I actually cared about.

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  2. Comment on How do you date? in ~talk

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    An interesting question! Going to answer it all out of order and probably forget some. Firstly, I've had 4 long term relationships (I'm now 30). 2 of them were meeting face to face and 2 were...

    An interesting question!
    Going to answer it all out of order and probably forget some.

    Firstly, I've had 4 long term relationships (I'm now 30). 2 of them were meeting face to face and 2 were online.
    I could write for days about online dating but that's not what your question is about, my personal takeaway is online dating is a bad environment for long term relationships. Short term, yes, but long term it's very difficult to get to the stage with another random person that you can start to work that "big picture" stuff out.
    The end result though for both is the same in my experience if you're patient enough.

    As for dating and making those calls, I found it really hard when I was younger because I would have a crush on someone and get as far as flirting, then dating. But really being younger I had no idea what I wanted or liked in a relationship and a lot of people my age didn't either.
    Getting a little older now I'm able to vocalize much better what my goals are and try to judge if a person fits into that or not.
    Daniel Sloss did a famous-ish bit on Netflix about a couple being like two partially completed jigsaws coming togerher and I think it's a very apt metaphor.
    Being able to say "hey here's my life now and here's how I plan to fill in the gaps, do you like what you see?" and having the other person do the same is refreshing. Someone who can't shows a bit of immaturity in my eyes.
    So when I was on my last dating slog over the pandemic and then some (my current partner I met on /r/r4r after I made a bet I'd not meet anyone from there, ironically) I was on the apps a lot and my mental health suffered a lot for it.
    I went on a lot of first dates and struggled to be confident and charismatic, but I got better over time and when I did it became easier to get second dates and third dates, then I could start asking the important questions.

    I think for me by date 2 or 3 I know I'm really into someone, but I could lose it in a heart beat without the trust and friendship if something comes up.
    To build that friendship and trust takes a long time, months. I was dating my current partner for maybe a year and a half before I truly, truly felt comfortable with her (long distance though, so take that with a grain of salt).
    The bond helps pad out the gaps. The annoyances, the bits of the jigsaw that don't match up. But it takes work and commitment to get there and it's hard to find that in online dating.

    If I had advice for the next person reading this who's struggling with dating, it's try and be attractive. And not just physically. Do cool and interesting things. Get a hobby, do a sport, climb a mountain, learn the harp, knit a scarf. Having an amazing personality is a great start, but you want your date to ask you a million questions and be into you.

    That was rambly, I might edit or add more tomorrow, it's late!

    8 votes
  3. Comment on Help: Dual sim mobile phone replacement in ~tech

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    I wasn't aware no. Thanks for letting me know! I'll check it out. I've seen some carriers advertise e-sim. Appreciate the suggestion!

    I wasn't aware no. Thanks for letting me know!
    I'll check it out. I've seen some carriers advertise e-sim.

    Appreciate the suggestion!

    5 votes
  4. Help: Dual sim mobile phone replacement

    I bought a Pixel 6 Pro unlocked a couple of years ago as my long term phone. It's what I like to do, buy a phone for 5+ years of use and get a cheap sim card. It's fine. If I could choose again I...

    I bought a Pixel 6 Pro unlocked a couple of years ago as my long term phone. It's what I like to do, buy a phone for 5+ years of use and get a cheap sim card. It's fine. If I could choose again I would have got the Samsung flagship instead.
    I've since moved country and I'm in need of a dual sim phone (because I don't want 2 phones) for my home country and new one. But guess what, Pixel 6 pro is a single sim phone.
    So that puts me in an uncomfortable position where I don't want to get a new phone yet (I'm 3 years out what I wanted to run this phone to) but I'd hate to get a second, crap phone just for a new number.

    If I need to replace the Pixem, I would like to get another flagship (or close to) if possible. I like the bells and whistles. I simply wanted to avoid rebuying so early and see if there were options I had not yet considered.

    It was suggested to try and recycle the Pixel, I'd get maybe €200 for it if I'm lucky, and it would help taking the cost out of a replacement flagship, but would still be expensive.

    Any other suggestions for how I could navigate this?

    Edit: thanks to @thecakeisalime for the esim suggestion. I've contacted my home network and got transfered to an esim in genuinely 15 minutes. That's opened the sim slot for the new number. Pretty much perfect solution!

    9 votes
  5. Comment on Three Cheers for Tildes: App updates and feedback (February 2024) in ~tildes

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    It seems like you've got the broad strokes of the site functionality complete. Are you aiming for a 1.0 release any time soon? Still loving the app by the way! Great work!

    It seems like you've got the broad strokes of the site functionality complete. Are you aiming for a 1.0 release any time soon?
    Still loving the app by the way! Great work!

    26 votes
  6. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I'm still playing Stationeers as I was last time. Sunk about 20 hours or something into it, but it's wonderfully easy to spend time checking off tasks like a game of Factorio. So far I've started...

    I'm still playing Stationeers as I was last time. Sunk about 20 hours or something into it, but it's wonderfully easy to spend time checking off tasks like a game of Factorio.
    So far I've started on Mars, built a small base, automated my power, greenhouse gases and fuel. Want to get started on a big automated furnace setup in my newly built, currently not pressurised part of the base.
    Long term I want to get everything stable so I can mess around with some really advanced automation without worry. I still have to nanny my plants and manually crush my water ice, but I'll get there.

    2 votes
  7. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    Stationeers for me. I played it for a fairly short amount of time last year and told myself I'd get into it a little more properly once I'd moved house. I'm really enjoying it but I'm the right...

    Stationeers for me. I played it for a fairly short amount of time last year and told myself I'd get into it a little more properly once I'd moved house. I'm really enjoying it but I'm the right audience for it. It's definitely a marmite game, and for the target audience it's the gift that keeps on giving.
    So far I've started a Mars base and got a little green house going and some water from solid ice setup. Next job is to get some alloys out the furnace for some printer upgrades so I can get some new toys to improve my base.
    Looking forward to it!

    1 vote
  8. Comment on Why don't we help each other? in ~talk

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    Something I've not seen mentioned in any of the comments yet is the difference in urban vs rural communities. Obviously it's not the same globally and this is purely anacdotal experience, so I'd...

    Something I've not seen mentioned in any of the comments yet is the difference in urban vs rural communities.
    Obviously it's not the same globally and this is purely anacdotal experience, so I'd be interested to hear other's thoughts.

    I've moved from suburban to urban and then out to rural and found the community support and general social interactions to be pretty linear from rural to urban.
    In the city neighbours intentionally waited for me to leave my apartment before putting a note thought the door to ask me to give them their package I had so they didn't need to talk to me. And they'd leave the communal garden in a total mess, totally disregarding the space even after polite discussions.
    Suburban people like to chat, say hello to each other. You might get a friendly neighbour or two and have dinner once in a while or ask each other to water the plants or feed the cat when you go on holiday. I'm sure they have your number and they'd call you if you weren't in and something was wrong.
    Rural people everyone helps out everyone, one guy has a snowplow, he clears all the roads and drive ways when it snows. One guy has a big van, you give him a call if you need something moved or he'll stop and ask if you need a hand and he's driving by.

    I dunno if it's the setting/situation or if it's the culture of these places and it's hard to shift them, but in my experience that's the case.

    7 votes
  9. Comment on Why don't we help each other? in ~talk

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    For what it's worth, realising that you aren't OK with it and you want to make a change is the first step to doing something about it. You've probably heard the rhetoric before, but (especially...

    For what it's worth, realising that you aren't OK with it and you want to make a change is the first step to doing something about it.
    You've probably heard the rhetoric before, but (especially with something like socialising) it takes a lot of practice and you're gonna get it wrong a lot in the beginning. And that's OK.

    After the pandemic it got to me how people had become even more insular than before and just generally bad at communicating. I made it a bit of a mission to improve my own skills and I'm not amazing, but I'm very happy with my confidence now. It takes years though to build it.
    I wish you the best of luck!

    4 votes
  10. Comment on G-Sync/Freesync - What's your opinion? in ~tech

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    Around 3 years ago I bought myself a 1440p Freesync Asus monitor to pair with my 3080. I was interested to see if it made any difference after reading some positive reports. To my dismay I was...

    Around 3 years ago I bought myself a 1440p Freesync Asus monitor to pair with my 3080. I was interested to see if it made any difference after reading some positive reports.
    To my dismay I was disappointed. I found that many games would cause more stutters and the few that didn't I didn't find any real noticeable difference in experience (input lag nor tearing)
    This comes from a person who's never really been bothered by tearing mind you. I turn v-sync off every game and it's never bothered me, but perhaps I'm missing something!

    I've heard G-Sync is more robust, but it's very expensive and I don't see the reason why the average gamer would splash out for it.

    With that in mind, I'm keen to hear other user's experience. I'm curious if I just got a trashy monitor. Maybe playing at 1440p is just a mistake when trying to use this tech. Maybe I configured it incorrectly (although I'm pretty sure I did it correctly!)

    4 votes
  11. G-Sync/Freesync - What's your opinion?

    This was tempting to post in ~games but think it suits ~tech better. What are your thoughts on these monitor frame sync technologies? Have they made a big difference to your gaming experiences?...

    This was tempting to post in ~games but think it suits ~tech better.

    What are your thoughts on these monitor frame sync technologies?
    Have they made a big difference to your gaming experiences?
    Could you do with out it?
    What about G-Sync vs Freesync?

    20 votes
  12. Comment on Three Cheers for Tildes: App updates and feedback (January 2024) in ~tildes

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    Loving the app, fantastic to use. Feature request if it's not already on the list: can we have a "copy comments url to clipboard" button in the menu next to the "open comments in browser" option?...

    Loving the app, fantastic to use.
    Feature request if it's not already on the list: can we have a "copy comments url to clipboard" button in the menu next to the "open comments in browser" option?
    I've wanted to share with freinds few times and I have to open it in a browser and copy the link from there, minor whining but seems like a low hanging fruit!

    13 votes
  13. Comment on Lost media in ~talk

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    I have no idea how to find it now (ironically) and it's not really traditionally lost media as such. But I really enjoyed 4chan trying to create their own rules for a game called "Time Wizard" aka...

    I have no idea how to find it now (ironically) and it's not really traditionally lost media as such. But I really enjoyed 4chan trying to create their own rules for a game called "Time Wizard" aka "Los Magos del Tiempo"

    Some random guy posted a thread on /tg/ one day describing this game his friends made up when they used to play D&D in his basement and 4chan took the bait. After asking a load of questions and "this sounds great where are the rules?" the original poster had nothing to give and just stopped posted.
    What followed was several efforts to recreate the game based off that one thread.
    Years later the original poster came back, laughed his ass off at the fact people had actually tried to remake his dumb game and actually posted the real rules, which really tied the whole story up.

    4 votes
  14. Comment on There are two types of airport people : Some travelers love being late [2019] in ~travel

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    Overall I like to be early. I'd rather wait it out and not miss it than be there by the skin of my teeth. That said I love playing the game of "when is the best time to leave". I have two airports...

    Overall I like to be early. I'd rather wait it out and not miss it than be there by the skin of my teeth.
    That said I love playing the game of "when is the best time to leave". I have two airports local which my friends and family know well and we usually have the choice between the two. So we get into almost competitive discussions over when to leave to get through bag drop (if relevant), get through security and get to the gate without waiting but without rushing.
    Usually we're horribly wrongs, there's too many factors, but it's a fun thing to pretend to optimise.

    2 votes
  15. Comment on Amazon Prime Video will start showing ads on January 29th in ~tech

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    Yeah I have this setup, that wasn't clear in my post. I think I'm using AllDebrid and except one period of downtime for a couple days when they got DDOS'd it's been fine and like you say,...

    Yeah I have this setup, that wasn't clear in my post. I think I'm using AllDebrid and except one period of downtime for a couple days when they got DDOS'd it's been fine and like you say, basically free.

    1 vote
  16. Comment on Amazon Prime Video will start showing ads on January 29th in ~tech

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    For those interested but confused where to start. Search for "torrentio stremio" and start there. Don't want to link directly since piracy, but there are lots of good guided and once it's setup on...

    For those interested but confused where to start. Search for "torrentio stremio" and start there.
    Don't want to link directly since piracy, but there are lots of good guided and once it's setup on an account it's done forever.

    I'd say it's a 7/10 experience. When it works well (mostly for popular/new stuff) it works really well and I might as well be watching Netflix. For other, more obscure stuff which I might have trouble finding a copy of anyway it struggles with the initial download or simply won't play the file at all.
    Ocassionally sub timings are off or we get a torrent thag sucks and we need to change source. But it's mostly fine.

    2 votes
  17. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I love Ironsworn! Are you journaling in foundry as you go? How do you find dialogue heavy scenes when playing solo?

    I love Ironsworn! Are you journaling in foundry as you go?
    How do you find dialogue heavy scenes when playing solo?

    1 vote
  18. Comment on Steam Winter Sale 2023: Hidden gems in ~games

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    Return of The Obra Dinn is a game where you have to work out how the entire crew died on a ship that disappeared, then mysteriously re-appeared, in the 1800's. It is probably the best murder...

    Return of The Obra Dinn is a game where you have to work out how the entire crew died on a ship that disappeared, then mysteriously re-appeared, in the 1800's. It is probably the best murder mystery game I've played. It's made by Lucus Pope, the same guy behind Papers Please.
    He ties the style, the audio, the controls all into the "puzzle" of the murder mystery itself. It's extremely tight, has a wonderful story, it's got plenty of ways of solving the murders. It's a blanket recommend from me.

    I might update this comment with more when I get the chance, but I have to recommend Obra Dinn when u have the chance!

    25 votes
  19. Comment on The history of Mike Tyson's Punch-Out world records in ~games

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    That's a very reasonable argument against my point, thanks. I think speed running for me still sits in a very different headspace from "traditional sports". But that helps join some dots.

    That's a very reasonable argument against my point, thanks.
    I think speed running for me still sits in a very different headspace from "traditional sports".
    But that helps join some dots.

    2 votes
  20. Comment on The history of Mike Tyson's Punch-Out world records in ~games

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    I enjoyed the video, as per usual it was great quality and Salt did a great job covering his own records which is a difficult task. What I find interesting is the attitudes these runners have when...

    I enjoyed the video, as per usual it was great quality and Salt did a great job covering his own records which is a difficult task.

    What I find interesting is the attitudes these runners have when it comes to holding the record. We've seen a lot of people take it and declare a break, or take it then not be happy until the grind it down to something they are personally happy with then take a break. They often come back when new strats are discovered or someone breaks their record.
    Salt and AndrewG (from memory, I'm sure there are others) seem to be hungry for the title. When they get it, they keep going. When they get the "God run" they keep going. When someone starts running against them, they double down, increase the gap. It's aggressive competition. I'm sure it's welcomed competition but I got the feeling even from the tone of the video Salt doesn't want someone taking that world record, it's his record and he's proud of it.
    Personally, it gives me a little bit of a bad taste in my mouth, it's not giving the rest of the leader board any breathing space to even try and catch up. It's preemptively stamping out competition by extinguishing their hopes of chasing the record.
    It feels a bit unsportsmanlike to me, but I suppose I understand that's the kind of mindset that you've got to have sometimes to chase a record like that in the first place.

    Be curious to know if others share the same thoughts.

    2 votes