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  1. Comment on The Stephen Colbert exit interview: “I did not expect it to end this way” in ~tv

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    Colbert isn’t retiring. I really wouldn’t expect him to start burning bridges with the industry he is still working in.

    Colbert isn’t retiring. I really wouldn’t expect him to start burning bridges with the industry he is still working in.

    24 votes

  2. Comment on Canvas hack impacts university students and professors during finals week in ~tech

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    This had already been a stressful term for our school for other reasons and is really the cherry on top. It also means that some stuff for summer session is being shifted onto me which I am not a...

    This had already been a stressful term for our school for other reasons and is really the cherry on top. It also means that some stuff for summer session is being shifted onto me which I am not a fan of, but glad that I am not in the mess of dealing with finals like some other folks. I really feel for the students, professors, and admin who have to sort out this mess.

    4 votes

  3. Comment on Why so many people are going "no contact" with their parents in ~life

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    Honestly I read the article and I didn't read it as flipping sides so the intensity of the comments have been surprising. The second half felt like it was more about the support groups and therapy...

    Honestly I read the article and I didn't read it as flipping sides so the intensity of the comments have been surprising. The second half felt like it was more about the support groups and therapy which has sprung out of these situations than it was about trying to take the parent's side, especially considering that there were no examples where both sides spoke to the writer. It came across as a thought piece, not as something with an agenda. My biggest take aways were: 1) This is becoming more common or more spoken about, 2) There is less tolerance for people negatively impacting someone's life, and there is not an expectation to just tolerate family like there was in the past, 3) There are a variety of reasons and ways contact can be cut off, including multiple breaks and restarts, 4) The nature of parent child relationships add complexity to how no contact is felt by both sides, 5) There are now many likely positive and likely negative spaces people can seek support (online, in person, and full therapy driven), including groups attempting to aid with institutional barriers for people who are not in contact with parents.

    5 votes

  4. Comment on Why so many people are going "no contact" with their parents in ~life

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    I think one big unspoken element here is that while there is a lot of acknowledgement of parents whose mental health or backgrounds or what have you can cause this, there isn’t as much mention of...

    I think one big unspoken element here is that while there is a lot of acknowledgement of parents whose mental health or backgrounds or what have you can cause this, there isn’t as much mention of the fact that adult children can themselves also be ones whose mental health and need for intervention is driving the “toxicity”. In situations of estrangement unfortunately there can be a complete spectrum between nightmare abusive parent/innocent abused child all the way to nightmare adult child/innocent family. That, and as the article hints to, the echo chambers that can exist, is actually terrifying to think about from the perspective of a well meaning parent. Because today it is possible to do everything right and with empathy and still be rejected. Family relationships are not a given, they require the consent of both parties. It’s a good and bad thing depending on the unique circumstances of each situation.

    17 votes

  5. Comment on What Google thinks you're worth in ~tech

  6. Comment on What Google thinks you're worth in ~tech

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    Thankfully I don’t get vendor calls, but I also have issues with my personal and professional life merging in my ad profile. I also now seem to strangely have my previous career popping back into...

    Thankfully I don’t get vendor calls, but I also have issues with my personal and professional life merging in my ad profile. I also now seem to strangely have my previous career popping back into my ad feed in strange ways. This is most noticeable by the number of YouTube ads for very expensive lab equipment I have been getting despite the fact that I no longer work in a lab setting. If it wasn’t for the fact that I find the existence of commercials for super high end lab equipment hilarious on face value it would likely bother me as well.

    1 vote

  7. Comment on Adults are earning college degrees online in weeks, alarming US educators in ~society

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    The university I work for is considering/in the process of putting together a school for non traditional students to help them get their degrees and the main factor they point to with these older...

    The university I work for is considering/in the process of putting together a school for non traditional students to help them get their degrees and the main factor they point to with these older students is that many are were previously in progress with a program already (they never completed the requirements when they first attempted due to a variety of reasons) and just need a clear pathway to finish so they can have the degree for their resumes. I wonder if the students finishing the YourPace program in just 8 weeks are maybe in a similar boat?

    7 votes

  8. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 6/4/26 in ~hobbies

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    I won’t know my biggest error till end of the season, lol. Beds are still being prepped and seeds slowly starting. I finally found some yellow begonias for some decorative pots I have on my front...

    I won’t know my biggest error till end of the season, lol.


    Beds are still being prepped and seeds slowly starting.


    I finally found some yellow begonias for some decorative pots I have on my front porch. They are always my preference since my house is blue. Unfortunately in the front landscaping the mountain lilac I planted last spring didn’t make it through winter, so I have to decide what to replace them with. I have some white hydrangeas further out that keep getting bothered by deer so I might transplant them over to solve 2 issues, but I am on the fence about it since it would have them up next to some pink hydrangeas and I don’t know if I want such similar blooms together. My bleeding heart is coming back really nicely which is great, and I am waiting to see if my lady fern and NJ tea also comes back. I built and painted some arbor I want to mount around my porch this year for Virgin’s Bower and American wisteria, but I don’t know if I will end up getting to that this year. I do however plan to add more ferns and probably a pink summersweet into a gap I have near the back porch.

    2 votes

  9. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 6/4/26 in ~hobbies

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    I am 7a and before yesterday we had only started the 10 week out seedlings. Yesterday is when we started the things like peppers, tomatoes, squashes. So it doesn’t seem like you are behind to me.

    I am 7a and before yesterday we had only started the 10 week out seedlings. Yesterday is when we started the things like peppers, tomatoes, squashes. So it doesn’t seem like you are behind to me.

    1 vote

  10. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 6/4/26 in ~hobbies

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    Seconding the benefits of a hori hori knife. Especially when they have measurement indicators on them. Great for planting, weeding, and other general uses.

    Seconding the benefits of a hori hori knife. Especially when they have measurement indicators on them. Great for planting, weeding, and other general uses.

    2 votes

  11. Comment on 'Dungeon Crawler Carl' TV series lands at Peacock in ~tv

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    If they are doing this live action on peacock I am curious what they are going to do about the gore and mature themes in the books. They can get pretty graphic.

    If they are doing this live action on peacock I am curious what they are going to do about the gore and mature themes in the books. They can get pretty graphic.

    11 votes

  12. Comment on What is your favourite shark? in ~talk

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    I am fan of many sharks, but probably rank tiger sharks the highest because they are just such a sharky shark to me. They fit the stereotype of big lurking underwater predator so well, plus they...

    I am fan of many sharks, but probably rank tiger sharks the highest because they are just such a sharky shark to me. They fit the stereotype of big lurking underwater predator so well, plus they can have cool stripes.

    3 votes

  13. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 30/3/26 in ~hobbies

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    Even our super lazy ones where we have just thrown down an old 2x4 over a wet area have lasted decently. You just have to be careful of them getting slippery on the top if they are wet and start...

    Even our super lazy ones where we have just thrown down an old 2x4 over a wet area have lasted decently. You just have to be careful of them getting slippery on the top if they are wet and start to get things growing on them.

    2 votes

  14. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 30/3/26 in ~hobbies

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    We also do sluggo in the spring, and then also have the beds lined with copper tape. One thing that additionally works is setting slug traps, which you can make by setting out small containers of...

    We also do sluggo in the spring, and then also have the beds lined with copper tape. One thing that additionally works is setting slug traps, which you can make by setting out small containers of beer (which attracts and then drowns them). We use cat food cans or any other small container like that.

    2 votes

  15. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 30/3/26 in ~hobbies

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    It is probably about 5 feet tall right now. We will nip the buds for at least the first year, maybe the first 2 years depending on how quickly it establishes before we let it fruit. I feel you...

    It is probably about 5 feet tall right now. We will nip the buds for at least the first year, maybe the first 2 years depending on how quickly it establishes before we let it fruit. I feel you though on being sad to cut down a good producing tree. We have a very old sweet cherry that is an amazing producer but is getting to the point where it might need to come down for safety reasons since and I keep delaying.

    2 votes

  16. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 30/3/26 in ~hobbies

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    For trails through wetlands depending on if you are willing to build them, we tend to make slightly raised walking paths from pressure treated wood. They aren’t true bridges, except over areas of...

    For trails through wetlands depending on if you are willing to build them, we tend to make slightly raised walking paths from pressure treated wood. They aren’t true bridges, except over areas of running water, but keep the path up out of the soggy areas. Link of an example, the ones on our property look much less nice! https://bestofnj.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/SourlandMountainPreserve-29-1-e1497363324960.jpg

    2 votes

  17. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 30/3/26 in ~hobbies

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    The new fruit trees are planted! With much thanks to my siblings and dad for helping dig because I very quickly came to the realization that it was beyond my physical capacity at this point...

    The new fruit trees are planted! With much thanks to my siblings and dad for helping dig because I very quickly came to the realization that it was beyond my physical capacity at this point (pregnant). Glad they are in the ground because it is a big chore done and good timing since we are supposed to get a lot of rain this week.
    I have been gardening for maybe 10 years? Unsure at this point. And I don’t know if this is a pearl but the best thing I have learned gardening is that every year is a new learning opportunity. Some things work, others fail, and we learn from the failings for the next year. My biggest worry this year is that I am really going to be very out of commission and my mom will get overwhelmed. It is humbling that I am not able to be one of the primary workers of the property, and was pretty frustrating. I don’t like watching other people work when I am not. My favorite phase of the garden is when the lettuces are being harvested at the start of summer. I love getting daily lettuce, the growth of the other plants isn’t wild yet, there isn’t the stress of the main harvest and the dreaded processing but I am still enjoying food from the garden.

    5 votes

  18. Comment on Growing a human: the first thirty weeks in ~life.women

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    This was an interesting read and I definitely was able to identify with a lot of it. Right now I am 25 weeks pregnant with my first and it has been a surreal experience to some extents. Somehow...

    This was an interesting read and I definitely was able to identify with a lot of it. Right now I am 25 weeks pregnant with my first and it has been a surreal experience to some extents.

    Somehow this process in which I am growing another human has me feeling less human than I ever have. The sheer scale of the biological changes, the absolute loss of control to both having a safe pregnancy, what I can do physically, and how I feel, it has been a lot to reckon with. In modern society we are so removed from the animal part of us and it only gets acknowledged in what feels performative ways. Pregnancy definitely has kind of stripped my personhood, both socially from being so observed and also through the loss of dignity that comes from things like throwing up on yourself while peeing or peeing yourself while throwing up. I’m very excited to have a kid, but I am not looking forward to my next 15 or so weeks of whatever disgusting misery is coming my way, not even counting postpartum recovery.

    6 votes

  19. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 24/3/26 in ~hobbies

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    How big are the temperatures swings you are seeing from morning to mid afternoon? We generally would just open in the mornings on days we knew would get hot (or leave it open day after day)...

    How big are the temperatures swings you are seeing from morning to mid afternoon? We generally would just open in the mornings on days we knew would get hot (or leave it open day after day) because for us the cooler morning temp wasn't cold enough to be a threat compared to the midday high.

    1 vote

  20. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 24/3/26 in ~hobbies

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    Spring is starting!!! The gardening projects on my property are largely managed by my mom and I, although with me pregnant this year I think I am going to enlist my husband and siblings to do some...

    Spring is starting!!! The gardening projects on my property are largely managed by my mom and I, although with me pregnant this year I think I am going to enlist my husband and siblings to do some more heavy labor for me (my parents and siblings live in an out building on our property).
    I ended up buying 4 new fruit trees this year instead of 3. We got 2 pears (Bartlett and Bosc), a Stanley plum, and we finally were early enough to pick up a Granny Smith apple from the co-op we buy our fruit trees from. I probably should have planted them last Sunday because the weather was great for it with a sunny day followed by rain, but oh well.
    Since we are still waiting for our last frost date the veg garden work is mostly just prepping the beds and some pruning. All the raspberries, blackberries, and grapes have been pruned in the past couple weeks. And the beds are having the old stalks and such removed now and hardscaping cleaned up. We tend to leave the stalks and everything over winter for bugs to live in, but it’s warm enough now that the bugs have moved on.
    Last fall I built an arbor for my front porch. I still haven’t decided which vine I will plant, but I need to pick soon.
    Otherwise we also have an endless chore of mulching. We will need another chip drop soon. And after a bad wind storm couple weeks ago my husband has been hard at work dealing with fallen trees in our woods to keep them off the paths. But most of our native gardening takes second fiddle to the veg garden in early spring.

    4 votes