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  1. Comment on Epidurals are a miracle technology in ~health

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    I am due with my first in a couple weeks and if it wasn’t for the fact that I am needing a c section due to him being breech, I would be getting an epidural in a heartbeat.

    I am due with my first in a couple weeks and if it wasn’t for the fact that I am needing a c section due to him being breech, I would be getting an epidural in a heartbeat.

    12 votes

  2. Comment on Not so empty nesters: record-high number of US adults under 35 live at home, new data says in ~life

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    Thank you so much! We did start the arrangement when we were just past 30 so might have made the cut, lol.

    Thank you so much! We did start the arrangement when we were just past 30 so might have made the cut, lol.

    4 votes

  3. Comment on Not so empty nesters: record-high number of US adults under 35 live at home, new data says in ~life

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    I am not seeing it in the article but are they defining young adults living at home based on who carries the mortgage? In my own family my parents live with me and my husband in an outbuilding...

    I am not seeing it in the article but are they defining young adults living at home based on who carries the mortgage? In my own family my parents live with me and my husband in an outbuilding they renovated on our property. Additionally my two younger unemployed/underemployed adult siblings live with my parents in that little house, so we have both adult children living with parents and parents living with/being supported by adult children. For my parents this was part of my mom’s retirement dream, to have a large property should could live on with me with the added bonus of not having housing costs, and for me and my husband, we benefit from built in childcare and extra sets of hands for things like errands/chores. For my siblings, they are pretty typical stories of having not fledged the nest yet despite now being in their 30s and relying on my parents (and thus me and my husband now) for their housing.

    12 votes

  4. Comment on Bricks & Minifigs corporate stole a man's $200,000 Lego collection and told him to get bent in ~hobbies

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    How exactly would the RICO charge result in BAM gaining access to the GoFundMe?

    How exactly would the RICO charge result in BAM gaining access to the GoFundMe?

  5. Comment on Serious relationship problem, seeking advice in ~life

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    You mention that the three of you spend a ton of time together as a group, only really mentioning things like anniversaries as activities for just you and your GF. So I am wondering if perhaps you...

    You mention that the three of you spend a ton of time together as a group, only really mentioning things like anniversaries as activities for just you and your GF. So I am wondering if perhaps you need to start investing more 1:1 time with just the GF to help create the differentiation between what should be the closer relationship with her and what should be the more familial relationship with her sister, because right now your arrangement sounds almost like you are effectively dating both. This should be especially important if you are talking about taking the next steps with GF towards marriage and kids because you should have the relationship in its closest and most prioritized state prior to these two massive life events.

    25 votes

  6. Comment on The Stephen Colbert exit interview: “I did not expect it to end this way” in ~tv

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    Colbert isn’t retiring. I really wouldn’t expect him to start burning bridges with the industry he is still working in.

    Colbert isn’t retiring. I really wouldn’t expect him to start burning bridges with the industry he is still working in.

    24 votes

  7. Comment on Canvas hack impacts university students and professors during finals week in ~tech

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    This had already been a stressful term for our school for other reasons and is really the cherry on top. It also means that some stuff for summer session is being shifted onto me which I am not a...

    This had already been a stressful term for our school for other reasons and is really the cherry on top. It also means that some stuff for summer session is being shifted onto me which I am not a fan of, but glad that I am not in the mess of dealing with finals like some other folks. I really feel for the students, professors, and admin who have to sort out this mess.

    4 votes

  8. Comment on Why so many people are going "no contact" with their parents in ~life

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    Honestly I read the article and I didn't read it as flipping sides so the intensity of the comments have been surprising. The second half felt like it was more about the support groups and therapy...

    Honestly I read the article and I didn't read it as flipping sides so the intensity of the comments have been surprising. The second half felt like it was more about the support groups and therapy which has sprung out of these situations than it was about trying to take the parent's side, especially considering that there were no examples where both sides spoke to the writer. It came across as a thought piece, not as something with an agenda. My biggest take aways were: 1) This is becoming more common or more spoken about, 2) There is less tolerance for people negatively impacting someone's life, and there is not an expectation to just tolerate family like there was in the past, 3) There are a variety of reasons and ways contact can be cut off, including multiple breaks and restarts, 4) The nature of parent child relationships add complexity to how no contact is felt by both sides, 5) There are now many likely positive and likely negative spaces people can seek support (online, in person, and full therapy driven), including groups attempting to aid with institutional barriers for people who are not in contact with parents.

    5 votes

  9. Comment on Why so many people are going "no contact" with their parents in ~life

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    I think one big unspoken element here is that while there is a lot of acknowledgement of parents whose mental health or backgrounds or what have you can cause this, there isn’t as much mention of...

    I think one big unspoken element here is that while there is a lot of acknowledgement of parents whose mental health or backgrounds or what have you can cause this, there isn’t as much mention of the fact that adult children can themselves also be ones whose mental health and need for intervention is driving the “toxicity”. In situations of estrangement unfortunately there can be a complete spectrum between nightmare abusive parent/innocent abused child all the way to nightmare adult child/innocent family. That, and as the article hints to, the echo chambers that can exist, is actually terrifying to think about from the perspective of a well meaning parent. Because today it is possible to do everything right and with empathy and still be rejected. Family relationships are not a given, they require the consent of both parties. It’s a good and bad thing depending on the unique circumstances of each situation.

    17 votes

  10. Comment on What Google thinks you're worth in ~tech

  11. Comment on What Google thinks you're worth in ~tech

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    Thankfully I don’t get vendor calls, but I also have issues with my personal and professional life merging in my ad profile. I also now seem to strangely have my previous career popping back into...

    Thankfully I don’t get vendor calls, but I also have issues with my personal and professional life merging in my ad profile. I also now seem to strangely have my previous career popping back into my ad feed in strange ways. This is most noticeable by the number of YouTube ads for very expensive lab equipment I have been getting despite the fact that I no longer work in a lab setting. If it wasn’t for the fact that I find the existence of commercials for super high end lab equipment hilarious on face value it would likely bother me as well.

    1 vote

  12. Comment on Adults are earning college degrees online in weeks, alarming US educators in ~society

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    The university I work for is considering/in the process of putting together a school for non traditional students to help them get their degrees and the main factor they point to with these older...

    The university I work for is considering/in the process of putting together a school for non traditional students to help them get their degrees and the main factor they point to with these older students is that many are were previously in progress with a program already (they never completed the requirements when they first attempted due to a variety of reasons) and just need a clear pathway to finish so they can have the degree for their resumes. I wonder if the students finishing the YourPace program in just 8 weeks are maybe in a similar boat?

    7 votes

  13. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 6/4/26 in ~hobbies

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    I won’t know my biggest error till end of the season, lol. Beds are still being prepped and seeds slowly starting. I finally found some yellow begonias for some decorative pots I have on my front...

    I won’t know my biggest error till end of the season, lol.


    Beds are still being prepped and seeds slowly starting.


    I finally found some yellow begonias for some decorative pots I have on my front porch. They are always my preference since my house is blue. Unfortunately in the front landscaping the mountain lilac I planted last spring didn’t make it through winter, so I have to decide what to replace them with. I have some white hydrangeas further out that keep getting bothered by deer so I might transplant them over to solve 2 issues, but I am on the fence about it since it would have them up next to some pink hydrangeas and I don’t know if I want such similar blooms together. My bleeding heart is coming back really nicely which is great, and I am waiting to see if my lady fern and NJ tea also comes back. I built and painted some arbor I want to mount around my porch this year for Virgin’s Bower and American wisteria, but I don’t know if I will end up getting to that this year. I do however plan to add more ferns and probably a pink summersweet into a gap I have near the back porch.

    2 votes

  14. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 6/4/26 in ~hobbies

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    I am 7a and before yesterday we had only started the 10 week out seedlings. Yesterday is when we started the things like peppers, tomatoes, squashes. So it doesn’t seem like you are behind to me.

    I am 7a and before yesterday we had only started the 10 week out seedlings. Yesterday is when we started the things like peppers, tomatoes, squashes. So it doesn’t seem like you are behind to me.

    1 vote

  15. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 6/4/26 in ~hobbies

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    Seconding the benefits of a hori hori knife. Especially when they have measurement indicators on them. Great for planting, weeding, and other general uses.

    Seconding the benefits of a hori hori knife. Especially when they have measurement indicators on them. Great for planting, weeding, and other general uses.

    2 votes

  16. Comment on 'Dungeon Crawler Carl' TV series lands at Peacock in ~tv

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    If they are doing this live action on peacock I am curious what they are going to do about the gore and mature themes in the books. They can get pretty graphic.

    If they are doing this live action on peacock I am curious what they are going to do about the gore and mature themes in the books. They can get pretty graphic.

    11 votes

  17. Comment on What is your favourite shark? in ~talk

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    I am fan of many sharks, but probably rank tiger sharks the highest because they are just such a sharky shark to me. They fit the stereotype of big lurking underwater predator so well, plus they...

    I am fan of many sharks, but probably rank tiger sharks the highest because they are just such a sharky shark to me. They fit the stereotype of big lurking underwater predator so well, plus they can have cool stripes.

    3 votes

  18. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 30/3/26 in ~hobbies

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    Even our super lazy ones where we have just thrown down an old 2x4 over a wet area have lasted decently. You just have to be careful of them getting slippery on the top if they are wet and start...

    Even our super lazy ones where we have just thrown down an old 2x4 over a wet area have lasted decently. You just have to be careful of them getting slippery on the top if they are wet and start to get things growing on them.

    2 votes

  19. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 30/3/26 in ~hobbies

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    We also do sluggo in the spring, and then also have the beds lined with copper tape. One thing that additionally works is setting slug traps, which you can make by setting out small containers of...

    We also do sluggo in the spring, and then also have the beds lined with copper tape. One thing that additionally works is setting slug traps, which you can make by setting out small containers of beer (which attracts and then drowns them). We use cat food cans or any other small container like that.

    2 votes

  20. Comment on Tildes Gardening Group: Week 30/3/26 in ~hobbies

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    It is probably about 5 feet tall right now. We will nip the buds for at least the first year, maybe the first 2 years depending on how quickly it establishes before we let it fruit. I feel you...

    It is probably about 5 feet tall right now. We will nip the buds for at least the first year, maybe the first 2 years depending on how quickly it establishes before we let it fruit. I feel you though on being sad to cut down a good producing tree. We have a very old sweet cherry that is an amazing producer but is getting to the point where it might need to come down for safety reasons since and I keep delaying.

    2 votes