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Traditionally in the Swedish church the bride and groom walk down the aisle together – but the patriarchal handover is catching on, and now Lutherans want to stop it

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  1. [5]
    CptBluebear
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    A ban is absurd. Let people do what they want to do. I understand the optics of handing over the "possession", but if we're being truthful about what's happening here it's that people just like to...

    A ban is absurd. Let people do what they want to do.

    I understand the optics of handing over the "possession", but if we're being truthful about what's happening here it's that people just like to have their fathers involved on an important day. No more, no less. Anything else is just people looking for a social reason that it's wrong because they don't like change. Just let people do what they want.

    21 votes
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      DefinitelyNotAFae
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      Eh, if it's a ban within the Church of Sweden it's their prerogative to say "this thing doesn't align with our faith" I don't understand the role that the CoS plays in the daily life of most folks...

      Eh, if it's a ban within the Church of Sweden it's their prerogative to say "this thing doesn't align with our faith"

      I don't understand the role that the CoS plays in the daily life of most folks though

      16 votes
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        unkz
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        That sounds like it’s a proposed legal ban, not an organizational rule. That’s some serious overreach in my opinion.

        Ultimately, he does not believe the motion to ban it will be successful because the Social Democrats will not find sufficient support from other groups. The Church of Sweden was contacted for comment but did not respond.

        That sounds like it’s a proposed legal ban, not an organizational rule. That’s some serious overreach in my opinion.

        5 votes
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          1. DefinitelyNotAFae
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            This was definitely what I meant when I said I didn't understand how it all worked there! Ty for this. I don't have a faith so I don't particularly care what people do with theirs but I do...

            This was definitely what I meant when I said I didn't understand how it all worked there! Ty for this.
            I don't have a faith so I don't particularly care what people do with theirs but I do understand not wanting to add things which increase values they don't agree with. Idk if most people get a church wedding despite regardless of their regular attendance or if it's a much smaller subset of the population impacted.

            I grew up Catholic though so I'm used to things like "you can't play that song at a wedding" or whatever so maybe it just doesn't feel weird to me.

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    2. adutchman
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      One person quoted in the article says as much:"[it] was about allowing family inclusion in the ceremony rather than a “legal and patriarchal handover”."

      One person quoted in the article says as much:"[it] was about allowing family inclusion in the ceremony rather than a “legal and patriarchal handover”."

      6 votes