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Inverting the pyramid of life

https://nesslabs.com/inverted-pyramid-life

ChatGPT Summary:

The article suggests that the common notion of finding one "true calling" is a fabrication and proposes an inverted pyramid model as a healthier perspective for personal and emotional development. The standard model follows a narrow path of exploring as a child, specializing as a student, and defining oneself as an adult. The inverted model places focus on exploration and optimal opportunities rather than specific expertise. The article argues that embracing self-complexity and expanding one's identity across different domains leads to resilience and personal growth.

My highlights:

  • it seemed hard to find alternative options because, after years of hard work and smart choices, they were sitting at the tip of the pyramid.

  • Why should we look for our one true calling in the first place? Why not invert the pyramid?

  • In this paradigm, the potential you have as a child is just the beginning—the tip of a cone of creativity that widens as you grow up. Because you’re optimizing for opportunities and not trying to define yourself through specific expertise, you can keep expanding your playground all your life

  • This ability to identify yourself across multiple domains and roles, which researchers call “self-complexity”, has been found to support emotional resilience by reducing the impact of failure or setback in any single domain. You may lose your job but still be a great friend. Your startup may fail, but you may run your first marathon with your partner. You may be rejected from your dream school but win a poetry prize.

  • The self-complexity that arises when we invert our pyramid of life also encourages personal growth and self-discovery, as you can explore and evolve across various aspects of your identity, which means a richer, fuller life.

  • life becomes a giant sandbox where we can learn anything, grow in any direction, and connect with anyone.

  • instead of asking, “So, what do you do for a living?” we’ll start asking: “So, what makes you feel alive these days?”

1 comment

  1. Habituallytired
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    I love this point of view! It's very much a different take on how we're "supposed" to live our lives and it seems a lot healthier. Some people may have a true calling, but not everyone does. I'm...

    I love this point of view! It's very much a different take on how we're "supposed" to live our lives and it seems a lot healthier. Some people may have a true calling, but not everyone does. I'm only getting into coding now at 32 years old. I've also gotten into art and selling my art. That's in addition to my day job, but I don't particularly think that's my calling.

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