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Comment on What's something you've moved on from? in ~talk
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Comment on What's something you've moved on from? in ~talk
Habituallytired Link ParentIt's hard to actually become self-aware and try hard enough to do better and be better. It's a struggle every day when your brain was originally tuned to that first edgy radio setting. I'm proud...It's hard to actually become self-aware and try hard enough to do better and be better. It's a struggle every day when your brain was originally tuned to that first edgy radio setting. I'm proud of you for turning that corner and working on being kinder.
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Comment on What's something you've moved on from? in ~talk
Habituallytired Link ParentI'm sorry that you've stopped making plans with friends. I used to have a rather large friend group where I was always the one on the outer circle, and often not actively invited. I've also had to...I'm sorry that you've stopped making plans with friends. I used to have a rather large friend group where I was always the one on the outer circle, and often not actively invited.
I've also had to come to terms with my unpredictable illness that I can't make plans with friends going to other places anymore. Unless my friends come to me, I can't be sure that I won't have to bail at the last minute based on how my body feels. Either way, it's incredibly isolating, and finding good online friends helps a lot, even if you're not hanging out in the same physical space. I've been really lucky to find some good online friends thanks to the whole reddit/squabbles debacles, even if we don't actually know each other's real names. :)
I hope that you are able to see the friends you want to more frequently.
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Comment on What's something you've moved on from? in ~talk
Habituallytired Link ParentI'm sorry you had to give up dairy. I can understand how something that makes you sick can taste like poison. I had to come to terms with my lactose intolerance at the same time as my new meat...I'm sorry you had to give up dairy. I can understand how something that makes you sick can taste like poison.
I had to come to terms with my lactose intolerance at the same time as my new meat intolerance, so I now take a lactaid whenever I have dairy, or I settle for the lactose free versions of things. I can't just let it go, since I haven't found a good alternative yet.
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Comment on What's something you've moved on from? in ~talk
Habituallytired LinkEating meat regularly. Ever since my ER visit last year, I've basically cut out meat from my life. I will occasionally eat chicken or pork (beef makes me so sick, so I avoid it now, which is sad...Eating meat regularly. Ever since my ER visit last year, I've basically cut out meat from my life. I will occasionally eat chicken or pork (beef makes me so sick, so I avoid it now, which is sad because I love burgers), but it's really only when we're eating out with others and there are no viable vegetarian options with protein.
I've been functionally a vegetarian for 7 months now, and it's helped me lose weight and decrease some of my inflammation thanks to my chronic illnesses. We ate about 75% vegetarian at home before my incident anyway, but I am now experimenting with not-meat proteins that aren't just impossible or beans. Now we eat tofu and vital wheat gluten, and have tried tempeh, but aren't fans. Impossible meat and especially beans are high in the rotation, but it's nice to have other options I'm not afraid of anymore.
I'm also really lucky to have a partner who is willing to give up meat at home for me too. He was already doing Meatless Mondays because Paul McCartney is a proponent of it, and he's a huge fan, but now he's happy being vegetarian at home. I'm also lucky to have a BFF who is vegetarian, bordering on vegan, so she can introduce me to so many things without me having to spend a ton of money on something that I'm not sure I'll like.
I do miss meat a bit - like I said, especially burgers, but honestly, I probably should have done this years ago for my own health.
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Comment on Why on earth have I seen the same Broadway show thirteen times? An investigation. (gifted link) in ~arts
Habituallytired Link13 times for the same show? Child's play. I've seen Mamma Mia! every time it comes to the Bay Area as well as every single community production of it. It's my favorite musical for a reason. Worth...13 times for the same show? Child's play. I've seen Mamma Mia! every time it comes to the Bay Area as well as every single community production of it. It's my favorite musical for a reason.
Worth noting, I've also seen it on Broadway 3 times, one of which I got to go backstage and gush to the cast how much I loved it because Mr. Tired's adopted uncle was Harry for a turn.
ETA: British comedy is hilarious (see my love of Mamma Mia!) and my favorite non-musical is Noises Off (go see the play. if you can, it's SOOOOOOO much better than the movie with Michael Caine, Carole Burnett, Christopher Reeve, and John Ritter - and that movie is GOOD!).
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
Habituallytired Link ParentThat is exactly my kind of humor, and I like Scalzi! Thank you for the recommendation! I appreciate it. I'm putting it on my TBR right now.That is exactly my kind of humor, and I like Scalzi! Thank you for the recommendation! I appreciate it. I'm putting it on my TBR right now.
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
Habituallytired LinkI just finished Stiff by Mary Roach, and wow. It's definitely more graphic than I expected it to be. It was also wild reading something like this that was written so long ago (it was released in...I just finished Stiff by Mary Roach, and wow. It's definitely more graphic than I expected it to be. It was also wild reading something like this that was written so long ago (it was released in 2003), and her quoting Dr. Oz before he was known as a crazy right-winger, and just a famous surgeon.
It was a hard read, even though I am fairly immune to the macabre, the gross, the medical. She managed to find something that got to me, lol. I am glad I read it, though, because now I have a definite plan for what I want done with my body after I die.
I'm currently trying to find a short, silly read (under 200 pages) to read as a book, rather than an audiobook.
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Comment on What's the coolest thrift store find you've ever scored? in ~talk
Habituallytired LinkNot from a physical thrift store, most of those around here don't really have anything worth buying, let alone browsing. I did get a vintage 1980's wool coat from Poshmark for $10 a few years ago....Not from a physical thrift store, most of those around here don't really have anything worth buying, let alone browsing. I did get a vintage 1980's wool coat from Poshmark for $10 a few years ago. It was just slightly too tight when it came in, but now it fits perfectly, and I've been wearing it every time I go out and it isn't raining!
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Comment on Congestion pricing = accessible transit in ~transport
Habituallytired Link ParentFor many, the gaps that are between either a bus and the sidewalk or the train and the platform are too far apart. Lifting your leg that high can be a painful nerve issue, or just a safety hazard....For many, the gaps that are between either a bus and the sidewalk or the train and the platform are too far apart. Lifting your leg that high can be a painful nerve issue, or just a safety hazard. There is no external place to place an arm for support or protection from the gaps. I've not struggled with this personally, but I have witnessed people unable to safely get inside a bus because of those gaps. It's been a while since I've been on a train, but I imagine it's very similar since there is not a smooth gapless area at least on Caltrain that I've experienced here in California.
In terms of mobility, people with nerve issues often can't sit for long periods of time without exacerbating their issues. For me specifically, while standing upright and still is an issue and is excruciatingly painful, so is sitting in certain positions, namely the position you are forced into in a "standard" sitting position like a wheelchair or a regular chair with arms. If I'm siting upright, I'm usually sitting cross-legged for the support it gives my lower back and core to help combat the pain. Obviously, I'm not everyone, but it's something I've heard a lot of people struggle with in the chronic illness space when I'm trawling the internet. Additionally, sitting for long periods of time in general is something that's hard for many with nerve issues. Many invisible disabilities can get worse when forced to use mobility aids that don't fit their needs, and a wheelchair is not a one size fits all mobility device. It's awesome, for sure, but it's not the be all end all of mobility.
Additionally, intermittent wheelchair users sometimes have people pushing their chair around for them. Specifically for me, my partner does this because there is no way, with my fibro that I can even grip the wheels all day to push myself, let alone have the arm and core strength necessary to get around on my own. Unless you spend a lot of money on a custom chair, which insurance doesn't cover or reimburse for unless you are a full-time user, and even then it's a whole other fight there because we don't go far enough for disability protections in our legal system, it's not ergonomic for anyone, the sitter or the pusher, meaning it can cause RSIs which are also a category of injury and disability.
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Comment on Congestion pricing = accessible transit in ~transport
Habituallytired Link ParentI know this is slightly off topic, but can we talk about how out of date the ADA is and how there are more mobility issues than just wheelchair users? I appreciate that it exists, I just wish it...I know this is slightly off topic, but can we talk about how out of date the ADA is and how there are more mobility issues than just wheelchair users? I appreciate that it exists, I just wish it had more accommodations for invisible disabilities other than "just use a wheelchair."
It's something I have experienced first hand with invisible disabilities and being told my mobility issues can be solved entirely by using a wheelchair for my accessibility needs (which isn't true, especially if I want to keep what mobility I have left).
I appreciate congestion pricing to help with accessibility, but I wish that it was more accessible than it already is, and that pricing didn't affect someone who couldn't use part of public transit for accessibility reasons that aren't visible. :(
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Comment on The pointe shoe makers of Hackney in ~life
Habituallytired LinkAs someone who used to dance, and went up en pointe for a few years, I've always appreciated the skill, care, and dedication that's gone into making these shoes. Without them, or even with them...As someone who used to dance, and went up en pointe for a few years, I've always appreciated the skill, care, and dedication that's gone into making these shoes. Without them, or even with them (if they're faulty, or accidents happen), you can absolutely break every toe on your foot, and even break ankles if the shoe doesn't support you enough. Dancing en pointe is hard AF, and it makes sense why the shoes have to be specially made.
Thanks for sharing this article! I really appreciated it and the step back in time it gave me.
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Comment on You're not crazy. The bugs are disappearing. in ~enviro
Habituallytired Link ParentThat's good to know! I already take a b12 supplement a few times a week. Maybe a low-dose b complex instead would help.That's good to know! I already take a b12 supplement a few times a week. Maybe a low-dose b complex instead would help.
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Comment on Disney inks blockbuster $1b deal with OpenAI, handing characters over to Sora in ~tech
Habituallytired Link ParentI'm hoping this is what happens and signals the beginning of the end of AI being shoehorned into everythingI'm hoping this is what happens and signals the beginning of the end of AI being shoehorned into everything
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Comment on You're not crazy. The bugs are disappearing. in ~enviro
Habituallytired Link ParentMosquito abatement in CA is just them all coming to attack me because they know I'm allergic to them or something. Even in off seasons, I get bitten by mosquitos and fleas.Mosquito abatement in CA is just them all coming to attack me because they know I'm allergic to them or something. Even in off seasons, I get bitten by mosquitos and fleas.
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Comment on You're not crazy. The bugs are disappearing. in ~enviro
Habituallytired Link ParentSome of them live in my building's courtyard, tempting my dog, who likes to eat them for some reason.Some of them live in my building's courtyard, tempting my dog, who likes to eat them for some reason.
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Comment on Books: Your personal year in review for 2025 in ~books
Habituallytired LinkI've read so many books this year. More than I think I've ever read in one year. I got really lucky and have been able to listen to audiobooks a ton, which is my new preferred reading mode, since...I've read so many books this year. More than I think I've ever read in one year. I got really lucky and have been able to listen to audiobooks a ton, which is my new preferred reading mode, since I can do all of my mindless work tasks and still get something to enjoy while I do it.
I was surprised just how much I love horror novels, since I'm such a weenie when it comes to horror movies and other scary-type movies. Some of my favorite books this year have been by Grady Hendrix and Simone St. James. I will read anything they put out in the future.
I DNF'd a few books this year, but they were mostly just not my type of novel - though there was one book I DNF'd for being poorly written and basic as fuck. I found I don't like most modern literary fiction. It's just not for me.
I actually worked through the Goodreads challenges for the year, and am almost at the last one on my list for the year. Several of the options weren't books I would consider reading, memoirs, non-fiction that isn't history/food related, literary novels, just genres that weren't my type. I won't be going through it again next year. If I happen to want some ideas, I'll look through the challenge list again, but I won't kill myself over reading things I'm not interested in.
Two books I was surprised I wasn't a fan of were Under the Whispering Door and The Spear Cuts Through Water. Both are queer stories, the latter being sort of a mythology book as well, but I found that they were both kind of boring and really should have just been edited down a bit better. Actually, most of the books I didn't enjoy much this year were due to them being too long and/or poorly edited so they were generally boring in some way.
I think my two favorite books this year were from my book club with two of my best friends: Murder Road by Simone St. James, and Starling House (not officially a book club book, but we all decided to read it separately after picking our second book) by Alix E. Harrow. Harrow is another author who I love and will read all of her books. The Ten Thousand Doors of January is one of my favorite books and was introduced me to Harrow's work.
I also learned I love the "dumb fun" series that are around. I'm reading the Haunting Danielle series in between heavy books, and they're pretty silly little romps with the same premise over and over, but they're cute and a good way to turn my brain off and read something simple. It's been a great thing to have in my pocket every time I needed a break.
Overall, I've read 131 books so far and have 4 more books in my library loans list to read before the end of the year. It's been a wild ride!
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Comment on How do you plan out your meals for the week/meal prep? in ~food
Habituallytired LinkWe don't actually have a meal plan or prep our food ahead of time. Instead, I go to the farmer's market on Sundays and then do a supplemental shop for staples I need afterward and then look at...We don't actually have a meal plan or prep our food ahead of time. Instead, I go to the farmer's market on Sundays and then do a supplemental shop for staples I need afterward and then look at what I have and decide what meals we want to make that week. I have a white board where I write down the meal ideas that has 10 lines on it with a little checkbox to the right of it to say it was done or not.
I pick 10 meal options for us to have based on what we have in the fridge/pantry and each night, we decide what to eat based on the energy levels we have and what we haven't had yet. I always have a range of easy/simple meals to project-level recipes.
I don't do well with most leftovers for texture reasons, so this is a great compromise for me, and Mr. Tired doesn't have to cook most nights, and we've drastically reduced our takeout orders, from several nights a week to just one night most weeks since we've started.
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Comment on Tweaks to state laws mean many Americans will be able to benefit from small, simple plug-in solar panels in ~enviro
Habituallytired Link ParentWe live in an apartment and I would be so hype to be able to just plug in a solar panel and use that. PGE is getting insanely expensive and where we are in the Bay Area, we get more sunny days...We live in an apartment and I would be so hype to be able to just plug in a solar panel and use that. PGE is getting insanely expensive and where we are in the Bay Area, we get more sunny days than not, so we could feasibly use solar with no issues.
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Comment on US shoppers, drawn by steep discounts, power through Black Friday in ~finance
Habituallytired LinkI pre-ordered something, but my account won't be charged until the item release date, so technically I didn't buy anything, but I did make a return request for an item I bought on Amazon that...I pre-ordered something, but my account won't be charged until the item release date, so technically I didn't buy anything, but I did make a return request for an item I bought on Amazon that wasn't the dimensions advertised, so technically, I spent negative money?
Mr. Tired and family bought Ninetendo e-shop gift cards through Costco because they're finally on sale again.
My travel water bottle broke yesterday, so now I need to decide if I should go back to one of my old ones which were hard on me, accessibility-wise and just deal with the hand pain from twisting a cap when I'm thirsty, or cleaning the camelbak bite valve while traveling, which I usually do with a vinegar soak and dishwasher back home daily when using those on a trip. I wish Camelbak made a flip top cap for their Eddie bottles - if anyone knows of one, lmk.
There are a lot of really good vegan cheeses out there now, if you're ever in the market! I love Miyokos everything including their butter.
As for meat substitutes, I like to have a lot of novelty, so having those as options is always welcome to me. We do eat a lot of beans for protein, though. I would say at least 3 meals a week are some sort of bean dish, like last night I made a "cassoulet-ish" thing with beans and mushrooms and then added quinoa to it for extra bulk. I've gotten to experience fresh beans from the farmer's market, very freshly dried beans, all sorts of new to me beans that I never knew existed beyond black, pinto, kidney, and garbanzo! But I love impossible nuggets. They're the best nugget on the frozen market, hands down - chicken or vegan. Those are also in our weekly rotation as an "I'm too tired to cook, let's throw nuggies and broccoli in the oven for 15 min" type dinner.